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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking for a proper dom not someone who thinks they are dom because they own a set of hand cuffs and a flogger lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say I'm also in this place right now. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found mine! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have to say I'm also in this place right now. X "

So hard to find when some guys think being in control is being dom lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I found mine! X"

Well you are lucky then to find a proper dom who can push the limits and doesn't think being in control is what dom is all about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I found mine! X

Well you are lucky then to find a proper dom who can push the limits and doesn't think being in control is what dom is all about "

Im very lucky!! I had almost given up hope.... but then i found him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a 'proper dom'?

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Similarly seeking a true Domme who gets off on giving pain.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Perhaps this is not the site to find what you are looking for? I know that there is some cross over between swinging and BDSM, D/s etc but on sites like his you will always get chancers who think a flimsy flogger from Ann summers is all they need.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Perhaps this is not the site to find what you are looking for? I know that there is some cross over between swinging and BDSM, D/s etc but on sites like his you will always get chancers who think a flimsy flogger from Ann summers is all they need. "

I agree this is not the site to look for a Dom. Most of the men on here call themselves Dom if they are a bit assertive in bedroom department and take a lead sexually . Dominating someone doesn’t need to involve sex at all . Be careful !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a 'proper dom'? "

Was last seen hanging around with Dick.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Smiles, all I want is fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to enrol into dom school. I wonder if Open Uni do a course.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"I need to enrol into dom school. I wonder if Open Uni do a course. "

Job Centre said what training did I want so I asked if I could go on a sex offenders course?

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Perhaps this is not the site to find what you are looking for? I know that there is some cross over between swinging and BDSM, D/s etc but on sites like his you will always get chancers who think a flimsy flogger from Ann summers is all they need.

I agree this is not the site to look for a Dom. Most of the men on here call themselves Dom if they are a bit assertive in bedroom department and take a lead sexually . Dominating someone doesn’t need to involve sex at all . Be careful ! "
guilty. Sorry. Although I was given my name by someone who really is sub. So maybe only half guilty. And sorrynotsorry.

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By *tevie1Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Dommes are also in short supply

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Dominating is verb a doing word , Dom is a nominalisation something that isn’t real, just a made up noun to stabilise an internal world.

Kind off, actions speak louder than words type of thing.....

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

If you're looking for a male Dom please, please be careful there are so many wannabes absolute muppets who like you say think they own something bdsm and they're experts!

I got a message I think last week from the same idiot twice, demanding I call him sir blah blah. The muppet hadn't bothered reading I'm a Domme Mistress lol x though in a way I wish I'd got one of my subs to play along for me, then met him and introduced him to my rules and my strap on lol x

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Subs and fbs don't cross over, subs are amusement, I never allow them to touch me as is correct in real bdsm. I have fbs for sex no cross over, though a lot of wannabes subs think I'll give them a bj! More chance of seeing a flying pig in Saudi Arabia!
"Perhaps this is not the site to find what you are looking for? I know that there is some cross over between swinging and BDSM, D/s etc but on sites like his you will always get chancers who think a flimsy flogger from Ann summers is all they need.

I agree this is not the site to look for a Dom. Most of the men on here call themselves Dom if they are a bit assertive in bedroom department and take a lead sexually . Dominating someone doesn’t need to involve sex at all . Be careful ! guilty. Sorry. Although I was given my name by someone who really is sub. So maybe only half guilty. And sorrynotsorry. "

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If you're looking for a male Dom please, please be careful there are so many wannabes absolute muppets who like you say think they own something bdsm and they're experts!

I got a message I think last week from the same idiot twice, demanding I call him sir blah blah. The muppet hadn't bothered reading I'm a Domme Mistress lol x though in a way I wish I'd got one of my subs to play along for me, then met him and introduced him to my rules and my strap on lol x "

With out discussion and exploration... wow...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If you're looking for a male Dom please, please be careful there are so many wannabes absolute muppets who like you say think they own something bdsm and they're experts!

I got a message I think last week from the same idiot twice, demanding I call him sir blah blah. The muppet hadn't bothered reading I'm a Domme Mistress lol x though in a way I wish I'd got one of my subs to play along for me, then met him and introduced him to my rules and my strap on lol x

With out discussion and exploration... wow..."

Tongue up cheeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is situation I have found myself getting into slowly.

Met someone who has blown my mind, it's a natural progression, never set out that looking for that but our 'urges' have kind of put us there. It's like I need his control and he needs my approval, needs me to need him. I wouldn't say it's a full on dom/sub thing, but it's a crazy feeling.

Weird, I can't explain it. For someone who always has to be in control, and is naturally controlling it feels liberating to be free of that.

However I don't want the control to be wholly his responsibility. I think he needs to be controlled also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't agree more darlin g.

I was my my enough to find someone genuine, however the Walter Mittys are I abundance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *izadoCouple
over a year ago

Keighley

It's a shame you're not closer OP

We always take time to get to know our subs before any serious play takes place. We need to know how their mind works and responds in order to work with them properly. Be aware of Dom/Dommes who rush straight in they obviously don't have any interest in your needs and just want to play pretend Dom. Just take your time and I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U need to be a good sub. not someone who thinks they are a good one,because ur arse gets slapped once in a while!

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