FabSwingers.com forum: No sex please, I'm a dominant

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I recently took on a sub, she has such a refreshing attitude towards bdsm I couldn't resist, I saw her as a challenge because one of her hard limits is NO SEXUAL CONTACT

And I have to say, I'm enjoying it, didn't think I would, but I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you met her in person?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Good. Enjoyment is a good thing and a rare commodity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you allowed sex chat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you met her in person?"

Yes, odd question, but yes I have

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By *ranny Hunter 18210186Man
over a year ago

London Waterloo

"So I recently took on a sub, she has such a refreshing attitude towards bdsm I couldn't resist, I saw her as a challenge because one of her hard limits is NO SEXUAL CONTACT

And I have to say, I'm enjoying it, didn't think I would, but I am

Give us an example of the types of things you do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you allowed sex chat?"

Yes, and sex chat for the purpose of verbal degradation is a big part of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bookmarking this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bookmarking this thread

Or you could ask a question

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i'm like this with Domming submissive males..no sexual contact.

no i dont want one atm thanks (to anyone considering it)

its not that unusual, glad you are having a great time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bookmarking this thread

Or you could ask a question

I just think it's quite refreshing to see that it just goes to prove that BDSM isn't always about sex.

And kudos to you as this goes to show what type of Dominant you are.

So many 'want to be Doms' out there thinking that it's all about rough fucking slapping her arse and tying her up....

So this type of thread is wonderful to see.

I love the mental side to submission it's turns me in immensly....structure, daily tasks, rules etc... could I do the no sex....

hmmmm I'd have to think on this one....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Bookmarking this thread

Or you could ask a question

I just think it's quite refreshing to see that it just goes to prove that BDSM isn't always about sex.

And kudos to you as this goes to show what type of Dominant you are.

So many 'want to be Doms' out there thinking that it's all about rough fucking slapping her arse and tying her up....

So this type of thread is wonderful to see.

I love the mental side to submission it's turns me in immensly....structure, daily tasks, rules etc... could I do the no sex....

hmmmm I'd have to think on this one....

Mmm, with you on this, I think fractional play in the mind is stunning, the balance of physical and emotional play needs to align in my world.

OP, very untested how this plays out, you possibly have opened a new world to me, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bookmarking this thread

Or you could ask a question

I just think it's quite refreshing to see that it just goes to prove that BDSM isn't always about sex.

And kudos to you as this goes to show what type of Dominant you are.

So many 'want to be Doms' out there thinking that it's all about rough fucking slapping her arse and tying her up....

So this type of thread is wonderful to see.

I love the mental side to submission it's turns me in immensly....structure, daily tasks, rules etc... could I do the no sex....

hmmmm I'd have to think on this one....

Mmm, with you on this, I think fractional play in the mind is stunning, the balance of physical and emotional play needs to align in my world.

OP, very untested how this plays out, you possibly have opened a new world to me, thank you."

It's raised some questions for me too, for instance, being as there is no sex involved, could I get the same buzz if say I dominated a man, or trans woman, and if not, is the domination a sexual act in itself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bookmarking this thread

Or you could ask a question

I just think it's quite refreshing to see that it just goes to prove that BDSM isn't always about sex.

And kudos to you as this goes to show what type of Dominant you are.

So many 'want to be Doms' out there thinking that it's all about rough fucking slapping her arse and tying her up....

So this type of thread is wonderful to see.

I love the mental side to submission it's turns me in immensly....structure, daily tasks, rules etc... could I do the no sex....

hmmmm I'd have to think on this one....

Mmm, with you on this, I think fractional play in the mind is stunning, the balance of physical and emotional play needs to align in my world.

OP, very untested how this plays out, you possibly have opened a new world to me, thank you.

It can be for some people.

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By *icky247TV/TS
over a year ago

Ruislip

I had the most amazing sub dom relationship with a gentleman that was all without actually meeting. He got in my head and I would have done anything for him. We were ultimately going to meet but he very sadly passed away before this happened. It has taken a long time to get over that.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really despair when people say a certain way is the only way to do D/S.

May be I have seen some f#cked up things but I have never seen the one true way of bdsm that suits everybody.

The only proper way is what is right for the dynamic between the particular sub(s) and the particular dominant(s).

I have known subs who have left their doms because sex was not on the table. The desire for sex and kink is not just a dom thing.

In my view the only true way is risk aware consensual kink, after that, all bets are off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me this malarky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the most amazing sub dom relationship with a gentleman that was all without actually meeting. He got in my head and I would have done anything for him. We were ultimately going to meet but he very sadly passed away before this happened. It has taken a long time to get over that....."

Oh goodness I'm not surprised. I'm sorry for your loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not for me this malarky"

What ...the no sex dynamic in a bdsm relationship?

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By *anillaguyMan
over a year ago

Kingston

Am interested in the dom dynamic. Would be grateful to discuss

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I'd forgot about this thread, how is it going OP?

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I have a friend who should read this..

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

For men I don't allow them to touch me or fuck me. It's like another part of my brain and I'm too focused on them and their BDSM needs to be sexual. Submissive men are not sexually attractive to me, submissive women however... so on occasion when they're tied up and helpless I may indulge in giving if consent has been given in advance. All part of the pushing boundaries you understand. I do not receive at all

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By *icky247TV/TS
over a year ago

Ruislip

My relationship developed online via kik. It took some time and worked because my dom realised that there was a lot of work that he had to do....to develop me, to train me and mould me. The relationship can only be built on trust and he earned that from me and in the end I gave him more and more and let go. The most amazing feeling...to just breath out and let go. To give up any resistance and let my dom take control. He took control of my look, my actions even my weight and size. He could bring to to a very heightened state complete with trembling body without being there. He could have asked anything of me in that state and I would have done it willingly. All without actually meeting. A most amazing experience and one I feel sadly I will not see again.

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

"My relationship developed online via kik. It took some time and worked because my dom realised that there was a lot of work that he had to do....to develop me, to train me and mould me. The relationship can only be built on trust and he earned that from me and in the end I gave him more and more and let go. The most amazing feeling...to just breath out and let go. To give up any resistance and let my dom take control. He took control of my look, my actions even my weight and size. He could bring to to a very heightened state complete with trembling body without being there. He could have asked anything of me in that state and I would have done it willingly. All without actually meeting. A most amazing experience and one I feel sadly I will not see again."

Sounds an amazing connection. Don't tell yourself you won't see that again because that will be your reality

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

I have had a very similar experience but not to the same level of control. All communication was made via kik and it felt like he could see right into my soul. It was a magical time. Thank you for bringing back such wonderful memories.

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By *icky247TV/TS
over a year ago

Ruislip

It was a wonderful, joyous time and I felt that same that he could read my mind. I could not say anything without him reading my thoughts so in the end I had no choice but to be completely and utterly honest to his questions. If was exhilarating and after a long session of just talking I was as high as a kite and completely his.

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