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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are your photos definitely all of you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeaaah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain OP .....

My standard reply in cases like this is both effective and reliably proven by many years

It's productive.... I highly recommend shaving your legs and buying a frock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 10:49:39]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain OP .....

My standard reply in cases like this is both effective and reliably proven by many years

It's productive.... I highly recommend shaving your legs and buying a frock

"

The irony is this is so true, but I suspect the op doesn't want to be inundated with messages from men who are all fab straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel your pain OP .....

My standard reply in cases like this is both effective and reliably proven by many years

It's productive.... I highly recommend shaving your legs and buying a frock

The irony is this is so true, but I suspect the op doesn't want to be inundated with messages from men who are all fab straight."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sadly I already do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly I already do "

Well ask them to shave their legs and put a frock on too and you have an exclusive lesbian fun night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated "

You've not specifically asked for profile advice, so I can't give any, but maybe(definitely) it needs re-doing.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly I already do "

move to brum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m open to suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities "

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 11:02:51]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rap in all my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience "

Without the pussy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience

Without the pussy?"

The vagina is a necessity for me sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated "

Get rid of the action pic and move to the midlands

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I rap in all my messages"

May I have an example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience

Without the pussy?

The vagina is a necessity for me sadly "

Ditto

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Are your photos definitely all of you?"

Apart from the face of the woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sadly I already do

move to brum "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are your photos definitely all of you?

Apart from the face of the woman "

Well technically that was my penis but I’ve removed it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 11:08:07]

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Are your photos definitely all of you?

Apart from the face of the woman

Well technically that was my penis but I’ve removed it now "

added and removed with her consent I assume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Penis Removed by Original Poster]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. In my time here, (and this is only my opinion, it means nothing). It's all about luck.

First, your lucky to find or stumble across someone you fancy that's also within feasibly reachable distance from you. You will write a polite pm, maybe also attaching a face pic if you needed to. And now you hope they read it. You'll be lucky. And you hope they find you interesting and attractive to them. You'll be lucky. And hopefully they reply with a yes or no. Again, You'll be lucky.

Even more luck is required for them to search and find you.

Men are in a long long line of potential people they would like to meet.

Good luck on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated "

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Your biggest problem is being here 3 years without a meet veri. That will put most (not all) people off.

Get to a club or organised social asap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 11:08:07]"
thank you

I know it’s all about luck but after several years in here and possibly thousands of messages, I’ve only ever had a conversation with 4 females

It’s exhausting being this ignorable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your biggest problem is being here 3 years without a meet veri. That will put most (not all) people off.

Get to a club or organised social asap."

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your biggest problem is being here 3 years without a meet veri. That will put most (not all) people off.

Get to a club or organised social asap."

Might just make a new account

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Your biggest problem is being here 3 years without a meet veri. That will put most (not all) people off.

Get to a club or organised social asap.

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)"

You don't portray that image. Cant help any more than that.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people. "

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 11:08:07] thank you

I know it’s all about luck but after several years in here and possibly thousands of messages, I’ve only ever had a conversation with 4 females

It’s exhausting being this ignorable "

This was funny and quite sad at the same time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your biggest problem is being here 3 years without a meet veri. That will put most (not all) people off.

Get to a club or organised social asap.

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)

You don't portray that image. Cant help any more than that.

Good luck."

Ty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 29/09/17 11:08:07] thank you

I know it’s all about luck but after several years in here and possibly thousands of messages, I’ve only ever had a conversation with 4 females

It’s exhausting being this ignorable

This was funny and quite sad at the same time "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated "

Move about 200 miles south

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


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Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners "

You said you had public anxiety. If you can do it in a normal club, a swingers club is just the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Move about 200 miles south "

I'm not convinced - I moved 500 miles south.....Nothing.

To be fair - I am a sporadic user

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Move about 200 miles south "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Move about 200 miles south

I'm not convinced - I moved 500 miles south.....Nothing.

To be fair - I am a sporadic user"

You my friend moved to far south

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Move about 200 miles south

I'm not convinced - I moved 500 miles south.....Nothing.

To be fair - I am a sporadic user

You my friend moved to far south "

Bristol is gid though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners

You said you had public anxiety. If you can do it in a normal club, a swingers club is just the same."

In a normal club I have no pressure on myself, I’m just out having fun with friends, it’s a whole different atmosphere, plus I hate going out to clubs as it usually leads to several secret panic attacks, I just go due to my friends forcing me into it

I prefer quite places with few people

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners "

Oh dear.

Being here doesn't mean anyone has more experience than the women you are meeting and if you go to clubs then you can go to a swingers club.

They are exactly the same apart from there may be people shagging somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners

Oh dear.

Being here doesn't mean anyone has more experience than the women you are meeting and if you go to clubs then you can go to a swingers club.

They are exactly the same apart from there may be people shagging somewhere. "

Read message above in response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners "

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)

u said this earlier whats the difference with any club. surely if you can go to a club, pub meet people u havent got public anxiety!

excuses wont help u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience

Without the pussy?"

You can't have everything. At least he gets to compare make up technique.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)

u said this earlier whats the difference with any club. surely if you can go to a club, pub meet people u havent got public anxiety!

excuses wont help u

"

In a normal club I have no pressure on myself, I’m just out having fun with friends, it’s a whole different atmosphere, plus I hate going out to clubs as it usually leads to several secret panic attacks, I just go due to my friends forcing me into it

I prefer quite places with few people

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I live just above London no luck here either mate. It's all just luck. Ps I am ugly that's why I only had one meet lol.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

This may not be the hobby you are looking for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread has made me laugh, thank you yous two sadly I don’t think I’ll be participating in suggested activities

Well I never imagined a man turning down a lesbian experience

Without the pussy?

You can't have everything. At least he gets to compare make up technique."

YouTube does that for me.. on sex there's no compromise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This may not be the hobby you are looking for... "

trying to hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve literally got to the stage where I’m about to give up trying to talk to people on this, like I don’t even know what to say anymore, I feel as though I’ve tried every possible angle and it seems to just not work any advice etc would be appreciated

Try visiting some clubs dude and actually talking to people.

Are you meaning non related fab clubs? If so I already do my social life and related things are great outside of fab, I’m just on here to find people that have more experience than my normal partners

Club and or organised socials aren’t my thing (public anxiety)

u said this earlier whats the difference with any club. surely if you can go to a club, pub meet people u havent got public anxiety!

excuses wont help u

In a normal club I have no pressure on myself, I’m just out having fun with friends, it’s a whole different atmosphere, plus I hate going out to clubs as it usually leads to several secret panic attacks, I just go due to my friends forcing me into it

I prefer quite places with few people

"

treat it as the same and i am sure there are quieter clubs u could try

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think you should delete and start again. A profile over a year old with no verifications makes people think you're not serious about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you should delete and start again. A profile over a year old with no verifications makes people think you're not serious about meeting."

Will do

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"This may not be the hobby you are looking for...

trying to hard "

If you really do suffer from anxiety, there will be plenty of chances to get triggered within the lifestyle.

That's if you ever pull yourself together long enough to walk through the door...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you should delete and start again. A profile over a year old with no verifications makes people think you're not serious about meeting.

Will do "

Wow. You go dude!

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