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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am a big girl. 40k (and no that's not what I earn ). Trouble is my confidence has taken a dive and I wonder if people judge on size. Some people are cruel on here. I was a sex addict before this and now feel a bit lost, no one likes rejection. Any advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do judge on size but on both sides. Some will say yes but you'll find a hell of a lot say yes and they're the ones you should concentrate on x

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Do you mean 40kg? Is that not only about 6 1/2 stone or is my maths rusty?

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford


"People do judge on size but on both sides. Some will say yes but you'll find a hell of a lot say yes and they're the ones you should concentrate on x"

That's the one

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Do you mean 40kg? Is that not only about 6 1/2 stone or is my maths rusty?"

I'm about 43k so yes I am about 7 stone

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Jeez I’m huge at 58kg then! No seriously OP - I’m often rejected in favour of bigger girls - there’s a guy on my hotlist who I know has zero interest in me as he’s seriously into curvier girls. Damn your curves! Hold your head up and smile - self confidence is the strongest attraction. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a big girl. 40k (and no that's not what I earn ). Trouble is my confidence has taken a dive and I wonder if people judge on size. Some people are cruel on here. I was a sex addict before this and now feel a bit lost, no one likes rejection. Any advice please"

If you can't take rejection is it a good idea to be on a sex site? Some people will be cruel when rejecting you.

Some people are nice but many just say nice things to get a shag. I don't think it's the right place for an ego boost.

You could state info on your size on your profile or have a public body pic. This will attract the people that fancy you, however it will also attract idiots that will take the piss.

Good luck. x

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

We all have our hang ups and some of us lack confidence or it goes completely at times too.

The site attracts plenty people who can be cruel or insensitive but also many genuinely nice people. There's someone for everyone but you will never be that someone to everyone. Once you accept that it will get easier

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By *a72Man
over a year ago

london


"I am a big girl. 40k (and no that's not what I earn ). Trouble is my confidence has taken a dive and I wonder if people judge on size. Some people are cruel on here. I was a sex addict before this and now feel a bit lost, no one likes rejection. Any advice please"

Yeah people definately judge on here. I can tell you that many guys on here and real life love big girls and slim girls and an ignorant few of those will judge on size only but most of us won't so ignore the idiots and enjoy the site. This isn't a come on but I am now curious to see your pic or pics not to be judgemental just curious now.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

Might be bra size ladies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been rejected soooo many times it's like water off a ducks back nowadays lol.... Yes no one likes rejection but in most cases it's saving us from dealing with incompatible people...

All those who've rejected me have done me a huge favour because I now value myself more and won't put up with crumbs when I can have a three course meal made with love... Lol x

You're a sexual person, a knowledgable one at that I should expect with all the hours you've put in "honing your craft"...

Those abilities remain whatever your size.

I'd think you'd blow most people's minds with the skill you've acquired though practise?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know your worth ,if the little people are bitching then your already above them

A confident woman with a personality works every time for me ,the person comes first the attraction second

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am a big girl. 40k (and no that's not what I earn ). Trouble is my confidence has taken a dive and I wonder if people judge on size. Some people are cruel on here. I was a sex addict before this and now feel a bit lost, no one likes rejection. Any advice please"

People who judge you for your size are shallow and not worth your time. I like to chat and get on with ladies as their personality is what I look for the size of their assets is not what counts not in my case anyway. I'm sure you are a beautiful person both inside and out and this is surely what will shine when men are fortunate to chat to you. Xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP: my flatmate is in a similar dilemma. Really for her though it isn't the rejection that hurts. All that does is back up how she feels about her own size. She's now started therapy to help her get to grips with this and she's started a planned diet and exercise programme.

So the question is this: are you happy with how you look? Because if you are happy, then being rejected by people is down to their preferences, not a comment on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP: my flatmate is in a similar dilemma. Really for her though it isn't the rejection that hurts. All that does is back up how she feels about her own size. She's now started therapy to help her get to grips with this and she's started a planned diet and exercise programme.

So the question is this: are you happy with how you look? Because if you are happy, then being rejected by people is down to their preferences, not a comment on you. "

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a 34h and I always cover up my boobs, I hate them so I totally know where your coming from.

The only person to see me without a bra is my husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might be bra size ladies? "

Of course it's bra size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life I've been rejected a lot. I don't look sexy like I do on my fab profile pics most of the time!

Most men have walked past me and not even looked at me. Put on some heels and stockings and do my hair and makeup and wow I'm a different person.

I have a fab confidence persona and my vanilla shy one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In real life I've been rejected a lot. I don't look sexy like I do on my fab profile pics most of the time!

Most men have walked past me and not even looked at me. Put on some heels and stockings and do my hair and makeup and wow I'm a different person.

I have a fab confidence persona and my vanilla shy one."

A little secret fab pics are just that. No one looks like that all the time.

Every picture tells a lie.

And being on fab is often more than just the merely physical...

All the best things including great sex they start in the mind.

Be who you are...you do thst bettet than trying to be someone else.

Those who appreciate you will find you...

Those who don't...why would you want them to? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In real life I've been rejected a lot. I don't look sexy like I do on my fab profile pics most of the time!

Most men have walked past me and not even looked at me. Put on some heels and stockings and do my hair and makeup and wow I'm a different person.

I have a fab confidence persona and my vanilla shy one."

That's sad because for me I like women when they aren't all made up and glammed up. A lass who's just woken up, grabs one of my T-shirts, and her hair's all over the place is the best thing ever. Natural looks and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life ppl judge you before they know you just assuming what and who you are by how you look ?

Our outlook on here and in life is that looks don't mean a thing it's what's inside that makes the click you get with someone ?

Have met ppl who look great but don't have a personality ?

Be confident with who you are and I'm sure that you'll not have anything to worry about on here real life may be harder but no one is perfect

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"To the OP: my flatmate is in a similar dilemma. Really for her though it isn't the rejection that hurts. All that does is back up how she feels about her own size. She's now started therapy to help her get to grips with this and she's started a planned diet and exercise programme.

So the question is this: are you happy with how you look? Because if you are happy, then being rejected by people is down to their preferences, not a comment on you. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP:

Fab can be really cruel. Particularly for those of us with poor self image and low self confidence.

Rejection is something that happens a lot here. Personally I quite like a curvy girl or a BBW over a slim girl or a skinny mini.

The biggest part is getting over that rejection. It's not easy, but I'm sure you will eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another thing to remember is this is online, people are judging you on a small part of you. Its not personal, they don't know you.

I float around here chatting and flirting and approaching people id be scared to even look at in the real world, if they reject me its cool, im not gonna have to spend time in their company at any point, we just go our separate ways and that's that.

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By *anger mouse and EmmaCouple
over a year ago

Honiton


"People do judge on size but on both sides. Some will say yes but you'll find a hell of a lot say yes and they're the ones you should concentrate on x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another thing to remember is this is online, people are judging you on a small part of you. Its not personal, they don't know you.

I float around here chatting and flirting and approaching people id be scared to even look at in the real world, if they reject me its cool, im not gonna have to spend time in their company at any point, we just go our separate ways and that's that. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bust size ??

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