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"Blocking isn't being mean. It's a tool to use to stop unwanted communication. I don't understand why some seem to agonise over this. I view it like using the telephone preference service. " I'm often told I am "too nice" - therein lies my problem ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've had to learn to be a bit more harsh too. I use my block button quite a lot now because some people can't take a hint! I also think that maybe the site should step in? You get a warning if you message someone who hasn't replied so if you persist then I think the site should block you. " Why should the site take responsibility for your profile? They've given you a block button. That's precisely why it's there! | |||
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"It's like buying lots of tickets for a raffle ![]() Haha! Hadn't thought of that ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"You're clearly finding time to notice that they've mailed you lots of times so why not just be polite and reply "no thank you"? Blocking them would reduce the adoring mail which of course no woman can cope with." I tried the no thank you once or twice and then get "but why" ... looks like I'm just gonna start blocking ... far simpler it seems. | |||
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"You're clearly finding time to notice that they've mailed you lots of times so why not just be polite and reply "no thank you"? Blocking them would reduce the adoring mail which of course no woman can cope with. I tried the no thank you once or twice and then get "but why" ... looks like I'm just gonna start blocking ... far simpler it seems." If you already replied then no need to reply again. I use site supporter so I can see if I mailed them before. If I never met them I know we're not compatible. ![]() | |||
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"You're clearly finding time to notice that they've mailed you lots of times so why not just be polite and reply "no thank you"? Blocking them would reduce the adoring mail which of course no woman can cope with. I tried the no thank you once or twice and then get "but why" ... looks like I'm just gonna start blocking ... far simpler it seems. If you already replied then no need to reply again. I use site supporter so I can see if I mailed them before. If I never met them I know we're not compatible. ![]() Or be really desperate ![]() ![]() | |||
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"You're clearly finding time to notice that they've mailed you lots of times so why not just be polite and reply "no thank you"? Blocking them would reduce the adoring mail which of course no woman can cope with. I tried the no thank you once or twice and then get "but why" ... looks like I'm just gonna start blocking ... far simpler it seems. If you already replied then no need to reply again. I use site supporter so I can see if I mailed them before. If I never met them I know we're not compatible. ![]() ![]() ![]() If you fancy them then meet them. ![]() | |||
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"Blocking isn't being mean. It's a tool to use to stop unwanted communication. I don't understand why some seem to agonise over this. I view it like using the telephone preference service. " Great analogy ![]() | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Hope that wasnt aimed at me sweetie ![]() | |||
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"You're clearly finding time to notice that they've mailed you lots of times so why not just be polite and reply "no thank you"? Blocking them would reduce the adoring mail which of course no woman can cope with. I tried the no thank you once or twice and then get "but why" ... looks like I'm just gonna start blocking ... far simpler it seems. If you already replied then no need to reply again. I use site supporter so I can see if I mailed them before. If I never met them I know we're not compatible. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I don't tho ... the ones I fancy I reply to their messages pretty swiftly ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I am nice (on here and in the "real" world ![]() ![]() You say it's blocking for no reason but what you've described of repeated messages when you've not replied is a damn good reason to block. The new mailbox has highlighted this more, when I see 3 and 4 messages all one liners and no reply from me imreach for block. See it as putting them out of their misery lol. Harsh comment maybe but it comes back to the junk mail thing so doesn't warrant your time spent replying no thanks ![]() | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I reply to you ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I am nice (on here and in the "real" world ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Oh ohhh. I promise to send you less messages ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Don't you dare Tee ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Men don't do hints! Tell them politely they're not for you and block x | |||
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"I don't tend to block people unless they really annoy/upset/piss me off but I am beginning to wonder if my finger should start to be more flexible towards said button... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Glad I put this out here - you have all shown me my thinking was right Thank you ![]() | |||
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"When i had my single profile,I was ruthless with the block button.Hate pushy people ,I always think if they have no respect dealing on here,what would they be like in real life?. The block button is a good tool. .miss" Very good point ![]() | |||
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"Boy POV ... I know you gals get lots of messages ... but if mine isn't read I don't know if that's because you don't want to, didn't have the time, or just missed it. So, yeah, I do tend to remessage. And I've since met or chatted within ppl that ignored the first (few) messages ... so I don't think it's completely unfair on my part (For the record my message are always funny and personal and sans dick pics ... not a one line copy and paste job! )" Your kind of messages definitely get a reply from me ... it's the one liners that make me hover over block | |||
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"I wish that ladies would use the block button more, that way it would leave me in no doubt the position. I spend a lot of time tailoring a message directly to a lady...it is read...and then nothing...not even deleted... What does that mean to the poster? It leaves doubt in his mind. I would appreciate to honesty of a block." Again tailored messages get a reply from me ![]() | |||
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"When i had my single profile,I was ruthless with the block button.Hate pushy people ,I always think if they have no respect dealing on here,what would they be like in real life?. The block button is a good tool. .miss" Conversely there are a fair few ladies who say if they haven't replied they may have missed the message in the morass of their inbox so try more than once. I'll generally send one message and maybe if I'm really keen send a 2nd in case the 1st was missed a few days/weeks later. If the 2nd is ignored add a private note saying 'Not interested'. Flip side, if I get a reply saying no thanks I don't harass ![]() | |||
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"When i had my single profile,I was ruthless with the block button.Hate pushy people ,I always think if they have no respect dealing on here,what would they be like in real life?. The block button is a good tool. .miss Conversely there are a fair few ladies who say if they haven't replied they may have missed the message in the morass of their inbox so try more than once. I'll generally send one message and maybe if I'm really keen send a 2nd in case the 1st was missed a few days/weeks later. If the 2nd is ignored add a private note saying 'Not interested'. Flip side, if I get a reply saying no thanks I don't harass ![]() I should have expanded a bit it's mostly the "hi want to chat/fuck", "nice tits" type messages I get lots of repeats of ... I love to receive a message or fifty that are designed just for me ![]() ![]() | |||
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" Again tailored messages get a reply from me ![]() If only more ladies were like you ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I used to feel 'bad' about blocking anyone except the most obviously abusive types. Not sure why really, but have become far more hardened now and block the sort of repeat offenders you mention without feeling anything. The ones who message again - and again - even *after* even you've already said a polite no thanks particularly annoy me ... this means either they're pushy, or, that they can't even remember contacting you in the first place and are just sending out messages with a scattergun approach which is hardly flattering. I also block anyone - no matter how 'polite' their initial message is, if they make my spidey senses tingle at all. This could be some turn of phrase which makes me uncomfortable or something in their profile suggesting entitlement for example. I now see the block button as a means of protecting myself from possible future abuse which is more important than upsetting a random stranger's sensibilities. " ![]() ![]() | |||
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" Again tailored messages get a reply from me ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() It always will from me too even if a polite no thank you. It's the one liners and copy and pastes that don't deserve any attention | |||
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"Boy POV ... I know you gals get lots of messages ... but if mine isn't read I don't know if that's because you don't want to, didn't have the time, or just missed it. So, yeah, I do tend to remessage. And I've since met or chatted within ppl that ignored the first (few) messages ... so I don't think it's completely unfair on my part (For the record my message are always funny and personal and sans dick pics ... not a one line copy and paste job! )" Very good point! There's no way of knowing if the message just slipped down the page without being seen. | |||
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"With some guys you really have to spell it out to them, sometimes the only way is to block them. Don't feel bad about it OP!!! ![]() I won't now! Glad I got your opinions - thanks ![]() | |||
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"That makes sense but really I don't see it as harrassment which is why I'm reluctant to automatically block them - it just seems a bit desperate on the few men involved. I know I am not everyone's cup of tea - far from it - but by the same token not every man is mine... If I message someone and they don't reply I just move on ... lots of other gorgeous men on here ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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