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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me that struggles with the opening message to someone....i end up 're doing messages a few times before I send...and even then I still feel awkward lol

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I haven't sent a preemptive message for years

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'm not a newbie but I still struggle with that and more often than not don't bother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a newbie but I still struggle with that and more often than not don't bother!"

Same here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's best to read a profile you like and message appropriate to that person .Or you go for direct approach lol

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I find a really cool "what you up to?" Works wonders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a really cool "what you up to?" Works wonders "

Or faf

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"I find a really cool "what you up to?" Works wonders

Or faf "

That's my backup line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a really cool "what you up to?" Works wonders

Or faf

That's my backup line "

Whoops sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's best to read a profile you like and message appropriate to that person .Or you go for direct approach lol "

Not tryed the direct approach yet!

It's even harder when your messaging a profile that's very "vanilla" it's where do you start lol

Thanks for the advice! Anyone with any tips?

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

We find it difficult as well

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"It's best to read a profile you like and message appropriate to that person .Or you go for direct approach lol

Not tryed the direct approach yet!

It's even harder when your messaging a profile that's very "vanilla" it's where do you start lol

Thanks for the advice! Anyone with any tips?

"

Always send a face picture with your first message.

Your message won't be opened until your profile has been read.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"It's best to read a profile you like and message appropriate to that person .Or you go for direct approach lol

Not tryed the direct approach yet!

It's even harder when your messaging a profile that's very "vanilla" it's where do you start lol

Thanks for the advice! Anyone with any tips?

"

Where do you start?

Well, if you saw a lady you liked in a bar, how would you approach her?

Fab really isn't that much different than walking up to a stranger in a bar and introducing yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tailoring to the profile helps so it comes across that you've read theirs.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Be yourself.

Personally I won't open a message that has a cock as a profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tailoring to the profile helps so it comes across that you've read theirs. "

That makes sense and seems so obvious now will keep that in mind for future messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be yourself.

Personally I won't open a message that has a cock as a profile pic."

Yeah that's a fair point the something I have though about before the main reason for that was when I first joined I noticed there in a few members on here that work for the same company as myself so what to stay well off there radar haha as I would like to keep this part of my life private

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Camden

So this is how it goes in Fab;

You will need to grow a thick skin, and accept rejection, and even revulsion at times.

You will see your messages read, and straight deleted.

You will receive well-crafted replies like; "Face pic?" To which you will send your face pic, only to receive either straight delete (and blocked), or no reply, or "Not my type", or "You don't float my boat", and probably blocked.

You may see your message has been read, and receive a friend invite (but no message). Your profile will be viewed (including your private gallery), and you may receive a message like "Nice cock", and then nothing else.

You may receive an actual message, and conversation flows.

There's no rhyme or reason to it mate, just trust me on the thick skin, and learn to block those who either ignore you, mess you around, or don't match what YOU are looking for.

All the best

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Be yourself.

Personally I won't open a message that has a cock as a profile pic.

Yeah that's a fair point the something I have though about before the main reason for that was when I first joined I noticed there in a few members on here that work for the same company as myself so what to stay well off there radar haha as I would like to keep this part of my life private "

You can still do that. Just because a pic is not of your man wang doesn't mean it must be your face.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the honest advice much appreciated

Sure I will get use too it changed the profile photo so hopefully that will be more "friendly" than here have an ogle at my "tail"

It's still early days I guess sure I will get it right at some point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Be yourself.

Personally I won't open a message that has a cock as a profile pic.

Yeah that's a fair point the something I have though about before the main reason for that was when I first joined I noticed there in a few members on here that work for the same company as myself so what to stay well off there radar haha as I would like to keep this part of my life private

You can still do that. Just because a pic is not of your man wang doesn't mean it must be your face. "

"Man wang" that's a new one on me yeah guess I just need to get creative with some selfies or something a bit suggestive and less in your face like a stiff prick lol

Can see how it could put people off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its a couple youre messaging always put it to them both. Nothing worse than a guy who thinks hes talking to the woman straightaway. "How are yous both doing this fine day?" For example. Thats my tip for the day! (The mrs btw) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep it simple OP, a polite introduction including a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be prepared for virtually no responses from females, loads of messages from blokes saying what they want to do to you or you to do to them, or just "u ok?" messages..... (delete and block is yoyr friend here)

Oh, and for the forumites (you'll figure them out if you hang around long enough) who just try to out-do one anothers cocky comments at an OP's expense, whilst offering no real advice or worthwhile comment.

If you can get past these things, fab can be ok. Just dont expect it to be a sex on tap site..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Got some pointers to work with now will see how I get on! I'm sure I will stick around as this site is just a bonus really if anything comes of it

I'm enjoying the forum tho

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