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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Dip your wick in pastures new

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

Don't resort to the internet

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By *0shades 2000Man
over a year ago

coleraine


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this "

Get out there with the lads have a few pints a bit of banter and chat up some random woman that takes your fancy... you don't even need to pull her it's just to give you that nudge to move on shit happens in life but you get through it

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Go out, see friends, travel, do something you've always wanted to do, etc, etc.

But if you're poor, just make sure you go outside and see friends.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this "

Get a tub of Haagan Daaz

Put on a weepy chick flick

Have a bottle of lambrini (or 5)

Have a cry

Move on to vodka

Put some Abba on

Have another cry

Wallow in self pity for 7 days (it's allowed)

Write at least 5 texts/messages/emails to them that will embarrass you in your emotional outpouring (it's allowed)

Have them send you a "WTF you on about?" reply (that's standard) and then they will block you on every bit of social media going....

BUT

In time you will start to feel better. It will take time. Distract yourself. Be kind to yourself and look after you.

Chin up lovely. X

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this

Get a tub of Haagan Daaz

Put on a weepy chick flick

Have a bottle of lambrini (or 5)

Have a cry

Move on to vodka

Put some Abba on

Have another cry

Wallow in self pity for 7 days (it's allowed)

Write at least 5 texts/messages/emails to them that will embarrass you in your emotional outpouring (it's allowed)

Have them send you a "WTF you on about?" reply (that's standard) and then they will block you on every bit of social media going....

BUT

In time you will start to feel better. It will take time. Distract yourself. Be kind to yourself and look after you.

Chin up lovely. X"

Sound advice almost as good as mine

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thank you for your words of wisdom there really is some lovely people out there like you guys for instance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best way to get over an old lover is to get under a new one.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Have s bloody good flirt on here even if you aren't ready to meet (plenty of girls love a good laugh and banter)

Will boost your self esteem and gets those toes dipped in just a lil bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to keep busy, go out even if just for a walk. Put away any items that remind you of the person. Don't try to contact them, don't torture yourself keep thinking about them.

If all else fails buy a darts board and stick their picture on it, my former FWB cock picture is getting very holey! XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on a bus ride around town. Talk to some old people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this "

U already joined fab, and u started to post on fab, so u should be alright. We will take care of u...

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thank you I will try that its just a chat I need really before anything serious it just seems a struggle to meet someone new not because I'm not ready its because I've barely spoken to another woman in the 6 years I was with my (now ex)

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By *aturelover2016Man
over a year ago

London


"Go on a bus ride around town. Talk to some old people. "

I tried that but kept getting arrested !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

there isn't an easy way.

Face it, work through the bad feelings, allow yourself to grieve for what you've lost then pick up the pieces and get on with life knowing you're properly healed and haven't buried any issues in beer and casual sex.

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thank you for me the hardest part is being alone after getting used to being with someone its strange to be single if that makes sense.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thank you for me the hardest part is being alone after getting used to being with someone its strange to be single if that makes sense."

it makes absolute sense. Being alone can be tough. Do you have friends or family you can lean on?

I think its very true that lots of people have plenty of people they can do something with but nobody to do nothing with.

Nothing endures, things always move on.

Here's to better times!

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Get out and about, even when you do not want to, your relationships do not define you!

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thanks everyone u are all very kind and helpful

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I always put my feels into a song or poem or something or even just write about it. Helps me.

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

I do that when I'm on my travels sometimes in my head make up lyrical genuises haha

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Thank you I will try that its just a chat I need really before anything serious it just seems a struggle to meet someone new not because I'm not ready its because I've barely spoken to another woman in the 6 years I was with my (now ex) "

We'll break you in

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Oh and hugs, it won't always hurt this much

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this

Get a tub of Haagan Daaz

Put on a weepy chick flick

Have a bottle of lambrini (or 5)

Have a cry

Move on to vodka

Put some Abba on

Have another cry

Wallow in self pity for 7 days (it's allowed)

Write at least 5 texts/messages/emails to them that will embarrass you in your emotional outpouring (it's allowed)

Have them send you a "WTF you on about?" reply (that's standard) and then they will block you on every bit of social media going....

BUT

In time you will start to feel better. It will take time. Distract yourself. Be kind to yourself and look after you.

Chin up lovely. X"

Lol made me fucking laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be kind to yourself, yes it's going to hurt for a while but it does get better. Get out and talk to friends, not about her just the inane things in life. Don't lock yourself away all the time, there will be days you need to do go with it. But lean on friends and the good days will happen more often x

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thanks everyone for the positive suggestions I promise to take them all on board and try to get through this with the help of u truly fantastic and lovely fabbers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this "

Beer.

You're welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of a long term relationship and feel empty inside/heartbroken. Scared of being lonely what's the easiest way of dealing with this

Get out there with the lads have a few pints a bit of banter and chat up some random woman that takes your fancy... you don't even need to pull her it's just to give you that nudge to move on shit happens in life but you get through it "

This

Just enjoy yourself. A good night out will do you the world of good. Life is far too short. Good luck OP. Hope everything works out for you

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

Thank u X.

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By *eavens stairwayWoman
over a year ago

you never know


"Thank u X."
you will get over it takes time

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By *ibzz OP   Man
over a year ago

dundee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dip your wick in pastures new "

Worst advice possible. Do not listen to this advice, its a short term solution at best. In fact, don't take anyone's advice off strangers. Your friend and family are best suited to know how your feeling and can/will get you through something like this.

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