FabSwingers.com forum: Be good or be yourself?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When your online, are you aware of what mood your in? More importantly do you think what type of vibe your setting when your posting on threads. example - you might go out of your way posting in a cheery way, making yourself seem welcoming, and setting the tone of the forum, although your not feeling great yourself.

Positive attracts positivity doesn't it?

Does the forum ever change your mood? Maybe your here having a laugh but others are posting in a way that brings you down? How would you react if you notice it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post however my brain tells me to. As I'm not much good at being a cunt it's usually not upsetting to anyone, I think. If there's lots of negative stuff, or arguing on here I go and play Angry Birds on my phone instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When your online, are you aware of what mood your in? More importantly do you think what type of vibe your setting when your posting on threads. example - you might go out of your way posting in a cheery way, making yourself seem welcoming, and setting the tone of the forum, although your not feeling great yourself.

Positive attracts positivity doesn't it?

Does the forum ever change your mood? Maybe your here having a laugh but others are posting in a way that brings you down? How would you react if you notice it? "

Pffft nooooooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I'm always pretty positive so post that way. Anything that's negative I tend to ignore.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I sometimes have to take a step back from posting negative or rude things. My mood does affect how I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post in my own little bubble and avoid the negativity that I see sometimes ......happy happy all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, yes I do seem to post with a positive spin on things. I suppose I try and keep things happy even if I'm not feeling that way myself, I think to attract that good feeling from others.

And sometimes when there's a lot of negativity it does affect me, and I have to scroll on past and do something else to lift my mood x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I sometimes have to take a step back from posting negative or rude things. My mood does affect how I am.

It's not really my mood, it's normally others moods that change me.

'Go with the flow' isn't a great trait online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be jovial, laughter make the world go round

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I post in my own little bubble and avoid the negativity that I see sometimes ......happy happy all the way

Bubble butt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don't think that hard about my posts on the forum. To me they are a form of entertainment and have very little to no impact on my life so mood doesn't really come into it. if I'm in a bad mood then i tend not to want to interact with anyone.

I guess if my life revolved around the forums I might feel differently but I struggle to see how anything said by strangers on the internet will affect my mood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

. "

Are you entertained with both the good posts or negative posts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you entertained with both the good posts or negative posts? "

There is much that amuses me in both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I post in my own little bubble and avoid the negativity that I see sometimes ......happy happy all the way

Bubble butt!

Squirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always jolly here and positive . I don't enter threads that don't tickle my fancy .

I like to think all my postings are jolly upbeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think im mostly ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm upbeat 98% of the time so I think that's ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at pics of very sexy people. Interacting with them...I’m happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I try to be happy where I can but the place can affect my mood. I used to hate Fridays on here when I first found the forum as everyone was banging on about the meets they had planned and the clubs they were going to and I was sat there with no interest whatsoever. Then I grew a pair and now it doesn’t bother me - especially now

If it’s becoming negative then I tend to step away as it isn’t worth it. It’s lead me to being a bit spiky in the past so I stop myself now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never post anything negative on here, I'm here for smiles,sex and friends so like Jo I have my bubble and I'll bounce around in it with the sexy fabbers that make me happy

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and be happy and stay away from negative threads and people .I'm the same on fab as I am in the real world .Was said earlier on this thread , go with the flow ,i really hate that saying as dead fish go with the flow

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Fortunately I'm always pretty positive so post that way. Anything that's negative I tend to ignore."

^ pretty much this.

If I was in a low or grumpy mood, which rarely happens, then I would steer clear of Fab.

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Life has already to much negative in it. Turn on the news and it's just shit. It takes alot to break me down I am always smiling and positive then I've been a soldier for 26 years so what else can go wrong lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only enter threads that interest me that I think I could have something nice, positive or funny (hopefully) to add

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm a positive person, I believe everything happens for a reason, even if it not good at the time there is always a positive side to every situation if you look for it.

My friends call me the irritatingly happy one.

Life's too short not to be happy

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I avoid threads, topics and even forumites I think might bring me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm in a parricularly bad mood or negative frame of mind the last place I'd post is these forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I'm in a parricularly bad mood or negative frame of mind the last place I'd post is these forums"

So where do you go?

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

I'm a moody, fiery bitch but true to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's difficult if you don't know someone. Emotions can get lost in translation and things said can easily be taken the wrong way although, most of the time it's easy to tell if someone is being humorous or serious or even grumpy! I tend to avoid a thread with a bad vibe, unless I feel I can say something positive that will lighten the mood or, cheer a person up. The posts don't usually effect the way I feel though and if they did, there are plenty that would cheer me up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like posting when I’m in a bad mood.

If I’m pissed off, then every other bugger can be pissed off too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's difficult if you don't know someone. Emotions can get lost in translation and things said can easily be taken the wrong way although, most of the time it's easy to tell if someone is being humorous or serious or even grumpy! I tend to avoid a thread with a bad vibe, unless I feel I can say something positive that will lighten the mood or, cheer a person up. The posts don't usually effect the way I feel though and if they did, there are plenty that would cheer me up again. "

There's those thread subjects I intentionally avoid too. You just know what direction they'll go in.

But don't we also say 'let people do what they want online'? Why do we feel we should try to change them?

(I'm just trying to see it from a different angle)

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If I'm in a really bad mood or feeling really low, then the last place I'd be is on Fab. I'm unlikely to want to interact with anybody in any form.

If the forums are particularly negative or bitchy, then I buggar off and do something else. I've enough drama of my own.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I mostly find the Forums to be hilarious with doses of drama here and there. I'm rarely in a bad mood and tend to post daft comments that reflect my sense of humour but I will get involved with serious topics if I've something meaningful to add. Some of the antics have me rolling my eyes but I just don't get involved in those. Nothing to do with my mood, more that I ain't getting involved in some stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post regardless of the mood I'm in, I don't try and be everything to everyone.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I just post the way I want without giving too much thought to it (unless it's potentially very negative). I don't change to please others and the mood of this place rarely affects me.

It's easy enough to read the oddity of tone when someone is posting in a 'positive' mannner but not necessarily feeling so - their voice doesn't read true and it just reads in an incredibly jarring fashion. I like seeing the odd slip ups of those posters though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Topic wise, only one thread has ever upset me enough to raise a virtual finger to everyone & bugger off for a few weeks ~ still I learnt from that experience and it ain't happened again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Topic wise, only one thread has ever upset me enough to raise a virtual finger to everyone & bugger off for a few weeks ~ still I learnt from that experience and it ain't happened again.

Now I'm wondering what thread it is!

As to the OP, nah. My mood influences how/if I post but (similar to the post above) I can only think of a single time I was affected by a thread.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I like positivity and hope that on the whole my messages are in quite a happy tone.

I try not to display too much negativity and if I feel naffed off or don't feel there is anything to add I keep it to myself and off the forums.

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By *a72Man
over a year ago

london

For me always be yourself anything else is a bit fake. Nothing wrong with disagreeing with others on here either as long as it doesn't turn into a nasty slagging match and take over the entire thread. I think you can be positive and happy all the time as well if you want it's up to the individual member and what they like to get out of the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to be myself, usually that is quite jolly so I stick to the fun posts. There is a certain futility to arguments online that wastes too much energy. If I'm feeling grumpy I'll just log off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's those thread subjects I intentionally avoid too. You just know what direction they'll go in.

But don't we also say 'let people do what they want online'? Why do we feel we should try to change them?

(I'm just trying to see it from a different angle) "

Yes, some things are definitely best avoided.

Absolutely live and let live. Wouldn't want to change anyone. It can some times be quite amusing to just sit back and watch as things unfold

I don't like to see people upset and hurt though. Most people don't deserve to feel like that and I guess it's just in my nature to want to try and cheer or reassure them.

Obviously there are some that can just fuck right off though!

Always good to try and see things from others points of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm in a really bad mood or feeling really low, then the last place I'd be is on Fab. I'm unlikely to want to interact with anybody in any form.

If the forums are particularly negative or bitchy, then I buggar off and do something else. I've enough drama of my own.

I agree. I come on here for enjoyment, not to boost a bad mood.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I eat pineapple an hour before coming online. I've found it keeps my bad taste to a minimum and my good juices flowing

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