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"Getting stuff out is definitely good I reckon. If something is troubling you either sharing it with someone or writing about it always works for me. So I would probably say yes " even if its taking three people home whilst your in a relationship and at the same time ur partner also cheats on you with one other person? | |||
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"Getting stuff out is definitely good I reckon. If something is troubling you either sharing it with someone or writing about it always works for me. So I would probably say yes A problem shared is a problem every one else can take the p**s out of " *whispers* don't tell him that *chuckles* | |||
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"Of course they are... Sister LisaB " Oooooops Will he be forgiven? | |||
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"Getting stuff out is definitely good I reckon. If something is troubling you either sharing it with someone or writing about it always works for me. So I would probably say yes even if its taking three people home whilst your in a relationship and at the same time ur partner also cheats on you with one other person?" *coughs* yeah, why not..... | |||
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"Of course they are... Sister LisaB Oooooops Will he be forgiven?" That would depend on his confession... | |||
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"Of course they are... Sister LisaB Oooooops Will he be forgiven?" she just replied to me and told it is ok, she has a big heart and i also confessed that i have feelings for her still is that wrong? | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing" i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf." What have you got to loose? | |||
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"are confessions really good for the soul?" Once you are not judged afterwards | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose?" her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else" OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship. | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship." But will you ever truly be friends? | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship. But will you ever truly be friends? " Good point LisaB! If one person developes more feelings like the OP has then being just friends won't work. The alternative is to end friendship, which is really difficult to do though | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship. But will you ever truly be friends? Good point LisaB! If one person developes more feelings like the OP has then being just friends won't work. The alternative is to end friendship, which is really difficult to do though " i have decided to tell her and she is ok with it | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship. But will you ever truly be friends? Good point LisaB! If one person developes more feelings like the OP has then being just friends won't work. The alternative is to end friendship, which is really difficult to do though i have decided to tell her and she is ok with it" In what way ok? | |||
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"Sometimes confessions are not required. You may come clean, ease your guilt but cause a whole world of pain. Sometimes it's best to just say nothing i guess so but it has been killing me for years now keeping it all bottled up tbf. What have you got to loose? her friendship as i know she is a good person deepdown i also did confess to her i still have feelings for her even tho she is with someone else OP it is never a good idea to keep things bottled up. However in some circumstances you can loose more... like you just said her friendship. But will you ever truly be friends? Good point LisaB! If one person developes more feelings like the OP has then being just friends won't work. The alternative is to end friendship, which is really difficult to do though i have decided to tell her and she is ok with it In what way ok?" in like a forgiveness ok | |||
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"are confessions really good for the soul?" depends who is making them are you a good story teller | |||
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"are confessions really good for the soul? depends who is making them are you a good story teller" good question, can you define what a good story teller is? i mean everyone's taste is different. | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... " I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. | |||
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"My nan said there's nothing wrong with a variety son lol thing is if I want to go with women I should accept that my wife could swing aswell and have fun. U can't get jealous when your in the swinging game " Is that a confession? | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. " I've carried secrets and anger for what seems an eternity , locking them in a box behind my defensive wall.. The wall of banta, jokes, smiles and bullshit that people expect.. My barriers , my wall to keep myself safe , thing is I locked to many away and ignored them, didn't fix or admit to my mistakes as simple or complicated as they were.. My box recently broke over whelming me with emotions of panic, guilt, anger... I've learned from my way of "manly" don't want to talk about it, that it all comes back and bites hard.. Don't worry about your soul, look after yourself, those that matter won't judge you, they'll make you a better stronger person for letting things go... | |||
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"NO Keep it shtump or don't do it in the first place x" Without pictures, they can't prove anything right? | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. I've carried secrets and anger for what seems an eternity , locking them in a box behind my defensive wall.. The wall of banta, jokes, smiles and bullshit that people expect.. My barriers , my wall to keep myself safe , thing is I locked to many away and ignored them, didn't fix or admit to my mistakes as simple or complicated as they were.. My box recently broke over whelming me with emotions of panic, guilt, anger... I've learned from my way of "manly" don't want to talk about it, that it all comes back and bites hard.. Don't worry about your soul, look after yourself, those that matter won't judge you, they'll make you a better stronger person for letting things go... " I understand what your saying. I know I want everyone around me to be open and share thoughts. But I also know how damaging to people's relationships confessing something that needant have been told. You know that saying, what they don't know...? Sometimes I feel it's best. Not all the time I know, but sometimes. | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. I've carried secrets and anger for what seems an eternity , locking them in a box behind my defensive wall.. The wall of banta, jokes, smiles and bullshit that people expect.. My barriers , my wall to keep myself safe , thing is I locked to many away and ignored them, didn't fix or admit to my mistakes as simple or complicated as they were.. My box recently broke over whelming me with emotions of panic, guilt, anger... I've learned from my way of "manly" don't want to talk about it, that it all comes back and bites hard.. Don't worry about your soul, look after yourself, those that matter won't judge you, they'll make you a better stronger person for letting things go... I understand what your saying. I know I want everyone around me to be open and share thoughts. But I also know how damaging to people's relationships confessing something that needant have been told. You know that saying, what they don't know...? Sometimes I feel it's best. Not all the time I know, but sometimes. " The problem is what ever the dilema is good, bad or something completely random it's manifesting itself and growing in weight.. Talk to some one, there's a solution out there to ease your mind. | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. I've carried secrets and anger for what seems an eternity , locking them in a box behind my defensive wall.. The wall of banta, jokes, smiles and bullshit that people expect.. My barriers , my wall to keep myself safe , thing is I locked to many away and ignored them, didn't fix or admit to my mistakes as simple or complicated as they were.. My box recently broke over whelming me with emotions of panic, guilt, anger... I've learned from my way of "manly" don't want to talk about it, that it all comes back and bites hard.. Don't worry about your soul, look after yourself, those that matter won't judge you, they'll make you a better stronger person for letting things go... I understand what your saying. I know I want everyone around me to be open and share thoughts. But I also know how damaging to people's relationships confessing something that needant have been told. You know that saying, what they don't know...? Sometimes I feel it's best. Not all the time I know, but sometimes. The problem is what ever the dilema is good, bad or something completely random it's manifesting itself and growing in weight.. Talk to some one, there's a solution out there to ease your mind." Oh I completely agree. And it is a good way to find out who your friends truly are, and those who no longer want to share a life journey with you. Your advice is something I'd give to myself. | |||
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"I'm guessing yes. But others can get hurt if it's a painful one.... Kind of like passing the affliction on... I suppose that's why it's sometimes easier to tell a stranger, you know their distance from you is not going to burden them. Op. Confessions do lift a load of your shoulders, but sometimes, it should be yours to bear. " aigh so true that | |||
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