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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() Unemotional women are less crazy ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() From your profile pic....their loss. Unless youre a crazy axe murderer that is ![]() | |||
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"Oh no ![]() Thankyou,I feel a bit pants. I haven't been seeing him long and was enjoying getting to know him slowly. Unfortunately it was too slowly for him. I wouldn't mind we just had a really nice weekend together,then he went quiet on me I knew there was something wrong. I've been single for 6 year's and had enough of meaningless shagging on here,it does nothing for the soul ![]() | |||
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"Oh no ![]() ![]() OK serious response after my earlier trite one - sorry to hear it and no matter whether it's only after a short while or a long term thing it's always tough to take - especially if it's unexpected. As nerd-girl said - be kind to yourself - from what I've seen of you round the forums, you're an attractive, intelligent and amusing lady and am sure when you're ready to do so, you'll find what you're looking for ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() No don't become a unemotional blob op. You just need to find a onist nice guy that liks you for hoo you are. ![]() | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! " You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() | |||
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"Oh no ![]() ![]() ![]() Thankyou,I've been looking on and off for so long now for someone I completely gel with I think I may as well give up. It felt right holding his hand walking down the street,we were so different though and those differences mattered more to him in the end. | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() I'm not sure he was playing game's,in his word's he's just more needy. I can be quite guarded with my feelings and he need's someone to go into thing's with full force from the get go. | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() so he wants someone to fight for him? Ok so what's he bringing to the table? Relationships are reciprocal both parties should be equal. A man should care for his woman and a woman should care for her man neither is above the other! | |||
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"Apply for that First Dates programme ![]() Oh yeah forgot about that. Fucking hell if I see him on that that will be entertaining ![]() | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? " Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to. | |||
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" ![]() I'm going to be single forever at this rate,my daughter want's me settled. Bugger she liked him as well. | |||
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"Oh no ![]() ![]() I know how you feel as this happened to me on Monday we had a great time on Friday chatted Saturday then he went quiet this is the 2nd he's done it to me there won't be a 3rd Hugs x | |||
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"Me too! I'm glad I'm in good company ![]() Thankyou! He'll be out of my head soon,at least he dumped me at this stage before I got more involved. Suppose it's quite a novelty being dumped ![]() | |||
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"Aww, that sucks OP. The dating game is a minefield if you've been out of it for a while. The right one will be round the next corner. " I wish... | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to." He was being needy and not letting you go at your pace. Im sure he'll learn eventually. | |||
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"How did you meet him OP? Was it online or in the real world?" I met him on Pof | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to. He was being needy and not letting you go at your pace. Im sure he'll learn eventually. " He was and he knows that,I don't think it's a case of him learning though. I just need to find someone who goes at my pace and he need's to find someone who goes at his pace. | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() No you're on square 2! You're back in the dating game. He primed you ready to meet someone else. You've learned a bit about what you do and don't want. It'll hurt for a while but you just weren't right for each other. ![]() | |||
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"Can understand the emotional bit as I have a heart of stone and it works for me but no need to go get all blobby about it and ruin that lovely figure." ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() Awww boo,have a big hug from us Hope you feel better soon,its never nice xx | |||
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"Oh no ![]() ![]() ![]() Sometimes differences are what make a relationship, sometimes they're what breaks it - and it sounds like it was the latter in this case for him - which tells you one thing, he wasn't the guy for you. As you've said better that you have found out early than further down the road when emotions had really kicked in. Hate to use a cliché, but time really is a great healer and you know what they say about finding things when you're not looking for them ![]() | |||
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"Sorry OP that sucks. Get your self some chocolates and cum ice cream, a girly film and put your pyjamas on. I'll be round soon and we can cwtch it out....but I'll want to share the ice cream. " Cum ice cream? That has a very limited market I imagine, just what a single girl needs though ![]() | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() ![]() I hate trying to find someone,it's such hard work though. This is the flipping closest I've got in 6 year's to a relationship,true I've been pissing about on here too much,but even so! | |||
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"Can understand the emotional bit as I have a heart of stone and it works for me but no need to go get all blobby about it and ruin that lovely figure. ![]() Thankyou ![]() | |||
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"I'll date you. Every third Sunday of the month we go LARPING. I don't snore I have cats I like to spend at least 2 hours before bed reading I can trim my body hair to whatever length you like Any questions? " Yes what's larping? | |||
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"My daughter has just rang from school to say I love you and we'll find someone better and who deserves you. Now I am in tears and starting to feel angry with him. I hate emotions..." Aah, bless you lovely lady. Your daughter is right and its lovely you have her to support you. You are going to feel emotional, that's a normal reaction. Best wishes and hugs! ![]() | |||
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"Was there a reason for him dumping you?" That was answered further up. ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() Did he know you were on fab? | |||
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"I dunno why you would be sad or go eat chocolate. You should be proud. You put yourself out there, you put yourself in a position where you could be hurt, and you gave someone a god honest chance. Think over things and be honest with yourself if there is anything you should do different and move on. If you're not putting yourself out there, in places where people can let you down, then you'll never find that person that will do everything not to let you down and who you can trust totally." I love this ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() So what your saying is your singe OP........ ooow is it too soon? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() Yes he did. I was just thinking no-one has pulled me up on that. He knows I'm on the forums only and haven't met anyone from here since February. I DO NOT cheat sexually if I'm seeing someone. If he has said I don't want you to be on here then I wouldn't be. So yeah...Apologies if that wasn't the answer you wanted. | |||
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" ![]() I was shit at the whole dating thing, too, though in a different way perhaps. I haven't read the whole thread, and it sounds like a platitude, but it'll work out in the end. Just enjoy where you are and who you're with (even if it's only yourself) and things work out fine and you're happier for it. | |||
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"I dunno why you would be sad or go eat chocolate. You should be proud. You put yourself out there, you put yourself in a position where you could be hurt, and you gave someone a god honest chance. Think over things and be honest with yourself if there is anything you should do different and move on. If you're not putting yourself out there, in places where people can let you down, then you'll never find that person that will do everything not to let you down and who you can trust totally." I just feel sorry for myself I suppose. I want someone to care for me again,I want someone to love me,I want someone to love,to wake up to,to hold hand's with. We were talking about going away for a few day's in a couple of week's,now there's nothing. Now I'm back to square one trying to find that person. It's just tiresome. | |||
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"That's sad, I can relate to both sides. If it is any help just get yourself round here, I will run you a hot bath with lovely essential oils, you can soak as long as you like, then I will wrap you in a big white robe, brush your hair, hold you, softly kiss your forehead and then, ever so gently and tenderly, I will podge you up the chuff. There, it's all better now. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Your own life circumstances have made you who you are but do you think you could or would of changed to make it work ? Maybe you both could of met somewhere in the middle, Something to think about for your next relationship " I could have given more of my emotions or just more of myself I suppose. When you're not naturally a person that does that though I find it hard,that's why I like to take thing's slowly. | |||
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"Don't become an unemotional blob, it's shit. " Maybe,but it's easier and safer with men. | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() Heay you will get no judgment from me | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() It's not game playing though, is it. They got to know each other and he realised that she wasn't the woman for him. Do you think he should just continue even though he wasn't happy? It sucks when a relationship ends but why carry on if you're not compatible. | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman " Thankyou,I'm going to remember those word's ![]() | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() It hard when things like this happen, I've been single for a long while. I'm starting to think it's because I'm an ugly bugger haha. You'll feel shit to begin but after a while the pain goes away, I can't veiw your profile but from what I can see and read through forum you sound like a lovely stunning woman with a big heart :3 all I want is to be cared for and share in a relationship like everyone else :3 but sometimes some things are just not meant to be, one day the right person will come along and I hope they make you happy and loved like you deserve :3. | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman " Spot on ![]() | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x" No I know,someone else just said the same thing to me that's why I don't understand how I'm feeling. We were so different which I said to him at the beginning and he said that's not a problem is it,I said no,but it clearly is for him now. He did irritating little thing's which I'm sure I did,but the more time I've spent with him the more they've dissolved into the background. It just came out of the blue in one respect as we had a good weekend together. | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman Thankyou,I'm going to remember those word's ![]() Think to yourself 'did I see us together in 3, 5, 10 years time'? Perhaps that's the answer to your dilemma. You seem a positive person and I wish you well x | |||
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"Don't become an unemotional blob, it's shit. Maybe,but it's easier and safer with men." And so much more limiting ... | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x" I’d have to agree with this. I got the impression you weren’t that into him either OP ![]() | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to." That's probably the issue. Taking it slowly and not showing probably gives him the impression you are not that interested. Hence if he is looking for something serious he most likely didn't see any future in it. I knows it hard for people who aren't naturally emotional but if you feel someone is potentially a long term partner, I think it's wise to tell them fairly early on. Either they will feel the same and all is good or they won't and you can stop wasting your time. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() Needy is not the right word,maybe he really liked her and "wanted" more from it,needy mames him sound like a right knob | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x I’d have to agree with this. I got the impression you weren’t that into him either OP ![]() As I've said we were very different,but I was starting to see us more as a couple as time went by. Introducing him to my family and so on. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() Makes* | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to. That's probably the issue. Taking it slowly and not showing probably gives him the impression you are not that interested. Hence if he is looking for something serious he most likely didn't see any future in it. I knows it hard for people who aren't naturally emotional but if you feel someone is potentially a long term partner, I think it's wise to tell them fairly early on. Either they will feel the same and all is good or they won't and you can stop wasting your time. " I have a lot to learn even at the ripe old age of 50! Wise word's,thankyou. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() I think the OP said he described himself as such up there ^^ somewhere. Also there was a comment about him wanting her to 'fight for him' I mean if that's not needy I don't know what is!! | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() Yes he did Lady lick. That's what annoys me now actually him talking about fighting for him. He's not 'fighting' for me,I don't feel like we should be doing that anyway. It was the early stages we should just be getting to know each other and all our little querks. Anyway it's done and dusted ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Shouldnt have to fight for anyone. If both sides want to be together then it will work. | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() He did very much yes! My last relationship was with someone from PoF,which I ended. Anyone know of any decent dating sites for the future think I'll stay away from pof...or I'm going to walk the street's and talk to random people. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Exactly. | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman " 100% agree ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() We met on OK cupid. That's a good site for the less conventional... | |||
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" I want someone to care for me again,I want someone to love me,I want someone to love,to wake up to,to hold hand's with. We were talking about going away for a few day's in a couple of week's,now there's nothing. " Gulp " Now I'm back to square one #TRYING# to find that person. It's just tiresome." Glad to read your still going to be looking. | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() Oh yeah I am actually on there still I think ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() What about men on here. They're not all idiots ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() That's basically what we used to to before t'internet | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() No they're not,but I've tried unsuccessfully to find anything meaningful from here. | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x I’d have to agree with this. I got the impression you weren’t that into him either OP ![]() How long were you together for? | |||
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"Think I'll just turn into an unemotional blob ![]() And I’d take you out as well, so that’s two offers to brighten up your self esteem. I think too much looking for the right person blinds you to seeing one when they are in front of your face, so stop looking, be open to a connection and have fun. Love will come to you when you least expect it. X | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() Yeah me too. Had one dinner in Park Lane mind you lol, but I think most just want a passport or a shag! ![]() | |||
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"I still like my own space and home to go back to." I can relate to this and I think when your comfy with yourself and your lifestyle it's not easy to let go and takes time to share everything again.. ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() We know a nice guy looking for someone. If you want us to play cupid send us a message ![]() | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x I’d have to agree with this. I got the impression you weren’t that into him either OP ![]() Only a couple of months or so,bit more. Fucking hell that's pathetic. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() Not necessarily - it could just be a difference in style. I'm primal prey, like to be pursued with a passion - those obsessive scorpio/leo type men who go completely over the top are exactly what I like, I can reciprocate in kind! Someone more cautious who might be exactly what Ignite would want would leave me cold. ![]() | |||
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"I still like my own space and home to go back to. I can relate to this and I think when your comfy with yourself and your lifestyle it's not easy to let go and takes time to share everything again.. ![]() It's not easy at all is it,that seems alien to me now sharing a home with someone. It would have to be someone very special for me to contemplate selling my home or have someone move in. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm Scorpio, but do you seriously believe in that? | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Now I don't necessarily want someone more cautious,I just need someone to be more patient with me! I am contradicting myself here ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Yeah but he has to be tall with a fit body,everything else is not so important ![]() | |||
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"To be honest OP, i always got the impression when you mentioned him/the dating that you weren't 100% sure about him. Maybe you just need a bit of time apart to appreciate what each brings to the table, or maybe it's an opportunity to look afresh for someone else more suited to you. And i don't mean that in a horrible way x I’d have to agree with this. I got the impression you weren’t that into him either OP ![]() No it’s not pathetic. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() OK, I see what you're saying. Well, the right guy will be - a gentleman is just a patient wolf. ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Does age matter. He's 32 | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() I’m a Scorpio as well, we are very loyal and passionate | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() In a lighthearted way - my relationship history is full of full-on Scorpios and Leos (other passionate signs are available)! ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() If the OP doesn’t want him, send him my way ![]() ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Never see yourself as a problem. I wouldn't want anyone putting emotional demands on me this early on either, I would have backed right away. If he'd wanted to wait for you he would have. You want someone to be the stronger one and have patience, so hold out for that person instead xx | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm 50!!! ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() I am loyal and passionate but I don't think one twelfth of the population share those qualities purely because theywere born in October or November! | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() So it does matter.. | |||
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"I still like my own space and home to go back to. I can relate to this and I think when your comfy with yourself and your lifestyle it's not easy to let go and takes time to share everything again.. ![]() I reckon you would have to sell .. as your home is your space and no matter how special he was certain things would irk you .. your probably very territorial without realising it ... I know I am ![]() | |||
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"Shed no tears over those who don't shed them over you. If he truly wanted you he'd respect the pace you were comfortable with! You know what thanks for that you're right. He said he want's someone who fights for him,which I didn't realise I had to do at this stage. He said I was special,I replied just not special enough to fight for. I don't alway's show my emotions which is hard for most people I appreciate that,oh well upwards and onwards ![]() Wants someone who fights for him??? Fuck that. You're well rid | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Not necessarily....and yet those I have met under that sign have indeed been the most 'hook, line and sinker'....as I say, other signs are available. ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I remember saying to him if someone comes on too strong in the early day's it make's me feel like I'm being backed into a corner and I pull away. Why can't people give me time to think without pressure! | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I hadn't thought about age,I just presumed he would be older for some reason ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Virgo - you need a virgo lol! (joke) ![]() | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman Very much so, big hug for you x" Thankyou,I'm just being pathetic. | |||
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"I still like my own space and home to go back to. I can relate to this and I think when your comfy with yourself and your lifestyle it's not easy to let go and takes time to share everything again.. ![]() ![]() I am as well very much so! | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman Very much so, big hug for you x Thankyou,I'm just being pathetic." Not pathetic at all, we all move at different paces, esp if we have been hurt before in a relationship, things can just take that little bit longer for some of us. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Hahaha, well there you are then!! (QED you ne'ersayers!) | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() I just checked it out and they have a whole new raft of search perameters you can use....so i set them all up for what I actually want and they came up with............0!!! Big fat zero lol!!! 'Try being less fussy' they said...... ![]() | |||
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"I still like my own space and home to go back to. I can relate to this and I think when your comfy with yourself and your lifestyle it's not easy to let go and takes time to share everything again.. ![]() I feel the same. Lol. I think I'm borderline bachelor institutionalised or something ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Thanks Frisky, you have just clarified something that's evaded my understanding of myself for years. Mind blown. Primal prey. | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() That sound's about right,I barely got any messages from people local to me never mind in the same country. The question's are a good idea though,they're a good filter. | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() These are new search options - Height, ethnicity, religion, pets, monogamy, drinks, drugs, education, kids, status, looking for, personality....... It said " Try fewer options The best searches are often less restrictive. Give it another shot!" Hahaha! ![]() | |||
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"So now that you you have declared in public you are single has your inbox just tripled" No I don't want to meet anyone,my profile is staying hidden for the duration. | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() Oooh do the 'bdsm quiz' and then pm me lol!! I finally put a name to a few things I didn't categorise!! ![]() | |||
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"That's a real shame after spending a nice weekend together. From what I've read he sounds needy and needy men are ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Oh just https://bdsmtest.org/ I think - here's the thread: https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/516794 | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Looks like there would be a queue ![]() | |||
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"If you got dumped for wanting to take things slow he wasn't willing to put in the work he wasn't worth it he's the one that lost a beautiful woman Very much so, big hug for you x Thankyou,I'm just being pathetic. Not pathetic at all, we all move at different paces, esp if we have been hurt before in a relationship, things can just take that little bit longer for some of us." I agree, not pathetic at all, especially if you are cautious because of history, if you can communicate that to them so they can at least be aware of or try to understand your approach. I don't know what I'm doing half the time. Sometimes I think I want something more and others not a chance because I like how my life is now. I'm also ruled by history I think. Marriage ended, he left for a mutual acquaintance. Didn't feel ready to date for over a year, met someone quite quickly, all was going well and then I found out he was married and I had unwittingly been made "the other woman". That obliterated any kind of faith in dating and I'm still not ready to try again (18 months on), so I'm keeping it simple with my fab life. My friends tell me I'm closing myself off to anything that might happen, but for now that's the safest thing for my feelings. I tell them this way at least I'm not messing anyone else around! You will feel better in time, but you know that. Distraction for me was key, keeping busy and doing something nice for yourself. | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to." Personally from reading your messages he was definitely too needy after such a short time, likewise been single over 5 years now and would love nothing more than to settle down but IF...big IF I do meet someone then I'll be taking things very slowly indeed....letting things develop exactly as you were trying to do...naturally with an element of independence and your own space still! You had a lucky escape O.P as if it were further down the line you could've been feeling a whole lot worse ![]() | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Age is less important than how much you have in common to talk about. | |||
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"Why do you reckon you got dumped? Because I was taking it too slowly for his liking and probably not showing enough emotion to him. I like to let thing's develop naturally without forcing thing's or having the need to constantly be in contact. I still like my own space and home to go back to. Personally from reading your messages he was definitely too needy after such a short time, likewise been single over 5 years now and would love nothing more than to settle down but IF...big IF I do meet someone then I'll be taking things very slowly indeed....letting things develop exactly as you were trying to do...naturally with an element of independence and your own space still! You had a lucky escape O.P as if it were further down the line you could've been feeling a whole lot worse ![]() I know at least at this stage he'll be out of my head in a week or so,already deleted all his pic's and telephone number. The sooner he's out of my head the better. He gave me an old tv of his as mine was slowly losing it's battle so that's a constant reminder when I watch the bloody thing! | |||
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"Aww shame, but you sounded very unsure about him last week and, whether it is weakness or preference it sounds like he wants to feel someone is really bowled over by him...... Still there is hope - if you found one on POF there may be another, I can't find anyone worth dating on there!!! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Maybe,but I'd be constantly worrying he's going to disappear for someone with less wrinkles ![]() | |||
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"I dunno why you would be sad or go eat chocolate. You should be proud. You put yourself out there, you put yourself in a position where you could be hurt, and you gave someone a god honest chance. Think over things and be honest with yourself if there is anything you should do different and move on. If you're not putting yourself out there, in places where people can let you down, then you'll never find that person that will do everything not to let you down and who you can trust totally." ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If you are worried about that maybe it wasn't a good match after all. " No the guy I was seeing was 48 I'm 50 I wasn't talking about him. | |||
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"I dunno why you would be sad or go eat chocolate. You should be proud. You put yourself out there, you put yourself in a position where you could be hurt, and you gave someone a god honest chance. Think over things and be honest with yourself if there is anything you should do different and move on. If you're not putting yourself out there, in places where people can let you down, then you'll never find that person that will do everything not to let you down and who you can trust totally. ![]() ![]() I'm going back to shagging it's easier. Not really... | |||
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