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"i believe more would pack in swinging if they found true love " What about the ones that already have found true love?.... | |||
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"i believe more would pack in swinging if they found true love What about the ones that already have found true love?...." i believe they would be a small minority | |||
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"Sorry, i think I meant for each partner to still be able to have sexual contact meets with others! But still be in love, i think yes, but just got burnt big time on this. In so much as I didnt play at all, and still it didnt work!!! lol " I think you will find most couples on here are very much in love.. Cali | |||
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"i believe more would pack in swinging if they found true love What about the ones that already have found true love?.... i believe they would be a small minority " Not sure if we are talking about the same thing....are you saying that those who are in swinging relationships are less likely to be truly in love? Or am I getting that wrong? | |||
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"i believe more would pack in swinging if they found true love What about the ones that already have found true love?.... i believe they would be a small minority Not sure if we are talking about the same thing....are you saying that those who are in swinging relationships are less likely to be truly in love? Or am I getting that wrong? " I was thinking the same.. I am totally in love, Master is my one true love.. the person I was born to be with.. my soul mate.. and we have loads of fun.. cali x | |||
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"Lol Im not making myself clear am I? I think that you can be totally in love, but still meet others for sexual fun. It doesnt mean you love that person any less xx" You are missing the point here....our replies are not to you, but another member who posted on the thread. | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love " Then you probably haven't got much idea about swinging couples and why they swing....but then again as you are not a swinging couple you can't be expected to understand fully. | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love " I think you will be mistaken there... I actually couldn't swing as a couple and feel the amazing connection master and I have if we weren't totally in love.. truly, madly deeply. Cali | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love Then you probably haven't got much idea about swinging couples and why they swing....but then again as you are not a swinging couple you can't be expected to understand fully." Well said Jane and i was about to add there are different reasons why some of us swing. Mercedes x | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love " Over twelve months down the line for us and our relationship just gets better and stronger as time goes by, and we're still happily swinging, although it's very rare that we play separately now. I know of quite a few couples on here who met through swinging and have now been happily together for years and years and are still swinging. I know a couple of couples who met on Fab, fell hook, line and sinker for each other and immediately withdrew from Fab to live happily 'nilla ever after............ .....and then there are the ones who fall for someone they've met through Fab and either make their goodbyes saying that they want to concentrate on their relationship without swinging and then a few days/weeks/months later re-emerge on the site footloose and fancy free; or the ones who couple up, make a joint profile and then it all goes pear-shaped and they split up. To be honest, it's just life....sometimes relationships work out and sometimes they don't. To answer the op - yes, I think couples can be very much in love and still have loads of fun sexually with others | |||
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"I honestly dont think i would ever swing as a couple again, me and my ex swung for 8 years before we split, i now do this, to be honest, because im single and its just a means of getting sex, i think if i got into another relationship i would be ready to leave all this behind and move on, i would never get into a relationship with anyone i met thro swinging as i think that could cause problems, like if i wanted to stop and he didnt etc So i really dont think it would work for me, simply because its not what i would want" thanks for the flipside viewpoint. im abit of a romantic at heart. i just cant see myself enjoying seeing my true love being fisted by some guy in the aim of sexual fulfillment. i understand the arguement of seperating the physical but it doesnt fly with me | |||
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"I honestly dont think i would ever swing as a couple again, me and my ex swung for 8 years before we split, i now do this, to be honest, because im single and its just a means of getting sex, i think if i got into another relationship i would be ready to leave all this behind and move on, i would never get into a relationship with anyone i met thro swinging as i think that could cause problems, like if i wanted to stop and he didnt etc So i really dont think it would work for me, simply because its not what i would want thanks for the flipside viewpoint. im abit of a romantic at heart. i just cant see myself enjoying seeing my true love being fisted by some guy in the aim of sexual fulfillment. i understand the arguement of seperating the physical but it doesnt fly with me" i dont have any problem with separating emotion from sex I just think because i have done this for so many years if i did ever meet anyone again i would feel it was time to move on For pretty much all of my marrage we did this and im now doing it alone, so like so many who start swinging because they fancy a change, i would stop for a change lol | |||
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"It's just sexwith strangers bugger all to do with love Well that's how we see it " Couldn't agree more... | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love Over twelve months down the line for us and our relationship just gets better and stronger as time goes by, and we're still happily swinging, although it's very rare that we play separately now. I know of quite a few couples on here who met through swinging and have now been happily together for years and years and are still swinging. I know a couple of couples who met on Fab, fell hook, line and sinker for each other and immediately withdrew from Fab to live happily 'nilla ever after............ .....and then there are the ones who fall for someone they've met through Fab and either make their goodbyes saying that they want to concentrate on their relationship without swinging and then a few days/weeks/months later re-emerge on the site footloose and fancy free; or the ones who couple up, make a joint profile and then it all goes pear-shaped and they split up. To be honest, it's just life....sometimes relationships work out and sometimes they don't. To answer the op - yes, I think couples can be very much in love and still have loads of fun sexually with others " + 2 | |||
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" whiel not wanting to piss anyone off though, I do have to say that I do resent what someone said about living "happily nilla ever" in such a derogatory way...our monogamous sex was very very far from vanilla and will be again if we go down the 1:1 route again...it's not just swinging that makes you kinky you know..." To be honest, you read to much into my remark. I only used the phrase "happily 'nilla ever after" to differentiate from happily swinging ever after. In no way was it meant to be a derogatory comment about folks who chose not to swing once they've fallen in love. Nor was it in any way a slight towards people who choose to have monogamous sex. I too had a very rewarding and exciting sex life with my late partner for 16 years without anyone else being involved. I'm sorry that you feel resentful about what you percieved I meant. | |||
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"To the OP, I think it is possible to love someone and swing with others. If you are truly in love with your partner, for most it would be the most difficult thing to let them play with another, alone or as a couple. To my mind, this is a gift from your partner, for you to express yourself and your sexuality as you wish. For you to be who you are. Is there a greater love? " My master always tells me to enjoy the gifts I am granted.. every pleasure is his gift to me..It's truly a lovely thing to watch your partner pleasured yet knowing that nothing compares to what you share together.. Cali x . | |||
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"yes that is correct. i believe most will not truely have found love " And in my case you are completely wrong xx | |||
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"I honestly dont think i would ever swing as a couple again, me and my ex swung for 8 years before we split, i now do this, to be honest, because im single and its just a means of getting sex, i think if i got into another relationship i would be ready to leave all this behind and move on, i would never get into a relationship with anyone i met thro swinging as i think that could cause problems, like if i wanted to stop and he didnt etc So i really dont think it would work for me, simply because its not what i would want thanks for the flipside viewpoint. im abit of a romantic at heart. i just cant see myself enjoying seeing my true love being fisted by some guy in the aim of sexual fulfillment. i understand the arguement of seperating the physical but it doesnt fly with me" Happy to help couple out though no doubt? Do you actually realise how your point of view reads? I have already had two long and happy swinging relationships that didn't finish because of swinging I feel it actually takes a guy that's very secure in his relationship to let other males in there If that's not love then tell me what is? When I met my new partner love was the last thing I was looking for and the same applied to her But it happened like a bolt out of the blue I seriously hope that you find a partner that you are truly secure with but what I can tell you is don't look for her on a swinging site as you will never trust her with your insecurities Oh and I sincerely hope that any vanilla you meet you are completly honest about your past or is that ok because it's you? Bit harsh maybe but reading your posts I feel you are completly dissing many couples loving happy relationships because of your own insecurities | |||
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"yes from my perspective (a bi man in a long term mixed sex relationship), sexual gratification with others does not to equate to a lack of love or a lack of respect for my relationship. if you don't respect your relationship and put swinging before it and your significant other, that is when you have to start asking questions about your reasoning / motives. the other fine line of course is when you start to enjoy the company of another person just a little bit too much - then, if you respect your relationship, it is time to walk away from the 3rd party and re-evaluate wtf is going on " I was not going to come back on here... but just wanted to say that is yet another really balanced view. | |||
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"I honestly dont think i would ever swing as a couple again, me and my ex swung for 8 years before we split, i now do this, to be honest, because im single and its just a means of getting sex, i think if i got into another relationship i would be ready to leave all this behind and move on, i would never get into a relationship with anyone i met thro swinging as i think that could cause problems, like if i wanted to stop and he didnt etc So i really dont think it would work for me, simply because its not what i would want thanks for the flipside viewpoint. im abit of a romantic at heart. i just cant see myself enjoying seeing my true love being fisted by some guy in the aim of sexual fulfillment. i understand the arguement of seperating the physical but it doesnt fly with me Happy to help couple out though no doubt? Do you actually realise how your point of view reads? I have already had two long and happy swinging relationships that didn't finish because of swinging I feel it actually takes a guy that's very secure in his relationship to let other males in there If that's not love then tell me what is? When I met my new partner love was the last thing I was looking for and the same applied to her But it happened like a bolt out of the blue I seriously hope that you find a partner that you are truly secure with but what I can tell you is don't look for her on a swinging site as you will never trust her with your insecurities Oh and I sincerely hope that any vanilla you meet you are completly honest about your past or is that ok because it's you? Bit harsh maybe but reading your posts I feel you are completly dissing many couples loving happy relationships because of your own insecurities" You know soapy I really could not agree more.. Cali | |||
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" I'm a little surprised at some of the comments here. I don't know how some people are happy to seek out and play with couples then turn around and question their love for each other then compound the insult by stating they wouldn't share their partner as they'd be too in love to do that! " Had this many times at clubs with my ex partner Always asked the single males if they had a partner The amount of times we heard yes but I wouldn't bring her to a place like this was only equalled by the amount of times we walked away from the pratts | |||
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" I'm a little surprised at some of the comments here. I don't know how some people are happy to seek out and play with couples then turn around and question their love for each other then compound the insult by stating they wouldn't share their partner as they'd be too in love to do that! Had this many times at clubs with my ex partner Always asked the single males if they had a partner The amount of times we heard yes but I wouldn't bring her to a place like this was only equalled by the amount of times we walked away from the pratts " only said it cos mines a minger!!! | |||
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"I have had this many times, meet a guy at chams and then its a case of i then stop what im doing or ...only do it with them. Meanwhile they are off shagging while they want me to sit at home twiddling me thumbs. " Lol takes a man ta swing babe xx | |||
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"I have had this many times, meet a guy at chams and then its a case of i then stop what im doing or ...only do it with them. Meanwhile they are off shagging while they want me to sit at home twiddling me thumbs. " sound like CUNTS to me!!!!- honestly dont know how some find this type (male or female)!!!!! | |||
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"I have had this many times, meet a guy at chams and then its a case of i then stop what im doing or ...only do it with them. Meanwhile they are off shagging while they want me to sit at home twiddling me thumbs. Lol takes a man ta swing babe xx " Sure does soapy, i may find one in the not to distant future | |||
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"Love your thoughts on this, and can it work? Does it work for you? Having met someone on here who wanted to be inclusive with just the two of us (even though we met on a swinging site!) Can you love someone and swing" Yes you can! We have been together 20 years and can honestly say that we are best friends as well as partners. Very happy and deeply in love with each other (infact we seem to get closer every year) & both trust each other completely. Swinging is a hobby to us and a very small part of our lives... | |||
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"i am with someone of 9 years which i love to bits the sex is there but not as much as I would like, he knows I'm on here he knows I go to chams and the socials and he knows occasionally I meet people for fun. My oh knows what i am like and from day 1 he knows i have a huge sex drive and he doesn't want it as much as me but that doesn't make me want him love him any less the only thing my oh asks me is i don't flaunt it in his face. our relationship was breaking down due to the lack of sex and communication and now after 2years its been sorted, we are both happier people more secure. if my oh decides to come to a club/social at a later and indulge i would be happy but its his choice in the end and i wouldn't change his mind as its something only he can decide. (this has took alot of guts to tell people this on here so im hoping people will go easy on me) " Its your choice jacqs, and as you say ..you have been completely honest with your oh. He is the only one that matters, and not anyone else. | |||
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"i am with someone of 9 years which i love to bits the sex is there but not as much as I would like, he knows I'm on here he knows I go to chams and the socials and he knows occasionally I meet people for fun. My oh knows what i am like and from day 1 he knows i have a huge sex drive and he doesn't want it as much as me but that doesn't make me want him love him any less the only thing my oh asks me is i don't flaunt it in his face. our relationship was breaking down due to the lack of sex and communication and now after 2years its been sorted, we are both happier people more secure. if my oh decides to come to a club/social at a later and indulge i would be happy but its his choice in the end and i wouldn't change his mind as its something only he can decide. (this has took alot of guts to tell people this on here so im hoping people will go easy on me) " Easy on ya? Babe honesty is what it's all about in my opinion At least ya ain't keeping owt from him and ya obviously BOTH happy wi the status quo xx | |||
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"with us talking openly finding out what was going on and why it wasn't working helped a great deal im not saying this will continue forever as things change the difference is im not always badgering him for sex and when he says no i get huffy and all upset as i know the reasons behind it all now. " Aye communication is the key even if sometimes things don't go as expected openness and honesty win out We just ain't all the same don't mean we can't all get on does it? Xx | |||
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"with us talking openly finding out what was going on and why it wasn't working helped a great deal im not saying this will continue forever as things change the difference is im not always badgering him for sex and when he says no i get huffy and all upset as i know the reasons behind it all now. Aye communication is the key even if sometimes things don't go as expected openness and honesty win out We just ain't all the same don't mean we can't all get on does it? Xx" we ant the same but we get on | |||
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"with us talking openly finding out what was going on and why it wasn't working helped a great deal im not saying this will continue forever as things change the difference is im not always badgering him for sex and when he says no i get huffy and all upset as i know the reasons behind it all now. Aye communication is the key even if sometimes things don't go as expected openness and honesty win out We just ain't all the same don't mean we can't all get on does it? Xx we ant the same but we get on " Exactly xx But we do share the same tastes in thigh lenghth boots xx | |||
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"with us talking openly finding out what was going on and why it wasn't working helped a great deal im not saying this will continue forever as things change the difference is im not always badgering him for sex and when he says no i get huffy and all upset as i know the reasons behind it all now. Aye communication is the key even if sometimes things don't go as expected openness and honesty win out We just ain't all the same don't mean we can't all get on does it? Xx we ant the same but we get on Exactly xx But we do share the same tastes in thigh lenghth boots xx" Yerrr and if i remember, you walked the same with them off as ya did with them on...lmao them heels are a killer ya know | |||
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