FabSwingers.com forum: Your Fab experience

By *crumdiddlyumptious OP Man
over a year ago

How much have you changed from your first week/month on fab, Your personality, Sexual interests or your approach to fab itself ?

Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've changed a lot. I'm happier. It didn't suprise me at all and still doesn't.

It's a yin/ yang thing. One side bitches, the other side bitches. Arguing all the time. No fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How much have you changed from your first week/month on fab, Your personality, Sexual interests or your approach to fab itself ?

Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here ?

My confidence is the highest it has ever been ... fab has proved to me that, despite the media, being a little larger than "perfect" models isn't a bad thing... fun is to be had whatever your size especially if you're confident ... and I'm taking full advantage of that where I can lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be perfectly honest, I think being on Fab has made me less confident (although I don't describe myself as someone lacking in that respect). So perhaps it has been a good "reality check" for me.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I've definitely changed. Was once a happy go lucky optimist and now I'm a jaded and bitter pessimist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab's helped me externalise, examine and chow out most of my sexual "issues" that have been rattling around my head for a fair few years now. I feel happier too for being here and having a regular sexual outlet... My mind's less bogged down with crap...

I've also stopped watching porn since joining and that's made a massive change to my libido... I'm more relaxed, I'm acquiring sexual patience (never was my forte)...

I'm also pandering less to peeps who just want a fuck for fucks sake (lol)... Was so bored of fucking for the sake of it.

People are funner on here than those I was randomly dealing with

Fab's also way more fun and less socially taxing than facebook imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bizarrely it killed my sex drive and that's confused me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've changed a lot. I'm happier. It didn't suprise me at all and still doesn't.

It's a yin/ yang thing. One side bitches, the other side bitches. Arguing all the time. No fun. "

Bishes be cray cray

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly opened my eyes up to the fact that monogamy may not be possible. There are also A LOT of married men who are suppressing bisexual tendencies.

Personally, it's made me focus on my good points, rather than the parts of myself that I want to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a lot better and I actually think I'm sexy now.

My sex lifes improved and I'm acted out a lot of fantasies.

Fabs got it's ups and downs but I've had a great time and met some amazing peeps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix bag for me.

My profile has been hidden as I need a break.

As someone above has said my confidance has grown massively as before I thought no one would want me. And that was very wrong.

However for me this place isn't healthy, I use it for the wrong reasons.

I'm still recovering from a marriage separation and I'm 100% not ever going to meet random men.

I have tried dating sites but find those a little soul destroying, least the men here are honest about their intentions.

So I come just to talk to guys who know my position.

This passes the time, and being retired at my age with so much time on my hands did help initially but now I think not.

Anyway sorry for the waffle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting, when I was a member before it took a long time to work out how it worked and how it worked for other people. You realise you can find where you fit in, still learning really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it can build my confidence, other times it can get knocked hard. Probably not the best place for the self conscious, but I think when it does make me feel good, it outweighs the bad a lot.

Personality wise, I've not changed at all. Still a bit of a cunt, but it seems to make people like what I say so why change?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"How much have you changed from your first week/month on fab, Your personality, Sexual interests or your approach to fab itself ?

Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here ?

Massively changed here .

We started off only meeting couples , now we meet men , women , TVs and couples .

We mainly used clubs , now we no longer go to clubs at all .

We didn't post on the forums , now we do .

The most surprising thing we've found is how many people frequent fab but never meet . And how social the whole scene has become .

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By *arnsleycouple7683Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Fab itself hasn't really changes us at all, probably because we haven't been on any meets.

Now going to clubs... that's a different matter. We're just generally happier people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely changed, we started off just looking for a single lady now we meet couples. Never used the forums at first but regularly on here now.

Surprised me how open about sex everyone is, I've had a lot of catching up to do. Some things have surprised me and I've felt a bit out of my depth occasionally. Confidence wise, I don't know as that changes daily. But I know now that I appeal to a lot more people than I ever thought I would. And finally I've made some great friends and have lots of fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a lot kinkier and a lot lonelier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive learnt not to take things so seriously - more so away from fab - im much more relaxed about stuff i used to stress over -

oh yes and im bisexual - i found that out as well

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I came out of a sexless marriage and stumbled on this scene shortly after. Over the last 7 or 8 years my sexual confidence has gone from zero to fearless. I was always socially confident before but now I'm far more confident interacting with ladies and actually much prefer their company to men now socially too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still new but hoping it's going to give me more confidence.

But can also see why it could knock your confidence to

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it's fair to say things have evolved organically since I first joined this site as part of our couples profile about 18 months ago and then setting up this solo profile about 10 months ago.

Whilst I'm still not the most confident person going, Fab has taught me that actually I'm not wholly unattractive and that in turn has given me a level of confidence about myself.

Sexually I've been able to explore my bisexuality and come to accept it fully, as well as exploring and experiencing many other things I probably wouldn't have done had we not signed up to Fab.

Yeah there are downsides too, and this place can get you down at times, but on the whole the positives outweigh the negatives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since first joining Fab, the way I've used the site has definitely changed.

Rather than being grateful for someone wanting to meet and have sex with me, I learnt that my happiness and satisfaction was just as important as theirs and I wasn't here just to fulfill their sexual needs.

Confidence hasn't changed at all it's always been low and constantly hearing on here comments like men are only interested in fat women because they're easy doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fair bit. And yes.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I have had a reality check on here once or twice. I suppose I approach things in the same way as I always have, I try to be pleasant, respectful, fair but I have a greater understanding of how things work and the pitfalls.

I'm a nice person and I intend to stay that way but there are those that can see that as a sign of weakness and try to take advantage. Overall though, it's been fun.

The good times have been amazing and I hope it will continue that way.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"How much have you changed from your first week/month on fab, Your personality, Sexual interests or your approach to fab itself ?

Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here ?

#Your personality# the same (no change)

#Sexual interests# I've had no meets so the same. (no change)

#your approach to fab itself # tried a fue different things and all seem to have failed. (normal life)

Now just on the forums.

#Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here# yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been here years ..... Things change as life change .. I do feel different as you live and learn .

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i'm less confident since being on fab also. when most of your compliments are sexual it's not even a compliment. although my amount of feeling shamed is still the same, like i am proud of myself and my body and don't really care of someone likes me or not.

faith in humanity gone down a fair amount also coz i didn't realise so many men talk shit just so they can penetrate your body, didn't realise so many attached guys cheat on their partner, didn't realise just how many men are fine with disrespecting sexual women, didn't realise how many users there are. but it's gone up too coz some people are decent and you can see that.

so i'm contradictory, as always. but yeah things have changed in some areas.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

When we first started out we were keen and excited, now we're a bit meh and cba.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first month to now...massive changes. Originally just soft swap now full on swap and some separate meets.

I can honestly say swinging has sexually liberated both of us in the best possible ways and my love & respect for hubby couldn't be more prevalent.

We do have loads of meets but we love every second when we do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no illusions about the human condition before I joined and I have not been disappointed. I was surprised to find so many self righteous people in what I expected to be a fairly liberal group. I have never seen a site with so many emotionally damaged people. Many of the posts have pretty much put me off sex. Other than that there are some pleasantly interesting people on here and it's all good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had no illusions about the human condition before I joined and I have not been disappointed. I was surprised to find so many self righteous people in what I expected to be a fairly liberal group. I have never seen a site with so many emotionally damaged people. Many of the posts have pretty much put me off sex. Other than that there are some pleasantly interesting people on here and it's all good.

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You have to take the good with the bad in life . No different to fab its a real mix and bit like pick and mix candy shop .

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I don't think it's changed me at all, if anything it's simply confirmed what i knew already about my tastes.

Have I been shocked? Oh yes, some of the things you read on here beggar belief!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about you OP?

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By *crumdiddlyumptious OP Man
over a year ago

"How much have you changed from your first week/month on fab, Your personality, Sexual interests or your approach to fab itself ?

Did it surprise you how Men/Women act on here ?

I haven't really changed since being on here, I've been single for a very long time and I wasn't expecting Women I would be interested in to be dropping their knickers because I sent them a few messages/pictures, I don't send as many messages as I used to send or post on as many threads, I've always been a people watcher and usually blend into the background and let other people do the talking,

I wouldn't say it was a surprise more of a eye opener, Not having many close female friends it was nice to see Women openly talking about their sexual interests, As for Men, Even though some have really athletic bodies 6ft plus frame and what I would class as being attractive looking or even huge cocks It did surprise me how so many actually struggle for meets on here,

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