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" there's a lot of it about. We are humans with 'imperfections'. These only serve to show how human we are, right? Love one another people. Be nice. " Is this happening in messages ? I bet it's when someone is turned down | |||
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"I'm a sexy bitch. I don't care if I'm the only one to think so. "Don't worry, you're not | |||
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"It happens all the time. I’m forever leaving and coming back or hiding my profile. Costs me a fortune in gold memberships "Amazing body don't leave because of a few idiots. | |||
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"Live n let live eh....if only! Real men like curves n only dogs like bones.....seems to be a popular war cry for those that think it will ingratiate themselves with the largest (no pun intended) demographic on fab. But as long as there are anonymous social platforms there will always be a certain number of twats that think they're being complimentary by slagging off the opposite of what they say they find attractive."  | |||
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"I'm one of those people that don't judge by looks it's what inside that matters" I judge women negatively until it's me that's inside them  | |||
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"I have stepped in on a few threads and by and large get ignored. ( Either my argument is robust enough that there is no comeback, or I'm a bloke that is easy to ignore. Not always, but some of the time. I have even had people agree with me "I acknowledge reading your comment, but i do not feel the need to add a response.  | |||
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"People who ridicule others because of their appearance are emotionally immature and usually have confidence issues themselves that they project onto others through shaming. Not sexy or attractive at all...." This may well be true... | |||
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"Great post.. everyone should be accepting. I realise that I won't be everyone's or even anyone's cup of tea, but I like me and that is good enough! "It's more than enough. I'm really glad you like you. So many people struggle to accept and like themselves. | |||
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"Great post.. everyone should be accepting. I realise that I won't be everyone's or even anyone's cup of tea, but I like me and that is good enough!
It's more than enough.
I'm really glad you like you.
So many people struggle to accept and like themselves.
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"There's no need for bodyshaming....period! "Quite right! It's a natural bodily function n nowt to be ashamed of!  | |||
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"There's no need for bodyshaming....period!
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It's a natural bodily function n nowt to be ashamed of! "You make it sound like a poo. | |||
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"The world runs on looks. Everything else is a million times less important. Why bother pretending otherwise?" SUCH shallow thinking. | |||
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"I once shot someone down in a thread for having a go at a lady because of her looks. I was placed on the naughty step and he wasn’t. Seems admin do not care enough about this. I also tend to treat people how I would like to be treated. " Well that's bloody unfair! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal." another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! " That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. | |||
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God it's boring!
I find lot of people under 30 especially narcissistic and self obsessed.
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy." That's a massive assumption! Body positivity is about loving yourself and knowing you're good as you are, not constantly changing yourself to suit societal demands. You're assuming most fat people are lazy. That's quite an insult. | |||
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"The way things are going I can see being overweight becoming as socially unacceptable as smoking." Not at all. It's about fighting back against the shallow thinking that thin is best! | |||
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"I said easy. Not lazy. I didn't mention body positivity. I highlighted the (mis)use of body shaming as a term. I want my children to aspire to be healthy. I don't think the use of this term as its currently being used by many helps towards that." That's your opinion. It's wrong but hey ho. | |||
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"I said easy. Not lazy. I didn't mention body positivity. I highlighted the (mis)use of body shaming as a term. I want my children to aspire to be healthy. I don't think the use of this term as its currently being used by many helps towards that. That's your opinion. It's wrong but hey ho. " Well if you say so. Clearly   | |||
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"Can you give an example OP? I see way more threads supporting the larger lady than other body shapes on here, the BBW one i last looked at was in the mid 200's." Just because there's a long running thread supporting 'bbw's' it doesn't mean there isn't body shaming. I have read a lot of very insulting comments regarding body imperfections, not just weight. I myself have been told to hide my pics just yesterday. It's unnecessary and nasty thinking that fat, hairy women or men need or want anyone's helpful advice to 'aim for healthy' etc. | |||
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"I was told to hide my photos because they were hideous. It should not upset me but it did, not for long though. I just don't understand the need to be cruel to people in messages OR in threads on the forums. " Your pics are ace | |||
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"I said easy. Not lazy. I didn't mention body positivity. I highlighted the (mis)use of body shaming as a term. I want my children to aspire to be healthy. I don't think the use of this term as its currently being used by many helps towards that. That's your opinion. It's wrong but hey ho. Well if you say so. Clearly "thanks for your input | |||
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"Great post.. everyone should be accepting. I realise that I won't be everyone's or even anyone's cup of tea, but I like me and that is good enough!
It's more than enough.
I'm really glad you like you.
So many people struggle to accept and like themselves.
"Thank you I also figure if you can't say anything nice & civil, don't say anything! | |||
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"Can you give an example OP? I see way more threads supporting the larger lady than other body shapes on here, the BBW one i last looked at was in the mid 200's." I'm not sure that counts. It's a handful of people who mainly post. It's more of a friendship thread. More often than not, a thread about larger people turns into a shit show. | |||
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"Can you give an example OP? I see way more threads supporting the larger lady than other body shapes on here, the BBW one i last looked at was in the mid 200's. I'm not sure that counts. It's a handful of people who mainly post. It's more of a friendship thread. More often than not, a thread about larger people turns into a shit show." Which to be fair is very sad. The modern world means that everyone can have, and voice an opinion. Some people don't think how things can be interpreted, or don't think, or do and they are crass.. If I see the nasty type of stuff posted it gives me a good idea of who not to communicate with and i'm generally quite a communicative bloke! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal." I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. " Thank you. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. " I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
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"Can you give an example OP? I see way more threads supporting the larger lady than other body shapes on here, the BBW one i last looked at was in the mid 200's. I'm not sure that counts. It's a handful of people who mainly post. It's more of a friendship thread. More often than not, a thread about larger people turns into a shit show." That's what it turned into, it started off as an appreciation thread. On Fabs there appears to only be two body shapes and both get there fair share of trolling. | |||
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"People who ridicule others because of their appearance are emotionally immature and usually have confidence issues themselves that they project onto others through shaming. Not sexy or attractive at all...."  | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy." If antone honestly think it's 'easy' being fat you are SO wrong. It's not 'easy' being made fun of by strangers, it's not easy being unable to eat in public without feeling guilty, not easy not getting on a plane for fear of not fitting in the seat, not easy not being able to buy nice clothes and it's not easy being told it's 'to do with your weight' when at the doctors for a cold! I hated drawing attention to myself so would 'go along' with people... so I lost my 'voice' for years! I was overweight .... and lost it. It took over two years and I feel great now. But, being fat is the hardest thing I have experienced... ever! I'm still the same person ... intelligent, articulate and sexy.... but was often overlooked in many ways. Easy.... no.bloody.way! X | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy." I'm overweight still not have lost 9st and I am now VERY healthy ... my doctor has confirmed it ... so overweight isn't necessarily unhealthy... | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. If antone honestly think it's 'easy' being fat you are SO wrong. It's not 'easy' being made fun of by strangers, it's not easy being unable to eat in public without feeling guilty, not easy not getting on a plane for fear of not fitting in the seat, not easy not being able to buy nice clothes and it's not easy being told it's 'to do with your weight' when at the doctors for a cold! I hated drawing attention to myself so would 'go along' with people... so I lost my 'voice' for years! I was overweight .... and lost it. It took over two years and I feel great now. But, being fat is the hardest thing I have experienced... ever! I'm still the same person ... intelligent, articulate and sexy.... but was often overlooked in many ways. Easy.... no.bloody.way! X " I was referencing the effort required to lose weight and the discipline to not put it on. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts."Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people. A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No. There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different. I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. I'm overweight still not have lost 9st and I am now VERY healthy ... my doctor has confirmed it ... so overweight isn't necessarily unhealthy..." Fantastic! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look. "How do you know that's a misconception? Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. I'm overweight still not have lost 9st and I am now VERY healthy ... my doctor has confirmed it ... so overweight isn't necessarily unhealthy... Fantastic! "Thank you ... I'm still a work in progress but a HEALTHY work in progress now  | |||
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"I said easy. Not lazy. I didn't mention body positivity. I highlighted the (mis)use of body shaming as a term. I want my children to aspire to be healthy. I don't think the use of this term as its currently being used by many helps towards that." Ah, I think I recall your posts before! | |||
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"The reality is no one can make you feel bad about yourself without your consent and acceptance. You won't be everyone's cup of tea. But to those that do appreciate you, you are handsome/beautiful. To the rest, don't waste a second on their opinions. It only hurts you and changes nothing "Excellent quote! | |||
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"The reality is no one can make you feel bad about yourself without your consent and acceptance. You won't be everyone's cup of tea. But to those that do appreciate you, you are handsome/beautiful. To the rest, don't waste a second on their opinions. It only hurts you and changes nothing "Well said!! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. If antone honestly think it's 'easy' being fat you are SO wrong. It's not 'easy' being made fun of by strangers, it's not easy being unable to eat in public without feeling guilty, not easy not getting on a plane for fear of not fitting in the seat, not easy not being able to buy nice clothes and it's not easy being told it's 'to do with your weight' when at the doctors for a cold! I hated drawing attention to myself so would 'go along' with people... so I lost my 'voice' for years! I was overweight .... and lost it. It took over two years and I feel great now. But, being fat is the hardest thing I have experienced... ever! I'm still the same person ... intelligent, articulate and sexy.... but was often overlooked in many ways. Easy.... no.bloody.way! X I was referencing the effort required to lose weight and the discipline to not put it on." I agree A LOT of effort is required to lose it/maintain a healthy weight... but, it's not to be underestimated how much mental or emotional effort it takes to live with being fat. It's very hard | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. If antone honestly think it's 'easy' being fat you are SO wrong. It's not 'easy' being made fun of by strangers, it's not easy being unable to eat in public without feeling guilty, not easy not getting on a plane for fear of not fitting in the seat, not easy not being able to buy nice clothes and it's not easy being told it's 'to do with your weight' when at the doctors for a cold! I hated drawing attention to myself so would 'go along' with people... so I lost my 'voice' for years! I was overweight .... and lost it. It took over two years and I feel great now. But, being fat is the hardest thing I have experienced... ever! I'm still the same person ... intelligent, articulate and sexy.... but was often overlooked in many ways. Easy.... no.bloody.way! X I was referencing the effort required to lose weight and the discipline to not put it on." I agree A LOT of effort is required to lose it/maintain a healthy weight... but, it's not to be underestimated how much mental or emotional effort it takes to live with being fat. It's very hard | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking."Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts. In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like. | |||
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"There's no need for bodyshaming....period!
Quite right!
It's a natural bodily function n nowt to be ashamed of!
You make it sound like a poo.
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Thank you ... I'm still a work in progress but a HEALTHY work in progress now "Keep up the good work, for you and no-one else, as was said ignore the haters and anyone whose opinion doesn't count. | |||
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Oh. I am so stealing that "It really works too. I fucked a lot of fit men when I first joined and lost a stone in a few weeks. I'm getting older and my arthritis is getting worse so I can't take as much, but it's a great workout. | |||
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Thank you ... I'm still a work in progress but a HEALTHY work in progress now
Keep up the good work, for you and no-one else, as was said ignore the haters and anyone whose opinion doesn't count."Thank you my lovely ... very much appreciated xx | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like."So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it? Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed? I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. another one I can't understand is why fat people should hide because they're fat? Why bully them with 'health advice' they're not stupid and they didn't ask you to interfere in their lives! That's not my point at all. I think the term is being used to excuse people being overweight. That's a choice they're entitled to make. However I feel it's healthy to encourage people to aspire to be healthy - not settle for being fat because it's easy. If antone honestly think it's 'easy' being fat you are SO wrong. It's not 'easy' being made fun of by strangers, it's not easy being unable to eat in public without feeling guilty, not easy not getting on a plane for fear of not fitting in the seat, not easy not being able to buy nice clothes and it's not easy being told it's 'to do with your weight' when at the doctors for a cold! I hated drawing attention to myself so would 'go along' with people... so I lost my 'voice' for years! I was overweight .... and lost it. It took over two years and I feel great now. But, being fat is the hardest thing I have experienced... ever! I'm still the same person ... intelligent, articulate and sexy.... but was often overlooked in many ways. Easy.... no.bloody.way! X I was referencing the effort required to lose weight and the discipline to not put it on. I can't be arsed at the moment. I've lost some weight and I'm having some brain rest time. I'm craving crap I don't usually eat. It's a psychosomatic thing I have to get myself out of. I don't allow anyone to shame me, condescend me, bully me or scare me into stressing out about my health. I spent many years being very under weight and very unhealthy and no fucker gave a toss. Until I put on loads of weight. Isn't this so often the way ... ? Apart from when I was a skinny kid and my sisters took the piss out of me, not one person said you skinny cow, eat something will you, you look awful. Although, I don't really get shamed personally on here for my fatness. " I haven't yet thank goodness but it should work both ways x | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good."More access to sweets and snacks. Less playing out with mates after school. Parents working and kids buying crap instead of coming home to a cooked dinner. Not that our dinners were healthy. We lived on frozen food and instant mash. | |||
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Do you think it will work the other way round too? For us more cuddly blokes... "Dunno. Can you pound away without raining sweat down on the lady underneath you? | |||
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Do you think it will work the other way round too? For us more cuddly blokes...
Ffs. It never works the other way round now we are all PC."What's fucking like a machine got to do with being PC? | |||
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Do you think it will work the other way round too? For us more cuddly blokes...
Ffs. It never works the other way round now we are all PC."Oh well.. it was worth asking... haha | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good."You think shaming a child about their weight is a good thing? | |||
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Dunno. Can you pound away without raining sweat down on the lady underneath you? "I have a couple of solutions... lol | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
You think shaming a child about their weight is a good thing?"Yawn
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
You think shaming a child about their weight is a good thing?
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. " The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good."No one has denied the obesity issue. It's down to education, economical issues, cultural differences. Personally, I think the food trade and how it's marketed play a huge role in it, especially when it's aimed at children. Body shaming has nothing to do with any of that. When my Dr tells me I need to be at a certain weight, he isn't body shaming me. | |||
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know "Sigh. It's not what I intended. | |||
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" But this site is not one to come onto if you are looking for compliments!" Ohhh I dunno I wasn't looking for them but I've had hundreds | |||
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know "I agree... bring it back on track... Body shaming in any way is nothing short of bullying, there is no excuse and no need... I thank you | |||
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know "Presumably that's me. Not asking valid questions. Just fat-bashing  | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
No one has denied the obesity issue. It's down to education, economical issues, cultural differences. Personally, I think the food trade and how it's marketed play a huge role in it, especially when it's aimed at children.
Body shaming has nothing to do with any of that. When my Dr tells me I need to be at a certain weight, he isn't body shaming me. "He most definitely is. | |||
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know "It's the 1st thing that pops into my mind when people are unspecific in what they've been body-shamed about. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
No one has denied the obesity issue. It's down to education, economical issues, cultural differences. Personally, I think the food trade and how it's marketed play a huge role in it, especially when it's aimed at children.
Body shaming has nothing to do with any of that. When my Dr tells me I need to be at a certain weight, he isn't body shaming me.
He most definitely is."I don't think you actually know what you're talking about. However, you should look up about the body confidence movement, and about the steroid abuse in young males. It's really interesting and might give you some more understanding about why it's good to have a whole range of normal bodies in the mainstream media. | |||
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"Sorry but I notice far more BBW loving on here than body shaming. Far, far more." You're not sorry. You want to get your point across and veer this thread off course. Well, you succeeded. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
No one has denied the obesity issue. It's down to education, economical issues, cultural differences. Personally, I think the food trade and how it's marketed play a huge role in it, especially when it's aimed at children.
Body shaming has nothing to do with any of that. When my Dr tells me I need to be at a certain weight, he isn't body shaming me.
He most definitely is.
I don't think you actually know what you're talking about.
However, you should look up about the body confidence movement, and about the steroid abuse in young males. It's really interesting and might give you some more understanding about why it's good to have a whole range of normal bodies in the mainstream media. "Thanks. I'll accept that given I'm taking the advice from somebody who clearly knows everything about the subject and can act as the voice for all fat people
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know
Presumably that's me.
Not asking valid questions. Just fat-bashing "I don't think you're fat bashing at all. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media..." Is it ok to be something different to what other people want us to be? The only reason people feel the need to fat shame isn't just about health. And let's be honest, if the government weren't going on about how much fat people cost the NHS we wouldn't have fat shaming for health reasons; it would only be for piss taking and abuse. If you ask someone why they are so worried about a fat person's health, the reply is always -it's me taxes innit, costing me money, or something like that. They don't give a shit about someone's health, if they don't know that person; they are annoyed about paying taxes. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media..." For years people have been made to feel ashamed and unattractive for being fat. It's not a new thing. Yet obesity is rising as you say. So your statement that making fat 'acceptable' is the cause of rising obesity does not add up. If reducing obesity was as easy as making people feel shit for being fat well then I guess nobody would be fat would they? | |||
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"Sorry but I notice far more BBW loving on here than body shaming. Far, far more. You're not sorry. You want to get your point across and veer this thread off course. Well, you succeeded. " You mean I debated the point that maybe the body shaming topic is more complex than massaging your ego? Sorry. For what it's worth I think the message you received was shitty. Doesn't change that I also think the body shaming accusation can also be misused, and that's a problem. | |||
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"Sorry but I notice far more BBW loving on here than body shaming. Far, far more." I think the body shaming might be through private messaging, or the threads get deleted. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I can assure you, fat people don't use body shaming as an argument to excuse being fat. That doesn't even make any sense. People who are fat who promote body confidence are basically saying "hey, this is who I am right now, and just because I'm fat, I'm not going to hide my body". It's a shame you felt the need to write a "but" after your statement, because personally, I don't think anyone should be body shamed. Period. I'm impressed that you can speak on behalf of all fat people
I just think a state of health should be aspirational. I prefer people to look at Gemma Collins and think I'd prefer not to look that way. Not aspire to be it.
I know I'm in the wrong place to express such. But it's a forum and that's my thoughts.
Let's not be pedantic - I obviously don't speak for all fat people.
A state of health is wanted. However, let's remember that you can't tell someone's health just by looking at them. What about the size 12 girl who smokes, eats junk food and sleeps 5 hours a night!? Healthy? No.
There's a huge misconception that putting fat people in the mainstream will promote obesity. It doesn't. It promotes that people are different.
I'm fat. I've lost 7 stone and I'm working hard to lose weight. I'd love to not be judged because of how I look.
How do you know that's a misconception?
Our society is getting fatter, not less. The stats for children are incredibly shocking.
Our children aren't getting fatter because we now have plus-size models. Come on. You'll find that most of the plus size models are healthy, but tend to have larger frames, or bigger breasts.
In fact, there's been a huge rise in teenage boys taking steroids because of all the gym fit guys on mainstream TV. Shows like Love Island are giving young males a distorted view of what their bodies should look like.
So why are they getting fatter and how do we stop it?
Or do we ignore it as a problem because nobody should be body shamed?
I know nothing of the steroid issue. But the obesity issue is undeniable, they have been measuring children in Reception and at the end of primary for years. The figures are not good.
No one has denied the obesity issue. It's down to education, economical issues, cultural differences. Personally, I think the food trade and how it's marketed play a huge role in it, especially when it's aimed at children.
Body shaming has nothing to do with any of that. When my Dr tells me I need to be at a certain weight, he isn't body shaming me.
He most definitely is.
I don't think you actually know what you're talking about.
However, you should look up about the body confidence movement, and about the steroid abuse in young males. It's really interesting and might give you some more understanding about why it's good to have a whole range of normal bodies in the mainstream media.
Thanks.
I'll accept that given I'm taking the advice from somebody who clearly knows everything about the subject and can act as the voice for all fat people
Haven't actually explained how we'll solve the problem. Or expressed if you even consider it to be a problem though... "I've already stated that I don't speak for all fat people. Also, I did say that there's an obesity issue, I also said what I think is to blame. I don't have all of the answers on how to solve it. Sorry about that. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... For years people have been made to feel ashamed and unattractive for being fat. It's not a new thing. Yet obesity is rising as you say. So your statement that making fat 'acceptable' is the cause of rising obesity does not add up. If reducing obesity was as easy as making people feel shit for being fat well then I guess nobody would be fat would they? " I don't think it is. But I do think we're moving to a state where being fat is normal. I don't think that's good. | |||
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"Sorry but I notice far more BBW loving on here than body shaming. Far, far more. I think the body shaming might be through private messaging, or the threads get deleted. " Fair point. | |||
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"How did a body shaming thread turn into just a fat-bashing one? Oh wait, I know
I agree... bring it back on track...
Body shaming in any way is nothing short of bullying, there is no excuse and no need...
I thank you "Though I beleive it only works to upset those being shamed if they already have the 'shame' within themselves. I realise that it's easy to say "don't let them upset you". Inner strength is not something everyone has sadly. Where the 'shame' comes from in the first place can be convention/instinct e.g. women like taller men. Or it can be gained from popular culture. And popular culture is in nearly everyone's face these days. In my opinion and experience, freaking out about a 'fat' child only fills them with shame. They likely don't understand what's going on in their body. And end up taking full blame leading to internal shame. And then extreme dieting. I have several T Shirts 
Human body fashion changes with the centuries. Currently lots of people are fat. And children fatter than I was aren't necessarily full of self hatred. I see that as a good thing.
Of course every fat hater will go on about the strain on the NHS etc. Yes it's an issue but subtle education is better than shaming.
In this PC world we live in there are few groups of people it's still ok to have a pop at. Fat people are one, ginger haired people are another. Everyone else is covered by various 'ist' legislation.
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... Is it ok to be something different to what other people want us to be? The only reason people feel the need to fat shame isn't just about health. And let's be honest, if the government weren't going on about how much fat people cost the NHS we wouldn't have fat shaming for health reasons; it would only be for piss taking and abuse. If you ask someone why they are so worried about a fat person's health, the reply is always -it's me taxes innit, costing me money, or something like that. They don't give a shit about someone's health, if they don't know that person; they are annoyed about paying taxes. " This is so true! It's why people feel validated to comment on someone's apparent health! | |||
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"Sorry but I notice far more BBW loving on here than body shaming. Far, far more. You're not sorry. You want to get your point across and veer this thread off course. Well, you succeeded. You mean I debated the point that maybe the body shaming topic is more complex than massaging your ego? Sorry. For what it's worth I think the message you received was shitty. Doesn't change that I also think the body shaming accusation can also be misused, and that's a problem." It's literally like talking to the wall. | |||
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"It can't be easy putting a child on a diet, especially if they have a big appetite or some kind of stress or anxiety that causes them to seek comfort in food. Weight can creep up so easily on anyone and if a parent is working and not supervising what the child eats, they don't have total control. I also know people who feel like they are giving a child love by constantly feeding them, or feeding them too much because they don't know portion sizes for kids. " I comfort ate as a child after my Dad died. I was so young when he first got ill and I remember my Mum limiting what I ate, but I'd secretly eat and she found it impossible to make me stop. From there, I learnt habits that are still really hard to break. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... Is it ok to be something different to what other people want us to be? The only reason people feel the need to fat shame isn't just about health. And let's be honest, if the government weren't going on about how much fat people cost the NHS we wouldn't have fat shaming for health reasons; it would only be for piss taking and abuse. If you ask someone why they are so worried about a fat person's health, the reply is always -it's me taxes innit, costing me money, or something like that. They don't give a shit about someone's health, if they don't know that person; they are annoyed about paying taxes. This is so true! It's why people feel validated to comment on someone's apparent health!" I agree with this to a point. But then we also need to but out of people's smoking, drug use etc. etc. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... For years people have been made to feel ashamed and unattractive for being fat. It's not a new thing. Yet obesity is rising as you say. So your statement that making fat 'acceptable' is the cause of rising obesity does not add up. If reducing obesity was as easy as making people feel shit for being fat well then I guess nobody would be fat would they? I don't think it is. But I do think we're moving to a state where being fat is normal. I don't think that's good." No it isnt but there is so much at play there as others have said. Food manufacturing, cheap fast food, more sedentary lifestyles... education on healthy lifestyles is good. Making people feel like second class citizens, unattractive, lazy whatever for being overweight is not good and quite simply does not work. Worth remembering that mental health is as important as physical health and fat shaming is a sure way to bring someone down. | |||
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"The causes are obvious. My question was how do we tackle it? (Or is it being argued that it's not a problem) We don't. Their parents do. Sending home letters telling someone their child is fat isn't the way to make a child thinner. My youngest grandson is a skinny little thing. His mum has never been told he's underweight or asked about his diet. The point is that the parents don't. Maybe because we've moved to a point where it's OK to be fat and anyone that dares suggest it's not is seized upon as a fat shaming bully? That's exactly what many kids see in their parents, and on TV, in the media... Is it ok to be something different to what other people want us to be? The only reason people feel the need to fat shame isn't just about health. And let's be honest, if the government weren't going on about how much fat people cost the NHS we wouldn't have fat shaming for health reasons; it would only be for piss taking and abuse. If you ask someone why they are so worried about a fat person's health, the reply is always -it's me taxes innit, costing me money, or something like that. They don't give a shit about someone's health, if they don't know that person; they are annoyed about paying taxes. This is so true! It's why people feel validated to comment on someone's apparent health! I agree with this to a point. But then we also need to but out of people's smoking, drug use etc. etc." It all boils down to money. | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me." Don't be silly, just because it gets derailed a bit doesn't make it bad | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me." It's inspired a debate. It's fine | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me." Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
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"Body shaming takes all guises on fab and is..unfortunately unavoidable...i am very body confident..but dont consider myself good looking...i am above average endowment thankfully ...but..how many times have profiles flippintly made remarks about small cocks or guys that look like they were hit by the ugly stick..humorous or not..these comments probably hit home with someone... .guess you gotta just let it wash over you on fab, but to a degree ppl focus on 'overweight' comments the most..." Little tits rarely get a mention on here. Whereas big tit threads pop up frequently. | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
Good night."No one pounced. People gave differing opinions. | |||
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"Body shaming takes all guises on fab and is..unfortunately unavoidable...i am very body confident..but dont consider myself good looking...i am above average endowment thankfully ...but..how many times have profiles flippintly made remarks about small cocks or guys that look like they were hit by the ugly stick..humorous or not..these comments probably hit home with someone... .guess you gotta just let it wash over you on fab, but to a degree ppl focus on 'overweight' comments the most... Little tits rarely get a mention on here. Whereas big tit threads pop up frequently. " .yup...another form by insinuation | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
Good night."Ah don't take it so hard, you're opinion is as valid as anyone elses. | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
Good night."That's not what I meant. I was attempting to stir up love for the human body IN ALL ITS FORM! | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal." I see you were the one to bring fat into this discussion. Body shaming isn't just about being fat. Skinny people have nasty comments slung at them too. As well as women with little boobs, men with small cocks, people being called ugly etc. | |||
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"I don't think it's nice to get personal, but... I have a bit of a problem with the 'body shaming' thing in that I think it's healthy for people to aspire to be healthy. I don't think people should be shamed. But I do think people use the body shaming argument to excuse being fat and that gets in the way of encouraging a healthy ideal. I see you were the one to bring fat into this discussion. Body shaming isn't just about being fat. Skinny people have nasty comments slung at them too. As well as women with little boobs, men with small cocks, people being called ugly etc. " Hear hear | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
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That's not what I meant.
I was attempting to stir up love for the human body IN ALL ITS FORM! "We can still do that
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"There's some love, up there..." Thank you! Right back at you. (heart) not sure of emojis! | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
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That's not what I meant.
I was attempting to stir up love for the human body IN ALL ITS FORM!
We can still do that
I thought it was interesting reading through different views and debate. "I'm a fluffy eejit. | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Or in other words: here's a rallying call for people to pounce on the wanker that raised a different perspective on body shaming than the one I wanted to hear. I'm sure people will duly rally
Good night.
That's not what I meant.
I was attempting to stir up love for the human body IN ALL ITS FORM!
We can still do that
I thought it was interesting reading through different views and debate.
I'm a fluffy eejit."Carry on, its all good! | |||
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"Some really positive stuff on the thread too amongst the postings..." Yes, yes there were. You're right. | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me." Once the thread is out there you have no control how it turns out so yes it's a little naive to think people are necessarily going to share the love. The forums are all about debate & this has tuned into one so it's good to see the different, mostly valid, points of view. | |||
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"Could someone please point me in the direction of one of these 'body shaming' comments please? Because as far as I'm concerned, I can honestly say in my time in here I have never seen any. I've seen lots of people looking to be constantly offended however." The threads are usually removed or closed. I think most happens by private message; usually, but not limited to, being turned down. | |||
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"Could someone please point me in the direction of one of these 'body shaming' comments please? Because as far as I'm concerned, I can honestly say in my time in here I have never seen any. I've seen lots of people looking to be constantly offended however." 171 | |||
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"Could someone please point me in the direction of one of these 'body shaming' comments please? Because as far as I'm concerned, I can honestly say in my time in here I have never seen any. I've seen lots of people looking to be constantly offended however." Don't forget those offended on behalf of others! | |||
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" I'm disappointed with how this thread has gone. I thought in my naivety I could encourage a bit of love towards one another. Stupid me. Once the thread is out there you have no control how it turns out so yes it's a little naive to think people are necessarily going to share the love. The forums are all about debate & this has tuned into one so it's good to see the different, mostly valid, points of view." It's knocked the spots off some other threads. Thanks OP | |||
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