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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Hugs xx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Mine went in the last 2 weeks - I couldn't be arsed at all - went to club last night and wasn't feeling my usual self either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes. Hugs xx"

Hugs right back xx

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Mine went in the last 2 weeks - I couldn't be arsed at all - went to club last night and wasn't feeling my usual self either "

I know what you mean. That 'what am I doing here?' feeling.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Nothing sexier than I want you now eyes. Hope you find your mojo again...check under the blankets beautiful lady

Madame Boo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Stress really knocks the sexiness from me. I understand what you mean op. Lots in here confuse me and that stops my interest in sex. Esp if I'm unsure if someone is interested.

But it does come back, I hope yours does too, or you need to look at changing your name.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X"

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes all the time. Being told I want you from here is nice and makes me feel good but it's that moment I'm pulled into his arms and our eyes meet that makes me feel desirable.

Knowing you can't have any fun over the summer probably means you've just turned that side of yourself off and now just need to rediscover the on switch again x

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Nothing sexier than I want you now eyes. Hope you find your mojo again...check under the blankets beautiful lady

Madame Boo x"

Spending far too much time hiding under the blankets lol. I want to be laid out on them... Feeling wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive. "

Maybe it's because sex is so readily available to some these days that the longing ,deep intense feeling of wantoness is harder to find and maintain ...I don't know but I know what your saying ,we all need that 'look' ..nothing makes you feel like that look does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes defo!! Mojo low. Feels like a chore when it should all be exciting fun.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have absolutely no libido at the moment. It just went, earlier this year, which contributed greatly to my not meeting any more. I'm not even bothered about it - I try to remember what it was like to want and have sex and I can't. I get more excited about baking a cake now.

I do suspect it has a lot to do with hitting the menopause. I hope my libido comes back, but have heard that it doesn't always, and I may have to resign myself to baking to get my thrills in the future.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Mine went in the last 2 weeks - I couldn't be arsed at all - went to club last night and wasn't feeling my usual self either

I know what you mean. That 'what am I doing here?' feeling."

I don't get that I just couldn't get hard annoying when you want a wank

For me i have been busy in office and that normally kicks it off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your a beautiful lady with a stunning body that every guy here would crawl over broken glass to play with. Don't forget the power of your sexuality, remember your beautiful and sexy. Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, me too. I've all the urges...

But my g-spot vibe fills that need.

Just not feeling the need for human contact.

If that makes sense...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Yeah, me too. I've all the urges...

But my g-spot vibe fills that need.

Just not feeling the need for human contact.

If that makes sense... "

Yeah it does

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I feel the same. I'm pretty sure it's a combination of things - I'm on anti depressants (may be a side effect), there's been a recent shock bereavement in the family and other family issues to contend with... but I think without doubt, the biggest cause is how I feel about myself. My self esteem and self image are at an all time low and I hate what I see in the mirror. I can't imagine how ANYONE could genuinely find me attractive or sexy. I don't FEEL in the slightest bit sexy - basically, I turn myself off. I'm not sure how it can be resolved other than to just give it time and see if things improve.

Poor Zed

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Yes. Stress really knocks the sexiness from me. I understand what you mean op. Lots in here confuse me and that stops my interest in sex. Esp if I'm unsure if someone is interested.

But it does come back, I hope yours does too, or you need to look at changing your name. "

Hope so too... yeah, I get what you mean about being unsure. I'm quite direct myself, so I need that in others too. Not good at interpreting smoke signals lol. What name would you choose for me?

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes all the time. Being told I want you from here is nice and makes me feel good but it's that moment I'm pulled into his arms and our eyes meet that makes me feel desirable.

Knowing you can't have any fun over the summer probably means you've just turned that side of yourself off and now just need to rediscover the on switch again x "

Hmmm.... so you're saying some groping around in the dark might be the answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues? "

I know how you feel because I get like this

Big hugs xx

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir


"Nothing sexier than I want you now eyes. Hope you find your mojo again...check under the blankets beautiful lady

Madame Boo x

Spending far too much time hiding under the blankets lol. I want to be laid out on them... Feeling wanted "

You are wanted you are a gorgeous sexy erotic woman. Go dress up for yourself...heels, lingerie, the work's. Have a play and take a post play photo of the lustful look in your eyes

Enjoy yourself

Madame Boo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Suddenly other things in life seem more fulfilling. Being outdoors, nature, being on the waves.

That outright carnal lust you get sometimes seems to be dormant. I'm still deciding if I'm content that it is or not.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

Maybe it's because sex is so readily available to some these days that the longing ,deep intense feeling of wantoness is harder to find and maintain ...I don't know but I know what your saying ,we all need that 'look' ..nothing makes you feel like that look does "

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there... I haven't had sex in months, and on the rare occasion that the opportunity presented itself I got the 'ah sure we're here... Why not?' vibe from the people in question more so than 'I gotta have you right here, right now' feeling, so I simply walked away. Does that make me high maintenance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

Maybe it's because sex is so readily available to some these days that the longing ,deep intense feeling of wantoness is harder to find and maintain ...I don't know but I know what your saying ,we all need that 'look' ..nothing makes you feel like that look does

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there... I haven't had sex in months, and on the rare occasion that the opportunity presented itself I got the 'ah sure we're here... Why not?' vibe from the people in question more so than 'I gotta have you right here, right now' feeling, so I simply walked away. Does that make me high maintenance? "

No it means you know your worth and that is priceless

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Yes defo!! Mojo low. Feels like a chore when it should all be exciting fun. "

Exactly this! I open mail here and its the same old boring uninspired messages, and I can't even be arsed to reply... Let alone have a conversation that might lead to meeting

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

Maybe it's because sex is so readily available to some these days that the longing ,deep intense feeling of wantoness is harder to find and maintain ...I don't know but I know what your saying ,we all need that 'look' ..nothing makes you feel like that look does

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there... I haven't had sex in months, and on the rare occasion that the opportunity presented itself I got the 'ah sure we're here... Why not?' vibe from the people in question more so than 'I gotta have you right here, right now' feeling, so I simply walked away. Does that make me high maintenance? "

Confidence is a funny old thing. I am confident within myself and some things are going pretty well out in "real life"

But I know that I am one of life's "nice guys" and I'm not conventionally handsome or sexy so won't get the same attention as some.

I wouldn't describe you as high maintenance at all PlayD8.

You want to be wanted and those feelings are likely to be reciprocated ten-fold with the right company xx

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Absolutely. My libido has been in a coma since the end of May.

I'm not sure if anything will wake it up, as a result I don't feel particularly sexy, quite unwanted actually.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I have absolutely no libido at the moment. It just went, earlier this year, which contributed greatly to my not meeting any more. I'm not even bothered about it - I try to remember what it was like to want and have sex and I can't. I get more excited about baking a cake now.

I do suspect it has a lot to do with hitting the menopause. I hope my libido comes back, but have heard that it doesn't always, and I may have to resign myself to baking to get my thrills in the future."

My sex drive influences my enthusiasm for other activities too. I lose interest in lots of things. I might not bake the cake.... But I would probably eat it lol.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Mine went in the last 2 weeks - I couldn't be arsed at all - went to club last night and wasn't feeling my usual self either

I know what you mean. That 'what am I doing here?' feeling.

I don't get that I just couldn't get hard annoying when you want a wank

For me i have been busy in office and that normally kicks it off "

Some time out might be the answer. Maybe I need to get away and be myself again

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Op your a beautiful lady with a stunning body that every guy here would crawl over broken glass to play with. Don't forget the power of your sexuality, remember your beautiful and sexy. Michael"

Thanks Michael. Broken glass isn't required lol. The path is clear (aside from a few cobwebs). Just nobody on it

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Yeah, me too. I've all the urges...

But my g-spot vibe fills that need.

Just not feeling the need for human contact.

If that makes sense... "

Absolute sense... I'll use my toys too rather than 'make do' with someone who doesn't make me feel special. An empty encounter would only make things worse.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I feel the same. I'm pretty sure it's a combination of things - I'm on anti depressants (may be a side effect), there's been a recent shock bereavement in the family and other family issues to contend with... but I think without doubt, the biggest cause is how I feel about myself. My self esteem and self image are at an all time low and I hate what I see in the mirror. I can't imagine how ANYONE could genuinely find me attractive or sexy. I don't FEEL in the slightest bit sexy - basically, I turn myself off. I'm not sure how it can be resolved other than to just give it time and see if things improve.

Poor Zed "

Huge hugs xx. I understand that completely. All I see lately are my flaws.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Previously yes, at the minute no, it's out in full force

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

I know how you feel because I get like this

Big hugs xx"

Thank you... And right back at you xx

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

If it's a bit deflated at the moment maybe try patching it up. If not €6 will buy you a decent brand new one

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Sorry I misread I thought it said Lilo!!!!

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Nothing sexier than I want you now eyes. Hope you find your mojo again...check under the blankets beautiful lady

Madame Boo x

Spending far too much time hiding under the blankets lol. I want to be laid out on them... Feeling wanted

You are wanted you are a gorgeous sexy erotic woman. Go dress up for yourself...heels, lingerie, the work's. Have a play and take a post play photo of the lustful look in your eyes

Enjoy yourself

Madame Boo xx"

I actually tried this last weekend... Again it seemed a chore. Its catch 22.... I need someone to want me in order to feel desirable... But if I don't feel desirable myself.. Who will want me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues? "

Beautifully Written OP....

Definitely say I know how you feel.. Big hugs xxx

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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" Yes. Suddenly other things in life seem more fulfilling. Being outdoors, nature, being on the waves.

That outright carnal lust you get sometimes seems to be dormant. I'm still deciding if I'm content that it is or not."

I'm far from content. I need passion in my life to feel passionate about other things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

Beautifully Written OP....

Definitely say I know how you feel.. Big hugs xxx "

I've just realised that people may say " But your married " lol

I'm meaning in a naughty " having a lover way "....

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By *aterjetWoman
over a year ago

South West


"I feel the same. I'm pretty sure it's a combination of things - I'm on anti depressants (may be a side effect), there's been a recent shock bereavement in the family and other family issues to contend with... but I think without doubt, the biggest cause is how I feel about myself. My self esteem and self image are at an all time low and I hate what I see in the mirror. I can't imagine how ANYONE could genuinely find me attractive or sexy. I don't FEEL in the slightest bit sexy - basically, I turn myself off. I'm not sure how it can be resolved other than to just give it time and see if things improve.

Poor Zed "

My heart goes out to you what a lot to content with.

I was given advice to be kind to yourself every day, whether it be buy yourself a buch a flowers or even you favourite hand cream.

Keep you communicate with your Doctor it's times like these you need to be looked after. Big hug xxx

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

Maybe it's because sex is so readily available to some these days that the longing ,deep intense feeling of wantoness is harder to find and maintain ...I don't know but I know what your saying ,we all need that 'look' ..nothing makes you feel like that look does

I think you may have hit the nail on the head there... I haven't had sex in months, and on the rare occasion that the opportunity presented itself I got the 'ah sure we're here... Why not?' vibe from the people in question more so than 'I gotta have you right here, right now' feeling, so I simply walked away. Does that make me high maintenance?

Confidence is a funny old thing. I am confident within myself and some things are going pretty well out in "real life"

But I know that I am one of life's "nice guys" and I'm not conventionally handsome or sexy so won't get the same attention as some.

I wouldn't describe you as high maintenance at all PlayD8.

You want to be wanted and those feelings are likely to be reciprocated ten-fold with the right company xx"

For once I too have some things going right for me out in the 'real world', things running quite smoothly. This is the only area that's suffering right now, but its a big one for me as my sex drive influences my drive in other areas too.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Absolutely. My libido has been in a coma since the end of May.

I'm not sure if anything will wake it up, as a result I don't feel particularly sexy, quite unwanted actually.

"

Snap... I thought at least when I came back after summer break some of my old meets might have been in touch to say welcome back, lets catch up.... But no... Nothing... No replies to messages.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Previously yes, at the minute no, it's out in full force "

Lucky you.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Absolutely. My libido has been in a coma since the end of May.

I'm not sure if anything will wake it up, as a result I don't feel particularly sexy, quite unwanted actually.

Snap... I thought at least when I came back after summer break some of my old meets might have been in touch to say welcome back, lets catch up.... But no... Nothing... No replies to messages. "

I'm fed up of the meet me now, let's fuck gubbins.

I want full on stimulation apparently that is asking too much.

Until I find someone who sends sparks flying I will stay as I am.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"If it's a bit deflated at the moment maybe try patching it up. If not €6 will buy you a decent brand new one "

What's the exchange rate today?

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

Beautifully Written OP....

Definitely say I know how you feel.. Big hugs xxx "

While I'm surprised that so may have identified with this... Its good to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Hugs right back xx

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

That would depend on what YOU are willing to exchange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

Beautifully Written OP....

"

I have been like this for almost 18 months. I had a nasty experience last year and thought I could handle it. I felt ok for a while but now I just dont seem to be as outgoing as I was before. I go to a local club but taking that step forward to actually play with someone is so hard. Finally managed it and was let down with a crash afterwards.

I would love to have that 'wanted and wanting' feeling again.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"So another thread got me thinking (nothing new there lol!), and after a particularly stressful summer with no time or opportunity for fun in the Fab sense of the word, my libido is at a complete low.

My sense of desirability is very much tied in with my need to feel desired. Not in the 'get me to number one on hot pics' sense... But the butterflies and excitement that comes with someone who knows you and looks at you with pure lust in their eye... Who makes you feel wanted. Its been months since anyone's made me feel this, and I notice the impact its had on me, my confidence and my sexuality. Its an amazing feeling when someone wants you, it makes you feel beautiful, giddy, confident and puts a real spring in your step.

Does anyone else have these issues?

Beautifully Written OP....

I have been like this for almost 18 months. I had a nasty experience last year and thought I could handle it. I felt ok for a while but now I just dont seem to be as outgoing as I was before. I go to a local club but taking that step forward to actually play with someone is so hard. Finally managed it and was let down with a crash afterwards.

I would love to have that 'wanted and wanting' feeling again."

Biiiiig hugs xx. Nothing worse than a let-down to destroy your confidence. I hope you find that feeling again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive. "

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x "

It has helped me too. Knowing I'm not alone or some kind of wierdo.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've like that for months now unfortunately. In fact the one and only time I have had sex this year is back in March.

Of course I get messages from men asking to meet, unfortunately they just do not do anything for me. In fact I think the internet has made peoples social skills pretty much non existent, and most men have gone back to Neanderthal days, I need my mind to be stimulated before my body can actually go there, so I doubt anything will change anytime soon

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x "

Hopefully we can all take something from it. I think a big part of my issue is that my last encounter (months ago) was a complete disaster... I've never felt so unwanted in my life, and while the person in question attributed it to his own loss of libido at the time, he's more than made up for it since with others. This has made me feel inadequate (even though we had previously enjoyed a really hot, fun, fwb relationship), and as a subsequent attraction with someone else came to nothing (nobody's fault... the attraction is either there or it isn't), I'm in that mode where I'm hesitant to open myself to further rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x

Hopefully we can all take something from it. I think a big part of my issue is that my last encounter (months ago) was a complete disaster... I've never felt so unwanted in my life, and while the person in question attributed it to his own loss of libido at the time, he's more than made up for it since with others. This has made me feel inadequate (even though we had previously enjoyed a really hot, fun, fwb relationship), and as a subsequent attraction with someone else came to nothing (nobody's fault... the attraction is either there or it isn't), I'm in that mode where I'm hesitant to open myself to further rejection."

The way I solve this is to come up with a better 'story'. In this case I'd tell myself he had feelings for me and that's why it went wrong. He shagged other people to get over me. So it wasn't a rejection, he was protecting himself. Or something like that...

Doesn't matter if it's true or not, it would make me feel better. Hope that helps.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x

Hopefully we can all take something from it. I think a big part of my issue is that my last encounter (months ago) was a complete disaster... I've never felt so unwanted in my life, and while the person in question attributed it to his own loss of libido at the time, he's more than made up for it since with others. This has made me feel inadequate (even though we had previously enjoyed a really hot, fun, fwb relationship), and as a subsequent attraction with someone else came to nothing (nobody's fault... the attraction is either there or it isn't), I'm in that mode where I'm hesitant to open myself to further rejection.

The way I solve this is to come up with a better 'story'. In this case I'd tell myself he had feelings for me and that's why it went wrong. He shagged other people to get over me. So it wasn't a rejection, he was protecting himself. Or something like that...

Doesn't matter if it's true or not, it would make me feel better. Hope that helps. "

Ah! The delusional approach... Hmmm... Lets see.... I'm just too goddam sexy... men are so in awe of me that they're afraid to message me properly and get to know me... All those 'meet now' messages are really their shy bumbling attempts to mask their awkwardness behind a brash exterior.... My former fwb simply realised he could no longer keep up my needs... and my subsequent attraction also decided he was punching above his weight... Looool... I feel better already... Now where's my crown... I'm off to conquer empires!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Can't beat that look in someone's eyes that clearly states ...I want you ,I'm going to have you right now right here ...not just a female thing that ,hope you find someone to stoke your smouldering embers soon X

That's it exactly! I miss that. Even if its not possible to give in to those desires, the sense that someone at least finds it frustrating at not being able to do so is enough to keep it alive.

You have no idea how much this has helped me. Thank you. x "

We all deserve this and nothing less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes all the time. Being told I want you from here is nice and makes me feel good but it's that moment I'm pulled into his arms and our eyes meet that makes me feel desirable.

Knowing you can't have any fun over the summer probably means you've just turned that side of yourself off and now just need to rediscover the on switch again x "

Nothing to do with this thread but your new pic is AMAZING!!!

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