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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm battling a bit. I've had news of people I know who have died this past week. I've been so emotional these last 3 days. I had to have a medical checkup yesterday for something and the doctor had to re take my blood pressure. I concentrated on my breathing and then the 2nd take was better. It made me aware that grieving can affect ones health to a certain extent. I'm sitting on the edge of my bed while texting this message, with a cup of coffee on the side and the bedroom window open looking out to a foggy morning...and thinking...I invite something lovely to come my way to help me continue celebrating my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending positive thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calm down

Think about jib cranes...

Breathe...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Hope you're ok xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send some totally genuine virtual good vibes. I can empathise. Big hugs.

I rarely know what to say which these things. 'Chin up' is the best I've got.

And another hug.

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

That can't be easy. Always people around to reach out too if you are struggling. Been there and it's hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm battling a bit. I've had news of people I know who have died this past week. I've been so emotional these last 3 days. I had to have a medical checkup yesterday for something and the doctor had to re take my blood pressure. I concentrated on my breathing and then the 2nd take was better. It made me aware that grieving can affect ones health to a certain extent. I'm sitting on the edge of my bed while texting this message, with a cup of coffee on the side and the bedroom window open looking out to a foggy morning...and thinking...I invite something lovely to come my way to help me continue celebrating my life."

You are open to loveliness. It will come sweetie!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

You have to go through the grieving process and then hopefully you can appreciate all the thing's you have. Even the fact you have a bed a roof over your head and coffee to drink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Calm down

Think about jib cranes...

Breathe..."

Hehe you've remembered me! I've left an impression. Thank you for making me smile!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I send some totally genuine virtual good vibes. I can empathise. Big hugs.

I rarely know what to say which these things. 'Chin up' is the best I've got.

And another hug. "

Thank you Mister Bee x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have to go through the grieving process and then hopefully you can appreciate all the thing's you have. Even the fact you have a bed a roof over your head and coffee to drink. "

You're absolutely right. Being an appreciative person makes me even more aware of how fortunate I am. Thank you x

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By *annGentMan
over a year ago

With a cracking view

((((( HUG ))))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear of your recent losses. Grief is so hard sometimes to handle, but try not to bottle your feelings up, talk to friends or family when you need to... I didnt until it all got nearly too much, but I eventually had bereavement counselling and it helped enormously.

Sending you hugs and my condolences again x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry to hear of your recent losses. Grief is so hard sometimes to handle, but try not to bottle your feelings up, talk to friends or family when you need to... I didnt until it all got nearly too much, but I eventually had bereavement counselling and it helped enormously.

Sending you hugs and my condolences again x"

Thank you very much x

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Sending my condolences and big hugs. I know that I don't know you OP, in fact I don't think I have ever commented on any of your posts before but there is also a cup of tea for you and lots of positive thoughts.

Grief is a tough one and can be just as debilitating as anything. I've been grief struck a number of times now and it's been different each time.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sending you the biggest of hugs xxx

Loosing people can have a profound impact on our lives.

2015 I lost 9 people, several under very tragic circumstances.

It made me reassess everything & changed my life forever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go out with friends for lunch/dinner and have a laugh. It's times like this when you realise life's too short. Enjoy it. I've went through so much in 30 years and I dont look back now, best thing I ever did. Seriously go out and have a good night

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All a very big virtual hug to you all! I'm still making friends so at the moment they're very few. Thank you for making the forum a place where it's ok to be transparent. Lots of love, Nikki xx

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"All a very big virtual hug to you all! I'm still making friends so at the moment they're very few. Thank you for making the forum a place where it's ok to be transparent. Lots of love, Nikki xx "

Keep on being yourself. Here's another big hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think most of us have been there - i lost a past partner and its hell on earth at the time - but take each day and then look back a week and you will see how different it looks to then xxxx love and hugs

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

No words just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending big hugs and lots of love.

Two days ago i lost someone so close after a battle with terminal illness. For the last few months I looked after them and saw them every day. I fought hard to get them the care they needed from a system that is so under strained (no poltical comments).

In the last days there was nothing I wouldnt havnt done for them and was there at the end. In the last 2 days i have gone through a range of emotions and feelings.

My strategy for coping is simlple...take some time to selfishly indulge in myself and wallow just a little in self pity as that is part of grieving. Whilst we need at some point to smile amd be happy and celebrate the people we lose it is also good and allowed to grieve and cry.

And I have also found FAB is a great place where people genuinely are supportive (my best friends I have found through fab) so hanging out here is part of my berevment councilling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost both my parents within a short space of time two years ago. So big hugs. It gets easier. I console myslf that they'd have gone together if they could. Mum was just lonely without dad and I think she wanted to go. We mixed their ashes and spread them in one of their favourite places.

I was always a sceptic on the mumbos and the jumbos but recent research in quantum theory has suggested consciousness doesn't adhere to the classical laws of physcis but matches the quantum of duality perfectly. Put as simply as possible, imagine your consciousness is the data on your hard drive, i.e. your brain. The data when your HD dies and it's already been uploaded to the Internet (the Universe) and lives on. It's trippy but I found it quite comforting to think there's a scientific possibility they're still out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm battling a bit. I've had news of people I know who have died this past week. I've been so emotional these last 3 days. I had to have a medical checkup yesterday for something and the doctor had to re take my blood pressure. I concentrated on my breathing and then the 2nd take was better. It made me aware that grieving can affect ones health to a certain extent. I'm sitting on the edge of my bed while texting this message, with a cup of coffee on the side and the bedroom window open looking out to a foggy morning...and thinking...I invite something lovely to come my way to help me continue celebrating my life."
Hi it was nice talking to you yesterday Sure something nice will come your way keep your chin up, embrace life, live everyday as if it's your last. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm battling a bit. I've had news of people I know who have died this past week. I've been so emotional these last 3 days. I had to have a medical checkup yesterday for something and the doctor had to re take my blood pressure. I concentrated on my breathing and then the 2nd take was better. It made me aware that grieving can affect ones health to a certain extent. I'm sitting on the edge of my bed while texting this message, with a cup of coffee on the side and the bedroom window open looking out to a foggy morning...and thinking...I invite something lovely to come my way to help me continue celebrating my life.Hi it was nice talking to you yesterday Sure something nice will come your way keep your chin up, embrace life, live everyday as if it's your last. xx"

I'm not sure if you knew but you helped me alot yesterday! Thank you & oh yes will live even harder now xx

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