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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Most people have busy lives outside fab and their time is limited so when they arrange a social/meet they have found something about that person/couple that they find attractive,

Good pictures make up most of that as getting your personality across in messages or comments in the forums isn't easy for a lot of people

Obviously meeting will make up their mind if they want to take it further or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most people have busy lives outside fab and their time is limited so when they arrange a social/meet they have found something about that person/couple that they find attractive,

Good pictures make up most of that as getting your personality across in messages or comments in the forums isn't easy for a lot of people

Obviously meeting will make up their mind if they want to take it further or not"

My hubby says I'm too picky, but I don't think I am?? I like a wide variety of people!

I get a general picture from people's pics, which instigates a meet but mostly don't want to meet based on pics??

Although, I reckon if I met them I'd think different of them because I'm not the type of person to judge on pics!!

Contradicting I know....but eh???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People tell stories. Some use text well, some use images. Those that ha e great profiles use them both well.

I prefer face to face, but there's little chance when we're online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People tell stories. Some use text well, some use images. Those that ha e great profiles use them both well.

I prefer face to face, but there's little chance when we're online. "

Yeah I get that!

People look different than pics, sometime for the better sometimes for the worse.

But I genuinely want to meet people because I don't just judge by pic/looks,

Cliche but if u stimulate the mind,

I'm half way there with you!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc "

Haha me either lovely, I loose my breath and end up needing an ambulance

But I genuinely want to meet the person!!

See u next week looking forward to it!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dont give a fuck what anyone thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc

Haha me either lovely, I loose my breath and end up needing an ambulance

But I genuinely want to meet the person!!

See u next week looking forward to it!! X"

i will be late but i will be there

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal

Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I personally dont give a fuck what anyone thinks"

Ok!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either..."

Yeah absolutely!!

Theres always an initial attraction from something they've shown u, but I love meeting the person to pin point the attraction!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc

Haha me either lovely, I loose my breath and end up needing an ambulance

But I genuinely want to meet the person!!

See u next week looking forward to it!! X

i will be late but i will be there"

Will keep a nose out for u!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, you're not the only one. I love meeting new people. The pics are enough to spark the initial attraction but until I meet someone I can't tell whether I want to shag them or not.

So it's a social for me first, always

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst pictures (and messages/profile) can give you an impression of someone on here - which actually is all you really have to decide if you want to meet someone - it's only meeting in person that can confirm whether you have an attraction either way, by which time sometimes you've already felt a spark and connection already, that may even see some of the self-perceived 'flaws' we all hide in pics and the like being overlooked.

An interesting concept

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal


"Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either...

Yeah absolutely!!

Theres always an initial attraction from something they've shown u, but I love meeting the person to pin point the attraction!! "

.yeah..although there can be issues if you have a 'minds eye' view and your perception is an overexageration...ill admit theres very little ever puts me off ppl in real life if the chat and banter flowed well online...but..still the odd one..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc

Haha me either lovely, I loose my breath and end up needing an ambulance

But I genuinely want to meet the person!!

See u next week looking forward to it!! X

i will be late but i will be there

Will keep a nose out for u!! "

an eye would be better - i dont stink (i hope)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"some pics are ok but seeing the person for real is better - pics hide the bits i dont want folk to see but i cant breathe in the whole time im with you so you get the belly etc

Haha me either lovely, I loose my breath and end up needing an ambulance

But I genuinely want to meet the person!!

See u next week looking forward to it!! X

i will be late but i will be there

Will keep a nose out for u!!

an eye would be better - i dont stink (i hope) "

Hahah laughing my head off here brilliant! Of course I'll have an eye out for u, nose and possibly a tongue haha. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either...

Yeah absolutely!!

Theres always an initial attraction from something they've shown u, but I love meeting the person to pin point the attraction!!

.yeah..although there can be issues if you have a 'minds eye' view and your perception is an overexageration...ill admit theres very little ever puts me off ppl in real life if the chat and banter flowed well online...but..still the odd one.. "

Yeah good point, the minds eye view can be disappointing when they do t turn out to be as you've expected!

I don't think I expect too much but I'm human so I imagine I do too!

I can find someone attractive though if they make me laugh, so I imagine I wouldn't base attraction on looks.

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By *xplicitMan
over a year ago

donegal


"Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either...

Yeah absolutely!!

Theres always an initial attraction from something they've shown u, but I love meeting the person to pin point the attraction!!

.yeah..although there can be issues if you have a 'minds eye' view and your perception is an overexageration...ill admit theres very little ever puts me off ppl in real life if the chat and banter flowed well online...but..still the odd one..

Yeah good point, the minds eye view can be disappointing when they do t turn out to be as you've expected!

I don't think I expect too much but I'm human so I imagine I do too!

I can find someone attractive though if they make me laugh, so I imagine I wouldn't base attraction on looks. "

.slightly off point..but i giggle when i cum...my career in s&m was short lived..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone?? "

Well it says you're a couple

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm impressed by pics when they're impressive. But they really have bugger all to do with whether or not I meet someone; the majority of my meets have been with people who have very few profile pics (the regular squeeze, for example, has absolutely none on his profile). I know that sounds a bit weird when I have loads of pics but I just happen to like taking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone?? "

The average shutter speed of a camera taking a normal photo under normal conditions is 1/60th of a second. You would need 60 photos of someone to capture a whole second of their life! Good luck making a judgement based on a few photos!

Totally agree with you. To prove the quote above true... Find someone you think is hot on the telly box and keep pausing and un-pausing them. Sometimes their hot and sometimes, not so hot. You need to meet people to see what they really look like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

Well it says you're a couple "

Well superman yr just too clever!!

Cheeky

If u cared to read profile I'm also looking for just fem for me not as a couple. So I come alone in this scenario! X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Am I alone?? "

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not.

I use face pics for initial attraction but pics in general don't do anything for me. It's probably why mine are so boring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

The average shutter speed of a camera taking a normal photo under normal conditions is 1/60th of a second. You would need 60 photos of someone to capture a whole second of their life! Good luck making a judgement based on a few photos!

Totally agree with you. To prove the quote above true... Find someone you think is hot on the telly box and keep pausing and un-pausing them. Sometimes their hot and sometimes, not so hot. You need to meet people to see what they really look like."

I imagine this is why a lot of online dating doesn't work.

Expectations are trodden on!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Pictures give me that initial attraction and creat interest..but stops there...i dont keep re-looking although its always nice to see a new pic if you fancy someone..

.dont know if its related..but porn does nothing for me either...

Yeah absolutely!!

Theres always an initial attraction from something they've shown u, but I love meeting the person to pin point the attraction!!

.yeah..although there can be issues if you have a 'minds eye' view and your perception is an overexageration...ill admit theres very little ever puts me off ppl in real life if the chat and banter flowed well online...but..still the odd one..

Yeah good point, the minds eye view can be disappointing when they do t turn out to be as you've expected!

I don't think I expect too much but I'm human so I imagine I do too!

I can find someone attractive though if they make me laugh, so I imagine I wouldn't base attraction on looks.

.slightly off point..but i giggle when i cum...my career in s&m was short lived.. "

ha x

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Obviously good pics will attract admirers. Admiration doesnt equal meet of course. Same for profile text. You get a diluted view of the person that is essentially a best bits of them classifued ad. You can only make your mind up when you meet them in person. So in that sense your not alone in your thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

Well it says you're a couple

Well superman yr just too clever!!

Cheeky

If u cared to read profile I'm also looking for just fem for me not as a couple. So I come alone in this scenario! X"

I was just going by the status on the thread. No malice lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

Well it says you're a couple

Well superman yr just too clever!!

Cheeky

If u cared to read profile I'm also looking for just fem for me not as a couple. So I come alone in this scenario! X

I was just going by the status on the thread. No malice lol"

Malice eh?? Lol x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

My picture tells a story... Once upon a time someone blindfolded me and tied me to a tree .. then took a photo of me

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By *hocolate_HeavenMan
over a year ago

Birmingham and Dubai

Most of my fabs meets have come from going to socials that I got invited to from this site and then subsequently met people from there or from club nights posted on the site. Though the odd meet organized through fabs has built the tension up nicely if there is a mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone??

The average shutter speed of a camera taking a normal photo under normal conditions is 1/60th of a second. You would need 60 photos of someone to capture a whole second of their life! Good luck making a judgement based on a few photos!

Totally agree with you. To prove the quote above true... Find someone you think is hot on the telly box and keep pausing and un-pausing them. Sometimes their hot and sometimes, not so hot. You need to meet people to see what they really look like.

I imagine this is why a lot of online dating doesn't work.

Expectations are trodden on! "

Sorry if I trod on your expectations .

When trying to take a decent selfie to send people that request a face photo, I read an article. The top tip was to take hundreds from lots of different angles that way you're bound to get a good one. The other 99 will be me too but not the way I want to portray my self. However, they are all how everyone else sees me!

In the profiles, I just look for a glimmer of attraction and like mindedness in the photo and the text. You can only find the rest out by talking to them and meeting them.

I think we are all guilty of trying to oversell ourselves. No one is going to put a photo up they don't think makes them look good or write text telling their not so good side!

It's totally possible for some one to talk their way to being attractive. A person can be drop dead gorgeous but if we don't smile and laugh together, it ain't going to work.

Keep a broader mind people!

Definitely not alone.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Who is not impressed by pictures?

Of course some look amazing.

But....

Even though I have a load of pics on profile.

I need to meet people to know if there's an attraction.

I need a mental as well as physical stimulation from people.

I'm can be so put off by pictures and when I meet people I find them attractive, sexy and endearing!

Am I alone?? "
. I wouldn't say I'm put off by good pics as such but I'm totally with you, this is why we don't arrange meets, we just club and well if it happens it happens, that way we will have found a mutual attraction and hopefully have had a good giggle, laugh with us and we are sold, can't do that in pics I suppose Mrs blue eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I basically agree, I'm a bloke and do like looking at sexy erotic pics but if given the option would meet a lady who didn't have those type of profile pics, always leave something to the imagination, ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I basically agree, I'm a bloke and do like looking at sexy erotic pics but if given the option would meet a lady who didn't have those type of profile pics, always put the pictures up that you want to ladies. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures can only give an initial impression, a flavour of who you are, I use mine to attract the kind of people I want to meet in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met people with no public pics and no profile text. I rarely look at pics. Never look at hot pics.

I meet in person for a social then decide if I like them and if they like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some pictures are great, but I prefer the subtle ones generally. The most important thing is the personality and attitude of the person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho! "

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory "

Yeah - nail hit head!!

Id rather have w**k ha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory "

Sure some people will fuck *any* human. But many are lucky in that they can find chemistry with another person really easily. There are people on here that meet a lot but it's clear they won't just fuck 'anyone'. They do find some connection even if they they meet like 20 people a week.

It's not fair to look down on them. Whether I find 1 person a year or 10 people a day, I'm still me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory

Sure some people will fuck *any* human. But many are lucky in that they can find chemistry with another person really easily. There are people on here that meet a lot but it's clear they won't just fuck 'anyone'. They do find some connection even if they they meet like 20 people a week.

It's not fair to look down on them. Whether I find 1 person a year or 10 people a day, I'm still me. "

i think you are ok for a minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory

Sure some people will fuck *any* human. But many are lucky in that they can find chemistry with another person really easily. There are people on here that meet a lot but it's clear they won't just fuck 'anyone'. They do find some connection even if they they meet like 20 people a week.

It's not fair to look down on them. Whether I find 1 person a year or 10 people a day, I'm still me.

i think you are ok for a minger"

In very low lighting I'm not too bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures work for me. I use them and whatever conversation I have with someone to decide if I'm going to meet them for sex. I'm attracted to a profile that has good clear pictures initially but my decision whether to meet or not comes over time and conversation. I don't need to meet them socially first.

I feel like I'm in the minority as I can ascertain attraction by pictures and messaging alone. Yes meeting in the flesh adds another dimension, but in my experience it has only added in a positive way as I've already done my homework.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with all above. A glimmer of attraction is good, but Defo need to meet in person!

Was just asking as it appears loads on here, put a status up about meeting and within a few hrs have a veri.

Baffles me!!

Each to their own tho!

I guess there are some for whom (and I hate the phrase) "any hole's a goal" and don't particularly care about attraction, chemistry and connection - just couldn't do that myself as without them the experience is less than satisfactory

Sure some people will fuck *any* human. But many are lucky in that they can find chemistry with another person really easily. There are people on here that meet a lot but it's clear they won't just fuck 'anyone'. They do find some connection even if they they meet like 20 people a week.

It's not fair to look down on them. Whether I find 1 person a year or 10 people a day, I'm still me.

i think you are ok for a minger

In very low lighting I'm not too bad. "

it has to be 0.4 lighting yer only palatable at that or below...

in fact I'd call you dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pictures work for me. I use them and whatever conversation I have with someone to decide if I'm going to meet them for sex. I'm attracted to a profile that has good clear pictures initially but my decision whether to meet or not comes over time and conversation. I don't need to meet them socially first.

I feel like I'm in the minority as I can ascertain attraction by pictures and messaging alone. Yes meeting in the flesh adds another dimension, but in my experience it has only added in a positive way as I've already done my homework. "

you are just a stunner........simple as x

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"No, you're not the only one. I love meeting new people. The pics are enough to spark the initial attraction but until I meet someone I can't tell whether I want to shag them or not.

So it's a social for me first, always "

The photos and chat can spark an interest to arrange a social and they can be great (but like having tea with a mate) or hmmmm...yes I think this could be more.

While it would be amazing to meet everyone it's not practical so I do eliminate by things I know I dislike or when conversation becomes stale....

That'd be a waste of their time meeting ..

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

That doesn't mean I haven't sometimes met "not my types" and been really taken

But it's rare it turns out that way and rare I have the time to take that chance over a "more my type"

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