FabSwingers.com forum: Crazy

By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So.... I have been told I am crazy for trusting my gut instinct but I have since been proven that I was right.

I hate feeling like this person thinks they have got one over on me. They know I hate being mugged off.

Things were left very fraught and threats were made if I contacted them again but I can't help feeling like I want to tell them I know the truth of it.

They have more to lose of they decide to carry out their threats. They were only made because they were cornered as their lies were being exposed.

They werent very clever at covering their tracks so I can't imagine they don't know that I know the truth.

Will me messaging them get me the closure I think I need or shall I just leave them to their deluded life?

Will me messaging them just give more weight to the 'you're crazy' argument? I'm not crazy I just need them to know I knew I was right.

Am I just being a stereotypical scorned woman? I want nothing more to do with them so should I just move on? The greatest revenge is simply being happy without them, right?

Sorry for the long post...

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

"So.... I have been told I am crazy for trusting my gut instinct but I have since been proven that I was right.

I hate feeling like this person thinks they have got one over on me. They know I hate being mugged off.

Things were left very fraught and threats were made if I contacted them again but I can't help feeling like I want to tell them I know the truth of it.

They have more to lose of they decide to carry out their threats. They were only made because they were cornered as their lies were being exposed.

They werent very clever at covering their tracks so I can't imagine they don't know that I know the truth.

Will me messaging them get me the closure I think I need or shall I just leave them to their deluded life?

Will me messaging them just give more weight to the 'you're crazy' argument? I'm not crazy I just need them to know I knew I was right.

Am I just being a stereotypical scorned woman? I want nothing more to do with them so should I just move on? The greatest revenge is simply being happy without them, right?

Sorry for the long post..."

Obviously I don’t know your situation but I would just forget it and move on

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If you have nothing to gain, then I would just let sleeping dogs lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can say what you want to say. They may read, delete and block. And that's quite frustrating.

So know that you have a lot to say, but can't be bothered to say it. Block them and move on.

Far more satisfying.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Don’t email, that will only lead to more messaging and potential hurt. It’s hard but, you just need to try and move on x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"You can say what you want to say. They may read, delete and block. And that's quite frustrating.

So know that you have a lot to say, but can't be bothered to say it. Block them and move on.

Far more satisfying."

I think you're right. I'll never get the truth out of them. None of this will ever be their fault!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For your own sanity my lovely, probably best to leave well alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like their ego got bruised and they lashed out, and in doing so yours has been too.

Continuing to beat on each other is going to get neither of you anywhere you want to be.

Be the bigger person, close the chapter and exert your energies on something more positive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold your head up and walk away, evie.

The new girl is deluded if she really believes that she is anything special to him. She must have no self respect for herself if she thinks that he won't treat her like shit and lie to her too. Let them enjoy each other, and you can watch their break up play out over statuses on fabs in the future. Karma is such a bitch

Sending you more hugs lovely xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Sounds like their ego got bruised and they lashed out, and in doing so yours has been too.

Continuing to beat on each other is going to get neither of you anywhere you want to be.

Be the bigger person, close the chapter and exert your energies on something more positive x "

You're right. Not one more ounce of energy shall be wasted on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should let it go now.

What would your advice to someone bringing it up on here be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what's going on but it sounds to me like you need to step away from whatever drama it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like their ego got bruised and they lashed out, and in doing so yours has been too.

Continuing to beat on each other is going to get neither of you anywhere you want to be.

Be the bigger person, close the chapter and exert your energies on something more positive x

You're right. Not one more ounce of energy shall be wasted on them. "

It's not worth the energy.

There are so many great people out there to explore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you should let it go now.

What would your advice to someone bringing it up on here be? "

Best thing when you're thinking about doing something is to honk about what advice you'd give to someone else.

I agree with everyone on here, Evie. Be the bigger person and leave them to it.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You could try writing all those emotions and thoughts down on paper, that does a few things; clarifies them, helps with the closure and the moving on.

If you decide to post it, don’t put the proper address on or just leave the envelope blank or do a ceremonial burning and wave all that awful shit bye bye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From y experience they say one thing but mean something entirely different. Perhaps because they secretly like you holding out hope or just because they will never admit the extent to the deceit. My advice would be to write out what you want to say but don't send it, in a few days or weeks you can still see if the need to send it is as strong as it was or if you've moved on a bit.

What you want to say won't change but how you feel about it may do

They will have already moved on a long time ago without you knowing and so to them they don't care about what you have to say.

Sending huge hugs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's better for you to get closure another way, rather than reopen the repetitive cycle of who has to have the last word - which they will want.

It's not a comfortable thing when we are almost compulsively driven to do something but pause or don't do it. But if you don't do it, you are asserting your conscious control over emotionally driven behavior. It may help end a cycle for you that won't always work in your best interest.

Find other ways to deal with the leftovers from him, including sharing with others and nourishing, soothing yourself.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I don’t know the full details and am relying on what you have posted over th last few days.

He may have fucked you over but you are crossing the line into crazy ex bunny boiling territory. Which you are probably not but bet your bottom dollar a chap like that can turn it all round on you and make you out to be.

These posts don’t help to be honest if he is still on here to see them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t know the full details and am relying on what you have posted over th last few days.

These posts don’t help to be honest if he is still on here to see them. "

And if people know who he is you could be called out for airing dirty laundry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he knows damn fine and that's why he doesn't want you to contact him. Utter guilt. You don't need to tell him. Breathe a sigh of relief.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Hi Evie

I would say to leave it,hes probably behaving this way to get a rise out of you .Hes not worth your time or angst .xx

Miss

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Likelihood is, this fool will argue the toss in an effort to belittle you and dismiss your findings. It will simply make you even more angry because they're continuing to try to insult not only your gut instinct but your intelligence too.

I urge you to be happy in the fact you trusted yourself, and it was the right thing to do. Be proud of that!

High 5 to you lady

No more of your energy or thinking time to be spent on it, other than being proud of yourself.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!! OP Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Thanks for everyone's replies.... I see now that it was a stupid idea and understand the bunny boiler/dirty laundry comments.

Have brushed myself off... Gone to Ann summers, bought some new outfits and will cheer myself up taking some new pics later.

Just needed some semi impartial views on it x

Onwards to better things!

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