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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reading tonight Julie Burchill on age-gap relationships She say .

It would surely test the gag reflex of all but the most devoted volunteers for Help The Aged. See Crystal Harris, 24, who had sex with her fiance Hugh Hefner, 85, just once before fleeing.

There will always be hardcore gerontophiles, of course, but only in the way that there are people who like to have sex with cars and cattle - surely not enough to make it anything but a very minority perve. Women love wealth and power, men love looks, goes the old line - but that's a hangover from the time when women had no wealth or power, and if they were to achieve any position in the world they had to marry it. This is changing now. And I couldn't help noticing that even as her pensioner boyfriend bit her bum, Jennifer Wade's sexy bod sported a T-shirt bearing an image of James Dean, forever frozen in youthful beauty. It may be better to be an old man's darling than a young man's fool - but there's no fool like an old fool, either.

Do big age gaps work ? could you have sex with a person 50 or 60 years older .. alot of us say age is a number do it matter ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He would be near or over 100yo!

If he can still get it up, and looks like Cary Grant, Gregory Peck or Sean Connery in their 80s, then hell yes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He would be near or over 100yo!

If he can still get it up, and looks like Cary Grant, Gregory Peck or Sean Connery in their 80s, then hell yes!

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lol your right that Sean has somthing about him , x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL somehow I don't think I will ever get the chance to try

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 50 or 60 years older is a bit much. My auntie married a man 20 years younger than her and they stayed married for a very long time. My hubby is 20 years older and we have been married for 30 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a few rather yummy 46yr olds on here.. thats 23years older than me

I think its about physical condition and mentality. Ive had a short relationship with a 42yr old, we were clearly different people and the age did factor. Although i find older men attractive i can't see it being a long term thing.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I d probably draw the line at somebody more than 20 years older .. not just ab out looks and physique but more about that they are at a different life stage and we would not have much in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer to settle with and have regular sex with someone my own age.

I would hate to be an old wrinkly with a toy boy, I can't give him children.

I would feel he'd be missing out on learning a lot of things in life I've already experienced, he'd be raring to go out and grab the world by the throat as I did when younger.... I'd be happy sitting back and watching now.

The same with someone decades older than me, sex may be fine but I'd be afraid of losing him and living the rest of my life without him.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I love and I mean love older men.. After marrying someone younger who did my head in. I want kids and some older men have done that and don't want to have any more kids I think that is the down side to dating older men...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love and I mean love older men.. After marrying someone younger who did my head in. I want kids and some older men have done that and don't want to have any more kids I think that is the down side to dating older men... "

what do you see as an older man? or how big is the age gap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kate is 8 yrs younger than I am. We met on a blind date, and as soon as we met I knew she was "the one"

I was 24, she was 17. I took her to meet my parents and I thought everything was hunky dory, lol.

I took Kate home and when I got back my mom was waiting up for me. She gave me a lecture, and said that I should look for someone my own age, and not to get too involved with a young girl

I told her that she wasn't going to choose my partner and that at 24, I was old enough to make my own decision.

We've been together 30yrs so far, so I think I got that one right

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"Kate is 8 yrs younger than I am. We met on a blind date, and as soon as we met I knew she was "the one"

I was 24, she was 17. I took her to meet my parents and I thought everything was hunky dory, lol.

I took Kate home and when I got back my mom was waiting up for me. She gave me a lecture, and said that I should look for someone my own age, and not to get too involved with a young girl

I told her that she wasn't going to choose my partner and that at 24, I was old enough to make my own decision.

We've been together 30yrs so far, so I think I got that one right

Nice one Jack.....

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By *issbehaveCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

Aw, what a nice story! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think men would go for ladys alot older 40 50 years then them or would thay have to have loads of money and stuff to offer ? like the rich older man the suger daddys with young woman hanging of there arm ?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

what do you see as an older man? or how big is the age gap?"

Ermmm early to late 40's. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will you still love when I'm 64

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never entertain the idea, prefer my own age group only

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Would never entertain the idea, prefer my own age group only"

Actually that is what I was trying to say.. and it works both ways, doesnt it?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would never entertain the idea, prefer my own age group only

Actually that is what I was trying to say.. and it works both ways, doesnt it?"

you did say just in more words than my comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only know one guy who has married and been blissfully happy with an older lady.

I've had mates who have had flings with older ladies, but not by more than 10yr age gaps.

Relationships are different to "flings", but I'm sure you already know that.

Most guys will have a sexual relationship with ladies much older than themselves, but ask them to commit and you'll get a totally different response.

They can't help it, it's just how it is

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

NOpe never fancied older men . not a bit.. i recon upto 20 years younger is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

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I'm not that old yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only know one guy who has married and been blissfully happy with an older lady.

I've had mates who have had flings with older ladies, but not by more than 10yr age gaps.

Relationships are different to "flings", but I'm sure you already know that.

Most guys will have a sexual relationship with ladies much older than themselves, but ask them to commit and you'll get a totally different response.

They can't help it, it's just how it is "

thats how i am but with men.. fling up to 25yr older, relationship older up to 10yrs

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I actually have friends where the female Now 58) is 20 years older and they are happy... and have been for some time. I have other friends, where the situation is reverse. It depends among other things on the emotional maturity of both people but a huge age gap either side would not be for me for reasons stated before...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

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There was I thinking it was all about a good strong bow...;-)

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Aye old not ancient xx

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

a few weeks ago i was talking to a girl 14 years younger than me not online face to face and the day seemed to just pass i wish id given her my number but as peeps say age your to old for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

You are as only as old as you feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I could not have had sex with Hugh Hefner no matter how much money he has. I did feel a bit sorry for him ... thinking all his lady friends run off apart from ex wife who lives in the garden house at his home . Maybe he will learn from it and go for a older lady next time .

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

You are as only as old as you feel

What 31?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think men would go for ladys alot older 40 50 years then them or would thay have to have loads of money and stuff to offer ? like the rich older man the suger daddys with young woman hanging of there arm ?"
yes i would

in fact really to me personally age is just a number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

You are as only as old as you feel

What 31?

If you insist

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

You are as only as old as you feel

What 31?

If you insist

Go on then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Will you still love when I'm 64

Yes Granddad haha

I'm not that old yet

No but you are getting there...

There's been many a good tune played on an old fiddle

Yeah Yeah so you say... I would not know haha

You are as only as old as you feel

What 31?

If you insist

Go on then

I feel young already

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well you all know my thoughts on this.

But just to answer some of the points that people have met on this thread

Firstly i woud never have dreamed that i would of been attracted to a 63 year old guy when i was 41, it was a love that grew out of a friendship.

Not having things in common, there are lots of things we dont have in common but far more we do plus with think alike.

Them dying and leaving you, this was a hard one for me when we got together but i just think i could get run over a bus tomorrow or die earlier than jay but i would sooner have 20 years with someone i consider my soulmate than 40 years with someone who isnt.

But five years on and its as blissful in fact more so than day one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A day of true love is worth more than a lifeime of shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 51 next month. I couldn't contemplate being with a 20 year old or an 80 year, but would be icky to me. Prefer up to 10 years older, not interested to younger at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have got the chemistry going it will work regardless of age gaps.

There is quite a bit between me and Tiger.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Jo ..... if I have sex with someone sixty years older than me they'd be 117.... I don't fancy it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jo ..... if I have sex with someone sixty years older than me they'd be 117.... I don't fancy it !"

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Fucking ell, dont think i could do a 100 year old! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jo ..... if I have sex with someone sixty years older than me they'd be 117.... I don't fancy it !"
lol how about 30 years younger? would that be better . x

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think to a degree it depends on the personality not the age but when I was 32 I was seeing a 19 year old. The sex was great but fuck! going out clubbing with her was a confusing and bewildering world, all that bottom wiggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a huge age gap, i know its slightly different but i do have some great friendships with others where there is an age gap.

Age is just a number and i always try to look past that. You can have an immature 40 year old or a very mature 25 year old, so judge each person individually

Just my opinion hehe

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Never had a huge age gap, i know its slightly different but i do have some great friendships with others where there is an age gap.

Age is just a number and i always try to look past that. You can have an immature 40 year old or a very mature 25 year old, so judge each person individually

Just my opinion hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have lots of young friends but theres NO WAY i would shag them, the more we swing the more age has become an issue for us, i really dont like more then 10 years difference either way.Madonnas recent conquest is less than half her age, i spose shes fitter than most 53 year olds but really when the sex is over what would you talk about?! x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"i have lots of young friends but theres NO WAY i would shag them, the more we swing the more age has become an issue for us, i really dont like more then 10 years difference either way.Madonnas recent conquest is less than half her age, i spose shes fitter than most 53 year olds but really when the sex is over what would you talk about?! x"

Boy bands and Cbeebee's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an age gap ( only five years but the most I've ever had in a relationship)

But we have an even bigger football gap lol

She lives it I hate it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I love men 20 years younger ... and feel happy .. 20 years older maybe i could not cope .

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Um.... NO!! I would not shag a 90 / 100 yo. Next question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is 21.5 years age gap between joe and I. when we got married 6 years ago he knew that there would be no children, so we got a couple of cats, his mother has stopped talking to him as he "married that woman". Joe says he is happy and would never leave me, he works in a female dominated environment but i never feel jealous. I have taken abuse from people over the age difference saying that my children are older than he is, well if they dont like it tough. I never look on joe as being younger he is my partner in all things and we are equal. Age is just a number it is the mental age that matters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"there is 21.5 years age gap between joe and I. when we got married 6 years ago he knew that there would be no children, so we got a couple of cats, his mother has stopped talking to him as he "married that woman". Joe says he is happy and would never leave me, he works in a female dominated environment but i never feel jealous. I have taken abuse from people over the age difference saying that my children are older than he is, well if they dont like it tough. I never look on joe as being younger he is my partner in all things and we are equal. Age is just a number it is the mental age that matters"
if you love each other and happy thats really what mattters .. its your life and you have to do what right for you both xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

None of my family or friends have really commented on jays age, as for strangers dont know if they comment or not and couldnt care less. Its me thats laughing just hope they are as happy as i am in my relationship

It is a bit strange though if we go out with my mother cause she is two years younger than jay, my brother in law calls her mum would just be weird jay saying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had workmen say to joe tell your mum not to open the window for 6 hours and things like that We just snog lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Have had workmen say to joe tell your mum not to open the window for 6 hours and things like that We just snog lol"

lol ive had people say i saw you with your dad

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

We have a 13 year age gap and it works for us

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