FabSwingers.com forum: Any body else struggling on this?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet?

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No me either

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Like the song says, life's what you make it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I have my profile hidden but still get offers to meet

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No..we are pretty booked up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, struggling a lot so you're not the only one OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I have my profile hidden but still get offers to meet

So..my next question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, struggling a lot so you're not the only one OP."

Was beginning to think i was the only woman who was struggling.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I guarantee you are not the only single guy struggling on here. Don't sweat it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's tough for some single guys on here, OP. Is your profile as good as you can make it!? Also, are the messages you send out respectful? There might be a few things you could change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

You'll never struggle again once you give up trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but 24 hours ago you were delighted with all the advice you'd been given...did you decide it wasn't any use after all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to find suitable people too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, struggling a lot so you're not the only one OP.

Was beginning to think i was the only woman who was struggling.

Definitely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am struggling because i have no meet verification yet

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am struggling because i have no meet verification yet "

i think you may be mistaken there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, everyone else is balls deep every day, must be you mate

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Nope

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By *unishguyMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Im doing ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All great answers guys and some great advice in the last few days. Happy fabbing people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.....

I mean; look at me

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

There are plenty of organised social events up and down the country. You need to make an effort to get out and about.

Clunge and friendships don't get posted through your letterbox. We ain't flat Stanley ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling any tips girls

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your such a nice lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling any tips girls

yes...have a look at the numerous previous threads on profile advice...there's masses of advice in them..

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

Welcome to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ever since I got on... there are probably 200 dicks per vagina here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your such a nice lady

Thanks

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Have you sorted the three P's OP?

If you don't know what they are check most other profile advice threads they're usually mentioned somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too new to know either way.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "

Sorry. Would have answered earlier but I was busy.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Nah. Not really mate. How long you been here now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "

Yes. We're struggling to meet a female.

Message us ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its difficult to find the perfect time with life bubbling away in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its difficult to find the perfect time with life bubbling away in the real world "

I agree with this but with planning some delicious things can be arranged and the excitement builds whilst you're navigating the real world!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I have my profile hidden but still get offers to meet

How?

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet?

Yes. We're struggling to meet a female.

Message us ladies.

Would think club nights would be a good place for you. Especially when it's couples and single fem only nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have so many meet offers I have to say I'm not putting, but still they just flood in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

putting??....not meeting even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of offers....although I'm not able to meet anyone new at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

Go to a social. It gets you verified and also starts to build contacts. Everyone who is on here that is verified started without any verifications.

Focus entirely on not being verified and you risk missing the entire point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If work wasn't so busy I could meet more

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

Go to a social. It gets you verified and also starts to build contacts. Everyone who is on here that is verified started without any verifications.

Focus entirely on not being verified and you risk missing the entire point."

I came to fuck, not get verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but 24 hours ago you were delighted with all the advice you'd been given...did you decide it wasn't any use after all?"

Hahaha. Busted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..

a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,

So, how does one get verified ?

Go to a club maybe

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Realistically you should assume you are not going to get any meets through sending messages as its just to difficult for many reasons. Get along to a social and talk to fellow swingers. They will then have met you and if they are interested in you as a person then they may well contact you and then it all starts for you. You play and because every one had a good time and say so you get further meets and contacts. Your network builds over time .

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

There loads of help o the forum but the bottom line is

Your profile is your shop window to sell yourself ... step back look at it yourself as an outsider

Would you go in or walk by to the next one?

Are your marketing posters interesting or do you have blackout blinds up.

Is the blurb telling you the good points and what the product offers or does it read negatively that it's not for for the job worse say nothing to identify it's uses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Yes, but maybe it's because we are choosy

Head to a club as the others have said.

If you have a personality you will have a far better chance as the people in there will be on the same page.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Realistically you should assume you are not going to get any meets through sending messages as its just to difficult for many reasons. Get along to a social and talk to fellow swingers. They will then have met you and if they are interested in you as a person then they may well contact you and then it all starts for you. You play and because every one had a good time and say so you get further meets and contacts. Your network builds over time ."

Hey! You sir are now BANNED from the Magic Circle!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Yes, but maybe it's because we are choosy

Head to a club as the others have said.

If you have a personality you will have a far better chance as the people in there will be on the same page."

P.s. Was only kidding on the struggling to get a meet bit, sorry OP

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"Yes, but maybe it's because we are choosy

Head to a club as the others have said.

If you have a personality you will have a far better chance as the people in there will be on the same page.

P.s. Was only kidding on the struggling to get a meet bit, sorry OP"

Are the number of meets that a swinger has directly proportionate to the quality of their sense of humour?

We must study this hypothesis...IMMEDIATELY!

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with. "

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

The only thing I struggle with is finding the time and energy to meet guys, got a lot going on at the moment.

For those who struggle, maybe have a closer look at how you are "selling" yourself. Your profile is the first impression you give, is it a great one, a good one, or does it show you can't be arsed? You have a LOT of competition on this site, you won't get far if you don't bother making an effort to attract anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.

StackS"

You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.

One of your friends could also turn up in the club.

We tend to meet where we don't know anyone. The anticipation and nerves can make it more fun. Tends to be that those who we have met have been just as nervous as they don't know us just as we don't know them. Apart from what has been said in messages.

With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.

I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.

StackS

You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.

One of your friends could also turn up in the club.

With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.

I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social."

With all due respect, I think you should go to a club before you post anything more about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.

StackS

You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.

One of your friends could also turn up in the club.

With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.

I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social."

Funny you mentioned that one of my mates did walk into the club and I nearly died but mom's the word as he doesn't want the lads to know what his upto either.

Happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes..had a bit more interaction recently but still no meet or even a social but im happy to be patient and im enjoying the forums and flirting anyhow

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.

Mrs 2

Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.

They probably are.

We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.

Maybe at some point we will go to a club.

Mr2

I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.

StackS

You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.

One of your friends could also turn up in the club.

With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.

I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social.

Funny you mentioned that one of my mates did walk into the club and I nearly died but mom's the word as he doesn't want the lads to know what his upto either.

Happy swinging

Ha ha. Not happened to us yet. If someone we know sees us and asks about who we are with we'll just friends from work.

Hapoy swinging to you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, as I've said before I'm always neck deep in clunge on FAB

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By *eadonistCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ashton under Lyne

We do fine.

Cheers

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"I struggle to find suitable people too."

Likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had 4 meets today alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, finding it difficult to find someone local who doesn't just want a one off or quick lunchtime fuck. I can go without sex now, I'm getting used to it more and more. I've even grown a bush as not anticipating a shag anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, as I've said before I'm always neck deep in clunge on FAB

Hold on tight to your profile content sunshine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, finding it difficult to find someone local who doesn't just want a one off or quick lunchtime fuck. I can go without sex now, I'm getting used to it more and more. I've even grown a bush as not anticipating a shag anytime soon

The bush of defeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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i dont understand why as im pretty sure sex gets better the more you do it with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes I struggle to get the meets that I want but it’s usually only timing.

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "

No.......having read your profile the fact you apologise for the cock pics means that you know it's off putting for most women on here?

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

Here's an interesting thought. I looked at the guys pics on the top fabbed. Even tho ladies liked the pics they still had few if any veris. Just goes to show that it's not easy for any guys even the fit, well endowed buggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not struggling OP.....

So what do you think about that eh!

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yes I struggle to find what I'm looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do alright

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

No as I'm not currently meeting

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I don't struggle to get 'a' meet, just the meets I want in the time I have available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't struggle to get 'a' meet, just the meets I want in the time I have available."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ur on ur own there fella

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

No complaints here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not trying to meet - not struggling! Easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "

Its not easy, not by any means. Have had plenty of chats and then things fizzle out.

Whats also annoying is when you recieve wink and you take time to message them and get sweet FA back.

Its hard mate, very hard but you just have to keep plugging away and try not to take it too personally. It will eat you up and batter confidence. Head up mate, you definietely aren't alone in struggling to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep if we post a meet get little but no show,recent veries from our last party none the guys showed up and only three out of 12 couples lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes me XXX

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