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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

I want to feel wanted. With a passion and a need that won't be quenched until they have fucked me many, many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely, otherwise I just wouldn't enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should hope they do if we're having sex. I know for me there has to be an attraction x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.

I want to feel wanted. With a passion and a need that won't be quenched until they have fucked me many, many times. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, otherwise there would no passion, feeling or tenderness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely have to feel some chemistry, for me it's as much about physical as it is a mental connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Has to be a click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I should hope they do if we're having sex. I know for me there has to be an attraction x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I want to be desired. I always make sure they know I fancy them back too. Makes for a more electric meet. I couldn't have sex with someone if we didn't fancy each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely, otherwise I just wouldn't enjoy it!"

How would you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't imagine it being much fun if both people aren't into each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy? "

Well, this is the big question, right!? How do you know if they're being genuine!? For me, I take my time with someone, I don't generally meet straight away. I try and trust my gut.

I remember my old FWB's eyes lit up the first time I opened the door. That was a nice feeling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy? "

That's the bit where you get to know each other and build the tension, before a meet. If you only exchange a few messages before a meet, that's a red flag to me and tends to make me back off from the next step .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

Well, this is the big question, right!? How do you know if they're being genuine!? For me, I take my time with someone, I don't generally meet straight away. I try and trust my gut.

I remember my old FWB's eyes lit up the first time I opened the door. That was a nice feeling! "

So you know when you meet them, you can see it?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes of course.

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke

Yes absolutely! This is massive reason I could never pay for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy? "

They have to show you. You can tell by the look in their eyes.

If they mention other women, cool off after a meet, ignore you, block you, leave the Country, then save to say they were flanneling you.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Most definitely, I am extremely choosy about who I get naked with and would hope my partner was the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, absolutely, otherwise, in a couple especially you're just taking one for the team!

If we're looking individually I need that spark, connection and to feel wanted, I may be accused of being fussy but damn right I am!

You have to get that fire burning in me if you want me!

Peach x

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes. There has to be some kind of attraction and mutual chemistry between us all for sex to take place.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Some people are too needy. Like you have to reply and blow smoke up their arse instantly and constantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

Well, this is the big question, right!? How do you know if they're being genuine!? For me, I take my time with someone, I don't generally meet straight away. I try and trust my gut.

I remember my old FWB's eyes lit up the first time I opened the door. That was a nice feeling!

So you know when you meet them, you can see it? "

I could with him. I think most people are easy to read and they give off the tell tale signs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

That's the bit where you get to know each other and build the tension, before a meet. If you only exchange a few messages before a meet, that's a red flag to me and tends to make me back off from the next step . "

So can you tell just by texting that he fancies you?

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By *anillastickMan
over a year ago

Sutton


" That's the bit where you get to know each other and build the tension, before a meet. If you only exchange a few messages before a meet, that's a red flag to me and tends to make me back off from the next step . "

Definitely a fan of the build up. It makes the actual meet so much more exciting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes absolutely! This is massive reason I could never pay for sex"

absolutely, I've said exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eyes go softer when they look at you. Mind you, if they wear glasses that look is easily confused, it's because they can't see you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

That's the bit where you get to know each other and build the tension, before a meet. If you only exchange a few messages before a meet, that's a red flag to me and tends to make me back off from the next step .

So can you tell just by texting that he fancies you?

"

It's just a stepping stone. It gives a good indication. You never properly know until you actually meet in the flesh, if the chemistry is truly there .

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

To enjoy great sex yes. You both have to have that wanting of each other.

To just have average sex then you just have to fancy them and feel horny. Sounds bad but it's true.

The secound option will never be great, that's why we search for connections even though we ask for NSA encounters a lot on here.

It's also why I believe making love is greater than fantastic sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely, otherwise, in a couple especially you're just taking one for the team!

If we're looking individually I need that spark, connection and to feel wanted, I may be accused of being fussy but damn right I am!

You have to get that fire burning in me if you want me!

Peach x"

Can I poke your fire?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, absolutely, otherwise, in a couple especially you're just taking one for the team!

If we're looking individually I need that spark, connection and to feel wanted, I may be accused of being fussy but damn right I am!

You have to get that fire burning in me if you want me!

Peach x

Can I poke your fire? "

You better do...you started it in the first place

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course, there wouldn't be any chemistry if you didn't fancy each other. I'd rather have a wank if they didn't fancy me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy? "

I take most written compliments with a pinch of salt. I think actions prove if they fancy you or not.

The last guy I met fancied me, a lot, you can just tell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them. "

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

I take most written compliments with a pinch of salt. I think actions prove if they fancy you or not.

The last guy I met fancied me, a lot, you can just tell. "

Why did you meet them in the first place? If you take text with a pinch of salt?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of course, there wouldn't be any chemistry if you didn't fancy each other. I'd rather have a wank if they didn't fancy me "

How do you know they fancy you though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you? "

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I just wanna empty my sack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I dont play 121 its about different things for me but I won't meet people I think are out of my league. As I think they are just seeing me as an easy lay

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

That's the bit where you get to know each other and build the tension, before a meet. If you only exchange a few messages before a meet, that's a red flag to me and tends to make me back off from the next step .

So can you tell just by texting that he fancies you?

"

I don't think you can know until you meet the person in the flesh, that's when you feel the attraction and chemistry...or not!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

For initial contact it's a must really.

The attraction will lead to the next stage of play or not as the case may be.

Well that's how it works for us.

Morning Mr B

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Words come cheap. It's easy to say to someone that you find them attractive but I think it's something you feel when you meet and you can feel it in how you are together. If there wasn't an attraction then there wouldn't be sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apart from the obvious desire.. The next important bit is the kiss.

The kiss that you get pulled in closer for, that starts engines purring.

Not the wet washing machine limpet.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Cracking thread misterbee. Got people thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I just wanna empty my sack."

You see, this doesn't work

Maybe for some but if you were the fittest hottie around saying this would stop me from even trying to flirt to see if there's a mutual attraction!

Peach x

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"Words come cheap. It's easy to say to someone that you find them attractive but I think it's something you feel when you meet and you can feel it in how you are together. If there wasn't an attraction then there wouldn't be sex. "

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle.. "

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nah, I just wanna empty my sack."

Haha.

If that's a true statement, it's an honest one. Isn't that just like wanking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all "

I see what you mean. Certainly not my mentality, I need to be attracted to said person if I'm going to sleep with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all "

The majority of us don't think that. Giving men some credit, I think they can be just as fussy...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Absofuckinglutely Mr B

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

I see what you mean. Certainly not my mentality, I need to be attracted to said person if I'm going to sleep with them. "

But you saw my point above as well. 'Most of us need to feel Attractive to that person also'. It just, at what point are you sure they mean it when they say, your handsome/beautiful?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absofuckinglutely Mr B "

Your gorgeous. Do you believe me or do I have to meet you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

I see what you mean. Certainly not my mentality, I need to be attracted to said person if I'm going to sleep with them.

But you saw my point above as well. 'Most of us need to feel Attractive to that person also'. It just, at what point are you sure they mean it when they say, your handsome/beautiful? "

I'm not sure but to be honest if I fancied them and they just wanted my dick then everyone's a winner right? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

The majority of us don't think that. Giving men some credit, I think they can be just as fussy... "

Subjectively fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they have to fancy you!...otherwise it's just like sleeping with the wife!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy? "

The way he looks at me while stroking my face and the kiss that follows. It's like we're the only two people in the world

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Cracking thread misterbee. Got people thinking."

You clearly missed his ulterior motive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great alchemy leads to the best chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes - im fussy who i have sex with and id like to think the person on the other side is as well - so being together is a choice we both made -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

The majority of us don't think that. Giving men some credit, I think they can be just as fussy...

Subjectively fussy."

What's the actual issue here?

Are you fussy? Do you believe people aren't and sleep with whoever? How do you view your gender on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Cracking thread misterbee. Got people thinking.

You clearly missed his ulterior motive "

Fuck off with your scepticism.

*said with the upmost respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

The majority of us don't think that. Giving men some credit, I think they can be just as fussy...

Subjectively fussy.

What's the actual issue here?

Are you fussy? Do you believe people aren't and sleep with whoever? How do you view your gender on Fab?"

My question as I said was simple.

It's when I hear quotes 'I take everything with a pinch of salt'. I think that's sad, there's little belief in what people say in here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not sure why anyone would sleep with anyone if they didn't fancy them.

Do you believe everyone you've enjoyed sex with fancied you?

Well yeah I do, why would they sleep with me? I like shagging as much as the next person but doesn't mean I'd deepthroat Susan Boyle..

That's what you and I hope. I see the flip side where women think/say men are 'any hole is a goal' sort of tactic pulling women. If they thought that, by do they have sex with us at all

I see what you mean. Certainly not my mentality, I need to be attracted to said person if I'm going to sleep with them.

But you saw my point above as well. 'Most of us need to feel Attractive to that person also'. It just, at what point are you sure they mean it when they say, your handsome/beautiful?

I'm not sure but to be honest if I fancied them and they just wanted my dick then everyone's a winner right? Lol "

It's 1 nil as far as I can see it.

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

At a party (in a group thing) I actually had a lady tell me she didn't want to meet again and she only fucked me because she was extremely horny at the time and I was hard and there.

I didn't know this at the time and she was hot and funny as we had talked earlier fully dressed but I got the sense she never fancied me then.

The sex was ok. It's was group play so it was very different.

But does prove that some women will hit any stick in the right circumstances.

I'm not an anyhole is a goal guy, I fancied the pants off her, she was well out of my league. (Until then)

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "
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Yes. And I have to fancy them to want to have sex with them. Explaining how that surety is gained is difficult since it differs from person to person but gut instinct and feeling definitely plays a part. You know it when you see it (even if it's not always visual). I refer you to Blue Eyed Girl's comment above about eyes lighting up, for example.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? .

Yes. And I have to fancy them to want to have sex with them. Explaining how that surety is gained is difficult since it differs from person to person but gut instinct and feeling definitely plays a part. You know it when you see it (even if it's not always visual). I refer you to Blue Eyed Girl's comment above about eyes lighting up, for example."

That's how 'eye' see it. (You see what I did?

I've always said you can't hide behind your eyes. But you have to get to that point somehow on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

I take most written compliments with a pinch of salt. I think actions prove if they fancy you or not.

The last guy I met fancied me, a lot, you can just tell.

Why did you meet them in the first place? If you take text with a pinch of salt? "

The last guy I'd already met almost 3 years ago. I originally met him cos he has a stunning face a big dick and he's tall, original first meet was a social, 2nd meet was a fuck then almost 3 years we've just messaged to keep in touch and exchanged pictures/videos cos I'd not been in a meeting mood till recently.

How I know he fancies me, I went to meet him in the car park, saw him and to see someone in the flesh again after so many years is quite exciting. Actually it might have been excitement that he was feeling not lust Nah I'm pretty sure he fancied me, grabbed my face for a kiss and shoved his tongue down my throat, quite hard kissing where you're heavy breathing through your nose, could feel his dick jabbing me in the belly (height difference, I had flip flops on) kissing (whilst walking) all over my neck and pulled my boobs out of my to top to suck my nipple and I had to pull my top back up, stuck his hand down my trousers and in my knickers and I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

Got to the hotel, straight up the stairs, him stripping as he was going then got in the room where we had mugs of hot chocolate and went to sleep!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At a party (in a group thing) I actually had a lady tell me she didn't want to meet again and she only fucked me because she was extremely horny at the time and I was hard and there.

I didn't know this at the time and she was hot and funny as we had talked earlier fully dressed but I got the sense she never fancied me then.

The sex was ok. It's was group play so it was very different.

But does prove that some women will hit any stick in the right circumstances.

I'm not an anyhole is a goal guy, I fancied the pants off her, she was well out of my league. (Until then) "

I've felt okay sex. Its always left me unsure about it all, you feel it when they're not into you as much as your into them.

Would you have preferred she hadn't told you?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Cracking thread misterbee. Got people thinking.

You clearly missed his ulterior motive

Fuck off with your scepticism.

*said with the upmost respect. "

Knob

*said with even more respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At a party (in a group thing) I actually had a lady tell me she didn't want to meet again and she only fucked me because she was extremely horny at the time and I was hard and there.

I didn't know this at the time and she was hot and funny as we had talked earlier fully dressed but I got the sense she never fancied me then.

The sex was ok. It's was group play so it was very different.

But does prove that some women will hit any stick in the right circumstances.

I'm not an anyhole is a goal guy, I fancied the pants off her, she was well out of my league. (Until then) "

the vibe is different in group play and not as intimate - i have played with both sexes where i may have just handled a cock or sucked a nipple - not necessarily fancied them but for one on one - yes have to have more than just aroused at the time

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? .

Yes. And I have to fancy them to want to have sex with them. Explaining how that surety is gained is difficult since it differs from person to person but gut instinct and feeling definitely plays a part. You know it when you see it (even if it's not always visual). I refer you to Blue Eyed Girl's comment above about eyes lighting up, for example.

That's how 'eye' see it. (You see what I did?

I've always said you can't hide behind your eyes. But you have to get to that point somehow on Fab."

And I do. Then we meet in real life. So far, my meet choices have backed up my gut instinct 100% when it comes to fancying someone I have only had electronic communication with. It might happen some day that I meet someone in person and the spark I felt from talking to them (getting to that point on fab and possibly through other communication methods after the initial messages) just doesn't appear - but that hasn't happened to me yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

Definitely! I had a meet with a very handsome man, I was feeling a bit nervous, but he walked in and said 'oh you're gorgeous'!

I melted, we had great sex.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


" I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

"

I love this

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Yeah for sure

None of us like feeling like just another notch

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

For the first fuck, no. They desire sex and, being a realist, I'm there.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

You know when someone fancies you when you meet, it's in the eyes and the body language, you can't disguise that sort of stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know when someone fancies you when you meet, it's in the eyes and the body language, you can't disguise that sort of stuff "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually have a paper bag on my head so it doesn't really matter.

The smell of vomit isn't a turn on for me so it makes things easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely, and I'm pretty good at assessing the body language and tell tale signs that there is chemistry. I need to know I'm wanted.

I have sent a few messages to guys who constantly ask me to meet and play with them along the lines of "If I wanted to shag people I'm not attracted to, I may as well go on the game and get paid for it".

No attraction = no sex ever. It's my pussy and I make the rules

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim


"At a party (in a group thing) I actually had a lady tell me she didn't want to meet again and she only fucked me because she was extremely horny at the time and I was hard and there.

I didn't know this at the time and she was hot and funny as we had talked earlier fully dressed but I got the sense she never fancied me then.

The sex was ok. It's was group play so it was very different.

But does prove that some women will hit any stick in the right circumstances.

I'm not an anyhole is a goal guy, I fancied the pants off her, she was well out of my league. (Until then)

I've felt okay sex. Its always left me unsure about it all, you feel it when they're not into you as much as your into them.

Would you have preferred she hadn't told you? "

Of course but she was nice about it.

It's a bummer but others do and have fancied me (I hope) so being positive is the only way to think about it. Plus I still have the mental pictures of that night and she wasn't the only person in them HAHA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, there has to be chemistry and attraction to make great sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course they have to fancy you!...otherwise it's just like sleeping with the wife! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. It's about playing the game and how they interact with me. It's all bullshit to get a fuck.

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By *igerlilycubWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Definitely needs to be a spark

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

As long as they fancy me enough to enjoy having sex, then it's all good for me. After all, I don't want to marry them.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely needs to be a spark "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and I know my fb fancys me as much as I do him.My heart races when ever I see him as to me he's perfection.I could never have sex with someone if there wasn't that mutual sexual attraction x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely needs to be a spark "

Ever met up with a guy who can use a flint and steel?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

I've had great sex with somebody who I didn't speak to (both in the verbal and written) until afterwards. Plus, I was blindfolded, so couldn't read their body language. I'd seen a face photo of them beforehand but that was it. They hadn't seen me, only had a brief idea of what I looked like from a body pic.

So, no. I don't need to be told or know that they fancy me to enjoy good sex.

However, it's also nice when you can tell, by their body language, actions and the way they look at you.

Good question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them?

I've had great sex with somebody who I didn't speak to (both in the verbal and written) until afterwards. Plus, I was blindfolded, so couldn't read their body language. I'd seen a face photo of them beforehand but that was it. They hadn't seen me, only had a brief idea of what I looked like from a body pic.

So, no. I don't need to be told or know that they fancy me to enjoy good sex.

However, it's also nice when you can tell, by their body language, actions and the way they look at you.

Good question."

Bloody good answer. I've a fantasy of being taken blindfolded. . How do I do that when I normally need to know who I'm with? I wish I could get my head around some things, life would be simpler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they don't need to be gorgeous, i know i'm not so why expect of others. A degree of physical attraction is essential however and the ability to click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its not with someone who makes my mind tingle as much as my body then what's the point.

Like all the best things great sex starts in the mind in the thought of sharing bodies with someone where that look in the eyes that connection between people the ability to share thoughts dreams and time together is what makes the whole experience worthwhile for both people. If it doesn't make us both want more than just friction if it's not about being able to communicate at every level rather than just a physical thing there really seems little point in just cold unconnected fucking.

Maybe I'm strange or maybe I'm just doing this wrong but if there is nothing behind the eyes if there is no connection then I really can't see the point.

But when that connection happens it really does make everything else amazing exciting exhilarating and worth waiting for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasted on here I tell you.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Not really. It's about playing the game and how they interact with me. It's all bullshit to get a fuck. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absoloulty there has to be an attraction and chemistry otherwise I don't see the point sex otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

I love this "

Glad someone appreciates my thoughtful response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is telling you enough? Or do you take what they say by text just flattery to get in your knickers?

How do you know they actually find you fit and sexy?

I take most written compliments with a pinch of salt. I think actions prove if they fancy you or not.

The last guy I met fancied me, a lot, you can just tell.

Why did you meet them in the first place? If you take text with a pinch of salt?

The last guy I'd already met almost 3 years ago. I originally met him cos he has a stunning face a big dick and he's tall, original first meet was a social, 2nd meet was a fuck then almost 3 years we've just messaged to keep in touch and exchanged pictures/videos cos I'd not been in a meeting mood till recently.

How I know he fancies me, I went to meet him in the car park, saw him and to see someone in the flesh again after so many years is quite exciting. Actually it might have been excitement that he was feeling not lust Nah I'm pretty sure he fancied me, grabbed my face for a kiss and shoved his tongue down my throat, quite hard kissing where you're heavy breathing through your nose, could feel his dick jabbing me in the belly (height difference, I had flip flops on) kissing (whilst walking) all over my neck and pulled my boobs out of my to top to suck my nipple and I had to pull my top back up, stuck his hand down my trousers and in my knickers and I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

Got to the hotel, straight up the stairs, him stripping as he was going then got in the room where we had mugs of hot chocolate and went to sleep! "

absolutely crying at this ??????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, they have to fancy you to have sex, otherwise they are just doing you a favour without really enjoying it themselves, and that's no fun at all for me...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"

The last guy I'd already met almost 3 years ago. I originally met him cos he has a stunning face a big dick and he's tall, original first meet was a social, 2nd meet was a fuck then almost 3 years we've just messaged to keep in touch and exchanged pictures/videos cos I'd not been in a meeting mood till recently.

How I know he fancies me, I went to meet him in the car park, saw him and to see someone in the flesh again after so many years is quite exciting. Actually it might have been excitement that he was feeling not lust Nah I'm pretty sure he fancied me, grabbed my face for a kiss and shoved his tongue down my throat, quite hard kissing where you're heavy breathing through your nose, could feel his dick jabbing me in the belly (height difference, I had flip flops on) kissing (whilst walking) all over my neck and pulled my boobs out of my to top to suck my nipple and I had to pull my top back up, stuck his hand down my trousers and in my knickers and I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

Got to the hotel, straight up the stairs, him stripping as he was going then got in the room where we had mugs of hot chocolate and went to sleep! "

All that build up and you only had a hot chocolate?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course, there wouldn't be any chemistry if you didn't fancy each other. I'd rather have a wank if they didn't fancy me

How do you know they fancy you though? "

You just know, it's in the eyes and the body language, subtle little things that are a dead giveaway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many egos would be bruised if they knew the truth

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Of course, there wouldn't be any chemistry if you didn't fancy each other. I'd rather have a wank if they didn't fancy me

How do you know they fancy you though?

You just know, it's in the eyes and the body language, subtle little things that are a dead giveaway. "

I'm rubbish at telling whether guys fancy me or not. Unless they go in for a kiss I presume they don't. That's after the initial social btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

It certainly helps to know they're enjoying your body and mind as much as you're enjoying theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course, there wouldn't be any chemistry if you didn't fancy each other. I'd rather have a wank if they didn't fancy me

How do you know they fancy you though?

You just know, it's in the eyes and the body language, subtle little things that are a dead giveaway.

I'm rubbish at telling whether guys fancy me or not. Unless they go in for a kiss I presume they don't. That's after the initial social btw. "

Well just read their body language, if he sits close to you or leaves a space, if he inadvertently touches you as he's talking to you, if he looks in your eyes, leans towards you when he's talking, holds your gaze etc etc, all subtle signs that he fancies you x

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By *.spot77Man
over a year ago

Basildon

I understand that there is got to have some chemistry with each other and women have ego's same as the guy but who will be most degrading the guy or woman as I am a man I will say that men are able to get over not being liked ect ect but the women would take time to be sure of themselves just my opinion on this subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The last guy I'd already met almost 3 years ago. I originally met him cos he has a stunning face a big dick and he's tall, original first meet was a social, 2nd meet was a fuck then almost 3 years we've just messaged to keep in touch and exchanged pictures/videos cos I'd not been in a meeting mood till recently.

How I know he fancies me, I went to meet him in the car park, saw him and to see someone in the flesh again after so many years is quite exciting. Actually it might have been excitement that he was feeling not lust Nah I'm pretty sure he fancied me, grabbed my face for a kiss and shoved his tongue down my throat, quite hard kissing where you're heavy breathing through your nose, could feel his dick jabbing me in the belly (height difference, I had flip flops on) kissing (whilst walking) all over my neck and pulled my boobs out of my to top to suck my nipple and I had to pull my top back up, stuck his hand down my trousers and in my knickers and I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

Got to the hotel, straight up the stairs, him stripping as he was going then got in the room where we had mugs of hot chocolate and went to sleep!

All that build up and you only had a hot chocolate?!!! "

Haha nope, had some pretty immense sex, no awkwardness or inhibitions cos we already knew each other and in keeping with the thread, I knew he fancied me so that does make sex better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. There has to be some kind of connection or it doesn't work. I like to feel wanted and needed and desired above everything else. Anything less is not good for the soul

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Yes there has to be a connection

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Most definitely, I am extremely choosy about who I get naked with and would hope my partner was the same "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"

The last guy I'd already met almost 3 years ago. I originally met him cos he has a stunning face a big dick and he's tall, original first meet was a social, 2nd meet was a fuck then almost 3 years we've just messaged to keep in touch and exchanged pictures/videos cos I'd not been in a meeting mood till recently.

How I know he fancies me, I went to meet him in the car park, saw him and to see someone in the flesh again after so many years is quite exciting. Actually it might have been excitement that he was feeling not lust Nah I'm pretty sure he fancied me, grabbed my face for a kiss and shoved his tongue down my throat, quite hard kissing where you're heavy breathing through your nose, could feel his dick jabbing me in the belly (height difference, I had flip flops on) kissing (whilst walking) all over my neck and pulled my boobs out of my to top to suck my nipple and I had to pull my top back up, stuck his hand down my trousers and in my knickers and I was leading him by his dick like a prize pony going for a canter.

Got to the hotel, straight up the stairs, him stripping as he was going then got in the room where we had mugs of hot chocolate and went to sleep!

All that build up and you only had a hot chocolate?!!!

Haha nope, had some pretty immense sex, no awkwardness or inhibitions cos we already knew each other and in keeping with the thread, I knew he fancied me so that does make sex better.

"

Fantastic

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p Yes, otherwise I have no feelings for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about them, this is about you.

Simple question - Do you need to know someone fancies you to enjoy great sex with them? "

Definitely

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