FabSwingers.com forum: Is it really that difficult to meet a F

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

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By *ex mad ladMan
over a year ago

Sussex

Didn't think a coupke would have a problem with that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes it is just as difficult as being a single guy. I;m the F and tend to do most of our messages but they still believe they are talking to the man

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By *unforus1965Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns."

These comments may well put potential meets off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha well I am usually very nice, but I have resorted to asking on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wife would help out long as I could watch

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Swap numbers and talk on the phone?

If you're both serous about a potential meet up speak to each other

Simple really

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns."

Bulldog?

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Bulldog

A barrier or made to jump through hoops to even get a message read never mind replied to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off."

Yup

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds a perfect idea, can we message privately?

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off.

Yup"

I concur.

Try treating women like people and not additional extras to spice up your sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wife would help out long as I could watch

Sounds perfect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off.

Yup

I concur.

Try treating women like people and not additional extras to spice up your sex life."

It is simply an expression i'm not insinuating they are actual bulldogs it's just hard to get past the initial message.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Maybe a friendship about to unfold here..

Good luck guys and girls

Leave the others, whingeing about being put off, to it.

Kinda reinforces the bulldog at the threshold...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are F. On here? Wow!

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Your not doing yourself any favours with a post like this. Far too ranty. You've only been on a few weeks. Not meet verified yet, which lots of people rely on.

Keep it light and fun. There's lots of great people here. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off.

Yup

I concur.

Try treating women like people and not additional extras to spice up your sex life.

It is simply an expression i'm not insinuating they are actual bulldogs it's just hard to get past the initial message. "

Seriously though I agree there are plenty with there boundaries up. Just how it works here.

But honestly persistence pays and just keep being polite and heart set on what you want, even here there are plenty that will go for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your not doing yourself any favours with a post like this. Far too ranty. You've only been on a few weeks. Not meet verified yet, which lots of people rely on.

Keep it light and fun. There's lots of great people here. Good luck."

I agree with the ranty part. But I've never been light, maybe fun but not light and it's never done me any harm...

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off.

Yup

I concur.

Try treating women like people and not additional extras to spice up your sex life.

It is simply an expression i'm not insinuating they are actual bulldogs it's just hard to get past the initial message. "

Then it depends how you're messaging them. As I've said on a previous post today, in my experience, couples frequently message full of entitlement and arrogance. Many presume single women will jump as soon as they summon you and get pissy when you don't throw your knickers off immediately.

Couples are a pre made team, we're not accessories. Nor appreciate being called dogs.

Perhaps imagine you're the single fem when writing to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really having any problems no.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High expectations = disappointment

You'll have far more fun concentrating on who you get opportunity to play with rather than getting hung up on those who you don't.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Does anyone else struggle to get past the bulldog at reception when it comes to chatting to a F. Would love MFF session but it appears that the women on here think they are Unicorns.

These comments may well put potential meets off.

Yup

I concur.

Try treating women like people and not additional extras to spice up your sex life.

It is simply an expression i'm not insinuating they are actual bulldogs it's just hard to get past the initial message.

Couples are a pre made team, we're not accessories. Nor appreciate being called dogs.

Perhaps imagine you're the single fem when writing to them? "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we don't find it hard to meet females. In fact we meeting one tomorrow

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

I've spoken with many females, in regards to this, and the majority prefer to get to know a couple first, due to how much drama is seen between couples and they don't want to become involved.

It's probably primarily seen within the club scene, couples rushing into it, only one is really up for it, they're not sure what they want etc. Seen plenty couples end up arguing in clubs and storming out, that's more than enough to put me off. Not that I have any interest in actually playing with couples as I've no interest in the female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So everything you have posted is about what you want, and how the females arnt jumping through hoops to be with you. there are tons of males and couples on this site that want to meet females.

The female % is low in comparison. Then take in the fact she needs to be bi, then she needs to be attracted to both of you and finally she needs to feel comfortable and safe playing with you.

So what are you doing to make you stand out? Moaning.

having a rant on your profile.

We are lucky enough to have female friends on fab but that's from putting in effort, engaging with people and also going to clubs so ladies can see the type of people you are. Why would females approach a couple if they are just going to be used for the couples satisfaction- what do they get out of it?!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had better mff and more than we have successful mfm. We find chatting to ladies at clubs works best. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had better mff and more than we have successful mfm. We find chatting to ladies at clubs works best. X "
your advice is probably the best answer and it's always better In person to get across what kind of people you are x

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over a year ago

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We have met lots of single women

It is easier at parties to get chatting and your personality shines better in the real world than on a site so maybe that could be an option?

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

OP I think women like to see a couple of pics of the male as well as the female before they start chatting.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had better mff and more than we have successful mfm. We find chatting to ladies at clubs works best. X your advice is probably the best answer and it's always better In person to get across what kind of people you are x I think its very hard on here to get across what you could offer a single lady without it sounding like she is some sort of fetish list. Much easier in person. "
much agreed and you can see if you click and are compatible and wanting each other for the right reasons to enjoy each other than please hubby or be a object for a couple which it shouldn't be,then it goes on if the attraction is there 3 ways and if you all get on well and share the same views so alot cones into it to do things the right way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I think women like to see a couple of pics of the male as well as the female before they start chatting.

Sally "
that's partly why we so better in person as Mr wont put many photos of him on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP I think women like to see a couple of pics of the male as well as the female before they start chatting.

Sally that's partly why we so better in person as Mr wont put many photos of him on here x"
yes and for us it tends to be okay yes she looks lovely sounds nice but her partner isn't for us so I think it's best for us with nice single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a single female is looking to play with both in the couple, they need to see pictures of both the male and female. I find most couples profiles tend to be visually geared towards the single male.... Even if they are only looking for single females/couples.

It's difficult for a single woman to find the right dynamics with a couple. Plus the first message from a lot, make me sound more like a play toy, than an actual person, which can be daunting and off putting. Saying that, there is one couple on fab I would happily play with, when schedules allow. So there are definitely some great couples on here too

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