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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Simple question really. Do you need to orgasm? Does sex only feel complete for you if you do?

I was discussing this yesterday about how I sometimes like to just have the feeling of the build up. I don't need to cum. Not even in an intentional edging way and not with any intent to cum later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I've had meets where I haven't cum. It's so much more than that for me. I enjoy seeing the woman I'm with enjoy herself, the buzz/high from that lasts for as long as we are together at a particular time. Orgasm lasts 10-15 seconds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I've had meets where I haven't cum. It's so much more than that for me. I enjoy seeing the woman I'm with enjoy herself, the buzz/high from that lasts for as long as we are together at a particular time. Orgasm lasts 10-15 seconds."

That's it. Don't get me wrong, I can go the opposite way too but sometimes Im so focused them that the mental stimulation is more important than my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mercy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a brief moment I actually thought I had my own personal thread hahaha.....

Not 100% necessary for me of I'm having a sexual encounter, nice don't get me wrong, but I get more of a buzz out of the other persons pleasure/sounds x

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By *bsolute LibertinesCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Mercy... "

I did wonder if we might be discussing Roy Orbison.

When I was little my mother said she went off him when she realised he wasn't blind.

She was convinced he'd been pretending....

On the subject of orgasms...if an evening of lovely fun and horniness passes and I haven't come, then I don't mind. It's not all about that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I've had meets where I haven't cum. It's so much more than that for me. I enjoy seeing the woman I'm with enjoy herself, the buzz/high from that lasts for as long as we are together at a particular time. Orgasm lasts 10-15 seconds.

That's it. Don't get me wrong, I can go the opposite way too but sometimes Im so focused them that the mental stimulation is more important than my body. "

I suffer from delayed ejaculation at times anyway so I don't stress about it. Sometimes it just happens within an hour, I'm not complaining at all, little recovery and then just carry on.

I always focus on the other person and their enjoyment, not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not always. I get immense enjoyment through playing with a cock, with my hands covered in oil or moisturiser. It's mesmerising, euphoric and sensual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For a brief moment I actually thought I had my own personal thread hahaha.....

Not 100% necessary for me of I'm having a sexual encounter, nice don't get me wrong, but I get more of a buzz out of the other persons pleasure/sounds x "

Oh no! I feel like I need to make another thread just for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a brief moment I actually thought I had my own personal thread hahaha.....

Not 100% necessary for me of I'm having a sexual encounter, nice don't get me wrong, but I get more of a buzz out of the other persons pleasure/sounds x

Oh no! I feel like I need to make another thread just for you "

Haha it's ok I shall survive, thanks anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often don’t cum, especially if I’m having a lot of sex if it’s a proper session with sex multiple times in a day then I tend to hold off until the lady Is is satisfied.

Also if I have had sex a lot over a number of days it will be less and less likely that I’ll cum a few days in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mercy...

I did wonder if we might be discussing Roy Orbison.

When I was little my mother said she went off him when she realised he wasn't blind.

She was convinced he'd been pretending....

On the subject of orgasms...if an evening of lovely fun and horniness passes and I haven't come, then I don't mind. It's not all about that..."
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I'm surprised nobodys tried that rouge on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, I've had to think about this. Yes I do need to cum, it's related to having previously had a crap sex life where I didn't have an orgasm at all. I don't mind taking my time to get there and am happy to give as much pleasure in fact doing that is an immense turn on as well. But I do need that release x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm, I've had to think about this. Yes I do need to cum, it's related to having previously had a crap sex life where I didn't have an orgasm at all. I don't mind taking my time to get there and am happy to give as much pleasure in fact doing that is an immense turn on as well. But I do need that release x "

So does it not feel physically complete for you unless you release that tension or is it a mind thing, like you now think sexshould involve an orgasm (or 7 )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation for me.. if the intention is a full blown, long session then yes I want to finish lol but am also very happy to just pleasure a woman fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm, I've had to think about this. Yes I do need to cum, it's related to having previously had a crap sex life where I didn't have an orgasm at all. I don't mind taking my time to get there and am happy to give as much pleasure in fact doing that is an immense turn on as well. But I do need that release x

So does it not feel physically complete for you unless you release that tension or is it a mind thing, like you now think sexshould involve an orgasm (or 7 )"

I think it's an element of both. I don't expect multiple orgasms but I do need that release. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not essential but so satisfying when it does. It takes magic don't you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time I don't need to cum. I just love the feeling of being fucked and fucking someone else. I enjoy the actual act of sex

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Not always. I get immense enjoyment through playing with a cock, with my hands covered in oil or moisturiser. It's mesmerising, euphoric and sensual.

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The opposite of the theme of this thread nearly happened for me reading that haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not essential but so satisfying when it does. It takes magic don't you know "

And fairy dust?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of the time I don't need to cum. I just love the feeling of being fucked and fucking someone else. I enjoy the actual act of sex "

I totally relate to this! That's kinda my thing. The fucking and how that feels.

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire


"Simple question really. Do you need to orgasm? Does sex only feel complete for you if you do?

I was discussing this yesterday about how I sometimes like to just have the feeling of the build up. I don't need to cum. Not even in an intentional edging way and not with any intent to cum later. "

I think if you take your time and stimulate the mind rather than just the body, then the orgasm is inevitable and often stronger to the point of gushing or squirting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think yes , to feel that completeness I need to cum !

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Most of the time I don't need to cum. I just love the feeling of being fucked and fucking someone else. I enjoy the actual act of sex

I totally relate to this! That's kinda my thing. The fucking and how that feels. "

This works for both of us, sex is about enjoyment and passion

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Simple question really. Do you need to orgasm? Does sex only feel complete for you if you do?

I was discussing this yesterday about how I sometimes like to just have the feeling of the build up. I don't need to cum. Not even in an intentional edging way and not with any intent to cum later. "

Nope, but we both get immense satisfaction when the person we are playing with does though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the time I don't need to cum. I just love the feeling of being fucked and fucking someone else. I enjoy the actual act of sex

I totally relate to this! That's kinda my thing. The fucking and how that feels.

This works for both of us, sex is about enjoyment and passion "

Yap what they said is bang on the money or g-spot in this case

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't need to orgasm, sometimes I find it difficult anyway, so when I do it's great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love long imaginative and varied meets without chasing an orgasm, which is just as well because now I've found my sex drive post-marriage I've lost my facility to orgasm. The journey is more interesting than the potential destination..

On those rare occasions I do climax properly I'm like a guy. Game over, roll over, start snoring..

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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The last meet I had I didn't cum and I can only remember holding off once, It was the first time it had happened but it was the same for me not wanting the feeling I had to end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for me it just depends. On what I don't really know...last night me and my OH had Sex and I didn't cum and it really didn't bother me. But other times (it's not often that I don't) I can be really shitty if I don't haha! I just enjoy being fucked and to fuck I guess it should be about the journey not the destination however I always want him to finish...I just love it when he cums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I've had meets where I haven't cum. It's so much more than that for me. I enjoy seeing the woman I'm with enjoy herself, the buzz/high from that lasts for as long as we are together at a particular time. Orgasm lasts 10-15 seconds.

That's it. Don't get me wrong, I can go the opposite way too but sometimes Im so focused them that the mental stimulation is more important than my body. "

i expect not to cum

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

No I am happy if I get the chance to go down on a lady I am more than good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't need to at all

As long as it's enjoyable for all parties concerned whether I do or I don't isn't an issue for me.

The connection the excitement of fucking and giving or receiving oral is enough for me if it's done well

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Love long imaginative and varied meets without chasing an orgasm, which is just as well because now I've found my sex drive post-marriage I've lost my facility to orgasm. The journey is more interesting than the potential destination..

On those rare occasions I do climax properly I'm like a guy. Game over, roll over, start snoring.."

The 2nd paragraph made us both smile a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Hopefully in the phone, I then do t need to meet up.

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