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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No, I'm not asking Ed to have sex!

I'm reaching out to all the parents amongst us for advice.

How open are you with your children about sex education?

As I'm pretty sure we can all remember how embarrassing the talks were in school and uninformative they were.

I'd like to make sure my daughters have all the facts and can ask me anything, or I hope they can!

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

Mine are still wee but will be keeping an eye on this thread for tips!

I remember being taught it in primary school and I laugh when I'm nervous or uncomfortable and was removed from the class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried to be as open as I can with them. If they have any questions I've tried to answer them factually and dismiss some of the stupid things other kids have told them. Yes it was embarrassing but I know they can discuss most things with me now. Sometimes too much lol. X

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Very open depending on their age obviously. If mine asked a question I gave them an answer,it's important they know the correct facts and they can come to you for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bad memories

I remember our biology teacher telling us that if it was up to her, she’d bring her husband in and show us how it all worked rather than show us text books

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bad memories

I remember our biology teacher telling us that if it was up to her, she’d bring her husband in and show us how it all worked rather than show us text books

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"No, I'm not asking Ed to have sex!

I'm reaching out to all the parents amongst us for advice.

How open are you with your children about sex education?

As I'm pretty sure we can all remember how embarrassing the talks were in school and uninformative they were.

I'd like to make sure my daughters have all the facts and can ask me anything, or I hope they can! "

The only Sex Ed. that we had at school was in Biology lessons, but things are different now.

The Sex Ed at schools now is loads better. It is generally done by outside agencies who turn up with boxes of Dildoes and Condoms to teach the kids how to use condoms. They also instigate open and frank conversation about many aspects of "Real Life" sex and relationships. They talk about the differences between Porn and relationships and say a lot about respect and consent. They also separate the boys and girls for these lessons as this makes for less embarrassment & silliness.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bad memories

I remember our biology teacher telling us that if it was up to her, she’d bring her husband in and show us how it all worked rather than show us text books

She used to boil animal heads to collect their skulls too.

And you wonder how I turned out like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bad memories

I remember our biology teacher telling us that if it was up to her, she’d bring her husband in and show us how it all worked rather than show us text books

She used to boil animal heads to collect their skulls too.

And you wonder how I turned out like this

Explains it all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely open with the kids... we want them to be able to ask us anything

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

As for our own children, we are not at all embarrassed to talk about sex and relationships, its important. Its also something that needs to start when they are quite young, school sex ed can start a bit too late, and varies by school and area..

My daughter is a bit embarrassed but knows she can ask me anything and will get a sensible answer.

My step-son is comfortable enough to have asked me about contraception in the past.

We obviously did something right...

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I'm not asking Ed to have sex!

I'm reaching out to all the parents amongst us for advice.

How open are you with your children about sex education?

As I'm pretty sure we can all remember how embarrassing the talks were in school and uninformative they were.

I'd like to make sure my daughters have all the facts and can ask me anything, or I hope they can! "
open as anything. My older ones know my lifestyle choices just not specifics.. my daughter who is active comes to me for advice on many aspects but obviously we stay off details.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, I'm not asking Ed to have sex!

I'm reaching out to all the parents amongst us for advice.

How open are you with your children about sex education?

As I'm pretty sure we can all remember how embarrassing the talks were in school and uninformative they were.

I'd like to make sure my daughters have all the facts and can ask me anything, or I hope they can!

The only Sex Ed. that we had at school was in Biology lessons, but things are different now.

Cal"

Unsure if one of my girls was fully listening in her sex ed. class. She came out of school and said she doesn't want to eat broccoli anymore, because you can get pregnant

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I have a very open relationship with my 2 daughter ages 11 and 17.

I took my oldeat to the sexual health clinic to talk about all her options and tgen took her bavk for the implant. I think in this day and age it is vital our kids can talk openly about anything. With my oldest we have also been through online issues and self harming together and pulled through. I'm yet to go through any such things with my youngest but I'm confident the communication will be just as good

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"No, I'm not asking Ed to have sex!

I'm reaching out to all the parents amongst us for advice.

How open are you with your children about sex education?

As I'm pretty sure we can all remember how embarrassing the talks were in school and uninformative they were.

I'd like to make sure my daughters have all the facts and can ask me anything, or I hope they can!

The only Sex Ed. that we had at school was in Biology lessons, but things are different now.

Cal

Unsure if one of my girls was fully listening in her sex ed. class. She came out of school and said she doesn't want to eat broccoli anymore, because you can get pregnant

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a very open relationship with my 2 daughter ages 11 and 17.

I took my oldeat to the sexual health clinic to talk about all her options and tgen took her bavk for the implant. I think in this day and age it is vital our kids can talk openly about anything. With my oldest we have also been through online issues and self harming together and pulled through. I'm yet to go through any such things with myi youngest but I'm confident the communication will be just as good

Sounds like you are an amazing mum! x my eldest is 11 and luckily boys still smell and are annoying

, but as I nearly lost my virginity at that age, I'm preparing for that all to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enigmatic Mind loves a sex(y) Ed.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sex Ed, in a church school... Oh it was cringe worthy!

Thankfully times have changed a bit since my school days.

Was very open with my eldest when it was time to 'have that talk'

Dreading it when it comes to my youngest though, I may leave it to his dad!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We tried to be as open as possible but no matter what you do its a rare teenager who tells their parents everything. We were discussing condoms at the dinner table one evening and our daughter jumped up and ran outside lol.

I think its important that your children see loving and stable relationships because a lot of their friends don't. Important that they know where to go for information when they don't want to ask you.

Be aware that the pressure to have sex starts at around year 9 possibly year 8 and they will probably have been shown pornographic images way before then.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We laugh and joke about it, however point out that not everyone likes to talk about it and to keep the joking in house so to speak...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open an honest from day dot.

If they are old enough to ask then they are old enough for a well informed, basic answer.

My eldest discusses pretty much everything with me. I've always been open and honest and if I am unsure of the answer then we'll go looking for the answer together. Never too old to learn a thing or two

I'm now starting all this with the youngest. Different set of questions, different set of answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really open and honest, from periods at a young age to my 12 year old knowing all about mechanics, should feeel good for both, consent etc.

I've always gone with their questions and age appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are better explaining it to your children rather than them finding it out by themselves.

I saw this a week or so back on the BBC website.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-41499243

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

Not sure how old your kids are, but it's never too early to start! (giving age appropriate info, of course)

At age 2, I read my kids books that label everything....some books were about naming colors, some about naming body parts.

As questions came up (how did that baby get IN THERE?) answer according to what they really need to know ie, answer only the question they are asking, without additional info that might confuse.

I wanted to start early so I wasn't mortified at the age they really start asking questions, and I also wanted them to know they could come to me first for any info.

Age 11--oldest asked me what "69" meant. I assume she informed her younger sister!! So I made sure to tell youngest that if anything her sister told her didn't make sense, to just ask me about it.

I think it's most important for kids to come to parents first for correct info. Keep the communication lines open and not only sex, but drugs and other issues are then also easier for all.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

We were told by the nuns to hand up our virginity on a silver platter to our husbands on our wedding night as it was a precious gift only meant for them!

The first time someone spoke to me about contraception was at the hospital after I had my first child!

Gotta love Catholic Ireland's logic.

I have always been open, honest, factual and upfront with my kid's growing up about sexuality, contraception and respecting their bodies, boundaries and those of others while keeping it age appropriate. Age appropriate varied on their individual levels of understanding at the time.

Hygiene chats with them was a great opening to have some of these discussions and using the correct terminology always but having a laugh about the vast amount of silly words for different parts and acts. There are some great books out there but also some great websites geared towards parents and children that use games and quizes to ensure that they have understood the information. Being relaxed and having a fun conversation keeps the door open for questions as well as informing them on where to get the factual information. I found over the year's once the factual information was covered, most of the chats were about safety and respect. We used to give 3 what would you do scenarios and have had some great relaxed conversations and laughs about it. If my kid's had a question they would give 3 scenarios back to me so they kind of felt more comfortable in asking. Best of luck with it op.

Madame Boo

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

"I have a very open relationship with my 2 daughter ages 11 and 17.

I took my oldeat to the sexual health clinic to talk about all her options and tgen took her bavk for the implant. I think in this day and age it is vital our kids can talk openly about anything. With my oldest we have also been through online issues and self harming together and pulled through. I'm yet to go through any such things with myi youngest but I'm confident the communication will be just as good

Sounds like you are an amazing mum! x my eldest is 11 and luckily boys still smell and are annoying

, but as I nearly lost my virginity at that age, I'm preparing for that all to change

Thank you

I do try my best but definitely make mistakes like we all do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours are only young but we are quite open about the biology of the human body. Our lad is at that age when they are quite curious about "winky's and nunu's" as he calls them.

Im sure sex ed has come a long way over the years. I remember the home economics teacher coming in the hall and showing us how to put a condom on. She proceeded to put one on the end of one of them long wooden poles with a hook on the end, that was used to open the high windows in the PE hall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked my eldest son when he was 11 if he knew about sex, he replied of course I do we learned it in year 4. I didn't bother with the other sons but their late dad used to tell them nearly every time they went out to put a condom on or they would have to pay for it for a long time if they got a girl pregnant. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ours are only young but we are quite open about the biology of the human body. Our lad is at that age when they are quite curious about "winky's and nunu's" as he calls them.

In our school a condom was put on a banana, sadly I was absent that day, it was hilarious by all accounts xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ours are only young but we are quite open about the biology of the human body. Our lad is at that age when they are quite curious about "winky's and nunu's" as he calls them.

In our school a condom was put on a banana, sadly I was absent that day, it was hilarious by all accounts xx"

We were shown a film in which inexplicably a girl was sent home from school because her mum was in labour circa 1950. Then the pe teacher drew a penis on the blackboard and the bravest girl in class asked how the sperm got inside the woman. Thus were the girls of our school prepared for life.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Ledbury

I'm pretty open with my daughter, but more from a biological perspective. She's known about sex from being very young - You have to be pretty dense not to spot the massive bollocks on a ram, and she knows that they go in with the ewes in November, she's seen them jump, and thus lambs are born in the spring. She's also sen the rooster at work.

I try to answer questtions as they come up, but wasn't sure how to explain why each ram had 50 girlfriends, but people only have one...

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Open and honest in an age appropriate way. Best way to be, not just in terms of relationships but in keeping them safe (or at least as safe as possible)

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