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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

So they can take a look early on and decide whether to reply or not, and whether to send their own in return.

It really is that simple

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Im simple terms because they can if your not comfortable with that pass those profiles by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask for a face pic

Guys just seem to send them ...its better than a cock pic I reckon

Although a bum pic would be very nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

Im simple terms because they can if your not comfortable with that pass those profiles by "

I have a face picture as my profile picture so it's already there to be seen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never ask for a face pic

Guys just seem to send them ...its better than a cock pic I reckon

Although a bum pic would be very nice "

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys."

Good answer

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

when I message first I attach a pic as well... makes it easier for both sides to decide if it is worth to continue the chat isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people demand a lot of things in here. None if us have to comply though. I get your point but I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay i even got a bum pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they can take a look early on and decide whether to reply or not, and whether to send their own in return.

It really is that simple "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don't make their face public for a variety of reasons - live with it. We always send face pics when asked xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bee asked before. Almost daily.

It's simple if you don't like it..

Don't do it..just move on

We all have that option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they mean if you don’t have a face pic to view on your profile, then send one if you message someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As I have a face picture on my profile it makes no difference to me, it's just a little thing that when I read a profile that demands a face picture and they do not have any themselves makes me want to scream... Lol

Over sensitive? (Maybe)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Dont dwell on it my friend,women can be complicated creatures

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you delete a thread... Seems my point has been missed.

It's not being asked for one, it's when there profile says you must send one to get a reply...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"How do you delete a thread... Seems my point has been missed.

It's not being asked for one, it's when there profile says you must send one to get a reply...

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I get your point - yes it's a bit of a nerve, but because women are so outnumbered on here they can get away with it. I don't share my face pic straight away, so I never demand one until I am ready to swap, usually after a brief initial chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you delete a thread... Seems my point has been missed.

It's not being asked for one, it's when there profile says you must send one to get a reply...

I get your point - yes it's a bit of a nerve, but because women are so outnumbered on here they can get away with it. I don't share my face pic straight away, so I never demand one until I am ready to swap, usually after a brief initial chat."

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"I never ask for a face pic

Guys just seem to send them ...its better than a cock pic I reckon

Although a bum pic would be very nice "

I have bum pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I have a face picture on my profile it makes no difference to me, it's just a little thing that when I read a profile that demands a face picture and they do not have any themselves makes me want to scream... Lol

Over sensitive? (Maybe)"

This.

And other things!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Because we don't question double standards on here, now i suggest you get back down on your knees and continue worshipping before they become angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Dunno, my answer would only be a guess. Ask them who do that.

My thoughts are, they want to see your cards before they show you theirs. So, i guess it's upto you if you want to play that game.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Some people are hypocrites. It's not illegal or even forbidden. Maybe, just maybe it's irritating but then that would depend on your personal standards for accepting different types of behaviour.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"So they can take a look early on and decide whether to reply or not, and whether to send their own in return.

It really is that simple "

100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you delete a thread... Seems my point has been missed.

It's not being asked for one, it's when there profile says you must send one to get a reply...

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They can demand whatever they like, it's up to men whether they do as they say. Is a shag really worth jumping to their demands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they can take a look early on and decide whether to reply or not, and whether to send their own in return.

It really is that simple "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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A fair question ...presuming all things are equal!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys."

Unfortunately, as progressive as we believe we are as a society.. sexual liberation etc. Judgement and shaming of women for having an adventurous sex life still holds. Men can explore without worry about sanction.

That’s why discretion is preferred by most women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not being asked for one, it's when there profile says you must send one to get a reply...

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I don't know. I'm a woman and I'm not remotely interested in online pic swap, I don't ask, I don't send.

Nothing beats meeting in real life, photos mean nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we don't question double standards on here, now i suggest you get back down on your knees and continue worshipping before they become angry"
Made my day, this reply!

Genius!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to see a face before replying or sending mine. I can't send a face pic to someone who hasn't messaged me yet, so they have to send it with their first message.

I know I won't be stalkery or tell people that someone who know is on here. I can't be sure that someone else won't either. As I was followed to my daughter's flat by someone who recognised me from my face pic I no longer send first. Just in case we don't end up meeting.

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

Cos we can!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't demand anyone sends a face pic, but the ones who don't usually get a no thanks.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Journalists?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

Journalists?"

Cynical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys.

Unfortunately, as progressive as we believe we are as a society.. sexual liberation etc. Judgement and shaming of women for having an adventurous sex life still holds. Men can explore without worry about sanction.

That’s why discretion is preferred by most women. "

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"So they can avoid you if they know you.

They have more to lose by someone outing them than a single guy does.

I would get high fives for banging a load of sexy women. A woman would be called a dirty slut for banging a load of hot guys.

Good answer"

Please answer your phone, I think the 1970's are calling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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Better than email tennis

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

Journalists?

Cynical."

Moi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're free to demand and you're free not to acquiesce

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"They're free to demand and you're free not to acquiesce "

Great choice of word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do ladies with no face pictures on there profile demand men send then in first messages if they expect a reply?

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For me a simple answer would be that I need to see if I’m physically attracted to that person before playing the ping pong message game, only to find I don’t fancy them. I’m happy to send a pic with my reply if all is good.

But on another level, I’ve been stalked by a guy to the point I had to threaten to get the police involved so I tend to be more wary.

Up until yesterday I had a picture of my eyes in my public pics and got a message from a guy this morning on my kik whom I’d never spoken to from Fab. I don’t know how but he’d managed to find a pic of my eyes on fb then get my kik name. Very unnerving and hence the pic of my eyes are not going to be made public again. The two pics were actually different pics of my eyes yet he still managed to find out information about me.

Women have different reasons for not wanting to send their face pics first or making them public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're free to demand and you're free not to acquiesce

Great choice of word!"

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

I have no problem with people asking for a face pic with the first message as long as they follow the same rules themselves, what does annoy me is people refusing to speak to people with no public face pic when they don't have one.

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I prefer a face pic from the start because I’m not here for friendship, I’m here for sex, friends with benefits is great but I need to know if I’m attracted before anything else can happen, as a single woman on here I can receive a tonne of messages every day and trawling through them all can be a lot of work so I will use filters to narrow it down and one of those is attraction from the start, I don’t post a face pic on my profile because I prefer to be discreet, I work with the public and that’s my preference, if I like the look of someone I will happily send a face pic back but if I don’t I will explain this and apologise before blocking, it may seem harsh to block but 9 out of 10 will try to talk me around so it’s just easier personally, we all have our reasons for doing what we do

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