FabSwingers.com forum: Judgemental people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're cockwombles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because they're cockwombles. "

Indeed

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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I think everyone judges on lots of things, I know I do, some just don't admit it ...and some call people cockwombles for doing so.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Sone people need even less reason.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Have they judged badly and if so do you take that judgement more seriously than the postive judgements you must also receive?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Great pics by the way

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think those who do demonstrate an unattractive side to their nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to judge. Joining here (fab) really did help me be more accepting about people's choices.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Everyone judges everyone. Someone fabbing your photo is a judgement they like it, no?

Some people will judge stuff negative, but it wont change you or others judging them positive. So don't let it bother you.

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Sorry OP, but I’ve just viewed your pics and now feel the need to judge you.....

Hubba hubba!!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some""

I concur...although I think maybe fat fingers in my case as the m is so close to the n

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people are insecure and like to try and drag others down to their level.

Fuck em. Or not.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I think everyone judges on lots of things, I know I do, some just don't admit it ...and some call people cockwombles for doing so.

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i could be wrong but I would guess this is to do with trolling more than judgeing,theres a big difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

I quite like the messages that judge us to be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because some people are insecure and like to try and drag others down to their level.

Fuck em. Or not. "
So right i agree with you

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?"

Human nature.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dealt with that person by using a certain button

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some"

I concur...although I think maybe fat fingers in my case as the m is so close to the n"

Yeah was a fat finger moment in honesty

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?"

I think thats a big issue. Someone may have had lots of positive comments in a day say at work and the one negative is the one everyone remembers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

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we all have hang ups be kind

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature."

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some"

I concur...although I think maybe fat fingers in my case as the m is so close to the n

Yeah was a fat finger moment in honesty

I didn't want to imply you had fat fingers but I wanted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some"

I concur...although I think maybe fat fingers in my case as the m is so close to the n

Yeah was a fat finger moment in honesty

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i know what you mean

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

I think thats a big issue. Someone may have had lots of positive comments in a day say at work and the one negative is the one everyone remembers

Cor it would be lovely to get positive comments at work

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

I think thats a big issue. Someone may have had lots of positive comments in a day say at work and the one negative is the one everyone remembers

Cor it would be lovely to get positive comments at work

lol turn it around, if you are not getting negative ones then it must be positive, they are just shy at saying so

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Not just pictures, people judge you for what you say or write too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

I think thats a big issue. Someone may have had lots of positive comments in a day say at work and the one negative is the one everyone remembers

Cor it would be lovely to get positive comments at work

lol turn it around, if you are not getting negative ones then it must be positive, they are just shy at saying so

You're right! I must be bloomin marvellous then.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I judge myself a bad speller.

"Some"

I concur...although I think maybe fat fingers in my case as the m is so close to the n

Yeah was a fat finger moment in honesty

I didn't want to imply you had fat fingers but I wanted to

Haha. So nice of you

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature.

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

It depends what has been said and how much you care what others think. I actually care more about what people say about others on here than myself. I have jumped in to defend peeps.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures?

Not just pictures, people judge you for what you say or write too. "

I would say more so for those reasons.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

When I first joined fab I expected it to be Nirvana for the sexually liberated - it isn’t!

Sadly many people are just as judgmental here as they are in the real world!

If you don’t fit into either the way they think you should look, or don’t have the same sexual habits/preferences as them - then they’ll judge you, often harshly!

Sadly I think it’s just human nature for many!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Unconscious bias happens by our brains making incredibly quick judgments and assessments of people and situations without us realising. Our biasesare influenced by our background, cultural environment and personal experiences.

Either that, or they are indeed total fucking cockwombles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's human nature to judge be that positively or negatively. And that can be on very limited information, particularly on a site like this

I also think that most people will be a little hurt by negative judgements, the almost always hit our insecurities and few of us brush that off easily even when it's offset by plenty of positive comments.

I think you need to ve able to turn a blind eye on here, it's not real life ad some people are just spiteful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "
Because some have nothing better to do . And will say and do what ever if it makes them feel better about there own life . OP if being nasty report .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How anyone could judge your photo in a negative manner is beyond me....you missus, are one very hot Snow White

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If fab removed all pictures so people had to rely on profiles alone to convey themselves, this would be a completely differemt site.

However, we are where we are.

A combination of profile pics and profiles are our shop window, but unfortunately a proportion of users head straight to the pics and pass judgement on that, rather than getting to know the person behind the profile.

There again, there are a lot of women who do very well on here without pics, or indeed without profile words.

People use fab as they see fit and may well pass judgement on pics because they can.

No-one is here for the benefit of others, only for whatever they choose to get out of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said madam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

i think if we are all honest, we judge people from photos just the same as when we meet people too

its sucky but we all do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them, I've met you a couple of times now and you're as lovely in person as you are on here. Obviously you've said no or it's jealousy. I don't know why people feel the need to share negative comments with others, if it's a you're not for me scroll by. X

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Cause they can and they do.

Not just by photos but veris too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t judge as your pics are for friends only and I’m not a friend. However, I’ll send a friend request even though I’m not within your demographic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can’t judge as your pics are for friends only and I’m not a friend. However, I’ll send a friend request even though I’m not within your demographic.

They weren’t previously, however scaled way down and are now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block them, I've met you a couple of times now and you're as lovely in person as you are on here. Obviously you've said no or it's jealousy. I don't know why people feel the need to share negative comments with others, if it's a you're not for me scroll by. X "

Wise words Angiebu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t judge as your pics are for friends only and I’m not a friend. However, I’ll send a friend request even though I’m not within your demographic.

They weren’t previously, however scaled way down and are now"

That’s fair enough and understandable. I was a bit puzzled why someone who you trusted to be a friend decide to judge you.

From what I can see on your profile pic, I think you’re very attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they're cockwombles. "
and wankpuffins!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Is it judgemental being judemental about judgmental people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it judgemental being judemental about judgmental people?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Once again I find myself asking the question

Why does anyone care so much about the opinion of someone on the other side of a screen?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

I have never understood this criticising people for judging. All of us judge people all the time either positively or negatively.

I think what the OP is actually complaining about is someone being offensive to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone judges everyone. Someone fabbing your photo is a judgement they like it, no?

Some people will judge stuff negative, but it wont change you or others judging them positive. So don't let it bother you."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aren't we all judging people on here looking at their profile n pics sayou naaa that's fat or he's hairy or what ever that's a judge i don't know if urs something else like personal but it won't bother me xxx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Humans make assumptions about others based on the limited information they have. If you are here, we will be assessed based on what we communicate and show but filtered/distorted by the perceiver.

If people are abusive, report them to admin.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Why do people feel that they have the right to judge you based on a few pictures? "

Judged in what way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humans make assumptions about others based on the limited information they have. If you are here, we will be assessed based on what we communicate and show but filtered/distorted by the perceiver.

If people are abusive, report them to admin. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature.

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

I taught myself to think this way. If they don't really know me it doesn't matter what they think.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men think I'm sexy, stunning and classy, just by looking at my pics.

How fucking wrong are they!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

This

I would laugh my tits off if someone messaged me with a judgey message.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

This

I would laugh my tits off if someone messaged me with a judgey message. "

You're supposed to laugh your arse off, not your tits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all judge on here but there’s no need to message someone and tell them you’re judging them.

Just keep your judgments to yourself

This

I would laugh my tits off if someone messaged me with a judgey message.

You're supposed to laugh your arse off, not your tits.

If only I could laugh my stomach off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares SB let them judge!

It's human nature - we can't help it. You're hot - people are going to be jealous and judgy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature.

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

I taught myself to think this way. If they don't really know me it doesn't matter what they think.

It doesn't, you're right. If we get a message saying I'm an ugly old bag I know it's no more true than the messages saying I look 35. Well I might be an old bag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature.

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

I taught myself to think this way. If they don't really know me it doesn't matter what they think.

It doesn't, you're right. If we get a message saying I'm an ugly old bag I know it's no more true than the messages saying I look 35. Well I might be an old bag

When they tell me I'm an ugly old bag I say yes it's true. It's the "you're stunning" messages that make me wince.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they have issues themselves.

People judge others based on everything not just pictures.

If there's a BareBack thread, plenty of people get judged and 'schooled' on safe sex.

If there is some unordinary fetish, the person gets judged and usually laughed at.

If someone asks for fabs or compliments they're called beggars.

If they post a lot of threads or flirt with a lot of people they get called attention whores.

This place is definitely not for those who take things personally, because there is someone who'll hate you no matter what you do.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Because they have issues themselves.

People judge others based on everything not just pictures.

If there's a BareBack thread, plenty of people get judged and 'schooled' on safe sex.

If there is some unordinary fetish, the person gets judged and usually laughed at.

If someone asks for fabs or compliments they're called beggars.

If they post a lot of threads or flirt with a lot of people they get called attention whores.

This place is definitely not for those who take things personally, because there is someone who'll hate you no matter what you do."

Couldn't have put it better really.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why do people pay more attention to negative than positive judgement?

Human nature.

I suppose but if someone says something horrible about you and you know it isnt true why does it have an impact. Am I wired differently

I taught myself to think this way. If they don't really know me it doesn't matter what they think.

It doesn't, you're right. If we get a message saying I'm an ugly old bag I know it's no more true than the messages saying I look 35. Well I might be an old bag

When they tell me I'm an ugly old bag I say yes it's true. It's the "you're stunning" messages that make me wince.

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By *eadySteadyCockCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

Because people are jealous, although I’ve peeped at you pics twice today and you look fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people with good judgement

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because they have issues themselves.

People judge others based on everything not just pictures.

If there's a BareBack thread, plenty of people get judged and 'schooled' on safe sex.

If there is some unordinary fetish, the person gets judged and usually laughed at.

If someone asks for fabs or compliments they're called beggars.

If they post a lot of threads or flirt with a lot of people they get called attention whores.

This place is definitely not for those who take things personally, because there is someone who'll hate you no matter what you do."

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Because they have issues themselves.

People judge others based on everything not just pictures.

If there's a BareBack thread, plenty of people get judged and 'schooled' on safe sex.

If there is some unordinary fetish, the person gets judged and usually laughed at.

If someone asks for fabs or compliments they're called beggars.

If they post a lot of threads or flirt with a lot of people they get called attention whores.

This place is definitely not for those who take things personally, because there is someone who'll hate you no matter what you do."

This is the truth

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