FabSwingers.com forum: Why do women waste guys time

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have spoken to two single women on here now and they have both wasted my time. I went out brought wine to entertain and things and they chat for days and say yes so I arrange everything and then let u down and block you

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"I have spoken to two single women on here now "

Spoken as in a real conversation or messaged via here?

If the later; 'tis the interweb - anyone can be anyone.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Did you make arrangements to meet on a specific day/ time, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoken to two single women on here now and they have both wasted my time. I went out brought wine to entertain and things and they chat for days and say yes so I arrange everything and then let u down and block you "

Meeting a silhouette is a daunting prospect. Who wants to meet a guy with no eyes, no nose, no mouth?

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess 2 bad experiences make it fine to label all women as timewasters...

I wonder if their sides of the stories differ from yours or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP did you confirm they were single women?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Ooof. Harsh.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Ooof. Harsh."
but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Ooof. Harsh. but true. "

Yes. yes it is.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

If you could just turn the clock back.

Better luck next time.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

How did they 'let you down'? If they cancelled and let you know, they haven't wasted your time. Life sometimes gets in the way or something was said/done that changed their minds. No one here has to go through with a meet, just because they said yes in the beginning.

If they didn't let you know, you can report them to admin as a 'no show'. It could also be 'men' portraying themselves as 'women' to get their kicks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they tell you they couldn't make it? Were they valid reasons?

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By *evilinsidemeMan
over a year ago

Trim

There seems to be a lot of these threads, I still haven't been let down or cancelled myself so far.

You can tell if you talk or message enough if the other party will turn up.

Ask yourself, did you rush into it?

Did they seem genuine?

Was it I'm gonna do this, you can do that, from early in the messages! (Normally a catfish guy then)

Oh and you had a bottle of wine..... Bonus. At least you can have a drink and try form some new friends on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me a few timez..

They still mail me and i reply to be sociable but won't bother trying to meet again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why does anybody waste anybodies time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think? "

Only if it's a single guy doing it, if it's a single lady that's their prerogative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Changing ones mind is allowed but let's be fair, stringing someone along and taking the piss out of them is a tad unfair I think. Sounds as if this.could be the latter

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

I see nothing wrong with changing yr mind (women and men) even at the last minute,however it doesn't take too long in letting someone know ..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think? "

I'd agree but I'm assuming that this isn't how most people operate.

I wonder if it was just bad luck that two people had to cancel or if things were assumed to be more certain than they actually were.

If one person repeatedly fails, it's also worth them looking at how they're operating, to see what they could change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to happen a lot but I don't like threads like this as you only ever hear one side of the story. If your just chatting on here and this happens then hey ho, you weren't for them for whatever reason. You time is only truly wasted if you travel to the venue and get a no show with no contact from them. I never let anyone do this to me as I'd meet in a public place like a coffee shop locally where I'd be anyway on my break or in town shopping, I'd always swap phone numbers and have a chat beforehand also.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"There seems to be a lot of these threads, I still haven't been let down or cancelled myself so far."

I have, and its difficult to work out when it will happen. I've been stood up by long term, well verified paid members, as well as non verified, recently joined silhouettes. It happens, and you can deal with it, or let it spoil your time here.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think? "

Depends. You could be put off by something at the last minute in the conversation. While you should, out of politeness say "I've changed my mind" these types of threads may make you think it easier to block.

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

OP it is very annoying to be let down .. sometimes that can't be helped as we all have a real world we live in! I have had to let people down and been let down my self! .. but saying that we all know the internet is full of catfish .. and peoples motives for being here and what they want out of it are all very different..

So we must learn from our mistakes. And do some damage limitations!

Things to remember ..

Don't think with your dick ! He is good fun but he doesn't alwsys make wise choices.

If it sounds to good to be true it usually is!

Go with your gut instincts and listen to them.

Talk on the phone, cam or even better arrange a quick coffee before to make sure they are who they say that are.

Look at their verifications,

And read between the lines ..

Hope things work out better for you and good luck for the future Hx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got no public photos, that won't help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not gender specific OP, anyone has the right to change their mind. But from chatting with my gal pals on here, it very definitely isn't just women who change their minds.

Dust yourself down, suck it up and put a smile on whilst you keep looking. No-one likes a sulky pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got no public photos, that won't help."

I'd imagine he sent some privately. Incidentally OP, did they block you after you did this??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because they can as there's significantly more men on here so they can be choosy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I've never wasted anyone's time, all bar one have wasted mine by turning up and looking different to their pic, probably 10years older. So thanks to those I don't bother anymore

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Are you including the woman who verified you 2 days ago in that sweeping generalisation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they've messaged in time to say they've changed their minds / can't make it then it is what it is.

If they've just no showed & blocked after agreeing to meet at a certain time you can report them if you can be arsed to do so.

Either way it's beyond your control & really not worth giving it a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only two? I was way into double figures pretty quickly, which is partly why I stopped meeting guys. It's not the cold feet I object to - I understand that they were turned on at the time but not when they woke up on the day of the meet - but they don't even have the decency to txt a lame excuse before I spend all the time getting ready.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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We get better offers

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think?

Only if it's a single guy doing it, if it's a single lady that's their prerogative

Any act of arranging meets and then cancel (or change mind) and do not have the courtesy to inform the other party is time-wasting in my opinion.

Cancel away but at least inform the other party at least few hours before the time.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

2? TWO?!!!!!!

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Did you keep the receipt for the wine ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Why do men and couples waste our time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't want wine, I certainly wouldn't. I don't drink alcohol and I would not meet a man who was drinking on a meet. No way would I want to meet and get d*unk. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wasted their time as you weren't what they wanted! Haha...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Meeting a silhouette is a daunting prospect. Who wants to meet a guy with no eyes, no nose, no mouth?

- Mrs. J -"

Eh ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Leaving it to the last minute and blocking is bad form, don't you think?

Only if it's a single guy doing it, if it's a single lady that's their prerogative

Any act of arranging meets and then cancel (or change mind) and do not have the courtesy to inform the other party is time-wasting in my opinion.

Cancel away but at least inform the other party at least few hours before the time.

I was being sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they didn't want wine, I certainly wouldn't. I don't drink alcohol and I would not meet a man who was drinking on a meet. No way would I want to meet and get d*unk. XXX"

How do you know the women knew he'd bought wine in the first place?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If they didn't message you to cancel and just didn't turn up, then I can see why you're annoyed/ frustrated.

That doesn't mean that all women are timewasters. I hope you have better luck next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Ooof. Harsh. but true. "

But manners cost nothing. Ghosting is a horrible thing

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"I clearly didn't get the small print that states we aren't allowed to change our minds. .

Minds? Trading standards would have something to say about that.

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