FabSwingers.com forum: Are you an over thinker?

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I have to learn how to chill out and relax stop stressing about everything and anything.

I literally over think everything I do,ok it occasionally pay's off .

But tbh it probably causes me more stress than not

Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Oh yes, very much so, unfortunately.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

"Oh yes, very much so, unfortunately."

As in I'm an overthinker

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Terrible for it. I write things down a lot, gets it out of my head. But still spend way too much time mulling!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Yes... commonly known as anxiety.

I stress over stress... but I have it controlled kind of...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly I haven't. ..I seem to swim into the tide

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *amelman7823Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne

I used to be like that until i adpoted the " fuck it" mantra

now all is grand, obviously dont take this attitude with your taxes or if the cat or dog shites in your kitchen ( i mean thats a genuine time to seriously think of give them a thunderous kick in the hole)

but other times, yea...."fuck it" is good

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes ... but nowhere near as bad as I used to be

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

A good example is

Buying a New car.

I can't just decide to say I like this model or that.

It takes about 6 months of research going through litterly dozens of car's

Checking every statistic and review.

Then narrowing it down to two or three.

Then going over and over, what I have already read.

Only when I am completely satisfied that I am getting the best value,most reliable and trustworthy vehicle for our money will I consider it.

Honestly I have no idea how jools puts up with me, luckily she is my complete polar opposite and is so chilled out.

Otherwise I think she would have murdered me year's ago.lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Overthinking is my ultimate pastime it would seem. Overthinking and worrying about pretty much everything. It a curse!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

God yes, I wish my brain had an 'off' switch sometimes (a lot of the time)

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink overthinking, I'm that bad, wouldn't feel relaxed just "going for it".

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group.

For swinger's who overthink swinging?

We can sit down and chat about what could happen if we meet, and the hundreds of various scenarios that could Go wrong or right?

Obviously after we have spent 6 months deciding on an appropriate venue of course

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, but I am also good at telling myself to stop when necessary - or at least to mentally/emotionally step outside the overthinking and throw a little logical perspective on the thought so it doesn't end up consuming my imagination (for want of a better word). It's taken me time to be able to do that, but it makes me a much more chilled one. At least as far as anyone other than me can tell. I still allow myself an inertial thought wallow from time to time but the rational me steps in when needed to break the cycle.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God yes I'm a terrible overthinker. My life is pretty complicated at times and I don't help myself by worrying about it all. Doesn't help that mr is as well x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rouble1110Woman
over a year ago

Cleveland

Never stress me,can't see the point,to laid back and chilled me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?"

I used to get stressed when I was younger. I still overthing things, but I can't stop my brain working the way it does. I distract it when I know I'm overthinking stuff I don't have power over. But normally, my overthinking serves me well. I can aply myself to something I've thought through etc. So yes, I kind of go with the flow but in my own way.

I like deep thinkers. I get along with overthinkers op.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group.

For swinger's who overthink swinging?

We can sit down and chat about what could happen if we meet, and the hundreds of various scenarios that could Go wrong or right?

Obviously after we have spent 6 months deciding on an appropriate venue of course

We'd all be sat at home overthinking if attending a group is a good idea

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally just before sleep my brain likes to think of everything that could or should have happened, been said or done that day or previous days.

I'm not a worrier as such though, more a ponderer

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I over thinks things a lot.

Have even thort of doing Sumthing but over thort it and thort my self out of doing it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it"

Ha, me too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Ha, me too"

And you are always here for me and my moaning...xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yep. I over think the over thinking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?"

Yes, thankfully

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Ha, me too"

Off topic but I’m overthinking naughty thoughts on that ass!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Ha, me too

Off topic but I’m overthinking naughty thoughts on that ass! "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

All depends on the subject matter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overthinking is overrated,I just go with the flow and don't worry about it,everything will be alright in the end

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm forever overthinking I hate it just wish I didn't let things get to me so much xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Ha, me too

And you are always here for me and my moaning...xxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope - I’m too chilled to overthink anything. I’m sure this shouldn’t apply to all situations though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm blonde

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yes, big time. Especially in terms of my relationships with others. I can literally drive myself crazy over it which can make interacting with people very difficult at times

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Analyse...yes...Worry...no...thankfully..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it

Ha, me too

Off topic but I’m overthinking naughty thoughts on that ass!

I’m not quite sure how to take that emoji... good or bad? Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Left to my own devices and given time on my own I'm a terrible overthinker - but keep me busy and occupied and I'm fine

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of my pathetic tips.

Only think in detail about things that you can control or are a direct threat to you.

What ifs will take you into another world if anxiety. Let someone else worry about then.

Keep a list of things you typically over think about. You mayou see a pattern emerge that requires a collective thought.

When all else fails, turn to wine!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have ADHD my brain is constantly in fast forward mode, trying to process things, which ultimately leads to chaos.

I learnt making lists helps, once it's on paper it's out my head & I can stop over thinking issues

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be

I've calmed down now I think from a different perspective. You can only control what you do - so worrying about things beyond your control is a waste of energy

The opportunity cost of overthinking is impacting what you can control in a positive way

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I definitely am - over think, over analyse and over rethink. Aaaaaaand very literal at times. Took me 10mins to just write this!

Her is much more instinctive, shoot from the hip. Sometimes impulsive, equally sometimes saves a huge amount of grief as gets to the answer several millennia before I do.

I think that's what makes us work well together - we balance each other out to a sensible medium. Not so much opposite attract, as best of both worlds.

Hmm

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group. For swinger's who overthink swinging?

....."

Male half is a massive overthinker; luckily suits chosen career, but does hinder us in the swinging world, whereas Fem just wings everything!!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brain is constantly running at double speed. The one thing I don't over think or have anxiety over is my relationships. I keep them simple and uncomplicated.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!"

Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I over think alot of times

Do need to just go with the flow

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't over think things....

I'm more than happy too conclude my thoughts and opinions with an option to change my mind or too challenge those opinions at any time in the future...

For me its a matter of intellectual confidence

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

That's what I do - and then by the time I've concocted something vaguely acceptable to my befuddled brain, the thread's moved on so far that everything I've typed is now kind of irrelevant and I end up deleting the bloody thing

I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

I start writing sometimes, can't focus on what I'm trying to say, go on a waffle and delete it all.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ..."

When I'm like that I write concise, blunt sentences. I still stress over spelling though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to learn how to chill out and relax stop stressing about everything and anything.

I literally over think everything I do,ok it occasionally pay's off .

But tbh it probably causes me more stress than not

Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?"

We sound very similar. I overthink everything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink everything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

I’m an under thinker. Prone to random acts of fucktardedness.

But that’s part of what makes me special. Well that’s what my mum used to say anyway

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ..."

It gets overwhelming sometimes doesn't it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ools and the brain OP Couple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I do think that there is a certain wisdom in overthinking tho.

Let's face it great overthinkers in history are usually called philosophers so perhaps rather than being saddled with an over active thought process,we are blessed with a philosophical mind that carefully calculates and ponders the wonder's of the world?

That's one conclusion I am coming to anyway.

I'm sure I will be along soon with a different opinion.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.

Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.

And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!

And then proof read it several times?

Having to refocus after each sentance?

No. Purely because I don't proof read. I used to all the time but I found it was becoming crippling to me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I am. I think about everything and every scenario to go with it. My worse time is when I am in bed. Ill be thinking did i blow out the candle, did I lock the door, did I lock the car etc. The worse part is the getting up serveral times to check even though I know I have.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to...tied myself up in knots overthinking everything...maybe it's an age thing..i think in my case it is..but time has shown me that it's usually a complete waste of energy..i'm far more relaxed now...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i used to...tied myself up in knots overthinking everything...maybe it's an age thing..i think in my case it is..but time has shown me that it's usually a complete waste of energy..i'm far more relaxed now..."

Tying you self up in knots? Now that's a whole different thread

lmao

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Due to my very short attention span and incredible arrogance I have never over thought.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I am an overthinker too sadly,its part of my anxiety.

I wish I could just switch off,especially when trying to sleep.

Miss

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tying you self up in knots? Now that's a whole different thread

lmao"

And that idea sounds as lot better than overthinking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Overthinking is my ultimate pastime it would seem. Overthinking and worrying about pretty much everything. It a curse! "

I'm with you on that one

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may be guilty of doing a bit of over thinking today

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Yes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread