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The forum clique part two

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass / not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so anyone can post/comment on the forums x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know

Don't know

Don't care, will just at continue being a moron.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm all out of faith, This is how I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no clique x

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's a nice thing to blame, when people disagree with you, or don't give you the attention you feel you deserve.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Yes there is one, no I'm not in it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a nice thing to blame, when people disagree with you, or don't give you the attention you feel you deserve."

I agree to an extent. But just because some people blame things on them just because they're not getting their own way doesn't mean it doesn't exist

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's a nice thing to blame, when people disagree with you, or don't give you the attention you feel you deserve.

I agree to an extent. But just because some people blame things on them just because they're not getting their own way doesn't mean it doesn't exist"

Ok, it doesn't exist, except in the mind of the viewer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is ...and no I'm not ...I prefer to stay elusive

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

A clique is something someone is purposely excluded from. Although there are people who clearly get on with each other and may post regularly in each other's threads etc, everyone can in fact comment in the forums so I would say there are no cliques. There are alliances and friendship groups but I wouldn't let it bother me

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By *icky-discoMan
over a year ago

oxford

Well I got some honest answers to my question so no I don't think so

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Yes there is one, no I'm not in it."

I used to be in the clique in the chatrooms though, also considered to be in a clique at clubs....but we talk to everyone pretty much.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"A clique is something someone is purposely excluded from. Although there are people who clearly get on with each other and may post regularly in each other's threads etc, everyone can in fact comment in the forums so I would say there are no cliques. There are alliances and friendship groups but I wouldn't let it bother me "

This completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still in the Welsh bird posse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no clique x"
something someone in a secret clique would say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A clique is something someone is purposely excluded from. Although there are people who clearly get on with each other and may post regularly in each other's threads etc, everyone can in fact comment in the forums so I would say there are no cliques. There are alliances and friendship groups but I wouldn't let it bother me

This completely "

That's a nonsense comment as it is an open forum. You've explained the very definition of freedom of speech. I'm sure there are groups who would close it off if they could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still wouldn't be in any clique that would have me....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm still in the Welsh bird posse "

Can I join? I mean I know I fail both of the only criteria for your posse, but it seems so nice

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I dont think there is I'm only a part time user

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Don't know

Don't know

Don't care, will just at continue being a moron. "

Only a moron? I'm a fully certified imbecile, so there

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Yes there is one, no I'm not in it.

I used to be in the clique in the chatrooms though, also considered to be in a clique at clubs....but we talk to everyone pretty much."

This talking to everyone business definite sign of a clique member

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Some people are more matey than they are with others, as per life.

That's all I think it is, however I didn't use to.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"A clique is something someone is purposely excluded from. Although there are people who clearly get on with each other and may post regularly in each other's threads etc, everyone can in fact comment in the forums so I would say there are no cliques. There are alliances and friendship groups but I wouldn't let it bother me

This completely

That's a nonsense comment as it is an open forum. You've explained the very definition of freedom of speech. I'm sure there are groups who would close it off if they could."

Ok if it's a nonsense comment in your opinion, I'm interested how you can be excluded on fab? Yes i suppose you may not get replied to on a thread but as I said in my original comment, I wouldn't let this bother me

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I still wouldn't be in any clique that would have me.... "

You're so consistent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and the voices in my head are a clique.... no we're not....yes we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?"

Yes.

No.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm me, I float around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?"

No idea and i also have to no idea, yes I have people that chat to more than others. But I don't see the fuss that you are trying to create.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

"

Disgraceful!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?

Yes.

No.

Maybe "

FTFY

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful! "

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a bit of a clique but it doesn't bother me

If I like the thread then il post a comment

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful! "

ButtNugget

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?

No idea and i also have to no idea, yes I have people that chat to more than others. But I don't see the fuss that you are trying to create. "

I dont make threads with the intent on making drama. I just ask questions, listen to people's opinions and give mine. If you don't like my opinion or the opinion of others then maybe the forums aren't for you

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle "

Jeremiah leaves his little clinkers all over the road show, he has no class for a posh boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still in the Welsh bird posse

Can I join? I mean I know I fail both of the only criteria for your posse, but it seems so nice "

It is nice, we're gonna meet up for a curry soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm still in the Welsh bird posse

Can I join? I mean I know I fail both of the only criteria for your posse, but it seems so nice

It is nice, we're gonna meet up for a curry soon. "

My favourite. I'm on my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle "

Just go and swoon over Swing some more will ya?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle

Jeremiah leaves his little clinkers all over the road show, he has no class for a posh boy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still in the Welsh bird posse

Can I join? I mean I know I fail both of the only criteria for your posse, but it seems so nice

It is nice, we're gonna meet up for a curry soon.

My favourite. I'm on my way "

I'd have to check with the other two members, it is kind of exclusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget "

Duchess of Dingleberry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm still in the Welsh bird posse

Can I join? I mean I know I fail both of the only criteria for your posse, but it seems so nice

It is nice, we're gonna meet up for a curry soon.

My favourite. I'm on my way

I'd have to check with the other two members, it is kind of exclusive "

Story of my life

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget

Duchess of Dingleberry "

When did you guys get married?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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THERE IS NO CLIQUE

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle

Just go and swoon over Swing some more will ya? "

Am I not in your clique any more? Is only swooning over you allowed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"THERE IS NO CLIQUE "

THERE IS ONLY ZULE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly hijacked by the clique

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle

Just go and swoon over Swing some more will ya?

Am I not in your clique any more? Is only fapping over you allowed? "

Yes.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Okay the clique are as follows.....

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By *litheroevoyeurMan
over a year ago

Clitheroe


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?"

Yes

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A forum clique on the least statically used part of fab...I just dunno how I could sleep at night knowing about this clique...are there cliques in every forum section?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yes there is, and no, I'm not in it

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

You kept leaving smells on threads, pot and kettle

Just go and swoon over Swing some more will ya?

Am I not in your clique any more? Is only fapping over you allowed?

Yes.

"

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I named my vagina "clique" wanna be in it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I named my vagina "clique" wanna be in it?"

Fancee L'fook?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I named my vagina "clique" wanna be in it?

Fancee L'fook? "

No. You aren't elite enough. Plus you have to be invited, it isn't a free for all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I named my vagina "clique" wanna be in it?

Fancee L'fook?

No. You aren't elite enough. Plus you have to be invited, it isn't a free for all "

Sorry I thought it was first come first served. Seems to be a common theme around here

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Okay the clique are as follows.....

"

Dan is waiting for this list, can you post before thread 3?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.

The butthurt has been strong in these threads.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

The clique membership list is open for all to see in the Platinum members forum. It's no big deal.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"The clique membership list is open for all to see in the Platinum members forum. It's no big deal."

I'm platinum Honey said so

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"The clique membership list is open for all to see in the Platinum members forum. It's no big deal.

I'm platinum Honey said so "

Better be nice, or she'll throw you out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a stuff about a clique but I did notice that it does take a while for people to talk to you when you first enter the Forums. There is definitely a Wolf Pack... is that the same as a Clique?

I'm a loner anyway so just go about my own business and try to have fun. I've never felt the need to be a sheep. If you like me and want to chat, great, if you don't, no sweat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell you what. The people in the clique are douches...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say there definitely is but personally couldn't give a rats ass happy to get my point across as and when necessary, irrespective of whether anyone responds

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I couldn't give a stuff about a clique but I did notice that it does take a while for people to talk to you when you first enter the Forums. There is definitely a Wolf Pack... is that the same as a Clique?

I'm a loner anyway so just go about my own business and try to have fun. I've never felt the need to be a sheep. If you like me and want to chat, great, if you don't, no sweat "

I think the clique are people who back each other up, overtly flirt, in-joke etc. That seems to annoy people.

Wolf pack seems to happen at random when some newbie says the wrong thing at the wrong time (full moon, Sarurday nights) and is turned on mercilessly by anybody who can type.

Your attitude will keep you safe and happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is a clique in the fab forums, and yes I am a member, along with every other poster.

Non fab members or unverified new members are excluded though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say there definitely is but personally couldn't give a rats ass happy to get my point across as and when necessary, irrespective of whether anyone responds "

Definitely the best way to be

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I think some folk are just a little bit up their own arses and think they are something special.

I couldn't give two shits myself and people on the other side of a screen really don't bother me too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there are cliques ...

I am in the " nerd with tats and desire to chock the shit out of you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again. Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. No. Maybe. These threads have been going on for as long as I've been here.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Yes. No. Maybe. These threads have been going on for as long as I've been here. "

So you're to blame?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. Dick.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Yes there is one, no I'm not in it.

I used to be in the clique in the chatrooms though, also considered to be in a clique at clubs....but we talk to everyone pretty much.

This talking to everyone business definite sign of a clique member "

Ignore you every chance.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?"

Absolutely there is one and it's usually the one's who are , are the one's who shout the loudest that there isn't.

Most will usually be frequenting threads sucking up to each other and ignoring everyone else.

Blehhhh make's me want to throw up in my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe. These threads have been going on for as long as I've been here. "

If I haven't seen it, it's new to me

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget

Duchess of Dingleberry

When did you guys get married? "

The day the poop clouds came overhead and dropped the heads of turtles and stray pubes upon us.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique?

Are you in it?

Absolutely there is one and it's usually the one's who are , are the one's who shout the loudest that there isn't.

Most will usually be frequenting threads sucking up to each other and ignoring everyone else.

Blehhhh make's me want to throw up in my mouth."

I have a spare bucket if you wanna share?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last one filled up, so here's the original question

Is there a clique? "

No.


"Are you in it?"

Yes.

Oh hang on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there is and no I'm not. Hurrrrray!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget

Duchess of Dingleberry

When did you guys get married?

The day the poop clouds came overhead and dropped the heads of turtles and stray pubes upon us."

I dont think I want poop clouds to come on me.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Haha. Dick. "

Will you stop calling me that, knob

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget

Duchess of Dingleberry

When did you guys get married?

The day the poop clouds came overhead and dropped the heads of turtles and stray pubes upon us.

I dont think I want poop clouds to come on me. "

You don't fancy being caught up in a shower of shit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wowsers part 2 already

I go round in my own little bubble so tend to post here and there so don't really notice to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Birmingham Social you say ..

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Has anyone else noticed that the clique has started their own clique thread, and left us all in this one?

Typical.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm me, I leave floaters around in my own little bubble. There are people I connect with more than others, there are also people I don't speak to as I don't particularly like the way they carry themselves in the forum. I'm sure people think the same of me

Disgraceful!

ButtNugget

Duchess of Dingleberry

When did you guys get married?

The day the poop clouds came overhead and dropped the heads of turtles and stray pubes upon us.

I dont think I want poop clouds to come on me.

You don't fancy being caught up in a shower of shit?"

I prefer a shit storm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anyone else noticed that the clique has started their own clique thread, and left us all in this one?

Typical. "

That damn clique

*shakes fist in the air

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"There is no clique x something someone in a secret clique would say "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some folk are just a little bit up their own arses and think they are something special.

I couldn't give two shits myself and people on the other side of a screen really don't bother me too much."

This... for sure.

From observation, groups of attention seekers, posting on threads created by other attention seekers. Not necessarily a clique per se, more of a forming of like minded individuals looking for affirmation.

I don't like cliques, that social phenomenon that gives people a sense of superior inclusion is not for me. I'm more likely to seek out individuals than groups. People are much more interesting than sheeple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My body cliques more and more the older I get.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

The clique doesn't interest me , I started my own one man clique ages ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good God, yes, a matriarchal one and absolutely not.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yes of course there is butI don't see why they need the clique , there are more than enough guys to go round, it is strange th at ladies will struggle with cock on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really couldn't care if there was a clique.

I'm past being at the school playgrounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From observation, groups of attention seekers, posting on threads created by other attention seekers. Not necessarily a clique per se, more of a forming of like minded individuals looking for affirmation.

I don't like cliques, that social phenomenon that gives people a sense of superior inclusion is not for me. I'm more likely to seek out individuals than groups. People are much more interesting than sheeple."

My god...

On my lordy lord...

If ever there was a post that hit the nail on the head...

This is it!!

I will add it is a matriarchal one just as another poster has mentioned. Combine that with clueless male followers and bingo! I was going to post in the previous thread because there were a few unfair comments made at some people, but it closed.

For those people who are put off by this please don't take it personally otherwise it will disrupt your good times.

This site is big enough for everyone and we can all have what we want. Make peace not war Fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really couldn't care if there was a clique.

I'm past being at the school playgrounds "

All this talk of cliques really does remind me of the school playground. It's pathetic and bloody childish.

Post what you want within the rules on here. Sometimes your post will be ignored and other times you'll get lots of replies.

There's no conspiracy behind it.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No idea

Doubt it

Couldn't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really couldn't care if there was a clique.

I'm past being at the school playgrounds

All this talk of cliques really does remind me of the school playground. It's pathetic and bloody childish.

Post what you want within the rules on here. Sometimes your post will be ignored and other times you'll get lots of replies.

There's no conspiracy behind it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere


"I really couldn't care if there was a clique.

I'm past being at the school playgrounds "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique."

Why not make a cunts clique then

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I wouldn't be part of a club that would have me as a member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique."

I have one, but personally, I'm not one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique.

Why not make a cunts clique then "

Sshhhhhh, there is one but don't tell everybody.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Is there a clique? Maybe there is and mabye there isn't.

From what we can see, there are regular people who post in the forums and also reply to posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique.

Why not make a cunts clique then

Sshhhhhh, there is one but don't tell everybody."

I want to be in that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique.

Why not make a cunts clique then

Sshhhhhh, there is one but don't tell everybody.

I want to be in that one "

Hello stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else noticed that the clique has started their own clique thread, and left us all in this one?

Typical.

That damn clique

*shakes fist in the air"

Ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all cunts so I guess I'm not in the Clique.

Why not make a cunts clique then

Sshhhhhh, there is one but don't tell everybody.

I want to be in that one

Hello stranger "

I'm not strange at all

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

In a recent thread someone stated they rejoined the site, or changed their user name, and when they posted in the forum they got lynched (or some other word) so they went back to their previous username and were treated differently, as people knew them.

Maybe it's not a clique (as some are so against the word) but when they get friendly with one another they're less likely to argue with each other or give shit to them based on the comments/ threads they post.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I guess we all have different gifts, some people make very difficult things look easy, if you find it difficult to catch young hot guys as a lady and you notice that another lady who you believe you are more beautiful than is catching them with ease then maybe you need to be in her clique so you can enjoy her talent, thats all it is.

Guys were nicer to me when they noticed the ladies just love me

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester


"I guess we all have different gifts, some people make very difficult things look easy, if you find it difficult to catch young hot guys as a lady and you notice that another lady who you believe you are more beautiful than is catching them with ease then maybe you need to be in her clique so you can enjoy her talent, thats all it is.

Guys were nicer to me when they noticed the ladies just love me "

Hmm...think I'd rather be me. I see the way some people are on this site and find them more irritating than people I want to associate with, even if they are drawing the attention of the men. But each to their own.

Second time around it made a lot more sense, by the way

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

This is the strength of gifts, doing things naturally without effort, if you notice new people are comfortable with you and drawn to you when they meet you for the first time then maybe you should be a party organizer , the strange thing is when you start shinning , all the haters immediately pop up lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

No there isn't.

No I'm not.

I think some people confuse a bunch of people, who know each other, post a lot on the forums and may even have met, as a clique

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"You are definitely in a clique"

Who is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any group of people that know each other can seem like a clique.. however I have seen it on here where the regulars will sometimes treat someone different to how they would someone they knew.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Its a good group and I like the comments. I also like the support network

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Hang on we haven't finished gossiping about part one yet

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

There is nothing wrong with cliques, I know how to work them so I know just by observing ladies that most ladies compete subconsciously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waves hand

Hullo

I am in the nerd with tats and red head clique

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Any group of people that know each other can seem like a clique.. however I have seen it on here where the regulars will sometimes treat someone different to how they would someone they knew.

"

That's human nature. I wouldn't sit all night listening to a random person crying their heart out over something. I wouldn't lend them money either.

But for my close friends I would,

Nothing cliquey about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can there be a clique of conspiracy theorists who believe there is a clique?

And if it exists is it no longer a conspiracy theory?

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I'm not sure about a forum clique, i've certainly got a shoulder click....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any group of people that know each other can seem like a clique.. however I have seen it on here where the regulars will sometimes treat someone different to how they would someone they knew.

That's human nature. I wouldn't sit all night listening to a random person crying their heart out over something. I wouldn't lend them money either.

But for my close friends I would,

Nothing cliquey about that."
that's why I said can appear to be a clique... As anyone on the outside of a group of friends can feel that way

But I snuck back on 2 years ago and didn't let on it was me. And I answered forum posts same as I would normally yet had a few regulars year strips of some of my replies.... however once I made it obvious it was me.. it stopped and I even had an apology... saying sorry didn't realise it was you...

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I think some folk are just a little bit up their own arses and think they are something special.

I couldn't give two shits myself and people on the other side of a screen really don't bother me too much.

This... for sure.

From observation, groups of attention seekers, posting on threads created by other attention seekers. Not necessarily a clique per se, more of a forming of like minded individuals looking for affirmation.

I don't like cliques, that social phenomenon that gives people a sense of superior inclusion is not for me. I'm more likely to seek out individuals than groups. People are much more interesting than sheeple."

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't mind them although I will not join any because I believe I am strong on my own, although I like it when I go to parties and see the ladies wearing the same colours, but I guess non members who don't know how to work the group might feel jealous lol

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Any group of people that know each other can seem like a clique.. however I have seen it on here where the regulars will sometimes treat someone different to how they would someone they knew.

That's human nature. I wouldn't sit all night listening to a random person crying their heart out over something. I wouldn't lend them money either.

But for my close friends I would,

Nothing cliquey about that. that's why I said can appear to be a clique... As anyone on the outside of a group of friends can feel that way

But I snuck back on 2 years ago and didn't let on it was me. And I answered forum posts same as I would normally yet had a few regulars year strips of some of my replies.... however once I made it obvious it was me.. it stopped and I even had an apology... saying sorry didn't realise it was you... "

Clique or not this speaks volumes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So there has been a fair few people say there isn't a clique and probably an equal number say there is one

What I did notice was that the people saying there wasn't a clique are forum regulars, and the people saying there was one was people who I don't recognise in the forums. This isn't an absolute, there were a obviously a few exceptions to the rule. If anyone would like to prove that wrong then please feel free, I'm happy to hear both sides of the arguement.

I have noticed though, and I was speaking to another forumite about this and they agreed, if a forum regular started a thread and said "I'm finding it hard getting someone to meet me" they would be given advice, sympathy and probably even offers. But if someone who isn't a forum regular said the EXACT same thing, they would get slated but they would stay within the forum rules so they don't get banned (this isn't a go at the mods, I'm well aware they don't set the rules and standards).

What I did find interesting is the private messages I got from people saying there was a clique but they didn't want to say anything in the thread because they didn't want to ruin their chances at meeting people and I found it interesting because why would people act like that if this "clique" didn't exist?

as I said, I'm always happy to hear other people's opinion on any matter. I'm not the kind of person that will ask for an opinion and then get butt hurt if it's not an opinion I like. I know I've been blocked by a few people in the forums simply because I speak my mind and that's not going to change, and I wouldn't expect anyone to sugar coat their feelings because they don't want to hurt mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums are always going to be full of people who know another. People who have posted for a long time and who are established will get more replies to threads. I don't see a clique, but I do see groups of friends. One group of friends, you yourself are in, OP.

Personally, if someone was asking for advice, I'd give it. Forum regular or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This again? Haha.

I think it boils down to people communicating with like minded people. I don't think it's a clique mentality. That word makes me think of exclusion. It's a lot better thanit was years ago. More people comment now. New faces appear. Which is great . I personally don't see a clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say there are a lot of people that act like they own the forums.They are easily spotted as they live on the forums 24/7 and I think that deludes them into thinking they can blank others and try to push people out with there obnoxious ways.Im not sure they work together as a clique but there's certainly a fair few on here that make other members feel very unwelcome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forums are always going to be full of people who know another. People who have posted for a long time and who are established will get more replies to threads. I don't see a clique, but I do see groups of friends. One group of friends, you yourself are in, OP.

Personally, if someone was asking for advice, I'd give it. Forum regular or not.

"

I can probably count on one hand the amount of actual friends I have on the forums, yourself included. There is a few more I can have a laugh and a joke with and have a bit of banter with. But that's about it. I can honestly say I'd just be as honest with my friends as I would a stranger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say there are a lot of people that act like they own the forums.They are easily spotted as they live on the forums 24/7 and I think that deludes them into thinking they can blank others and try to push people out with there obnoxious ways.Im not sure they work together as a clique but there's certainly a fair few on here that make other members feel very unwelcome."

I agree completely

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

No I don't believe there's a clique

People with similar taste personalities will gravitate towards each other it's human nature to

I honestly think the whole "you're just part of the clique" accusations are merely just insecure people spitting out their dummies because the majority have dared to disagree with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't believe there's a clique

People with similar taste personalities will gravitate towards each other it's human nature to

I honestly think the whole "you're just part of the clique" accusations are merely just insecure people spitting out their dummies because the majority have dared to disagree with them

"

I said in the part one thread that I agree to this to an extent. I think a fair few people have got turned down, insulted or rejected and have blamed a clique just because they can

It's very similar to when a man and a woman are disagreeing with a subject here, if another man agrees with the woman he's suddenly a white knight

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Sometimes my knees click when I run. Does this count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think some folk are just a little bit up their own arses and think they are something special.

I couldn't give two shits myself and people on the other side of a screen really don't bother me too much.

This... for sure.

From observation, groups of attention seekers, posting on threads created by other attention seekers. Not necessarily a clique per se, more of a forming of like minded individuals looking for affirmation.

I don't like cliques, that social phenomenon that gives people a sense of superior inclusion is not for me. I'm more likely to seek out individuals than groups. People are much more interesting than sheeple."

Agree with both of u

Amusing that those claiming there is not are exactly the type u describe.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I don't get quoted enough to be in a clique #you know who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get quoted enough to be in a clique #you know who you are "

Welcome to the club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the wingers who moan about a supposed clique ask yourself this.....

Do you reply to every thread do you reply to every post made by someone whose user name you not overly familiar with or whose contribution doesn't capture you interest ....

It'll tell you the answer ......

It no you don't ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes my knees click when I run. Does this count? "

Could gentle rub a bit of salve in to them if you like?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I have noticed though, and I was speaking to another forumite about this and they agreed, if a forum regular started a thread and said "I'm finding it hard getting someone to meet me" they would be given advice, sympathy and probably even offers. But if someone who isn't a forum regular said the EXACT same thing, they would get slated but they would stay within the forum rules so they don't get banned (this isn't a go at the mods, I'm well aware they don't set the rules and standards). "

I'm not too sure I agree with this fully. I think occasionally, yes, a newcomer will find it more difficult. What I have found is that the tone of the OP and where it's posted can affect the responses given. I've seen numerous times the consistency of posters when given advice whether to a more established poster or a newbie. I can quite easily list more than twenty posters who do so.

I also find that the profile itself affects the responses given to those sorts of threads - the newbies who have a poorly written, sparse profile tend to be in for a bit of a rough ride. Not saying I agree with it but saying it's as simple as newbie vs regular is reductive with a healthy dosage of confirmation bias thrown in.


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What I did find interesting is the private messages I got from people saying there was a clique but they didn't want to say anything in the thread because they didn't want to ruin their chances at meeting people and I found it interesting because why would people act like that if this "clique" didn't exist?

"

A perception based on a couple of incidents of confirmation bias can be a strong one indeed. What I find most interesting is those who have been on the longest and post and interact with all types of threads and posters type there is no clique. I've only been on for five years but in that time I've seen the friendship groups change frequently (that doesn't really lend itself to the definition of a clique), the accusations of a clique by those who perceive themselves to be different or outsiders often pop up, these types of threads frequently started.

I think the definition of clique by some based on their posts would suggest that everyone should post and interact with everyone. It's not a utopian society, it's a forum. Clique is often used as an insult when butthurt or feeling left out. People will respond to those who they are naturally more in sync with and will ignore shoddily crafted OPs, rightly or wrongly. Everyone has experienced a post not being responded to.

(Early stream of consciousness when reading a summation of sorts ftw!).

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By *typical guyMan
over a year ago

wigan


"

People with similar taste personalities will gravitate towards each other it's human nature to

"

Quite true, however when people "gravitate towards each other" this is the forming of a clique. The trouble is that people associate the word clique with negativity because it is used as an insult and usually by those feeling left out and bitter.

Cliques exist everywhere, usually totally innocent and benign, from a group of blokes that meet in the pub to talk football, women that go on girls nights out together, pensioners that go to bingo together etc. All are exclusive to some extent and neither group would particularly want the other joining in unless they fitted into the group in some way. It`s not a bad thing and to answer the op`s question. - Yes, there are lots of cliques here, just as there is in pubs, playgrounds, workplaces and every other forum on the internet. It is people with some sort of connection or shared interest and to deny it is misguided. A clique is a group of people that have "cliqued"(clicked) together.

The problem begins when people begin to see cliques as either some sort of conspiracy against them or a badge of honour where joining makes them superior. For the moaners it is an easy excuse or sympathy plea, but on the opposite side there are people with delusions of grandeur and also those so desperate to be one of the cool kids that they take any opportunity to belittle and criticize those that don't fit in. One beast pokes the other, in equal measures.

I have seen examples of both the "moaners" and the "cool kids"/wannabes here (although chat can be far worse)and it is accentuated due to the nature of this site.

People are very (understandably) cautious of "strangers" here due to fakes, idiots, etc, and every little thing you do (esp in the forum) is scrutinized with a fine tooth comb and you are judged upon it. Not always fairly but people can only go off what they are given by how you portray yourself so que sera sera I guess. What isn`t right is when these cliques form their own little gang and try to dominate the forum, becoming judge and jury over all that dare enter. Thankfully most people here are pleasant and polite (though for some it is obviously a pretense) however there is no smoke without fire and people are obviously wary of it if they have been messaging the op because they are hesitant to speak their mind here. It is also obvious in the replys in this forum and how contrived they are. Everyone is too worried about the wolves and/or keeping up appearances to actually be themselves. As a result the forum is just the same old posters, topics and egos over and over leading to a more insular and cliquish environment. For example, didn't someone get hung, drawn and quartered for starting a thread that someone else usually starts just the other day?

Anyway, what it boils down to is the moaners just need to get over it really. Find the people that do want to talk to you and that you can clique with and stop stressing about the ones you don`t. The cliques do exist but that is not the problem. The problem is why does it matter so much to you that cant join? If you are desperate for a meet this isn`t the place for you, same if you have rejection issues or insecurities.

Everyone else just needs to stop denying that there are cliques and most importantly be yourself and play nice. If you can`t be nice, at least try not to be a cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe. These threads have been going on for as long as I've been here.

If I haven't seen it, it's new to me"

There was a 'thread of legend' that some might remember, (it's been mentioned a few times) that supposedly named the clique (like it's the mafia??).

So yes, I've seen a few threads trying to out them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get quoted enough to be in a clique #you know who you are "

Who, who, just for academic reasons of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get quoted enough to be in a clique #you know who you are "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there is.

No I'm not in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say there are a lot of people that act like they own the forums.They are easily spotted as they live on the forums 24/7 and I think that deludes them into thinking they can blank others and try to push people out with there obnoxious ways.Im not sure they work together as a clique but there's certainly a fair few on here that make other members feel very unwelcome."

I avoid most threads so I think I just don't see a lot of cliquish behaviour.

There's groups of friends. Same as anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe. These threads have been going on for as long as I've been here.

If I haven't seen it, it's new to me

There was a 'thread of legend' that some might remember, (it's been mentioned a few times) that supposedly named the clique (like it's the mafia??).

So yes, I've seen a few threads trying to out them.

"

I was named twice on that thread. It was weird cos I didn't even know most of the people they named.

If I am in the clique why do I never get invited to anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if there's a clique as such and don't really care. . .

There's bound to be people who get on better when there's a big group of people like on fab, so they will always comment and joke with each other in certain threads.same as in real life, Only difference is fab is public so anyone can join in the conversations but doesn't mean everyone will feel involved in said conversation because those who know each other are bound to have private jokes etc

I don't think I've explained that very well but I know what I mean (I've only just woken up )

Anyway I post wherever I want so if there is a clique I'm oblivious to it and happy in my pink fluffy fab world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well every time I come back to the forums it seems to be a whole new group of folks doing the vast majority of the posting and inside jokes so if there is a clique it has a bloody high turnover... either that or they have done that old fashioned pastime of "making friends" outside of the forums *shudder

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"So yes, I've seen a few threads trying to out them.

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Its all getting a bit 'conspiracy theory' now.

Like timewasters, there seems to be a huge number of meanings as to what or who the clique actually is. On the thread a couple of weeks ago it seemed to be defined as people who chatted together, whether or not they exclude others. before it was always people who came to the rescue of their mates on forum posts, whether or not they agreed with them. The thread yesterday described feeling jealousy/envy where someone had used their position of responsibility to invite others to an event while leaving less desirable people waiting.

I've ben on Fab since 2010, and there have been groups of people who get together and enjoy banter on the forums, but that happens in real life too. Are we expected to behave any differently here? Do we have to ask permission to enjoy some people's company more than others? And, seeing as I have some experience in this: if you're not proactive on the forums, why should others be blamed for not including you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And, seeing as I have some experience in this: if you're not proactive on the forums, why should others be blamed for not including you? "

Yes! So much this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bunch of clique pricks

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Sorry peeps but if your name is not down then you're not coming in lol

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I've only joined Fab this year and started using the forum mid Feb. I had a look around I noticed some posted more frequently and interacted with others. This was synonymous with friendships, I concluded these were due to regular interaction or they had met. Now this is a forum therefore interaction is how it survives. I like interaction and if that includes humour then I'm in heaven. I found the forum incredibly amusing so decided I'd start posting. As there have been many references to the school playground I'll stay with that. I was at a new school and didn't know anyone. I was also invisible something that is understandably deemed suspicious. I wanted to be interactive and clearly to do that you have to post. If you post rarely then interaction is going to be limited because you don't know personalities and they don't know yours. So I could respond to something in all innocence and this could be misinterpreted. So I decided I'd make an effort and post regularly for a while and hopefully that would be enough for me to get to know ppl and be able to interact. That's what I did, ppl were suspicious rightly so but I was never set upon by a "clique" or anyone. I don't even recall being ignored. I'm not exactly confrontational I'm more about kissing to the ground although I like a bit of mischief. As with any social environment if someone comes along and starts stirring up a hornets nest they are going to get stung. Again that isn't a clique it's human nature, new things/ppl are treated with suspicion we don't like change. I started to make friends which is what I do wherever I am because I like ppl. I sent pms relating to posts on the forum to males and females, but not to try and meet, just because they'd made me smile or I wanted to offer support. My mostly happy and mushy posts don't suit everyone and my LPP is annoying I'm sure. I've also been blocked by some and that is their right as is mine. I've made several mistakes on the forum and I tend to hold my hand up and apologise. I've seen how grievances and misunderstandings can make the forum toxic at times. I love the forum and all the personalities but I don't interact with everyone. That's not because I'm in a clique but because I don't read every post on every thread or I may have nothing to say. That's why I created the lounge chat so I and others could say things without it being topic related. It was also an opportunity to interact with different folk and get to know them. I will interact with anyone on the forum or via pm as long as they respect what I have said on my profile. It is friendships that keep the forum alive without them there wouldn't be interaction. Friendships aren't for everyone and some may find it more difficult than others but that's the same with everything in life. You tend to get out what you put in , I interact and have fun and I intend continuing to doing so. Long live the friendships and the forum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"And, seeing as I have some experience in this: if you're not proactive on the forums, why should others be blamed for not including you?

Yes! So much this. "

I would also like to point out that the OP has already admitted that he has been invited to the Birmingham social, and the Manchester social was actually started so MrBee could attend a social.

There's a sense of entitlement on this site which is getting hard to stomach.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses "

Meaning what?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses "

The Government seems to manage it. As do I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses

Meaning what?"

Clique members again on the defensive??

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Sorry peeps but if your name is not down then you're not coming in lol"

And if your name received the black ball, your forum posts will be ignored.............

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses

The Government seems to manage it. As do I. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses

Meaning what?

Clique members again on the defensive?? "

Oh, am I in a/the clique?

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts


"Sorry peeps but if your name is not down then you're not coming in lol

And if your name received the black ball, your forum posts will be ignored............. "

Exsqueeze me? Who said that?

Oh it's the man that's talking to himself in a forum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first post on the forums was to ask for profile advice.

I knew I'd get some nasty responses because I'd seen how other people had been treated when asking the same thing.

It was mainly women who were nasty but not once did I ever think there was a clique.

People have to get to know someone when they first start posting on the forums, I just kept posting on different threads, I was ignored at times and had replies at times too.

I've noticed some people think there's a clique if they aren't fawned over every time they post.

They need to get over themselves.

Oh, and I was named in the Clique, it was done by a sad twat of a man who just named people who posted regularly on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a clique of people needing there to be a clique to justify their butt-hurt.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Oh the irony a thread about cliques herding people into groups of opinions.

I only recently started using the forums despite being here years. Im here for the humour and to talk bollocks......

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Such a clique of people needing there to be a clique to justify their butt-hurt. "

You and words.

Oh poo. I guess if I post this we're in a clique together. Meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Such a clique of people needing there to be a clique to justify their butt-hurt.

You and words.

Oh poo. I guess if I post this we're in a clique together. Meh. "

I'm fine with that. I only want intelligent people in my clique, I'll get bored otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on the forum just about 4 years. The strong friendship groups have ebbed and flowed on here. Those I wanted to interact with I was able to, others I couldn't be bothered. Groups that have developed strong bonds socially are often more difficult to communicate with because of shared, jokes, experiences and above all some people really liking each other. The Fab forum can be intimidating at times. I think the software doesn't help as posts can't be liked easily without posting and quoting is cumbersome too, so naturally people can feel ignored.

Sometimes conversations between regulars move so fast it can seem impenetrable too.

Regulars and friendship groups are easy to name but whether they could be considered exclusive cliques is debatable in my mind.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


""Almost two threads big.

Regardless of what you'd like to think you can't ignore the masses

Meaning what?"

Clique members again on the defensive??"

But everyone is in a clique, depending on your point of view.

The OP is posting about a certain group of people he had a problem with, but there are many, many such groups on here, and it seems those who feel left out have to grind an ax or two when they feel snubbed.

I can't take complaints of being left out seriously when they are from people who are indulged on here regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to believe in any "organised" clique.

But I am guilty of reading between the lines of posters who are regulars on here, I have the knowledge of their posting style. An insight into their humour etc. Which will allow me to see more in their post than a new user can see.

I don't read every thread, if it's not on my screen when I open the forum I rarely scroll down. And if I recognise the last poster or thread starter, then I will possibly open and read that thread, even if it is a title that I would normally skip over.

So my personal view is that perceptions of a clique are highly exaggerated. And like any group, you need to join in with others conversations and get slightly known, not walk in and demand that everyone who doesnt greet you enthusiastically are an impenetrable clique deliberatly keeping you out.

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