FabSwingers.com forum: Trouble recognising people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

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By *ve 66Woman
over a year ago

Blackwood

Just say they look better in real life whether they do or don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sunglasses and a quick recce of the meet location.

But I hear you...theyre easy to spot...the awkward looking shady people, trying not to look like swingers talking in whispered voices. The reserved sign on their table is replaced with pervert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im exactly the same. I think its hard to really see someone in a photo-they sometimes look so different in person.

I always just use the being shy thing and ask to meet outside. I also use the wont have glasses on so what colour top will you be wearing?

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'd know that shoe anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find some faces easily recognisable but there's others that don't stand out to me....and I don't mean that in a bad way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get them to meet me outside a cafe or wetherspoons. That way you can be reasonably sure the one loitering is the meet. I do admit to scarpering once and sending an email to say I couldn't make it, as the man looked nothing like his picture and was wearing a really naff fleece coat with a picture of a horse on it. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't a man from Fab, I hasten to add XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find some faces easily recognisable but there's others that don't stand out to me....and I don't mean that in a bad way

Me too. I've had to ask a guy I've met once before what he'll be wearing as I'm scared I won't recognise him. I feel awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get them to meet me outside a cafe or wetherspoons. That way you can be reasonably sure the one loitering is the meet. I do admit to scarpering once and sending an email to say I couldn't make it, as the man looked nothing like his picture and was wearing a really naff fleece coat with a picture of a horse on it. XXX"

Was it a neigh from you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its called prosopagnosia. Ive got it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't a man from Fab, I hasten to add XXX"

He may not have been the man you were supposed to be meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've usually been OK

There was one lady who when she arrived didn't look anything like her picture.

Enjoyed a quick drink and went on my way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm absolute shit at recognizing people. Marc has saved us on more than one occasion...

"Courtney, I think that's him."

"No, Marc, that doesn't look like him. Stop staring!"

"No, I really think it's him. We'll go ask." And it's him! I would have just left him sitting there!

People don't help at all, either. One guy got a buzz cut the day of our meet without mentioning it. I was seriously convinced it wasn't him we were supposed to meet. And at clubs it's the worst! Neither of us recognize anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm absolute shit at recognizing people. Marc has saved us on more than one occasion...

"Courtney, I think that's him."

"No, Marc, that doesn't look like him. Stop staring!"

"No, I really think it's him. We'll go ask." And it's him! I would have just left him sitting there!

Did you recognise me?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Wear something unique, so that the onus is on them to find you. I'm a little similar, especially if their pics aren't from this - week - or they've had a style change.

Or stick to cock pics, if you've an eye for their beauty

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It's people's names I am awful at- faces I am normally decent at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm absolute shit at recognizing people. Marc has saved us on more than one occasion...

"Courtney, I think that's him."

"No, Marc, that doesn't look like him. Stop staring!"

"No, I really think it's him. We'll go ask." And it's him! I would have just left him sitting there!

Did you recognise me?

Yes! But I think it's because you have public face pics so I've looked at them more often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well most would be buggered with me as I always meet for a social in man mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm absolute shit at recognizing people. Marc has saved us on more than one occasion...

"Courtney, I think that's him."

"No, Marc, that doesn't look like him. Stop staring!"

"No, I really think it's him. We'll go ask." And it's him! I would have just left him sitting there!

Did you recognise me?

Yes! But I think it's because you have public face pics so I've looked at them more often.

Yeah, I'm often recognised by people in my normal life and at Kestrels and I have no idea who they are

I recognised you both too

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By *nicecplCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

We arranged a social with a couple we hadn't met before went into this pub and started looking around for the couple as it was quite busy . I saw what I thought what was the couple and approached them and said are you (couples names) and the chap said no but tell me more I'm intrigued. Needless to say in the next 5 minutes the right couple walked through the door ??

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

We're both pretty poor at recognising people from pics too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's people's names I am awful at- faces I am normally decent at

I'm awful with names too.

I'm feeling better now, glad I'm not the only one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tended to get to the venue first. Secure myself a table with a view then give a quick description of where abouts I'm sitting.

Either they manage to find me straight off, or end up looking around, but it's soon pretty obvious which one is them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised at one social meet to be told I look exactly like my photo's

well I wasn't going to look like anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm absolute shit at recognizing people. Marc has saved us on more than one occasion...

"Courtney, I think that's him."

"No, Marc, that doesn't look like him. Stop staring!"

"No, I really think it's him. We'll go ask." And it's him! I would have just left him sitting there!

I hope you recognised me.

My last meet actually crept up behind me and tapped me on the shoulder while I waited for their train.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very good at recognising people. I'm blessed with an excellent memory for names and faces. It has served me well

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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago

near ipswich

I usually ring when I'm at the location you can see who answers thier phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to meet someone in peson and engage with them first.

Unless they have a feature thats hard to ignore.

I have massive hair and I'm brown.

I usually get recognised

So I can relax and wait for them to find me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually ring when I'm at the location you can see who answers thier phone."

Has that always worked out well for you though?

Your example is exactly why I never give my number to someone I've never met. They can have it in person if we both wish to see each other again. I've found other means to keep in instant touch until we meet.

When I first joined here I had a couple of guys turn up who looked little and nothing like his pics. It's not fair really and such a shame some folk feel the need to send old pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I met one of my long term partners I walked right past him, as I'd only seen a pic of him in sunglasses. I hadn't straightened my hair, so he didn't recognise me either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

I have a sheep. They always find me

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

I always ask them to meet me in the carpark and ask what car they drive. As I really embarrassed my self looking for someone in a pub once. Small pub with locals sitting at the bar. I walked in couldn't see him. Man behind the bar asked me if I was ok . I said yes I'm looking for someone but can't find him. He asked me what his name was and I felt like a right fool because I realized I had no idea!

Couldn't get out of there quick enough! All eyes on me!! Never again!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I'm honest generally people don't look like their pics on here.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

I'm usually quite good, Mrs m on the other hand yes she's not good with names, I'm always saying that's so & so don't you remember

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I thought I was good until fairly recently.

I went up to a guy who was waiting at the end of the counter in Starbucks.

I said hello you must be James, he was but looked a bit

I told him I was Natalie. He said yes still

I thought fucking hell he's not liking the look of me how am I going to get out of this one. Then, as if by magic the real Natalie turned up!!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

We're terrible for remembering what people look like.

Fortunately, my hair colour makes us quite easy to spot

Nita

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

Yup have suffered from this many times despite making a point of looking at their pic last thing before getting out the car.....

Good job they always spotted me (although not sure why!)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

Yup have suffered from this many times despite making a point of looking at their pic last thing before getting out the car.....

Good job they always spotted me (although not sure why!)

Nope, no idea.

Like me you blend into the background

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Am brilliant normally with faces normally, I'll recognise people it will take me a while to place them though. It's names I'm terribly bad with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible with names. Faces I'm not too bad with though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i let them find me - i say look for the one with the mad curly hair - easy to pick out in a group so i am - then i blag i saw them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear a flower in my hair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

Yup have suffered from this many times despite making a point of looking at their pic last thing before getting out the car.....

Good job they always spotted me (although not sure why!)

Were you holding some pampas grass?

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

If I ever didnt wear my glasses this would be me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We text them a pic just before the meet so they can what we are wearing etc.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Wouldnt have this problem if everyone carried a sign with FAB and their name on it.

Taxi men use it at the airport and it seems to work for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wouldnt have this problem if everyone carried a sign with FAB and their name on it.

Taxi men use it at the airport and it seems to work for them.

I like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally don't get that problem but have been thrown if the lady in question has had her hair cut and dyed since the photo had been taken, top tip to you ladies have a 3/4 face pic as it gives a better idea of face shape for recognizing

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I'm really bad at recognising people. They send a face pic but I have to meet them in a quiet place in case I get them mixed up with someone else that looks similar.

I try and turn up first so they come and find me.

Is anyone else the same? How do you deal with it?

Yup have suffered from this many times despite making a point of looking at their pic last thing before getting out the car.....

Good job they always spotted me (although not sure why!)

Were you holding some pampas grass?"

Ahh good point - forgot that bit!

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I always worry about it but so far I've recognised the people I have been due to meet. Forum people always look slightly surprised I'm me when I bump into them at clubs or group socials though so maybe I don't look like me - with a face out and clothes on anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should see us trannies in drab. You'd never guess it was us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask them to carry a red rose and stand under a clock, I wear my FAF badge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know the forum likes updates.... It was a happy ending, I recognised him.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

"I know the forum likes updates.... It was a happy ending, I recognised him.

Phew happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know the forum likes updates.... It was a happy ending, I recognised him.

Crisis averted!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I know the forum likes updates.... It was a happy ending, I recognised him.

Yaaay

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