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Throwing teddies out of the prom....average time period?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what the average period for having a strop is?

You know the scenario ....you see a profile you like .....you send a quick message to see if they are of interest to continue communicating further....you get a reply, carry on talking elsewhere (Kik, whatsapp whatever)... and then because you have to get on and do normal stuff....eat, sleep, work...like most people....you forget to message....as at the moment it is just chat and not really that important in your life, you are still just gauging a little to see if there is a connection.....

And then they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would....

You apologise of course, and explain the situation...

But the potential meet is now in starting to be become less attractive as pushyness is not an attractive quality to me...

What is the average time period....does it vary with age, sex and maturity....just wonder as last particular guy is in very early 20's .....this group of 20-25's seem to have low patience thresholds and want everything now....or am I being ageist ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve waited a few months before meeting women I’ve chatted to, I’d say the younger generation have very high expectations of this site, I’m a realist, and get the we all have lives off this site.

Time is precious so priorities can differ for certain people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long did you leave it between messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the stroppy one. It's usually a few weeks before i get annoyed about something.

Or sooner if they are just proper annoying.

I should really have a traffic light warning system for my messages:

Green = all is good

Amber = you're starting to do my head in!!

Red = Fuck off! You're blocked!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids today eh? There's a strong entitlement attitude in the young, and society put it there..

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I have noticed that age group want more attention. I am not saying all are the same, but in my experience. Which is why I only communicate on here. I do not give out my phone number etc as I like to switch off and get on with real life. I used to have a "fab phone" when on my old profile a few years ago, it never shut up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably on the tail end of the younger generation now - - but meeting off fab plays such a small role in my life that I am very patient with it as life and money does get in the way, and it's worth it if I find the person's worth it. I waited nine months to meet the last person I met via here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2 minutes

If you can't drop everything right away and meet me then you're clearly a timewaster

At work? Excuses, just say you're going to the toilet and wank me off in the car park

Got kids? Just give them a farleys rusk and stick CBeebies on...I don't care if they're 14

Oh you're nan is seriously ill in hospital? Switch the machine off and let's go for a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had a few older couples get very pushy. Ending up with no meeting as it was just too much. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually 20 mins on fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh don't. I had a new veri from a lovely guy I finally met after weeks of chatting.

During this time and old FB contacted me for a meet, I said I wasn't meeting because of the new guy.

Last night he must of seen the veri, and messaged me asking why I don't meet anymore, he would of loved a catch up etc. So am explained, then talk about strop, mega strop, creeped me out a bit when he offered to 'track him down' wtf????

Then I got three different messages with the opening line "probably be the last message I send now"

Then he changed his status to " who wants angry sex Monday"

Talk about stroppy

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Some people think they are precious. Didn't message back right away so you clearly aren't interested.

Ok if you want to assume that then fine. Off you fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About 2 minutes

If you can't drop everything right away and meet me then you're clearly a timewaster

At work? Excuses, just say you're going to the toilet and wank me off in the car park

Got kids? Just give them a farleys rusk and stick CBeebies on...I don't care if they're 14

Oh you're nan is seriously ill in hospital? Switch the machine off and let's go for a drink

"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I usually don't meet once any drama starts. And it's fairly common with younger guys. I've had people ask me to detail the full list of things I'm going to be doing for several days, to prove I'm too busy with other things.

They could come for a snuggle but not once they get crazy - it'll be nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people think they are precious. Didn't message back right away so you clearly aren't interested.

Ok if you want to assume that then fine. Off you fuck."
life's too short and if someone demands I drop everything and come round now I tell them fuck off would u meet me at a minutes notice ,the answer is no so why should I let you treat me like a piece of meat

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I got this - replied to a guy a couple of times while buying a coffee at work. Came home 6 hours later to where have you gone, why have you stopped messaging. I told him that didn't wash but misguidedly gave him the benefit of the doubt, similar thing happened the next day. Blocked and gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just us young ones unfortunately. A lady i was speaking to got very pushy cause I forgot my phone one as I went to work. When I got on here finally had 5 messages all rarther stroopy about my lack of communication. She is in her 40s

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

First sign of any strop or being pushy and they wouldn't be getting any more messages from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its age related at all. There's assholes in all age ranges.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"How long did you leave it between messages?"

18 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think its age related at all. There's assholes in all age ranges. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all Men have attitudes or impatience. Let's make that clear.

The younger generation are use to immediate answers maybe due to the growing up in the age of emails/text. Us older ones had to post our letters and are used to someone not answering a phone call. Maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Continual one liner messages do not help.

Rather than this construct a decent opening message that goes to a few lines.

Manys the time have had an ongoing ping pong message conversation that lasts over half an hour.

Why not just wrap it all up in one or two longer messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I changed the minimum age of men I want to meet to 30. Doesn't necessarily stop that kind of behaviour but makes it slightly less likely

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By *hellypantsWoman
over a year ago

Hayes

Found the younger ones can be pushy and get "sulky" if not met. If I wanted the clingy boyfriend experience I wouldn't be on here! Put my settings so no one under 35 can message, but shame as not all are the same and could be missing out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 41 year old guy yesterday who got abusive and called me racist because I didn't reply to his messages. Bearing in mind I was 1. Offline and 2. He sent me 4 within the space of 20 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So strange the majority of the ladies on this thread have said it's the younger ones, I always find it's the older ones who I have to block and report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I don't think its age related at all. There's assholes in all age ranges. "

This ^

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type

then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

"

Every young guy and every older guy ?

What do us guys on the middle do, I'd like to know so I can fit in with the stereotype

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type

then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

Every young guy and every older guy ?

What do us guys on the middle do, I'd like to know so I can fit in with the stereotype "

did i use the word "every"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

"

Younger men who never grew up?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type

then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

Every young guy and every older guy ?

What do us guys on the middle do, I'd like to know so I can fit in with the stereotype

did i use the word "every"? "

In my mind you did lol x

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex


"Just wondered what the average period for having a strop is?

You know the scenario ....you see a profile you like .....you send a quick message to see if they are of interest to continue communicating further....you get a reply, carry on talking elsewhere (Kik, whatsapp whatever)... and then because you have to get on and do normal stuff....eat, sleep, work...like most people....you forget to message....as at the moment it is just chat and not really that important in your life, you are still just gauging a little to see if there is a connection.....

And then they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would....

You apologise of course, and explain the situation...

But the potential meet is now in starting to be become less attractive as pushyness is not an attractive quality to me...

What is the average time period....does it vary with age, sex and maturity....just wonder as last particular guy is in very early 20's .....this group of 20-25's seem to have low patience thresholds and want everything now....or am I being ageist ? "

Woman complaining about men average time period

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm dyslexic, I can do quick chat easily, but if replying to something specific that requires a bit of detail, then I mentally write the message, making sure I've got it right.

Sometimes I get distracted, work, kids, life! And often realise awhile later I never sent it.

Had a few people get arsey with me due 'to my lack of interest'

The other one, I'm often showing online here when I'm not, just forgot to log out or which happens a lot, fell asleep on the settee - so also had people get the hump as I've not replied to messages until the next morning.

WhatsApp is the worst though. I use it a lot with work & clients, I have several groups running. I can be chatting on one of them, important work related stuff. Soneone sends a message, can see I'm online, then continues to send messages, implying I'm ignoring them.

Think some people just think the world revolves around them & expect everyone to respond instantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what the average period for having a strop is?

You know the scenario ....you see a profile you like .....you send a quick message to see if they are of interest to continue communicating further....you get a reply, carry on talking elsewhere (Kik, whatsapp whatever)... and then because you have to get on and do normal stuff....eat, sleep, work...like most people....you forget to message....as at the moment it is just chat and not really that important in your life, you are still just gauging a little to see if there is a connection.....

And then they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would....

You apologise of course, and explain the situation...

But the potential meet is now in starting to be become less attractive as pushyness is not an attractive quality to me...

What is the average time period....does it vary with age, sex and maturity....just wonder as last particular guy is in very early 20's .....this group of 20-25's seem to have low patience thresholds and want everything now....or am I being ageist ? "
Can't talk for this guy but I have become more patient with age. I have female friends who show me their phone's and I see the crap they have to put up with even in the vanilla world

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I have my messages open to guys, and honestly they are a bunch of pushy bitchy assholes.

Read a message and dont reply, they want to know why.

Read a message and mark it as unread they insult you.

Dunno how women put up with them if thats how they carry on,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

"

So fecking true!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Eventually an algorithm will exist that predicts where a users messages are going to lead to - and warn you or just send a virus to the senders kit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a part of what some of you guys would class as the younger generation and certainly don't have any sense of entitlement when it comes to messaging folk.

I think it's more down to maturity rather than age. If we message someone and they don't get back we don't mind. Simply leave it be and get on with life.

Although we have found that it tends to be middle aged men and couples that are rude, pushy and have a sense of entitlement when it comes to replying to messages. In our experience anyway - anyone that acts this way just gets ignored and then blocked.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what the average period for having a strop is?

You know the scenario ....you see a profile you like .....you send a quick message to see if they are of interest to continue communicating further....you get a reply, carry on talking elsewhere (Kik, whatsapp whatever)... and then because you have to get on and do normal stuff....eat, sleep, work...like most people....you forget to message....as at the moment it is just chat and not really that important in your life, you are still just gauging a little to see if there is a connection.....

And then they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would....

You apologise of course, and explain the situation...

But the potential meet is now in starting to be become less attractive as pushyness is not an attractive quality to me...

What is the average time period....does it vary with age, sex and maturity....just wonder as last particular guy is in very early 20's .....this group of 20-25's seem to have low patience thresholds and want everything now....or am I being ageist ? "

The wife gets this all the time when she doesn’t reply with the whole “guess your not interested then” and other sarky comments and we wish it was just the younger guys but alas it’s all of them. It’s as if they don’t understand that after a full days work running and round after 3 kids doing normal life stuff that replying to messages about how they will be the greatest fuck ever is not the most appealing thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have my messages open to guys, and honestly they are a bunch of pushy bitchy assholes.

Read a message and dont reply, they want to know why.

Read a message and mark it as unread they insult you.

Dunno how women put up with them if thats how they carry on, "

They're easily dealt with. Just keep smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't remember anyone throwing strops because I haven't met them quickly, apart from one man in his late 40s who suddenly changed his mind about me being perfect for him, and was quite scathing with his remarks.

I've found the younger men to be patient and polite or leave me alone if I'm not ready to meet when they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if I'm just lucky with the men who message me, or my profile doesn't attract these undesirables, or I don't feel the same as other women about messages.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


" .... and then because you have to get on and do normal stuff....eat, sleep, work....."
not forgetting that sometimes you're only able to read the message, yet not able to respond


" they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would....

You apologise of course, and explain the situation....."

OP it certainly shouldn't be necessary to feel the need to explain yourself to anyone.

Be yourself, refuse to accept the verbal bullying and questioning (easier said than done).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"About 2 minutes

If you can't drop everything right away and meet me then you're clearly a timewaster

At work? Excuses, just say you're going to the toilet and wank me off in the car park

Got kids? Just give them a farleys rusk and stick CBeebies on...I don't care if they're 14

Oh you're nan is seriously ill in hospital? Switch the machine off and let's go for a drink

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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The other one, I'm often showing online here when I'm not, just forgot to log out or which happens a lot, fell asleep on the settee - so also had people get the hump as I've not replied to messages until the next morning.

WhatsApp is the worst though. I use it a lot with work & clients, I have several groups running. I can be chatting on one of them, important work related stuff. Soneone sends a message, can see I'm online, then continues to send messages, implying I'm ignoring them.

Think some people just think the world revolves around them & expect everyone to respond instantly

"

So true on both accounts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Younger men tend to send the cocky messages then start sending quick fire "whats wrong you've not replied" messages within minutes.

Older men tend to start with "hello" and within 5 minutes they've sent you 5 pages of what they'd do to you, where you can tell they were wanking. Finishing off with "am i not your type then?" Because they've cum and want to log off.

So fecking true!"
I've never done that so it's not that true

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Found the younger ones can be pushy and get "sulky" if not met. If I wanted the clingy boyfriend experience I wouldn't be on here"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh don't. I had a new veri from a lovely guy I finally met after weeks of chatting.

During this time and old FB contacted me for a meet, I said I wasn't meeting because of the new guy.

Last night he must of seen the veri, and messaged me asking why I don't meet anymore, he would of loved a catch up etc. So am explained, then talk about strop, mega strop, creeped me out a bit when he offered to 'track him down' wtf????

Then I got three different messages with the opening line "probably be the last message I send now"

Then he changed his status to " who wants angry sex Monday"

Talk about stroppy"

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"And then they get all pushy...and rude....about why you have not messaged when you said you would...."

And then I block and move on. This is meant to be fun. Anyone who exhibits those kind of traits will not be a well balanced, chilled, fun person

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I see it that these people are just filtering themselves out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see it that these people are just filtering themselves out "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had quite a few older men get annoyed at me for going to work!

Then they want to know where you work, what time you finish, what are you doing after. This is all within about 20 minutes of them first messaging.

At this point I usually just say I'm busy for the forseeable future. Goodbye

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had quite a few older men get annoyed at me for going to work!

Then they want to know where you work, what time you finish, what are you doing after. This is all within about 20 minutes of them first messaging.

At this point I usually just say I'm busy for the forseeable future. Goodbye "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea about guys but I find women get bored chatting to me pretty quick. I usually spend a week or so happily chatting about the weather or my cat or how much I like crisps before they stop replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't talk to anyone off here anywhere else,unless its a quick phone confirmation..and i find thats is older men are worse for sending a message telling me im rude if i havent replied instantly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well it seems the judgement is out on the age of people that throw their teddies when rejected...this time it is an older guy...and it seems they are far more bitter and twisted in how they handle it...the messages returned when I finally said no have definitely proved that I was right not to meet him

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I don't think its age related at all. There's assholes in all age ranges. "

This

It's not just, some men, who throw a strop either. Some women and couples are just as bad, if not worse.

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