FabSwingers.com forum: High sex drive vs sexaholic

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are the boundaries

And what if someone isn't getting enuff.. what impact??

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"if someone isn't getting enuff.. what impact?? "

Blisters on the proximal interphalangeal joints of the fingers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a high sex drive and am happy to satisfy myself with my wand. I am fussy with regards to sexual partners.

Right or wrong, i imagine that those addicted to sex are rather less fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wank a couple times a day but as was put above haven't had sex in 6 months!

Call me picky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get horny if I don't have sex. Very horny. Self help, I suppose.

The impact - lots of PMs on fab.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Some heavy drinkers recognise that it they are alcoholic and lots of sex addicts will know it's more than a high sex drive.

Managing the addiction is the key

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I guess like every addiction- does it impact on other areas in life? do you have controle over it? are relationships breaking down because of it, getting in debt, risky behaviour, and so on...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Usually I've a high sex drive, but am wouldn't say I'm addicted in any way. Presently though I've no sex drive.... Haven't had sex in months... Its a case of 'use it or lose it'... and I've most definitely lost it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. Good replies. Tend to agree with the last comment. Use it or lose it. Am getting fed up if looking or chasing hmmmmm

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

high sex drive and not enough sex = little problems and loads of wanking.

sex addict and not enough sex = melt downs, opening yourself up to abuse by taking risks, being arrested, shitstorms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sex addiction is where sex takes over your life and interferes with day to day living. I have been there, finishing work early or taking longer lunches to have sex (the benefits of having flexible working hours) also cancelling social arrangements to have sex and focussing my life around sex.

I'm sure many of us have a high sex drive but allowing sex to control your life isn't a good thing like any other addiction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oooh thanks. Useful. I think am former not latter. X

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i'm actually a sex addict. been doing a lot of proactive things for myself for quite a while now. it's really hard.

being a sex addict makes you vulnerable and there are always people out there ready to use that to their advantage.

wouldn't wish it on anyone, it really is crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A sex addiction is where sex takes over your life and interferes with day to day living. I have been there, finishing work early or taking longer lunches to have sex (the benefits of having flexible working hours) also cancelling social arrangements to have sex and focussing my life around sex.

I'm sure many of us have a high sex drive but allowing sex to control your life isn't a good thing like any other addiction

Are you cured now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'm actually a sex addict. been doing a lot of proactive things for myself for quite a while now. it's really hard.

being a sex addict makes you vulnerable and there are always people out there ready to use that to their advantage.

wouldn't wish it on anyone, it really is crap."

100% agree with you about the vulnerability as well as people taking advantage. Try and remain positive, have something to focus on in life and having a trusted friend to talk to helps.

Someone once said to me, dating or looking for sex when you're horny is like food shopping when hungry. Invest in some good toys and set yourself some rules or boundaries.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure many of us have a high sex drive but allowing sex to control your life isn't a good thing like any other addiction

Are you cured now?"

I am, I still have a very high sex drive but I am in control and have priorities and some other focusses in life to keep me on track. Luckily it didn't have a major negative impact on my life but I know others who have gotten in to trouble or difficulties with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure many of us have a high sex drive but allowing sex to control your life isn't a good thing like any other addiction

Are you cured now?

Sweet, what size is your penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure many of us have a high sex drive but allowing sex to control your life isn't a good thing like any other addiction

Are you cured now?

Sweet, what size is your penis?"

That's not an answer I'd publish on a forum

let's just say it's both a grower and a shower

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

"i'm actually a sex addict. been doing a lot of proactive things for myself for quite a while now. it's really hard.

being a sex addict makes you vulnerable and there are always people out there ready to use that to their advantage.

wouldn't wish it on anyone, it really is crap.

100% agree with you about the vulnerability as well as people taking advantage. Try and remain positive, have something to focus on in life and having a trusted friend to talk to helps.

Someone once said to me, dating or looking for sex when you're horny is like food shopping when hungry. Invest in some good toys and set yourself some rules or boundaries.

Good luck, I hope it works out for you "

all i mostly focus on is i want sex, lots of sex, and not with loads of randoms but with one person that does give a fuck about me.

gets me down that i won't find that person, especially not in predator world.

once my kids go back to school i know i'm gonna have a blow out just coz i want sex. my coping mechanisms aren't working, my body enjoys sex and wants that. my brain wants something more.

dunno, never gonna get it sorted. there's no support anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all i mostly focus on is i want sex, lots of sex, and not with loads of randoms but with one person that does give a fuck about me.

gets me down that i won't find that person, especially not in predator world.

once my kids go back to school i know i'm gonna have a blow out just coz i want sex. my coping mechanisms aren't working, my body enjoys sex and wants that. my brain wants something more.

dunno, never gonna get it sorted. there's no support anywhere."

There is a support network out there, I'll find the details and inbox you.

I took up running to help me, I hated it at first but got a buzz and thrill from running. Being honest, it doesn't take away the need for sex but gave me that focus and determination, as well as some discipline which I didn't have at that time. It worked for me but that's not to say it will work for others.

I still met people for sex but i had more self control, avoided risky behaviour and became more selective over who is meet and when I'd meet. It's not easy, but it's worth persevering with if you can find a new focus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't inbox you but here's the link

http://saauk.info/en/

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

"I can't inbox you but here's the link

http://saauk.info/en/"

thanks. i do keep myself busy all the time. when i can focus i do courses i enjoy, on biology and psychology. i used to go to the gym regular until i got an injury, next week i'm going the doctors about that.

just can't focus any more again. will have a good look around that site though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't inbox you but here's the link

http://saauk.info/en/

just can't focus any more again. will have a good look around that site though."

Good luck with it, the doctor will probably refer you to them, test you and refer you to your local GUM clinic. Maybe worth cutting out the middle man

I hope the studies go well and you recover from the injury too.

Feel free to inbox if you want to chat

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

"I can't inbox you but here's the link

http://saauk.info/en/

just can't focus any more again. will have a good look around that site though.

Good luck with it, the doctor will probably refer you to them, test you and refer you to your local GUM clinic. Maybe worth cutting out the middle man

I hope the studies go well and you recover from the injury too.

Feel free to inbox if you want to chat

i'm ok, thanks. sometimes just need a rant and cry to get it out of my system. feel a bit better already. i mostly avoid sex and use reasoning as to why i should avoid it. had sex recently, it's set the cycle off again. probably just gonnna do a lot of thinking and crying and my kids gonna wonder wtf is wrong with me. i just tell them i'm processing emotions coz i am.

that link is better, i found this site previously and didn't find all the categories on it. the nearest place to me is manchester, doubt i can get to it but gonna try to. my ex is being supportive a lot right now in enabling to me to get out to appointments.

just rambling on now, trying to get my thought processes to work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck with it all. I had a look on the site just now and I'm sure they were offering telephone and online support, which may be easier for you.

You're doing the right thing seeking help and I'm sure you'll get to where you want to be with beating this

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

"Best of luck with it all. I had a look on the site just now and I'm sure they were offering telephone and online support, which may be easier for you.

You're doing the right thing seeking help and I'm sure you'll get to where you want to be with beating this "

had a look round, added myself to one of the skype webcalls for monday night. thanks. just found out about sexual anorexia, think that's me now lol.

hoping they don't try and push their religion onto me, will wait and see now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fingers x'd they'll find something that works for you. Be straight up with them about your fears and concerns with help so that they can put you down the right path which works for you and your needs

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

i will do. i'll tell them i've been mostly coping while my kids are here all the time and need some advice on how to control myself when they go back to school.

ordered a few leaflets off their site too, hopefully they'll help.

gonna google the above actually, coping mechanisms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a high sex drive, will never be a sex addict on this site!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a high sex drive, I wouldn't say I was an addict. Sex is on my mind on and off all day, I'll look at someone on the street and eye them up and wonder what they are like in bed.

I'm yet to meet anyone who can exhaust me or make me feel like I cant take any more.

If I am deprived, or don't get any when I want it, I'm moody and snappy. I can't help it.

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