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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"

Gin. Gin helps x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Only time can do that I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and distractions. Focus on something away from the reasons for said broken heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never really do, you just deal with it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to break the cycle. I know it sounds like no-one understands and it feels like it will never heal, but keep telling yourself you can move on. Keep busy and active to do anything but live in your head. Good luck.

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By *IA1981Man
over a year ago

bath

Get back in the horse do yo speak. You're a beautiful, smart woman. Get out n live your life xx

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Met my Ex on here 7 years ago and last week we split and have had no contact for a week now. Went from talking etx every day to nothing. Dont know if she has moved on or feeling the same I am etc. Was her decision to have no contact etc but it's hard and dont think goes away. Just gotta deal with it the best way only you can.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Time. It gets easier.

Trying to be mates won't help. It rarely works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time and alcohol and distractions and good friends xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time, and good support from your girlfriends.

Sorry to hear you are hurting - sending hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time. It gets easier.

Trying to be mates won't help. It rarely works."

Look up DABDA it'll help you understand the phases you may encounter and feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time,time and more time.My true love was 30yrs ago still think of her to this day.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It sucks. Erm, I would switch off my fab profile (because nothing else will seem to match up), take up a new physical activity to get endorphins another way and spend time with friends and family. Try to keep yourself busy.

It really, really sucks.

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

That's how we split in first place coz I am starting new role at work in few months and the training is very demanding etc and didn't want to support me in it.

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By *usthere8Man
over a year ago

acton

Best thing I have found is to take it one day at a time and focus on the positives in life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated "

Is it the guy that's your partner?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated "

So he hasn't cheated on you, dumped you or anything like that, but he's working away for 3 months.

Shit as it is, work is work and sometimes you gotta do what needs doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is the only thing that will help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?"

Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

But think positive you won't bump into him and make it worse .Time is a great healer and best avoid all contact .Ex's you can't be friends with if they hurt you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

So he hasn't cheated on you, dumped you or anything like that, but he's working away for 3 months.

Shit as it is, work is work and sometimes you gotta do what needs doing."

No he hasn't cheated on me but he's going to work aboard to sort his head out cos his wife through him out 3 months ago.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?

I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.

This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.

you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

I bloody hope so x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?

I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.

This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.

you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.

Good luck

I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

I bloody hope so x "

Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Gin. Gin helps x"

This.

It really does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

I bloody hope so x

Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin

He's not sure if he will have internet as he's going to the British virgin isles and it's a mess out there right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

I bloody hope so x

Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin

He's not sure if he will have internet as he's going to the British virgin isles and it's a mess out there right now "

It's good a complete break .Honest then you realise what you both want .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you can do is accept that what you cannot change and hope time will help you hide the pain

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?

I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.

This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.

you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.

Good luck

I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life"

It's cruel world. My love lives 1000s of miles away. Good job as it's just one way. She loves me but sadly I don't love her, or anyone in that way.

Put your trust in fate and just see where it takes you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"
time and not best yourself up about it.

Some like to jump straight back in..for others ( myself included..) jumping back in only makes them feel worse.

Remember its a closed door.. Not the end of your journey. Your just now traveling on your own.

Hugs

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Get back in the horse do yo speak. You're a beautiful, smart woman. Get out n live your life xx"

Get back ON the horse perhaps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read all the thread. Its 3 months. Maybe take some time for yourself. It's hardly a long time.

Unless he wants to end it

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm confused,has he actually finished with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look after yourself, its impossible to tell anyone how you react or deal with something like that but keep going and keep talking...time heals.

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

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"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"

Hi ... if you are in an unhappy marriage maybe you need to take stock of your personal situation and then decide your best way forward for the longer term. Good Luck!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?

I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.

This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.

you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.

Good luck

I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life"

Do you think you would ever leave your husband for him?

I'd say if you love him enough you wouldn't be in this situation at all. Perhaps the kindest thing to do is set him free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You never really do, you just deal with it...."

this definitely. Just don't let a broken heart stop you from living and loving again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Hi ... if you are in an unhappy marriage maybe you need to take stock of your personal situation and then decide your best way forward for the longer term. Good Luck!"

This really, and to be honest it is unfair of you to tell him you don't want him to go, although i understand where you're coming from.

Take stock of your own situation and if things are meant to be they will find a way.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There's a great book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken," I found really helpful when I was suffering.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart

Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated

Is it the guy that's your partner?

I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.

This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.

you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.

Good luck

I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life

Do you think you would ever leave your husband for him?

I'd say if you love him enough you wouldn't be in this situation at all. Perhaps the kindest thing to do is set him free "

I am leaving my hubby and the fella knew this. I did say to the fella that I was leaving and yes I did want him to be part of my life after my marriage but I wasn't asking him to leave his wife for me he had to leave her cos he wanted to if that makes sense.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Are we talking your actual heart or did you just drop a Love heart??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Seems to be a lot of it about recently x I feel for you OP as I'm going through the same thing. Good friends help an awful lot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"

I had one.. after two divorces I finally met the woman of my dreams. I worshiped the ground she walked on. Three years into our relationship she suddenly dumped me for someone else. I was totally devastated.

Please research this online..

When you have a breakup with somebody you love, the problem is that your brains pleasure and reward centres treat the breakup similar to a drug addiction. You no longer get that fix of oxytocin, endorphins etc, related to the good feelings. You basically go cold turkey. Starved of the thing that made you feel good.

Also your brain, to put it simply has two halves, your concious mind and your subconscious mind. Problem is that your subconscious mind always tends to win..

For example, if you are scared of spiders, you may tell yourself (consciously), that the next time you see one, you won't be scared. But when push comes to shove, your subconscious takes over and sends you into a panic.

Same as convincing yourself (consciously) that you will skydivie for charity. But again at the final hour your subconscious takes over and say "fek that, I ain't jumping.

So with that in mind, you need to find a way of controlling your subconscious mind. I did so. I was totally wrecked after the breakup. But found a real, qualified, clinical hypnotherapist. This is no joke. She helped me re train my subconscious, under hypnosis. It worked.

Subsequently I also had hypnotherapy to stop smoking. And overcome my fear of tattoos.. the flower chest piece I have took two hours, I did not feel a thing.

This is not Paul Mcenna on TV hypnotherapy. It is real.

Did you know that hypnotherapy was used in world war 2, for operations due to the lack of anisthetic? It worked and actually reduced the mortality rate.

Message me privately if you wish. I have been there. But now happier than ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And for god's sake, please don't consider anti depressants. I tried, they will make you worse. They only mask the symptoms. You need to tackle the feelings in your brain. X

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.

Some say that's what they want yet less than a week later they have a couples account on here with the woman he told you had no idea what fab was despite her having a singles account in here for a couple of years!

Funny old world, huh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time and alcohol and distractions and good friends xx"

No..

Alcohol is a depressant.

Awful, bad advice. She needs help. Not being made to feel worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"
You've had 52 veri's is that not helping?

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart xYou've had 52 veri's is that not helping?"
Maybe they were socials x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"

Cock ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart xYou've had 52 veri's is that not helping?"

Sex and love are very different animals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Cock ?"

Some people have got no idea or feelings.

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Cock ?

Some people have got no idea or feelings. "
he was jokeing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will bother you for a long time. Then it won’t. What you do about it is what shapes the outcome and longevity.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Cock ?

Some people have got no idea or feelings. "

Evening mr sensitive guy

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x

Cock ?

Some people have got no idea or feelings. "

Or sence of humour

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

If it was a married man he would be getting a right bashing , not sympathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so he is going away and won’t have Internet .

I’m sure he is telling the truth

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Has he broken up with you or is he just going away for a while?

I'm talking to myself I know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it was a married man he would be getting a right bashing , not sympathy

To be fair i did consider being more matter of fact in my response, but i'm feeling mellow today so went with my softer reply.

After all, the heart wants what the heart wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like mending hearts xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Has he broken up with you or is he just going away for a while?

I'm talking to myself I know..."

I will pm you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know alot of you may think will she had her cake and she got to eat it aswell. Maybe I did, when I met fella I knew my marriage was in trouble, even though it was my hubby who suggested I found someone to satisfy me sexually. I never ever thought that i would devolope feelings for him and eventually fall in love with him but i did.

I just feel like my world has fallen apart. This guy has been my biggest support through a very tough time and I feel like I have lost apart of me.

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