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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Maybe a cock in a sock doesn't do it for them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hark, is that the sound of the waaaaahmbulance that I hear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance "

Is this the album version of Funk Dat ?

(I'm showing my age I know )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe a cock in a sock doesn't do it for them ?"
female replying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally because we all know what we want, and what we don't, and we are often able to very quickly decide which category someone falls into.

Suck it up princess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

You're paying for membership of this site not for sex with the members. If you think coughing up a fiver should lead to some action .... well .... I'm speechless frankly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think its exclusively single men. I also ignore couples or females who don't appeal to me by message or profile.

They fact the majority of the site is single men makes any issue seem bigger-the percentages of things happening might be the same for every category there's just a much higher volume of single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in what way do you mean 'given a chance'?..are you suggesting that a woman should meet you even if she is not attracted to you?

how many messages do you deem it necessary for someone to exchange with you before it is acceptable for them , or you, to decide you are not for each other?

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

You're paying for membership of this site not for sex with the members. If you think coughing up a fiver should lead to some action .... well .... I'm speechless frankly "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

Just because you've paid your fiver it doesn't guaranty women are going to find you attractive and how is it the sites fault?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

They're not my customers are you saying I should talk to everyone who messages me, ignorant of what I've written on my profile, just because they've spent a few pounds on membership to the site???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

Now, THAT'S funny!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid you have to remain patient and polite. The number of men on FAB far outweigh the number of women so it is a patient waiting game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

maybe think about why some single men dont feel they are treated well? maybe consider some of the disgusting, crude,and downright vicious messages women get on here.....maybe have a good browse through a bunch of male profiles and see exactly how little effort a lot of men make on here before you whine about how badly treated they are. Why should a woman reply politely when someone shoves a cock pic in their face along with a crap message and no profile?

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Apparently there aren't really any single men on here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

Lol at 'customer'.

I suspect the attitude of a considerable amount of 'single' men on here, that women are only on here for their pleasure and have no say in who they find attractive, is what is causing the lack of success. If men in general behaved better, maybe women would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

Now, THAT'S funny!!"

I've read it three times just to make sure I've got it right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance "
. Lots of single men aren't ignored there are couples and single women that search out guys for meets all the time. You might feel like your getting ignored maybe but ask yourself a question how much effort have you put into fab. Or how long did you take over your profile?. Have a look at some guys profiles who are successful on fab bet for one they don't have loads cock pictures there profile will sell itself. Would you go to a interview carrying a cv with a few words about yourself wearing trainers ripped dirty jeans and expect to get a job? no. Maybe get rid of blank profile picture put a face picture up nice body pictures and definitely loose the cock pictures. Christ if I had a pound for every time someone has told a single guy cock pictures are a turn off I'd be a millionaire . I had a single guys profile for years so know what it can be like but without selling yourself and making a effort you'll get nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure why you posted that ?

I thought I made it very clear .. some guys on here are genuine and far too many are not .. So sure the non genuine guys post some crude messages etc .. and you are concerned they post a naked picture?? .. this aint POF its FAB a swinger site not a dating one .. Some ladies need to think about that instead of trying to use it as a cheap version of POF I feel .. So sure I think a lot of common sense needed and again .. of course the non genuine guys and girls freeloaders if you will deserve a wide berth but the genuine ones .. deserve a bit of manners on both sides and if you dont agree thats fair enough we all have the right to an opinion ..
"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

maybe think about why some single men dont feel they are treated well? maybe consider some of the disgusting, crude,and downright vicious messages women get on here.....maybe have a good browse through a bunch of male profiles and see exactly how little effort a lot of men make on here before you whine about how badly treated they are. Why should a woman reply politely when someone shoves a cock pic in their face along with a crap message and no profile?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is what you make it, put in the effort and you should hopefully get results. I'm amazed at how many people moan it's a shit site but stay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure why you posted that ?

I thought I made it very clear .. some guys on here are genuine and far too many are not .. So sure the non genuine guys post some crude messages etc .. and you are concerned they post a naked picture?? .. this aint POF its FAB a swinger site not a dating one .. Some ladies need to think about that instead of trying to use it as a cheap version of POF I feel .. So sure I think a lot of common sense needed and again .. of course the non genuine guys and girls freeloaders if you will deserve a wide berth but the genuine ones .. deserve a bit of manners on both sides and if you dont agree thats fair enough we all have the right to an opinion .. "

Genuine guys can write crude messages too!

I'm unsure the point you're trying to make, are you saying site supporters are genuine and non site supporters are freeloaders and not genuine members?

I'm not a site supporter yet I've met a lot more people than you have, so how does that work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

Now, THAT'S funny!!

I've read it three times just to make sure I've got it right! "

My telly has become redundant since I discovered the forums

Sometimes, I'm crying with laughter

What ARE these men on, that they would suggest we are here to keep THEM happy?

Like us ladies are providing a service

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

Every customer

That feeling of entitlement is what puts most people off meeting other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never understand why men seem to feel entitled to a meet or attention from women and couples who clearly have no interest in them.

OP, perhaps you're just not for the people you have messaged as I'm sure they get many messages and simply reply to the few that take their fancy as opposed to meeting people they do not want to for the sake of 'giving them a chance'.

Good luck though

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

Now, THAT'S funny!!

I've read it three times just to make sure I've got it right!

My telly has become redundant since I discovered the forums

Sometimes, I'm crying with laughter

What ARE these men on, that they would suggest we are here to keep THEM happy?

Like us ladies are providing a service"

A very cheap service too, a fiver a month, cheaper than Netflix!

Anyhoo, must dash, I have customers waiting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I see it your profile is your chance, that's the first impression and if you don't seize the opportunity to make such a good one that they choose to find out more that's down to you. And even if you have an amazing profile if you aren't what they're looking for why should they waste their time and yours?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin .. "

If you were a single female or a couple, would you meet one of the hundreds of guys with great profiles, who's got veris to show he meets. Or would you spend precious time messaging a profile with 3 blurry, odd, cock pics?

I don't care if the membership halves. It will be the ones who don't get the concept who will be leaving. I don't care if they've paid £1,000 membership, if the profile or message is shit. People want to meet nice people. That's it. It's easy to do. Show some personality and common sense in profile and message and it will work. Or go to club and prove you are genuine and have personality. People who do those things have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance "

Maybe they read your profile and decide your not for them

Perhaps you should add socks to your cock pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

If you were a single female or a couple, would you meet one of the hundreds of guys with great profiles, who's got veris to show he meets. Or would you spend precious time messaging a profile with 3 blurry, odd, cock pics?

I don't care if the membership halves. It will be the ones who don't get the concept who will be leaving. I don't care if they've paid £1,000 membership, if the profile or message is shit. People want to meet nice people. That's it. It's easy to do. Show some personality and common sense in profile and message and it will work. Or go to club and prove you are genuine and have personality. People who do those things have fun."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If some people's job applications were as crap and non existent as some of the profiles I see on here then they'd get ignored too!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

'Ignored' or not being replied to, whatever your gender, means that there is no interest to be pursued. It's in the site FAQs, which should be read.

There are more single men than anyone else here, so many will fail to attract others. If you can't cope with this, it is the wrong site for you.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance

Maybe they read your profile and decide your not for them

Perhaps you should add socks to your cock pics"

He did, but removed the pic after a comment higher up.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

we just do coz let's face it all you want is NSA sex and the NSA will start right from the first message, this can mean to some people that not replying is NSA (i am like this, you want NSA then i won't even reply if i don't want you).

and maybe some have given guys a chance before but the sex was shit so they stick to going for what they want. most won't even give a chance and i don't blame them.there's enough risks to take when looking for NSA that if the slightest thing puts you off you should trust your gut.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Not all single guys get ignored.

The ones that have taken the time to write a decent message, have a good profile, will always get a reply even if it's to politely say, no thanks.

The ones that are on here expecting an instant shag, because they said Hi & attached a cock pic, will.

This site is what you make it, I've ended up with some great friends because they sent a nice message, I don't fancy them for whatever reason but we've dealt with that & moved onto a real friendship.

I get the same from some women & couples too, so it's not just single blokes either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If some people's job applications were as crap and non existent as some of the profiles I see on here then they'd get ignored too!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

Now, THAT'S funny!!

I've read it three times just to make sure I've got it right!

My telly has become redundant since I discovered the forums

Sometimes, I'm crying with laughter

What ARE these men on, that they would suggest we are here to keep THEM happy?

Like us ladies are providing a service"

No words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why is it that single men are ignored quite often even though they haven't been given a chance "

Hmmmm... oh?!... What's that you say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just how it is, I tried to make a fleshed out profile with wants/likes etc but it didn't seem to make a difference. If people want to get to know me they'll talk to me.

I'm a paitient guy so letting them know little I'm hoping will spur some on who look, to peruse thier thoughts.

All the best OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What exactly are you finding funny ?

You suggest then anyone who has paid for membership isnt a customer ? so doesnt deserve a degree of customer service ?

think again


" As much as I can see the logic in some of the replies and I agree totally with the OP by the way .. single guys seem to treated like some sort of vermin by some on here .. .. you can't ignore the fact that without us single guys the PAYING ( cos lets face it there are soo many people on here who dont seem to be able to afford a measly fiver or tenner for some reason ? membership on FAB would more than halve I should think . it is sometimes nice to make sure that every customer is happy not just a few ..

'jus sayin ..

Now, THAT'S funny!!

I've read it three times just to make sure I've got it right! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said it was ?

my point is there should be an effort by the site owners and presumably those who also mskr a profit from it ? to keep fake profules and the like away .. that was my point .

I think its clear now ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who said it was ?

my point is there should be an effort by the site owners and presumably those who also mskr a profit from it ? to keep fake profules and the like away .. that was my point .

I think its clear now ? "

How do you know they don't make an effort? I'm sure they do all they can but policing sites like this can be near on impossible I'd imagine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no Im saying people who pay membership need a dite that is managed properly . there appears to be no interestin stopping timewasters , fake profiles, profiles set upby prostitutes abd escirts and freeloading club owners

thats not what it should be about surely ?

Hope my point is a little clearer now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no Im saying people who pay membership need a dite that is managed properly . there appears to be no interestin stopping timewasters , fake profiles, profiles set upby prostitutes abd escirts and freeloading club owners

thats not what it should be about surely ?

Hope my point is a little clearer now .

"

It's managed by volunteers very well I think. Payment for extra features is not compulsory, if it was then maybe it might improve but personally, I think it's a great site that works well. There are thousands of profiles on here, they cannot police them all but they give you effective filters to help out fakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no Im saying people who pay membership need a dite that is managed properly . there appears to be no interestin stopping timewasters , fake profiles, profiles set upby prostitutes abd escirts and freeloading club owners

thats not what it should be about surely ?

Hope my point is a little clearer now .

"

So how would YOU rectify this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who said it was ?

my point is there should be an effort by the site owners and presumably those who also mskr a profit from it ? to keep fake profules and the like away .. that was my point .

I think its clear now ? "

Reading stuff you have written in the forums, the one thing that IS clear, is that you arent impressed with the site

Which begs the question " perhaps you would be more suited to amother?"

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS


"no Im saying people who pay membership need a dite that is managed properly . there appears to be no interestin stopping timewasters , fake profiles, profiles set upby prostitutes abd escirts and freeloading club owners

thats not what it should be about surely ?

Hope my point is a little clearer now .

So how would YOU rectify this?"

Make people meet single guys like you?

There seems an awfully large sense of entitlement here.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I've paid my fiver, form an orderly queue ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no Im saying people who pay membership need a dite that is managed properly . there appears to be no interestin stopping timewasters , fake profiles, profiles set upby prostitutes abd escirts and freeloading club owners

thats not what it should be about surely ?

Hope my point is a little clearer now .

So how would YOU rectify this?

Make people meet single guys like you?

There seems an awfully large sense of entitlement here."

But how would this be done? The site don't control me. No fucker does lol.

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