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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies. "

Sorry, I'm clearly not a man ( ) but I don't get hung up on who replies to me or not ... personally I think if you stress about that you shouldn't be a Fab member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

Sorry, I'm clearly not a man ( ) but I don't get hung up on who replies to me or not ... personally I think if you stress about that you shouldn't be a Fab member"

Sorry.not thread related but I totally thought I had replied but forgotten when I saw your username!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh twins!

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By *dnamMan
over a year ago

hook

It's nice to get a reply - even if it is a thank you, but no thank you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send and delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Sorry.not thread related but I totally thought I had replied but forgotten when I saw your username!! "

Did I send you a message then?

I personally delete after sending, that way I am not disappointed if it gets read and no reply/deleted.

Hope to see a full inbox one day though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waiting for a reply or them to read, would be like waiting for paint to dry

I just send & carry on perving, Fabbing or whatever other shenanigans i was upto

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By *arefootJugglerMan
over a year ago

Gillingham

Send, don't delete, but don't stress out, don't expect anything, just forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sorry.not thread related but I totally thought I had replied but forgotten when I saw your username!!

Did I send you a message then?

I personally delete after sending, that way I am not disappointed if it gets read and no reply/deleted.

Hope to see a full inbox one day though "

Sorry that was to the lady who replied before me with an almost identical username to mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never check my outbox,if I get a reply to a message then great,if not then they're obviously not interested.I fail to see why some people make such an issue out of it

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

No way! Would never check if someone had read a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

Sorry, I'm clearly not a man ( ) but I don't get hung up on who replies to me or not ... personally I think if you stress about that you shouldn't be a Fab member

Sorry.not thread related but I totally thought I had replied but forgotten when I saw your username!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't delete sent items but I don't really check them either

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"Oooh twins! "

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that a simple delete draws the line. Even a polite reply prompts another message (as if, I've changed my mind). Get over it and move on?

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"I don't delete sent items but I don't really check them either"

Same here, been here long enough to know most messages get left unread or ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent a total of 4 messages in 1 year. 2 straight deletes, 1 unread, 1 reply. I've only contacted women in my area, and have only seen one profile that made me think we were a good match (she was one who straight deleted my message - my profile was visible when I sent the messages). If I'd sent hundreds of messages I'd probably be passé about it all, but I genuinely looked to see if the messages had been read. I don't send messages now, just read the forums, hence why my profile is hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?"

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th! "

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always get more fun on the club we go to... but just started to use my single profile more, see of there's any local ladies/couples that I may like to chat to.... only a few so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i leave the sent message for a week then delete it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101 "

Damn the ancestry . Com malarky!!

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Send it , then pretty much forget about it until I get a response or not, block delete at times then

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By *tep121Man
over a year ago

manchester

I leave The message till it's been read and ignored or just deleted.

I know women get inundated with messages so I give them time to read them. I only send messages to those that either wink me or have viewed my profile, after I've read there's..

Still don't get a reply though.. even if they wink at me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101 "

It's an exclusive club of 69 ... I just made it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101

It's an exclusive club of 69 ... I just made it!! "

Boo hoo hoo, thought I might have found some kinky step sisters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101

It's an exclusive club of 69 ... I just made it!!

Boo hoo hoo, thought I might have found some kinky step sisters "

Well, we could hold interviews...

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?"

So we have 39 & 69 where are the other 67 and are there more in total lol

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

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By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

So we have 39 & 69 where are the other 67 and are there more in total lol "

I really should read to the bottom before posting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh twins!

Or 2 of 69 sisters?

Yes. There are 69 of us. We totally disowned the 70th!

Quickly changing username to minxymoo101

It's an exclusive club of 69 ... I just made it!!

Boo hoo hoo, thought I might have found some kinky step sisters

Well, we could hold interviews... "

Can't even send you my resume

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By *ukeuk888Man
over a year ago

hastings

Never delete mails anyway but always check to see if they've been read. Only ever message people I'd like a reply from, though often disappointed as some others have said, always good to get a message but I think my record on logging in is a fairly sad 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send it forget it and when outbox is getting full delete it...

Otherwise if I get a reply I've probably forgotten what message I had sent...

Not often they change colour though...

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By *aelawMan
over a year ago

Paisley

I send a message and I'm always hopeful but I understand that I am certainly not for everyone and if I see it has been deleted I trundle on

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies. "

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete. "

To not sound ignorant, I delete a site been sent. If the reply comes then it comes.

What's the point in continuously checking to see if the message has been read.

Too much time in your hands for all that mate. Not trying tonne rude either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

women can reply you say? I thought they only had the choice to delete message or to delete message.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete.

To not sound ignorant, I delete a site been sent. If the reply comes then it comes.

What's the point in continuously checking to see if the message has been read.

Too much time in your hands for all that mate. Not trying tonne rude either. "

What works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. I just do what I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete.

To not sound ignorant, I delete a site been sent. If the reply comes then it comes.

What's the point in continuously checking to see if the message has been read.

Too much time in your hands for all that mate. Not trying tonne rude either.

What works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. I just do what I do "

I wasn't exactly knocking what you do, just asking what's the point. Like let's say after 8 days, they've been online, haven't looked at your message, you still holding out for the 14 days lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete.

To not sound ignorant, I delete a site been sent. If the reply comes then it comes.

What's the point in continuously checking to see if the message has been read.

Too much time in your hands for all that mate. Not trying tonne rude either.

What works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. I just do what I do

I wasn't exactly knocking what you do, just asking what's the point. Like let's say after 8 days, they've been online, haven't looked at your message, you still holding out for the 14 days lol"

If I impart all my secrets, you may end up as successful as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you send a message to females/couples/men

Do you wait for it to be read? Or delete straight away, and if you get a reply then it's a nice surprise?

This can be open to females too.. but it seems men are he ones always complaining about no replies.

I leave the message in my sent folder for 2 weeks. If it hasn't been read by then, experience shows it probably won't get read, so I delete it then. Most commonly, a message from me will be read, and ignored, or read then straight delete.

To not sound ignorant, I delete a site been sent. If the reply comes then it comes.

What's the point in continuously checking to see if the message has been read.

Too much time in your hands for all that mate. Not trying tonne rude either.

What works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. I just do what I do

I wasn't exactly knocking what you do, just asking what's the point. Like let's say after 8 days, they've been online, haven't looked at your message, you still holding out for the 14 days lol

If I impart all my secrets, you may end up as successful as I am "

Don't allow your internet success define you as a man.

I'm new to this. Majority of your verifications are outside my age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for it to be read but my messages have got shorter due to lack of replies. They ask you to pay attention to their profiles but then don't acknowledge your message...frustrating when you take the time and they can't even say, sorry no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send, carry on being awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send then wait a couple of years then think " fuck em they are not having my cock now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send then wait a couple of years then think " fuck em they are not having my cock now " "

There is some sense in there somewhere, not sure where but there is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like a guy as men can't message me. So I have to put in the legwork. My tactic is to message. Wait 1 minute. Then reply to the message they speedily send back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for it to be read but my messages have got shorter due to lack of replies. They ask you to pay attention to their profiles but then don't acknowledge your message...frustrating when you take the time and they can't even say, sorry no thanks! "
This has been discussed hundreds of times females dont reply with a no thanks due to the either why nots or the conversations were the guy either tries to change that no or they get abusive so a no reply is your no Ty female replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm like a guy as men can't message me. So I have to put in the legwork. My tactic is to message. Wait 1 minute. Then reply to the message they speedily send back "

You must have too many messages to answer mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm like a guy as men can't message me. So I have to put in the legwork. My tactic is to message. Wait 1 minute. Then reply to the message they speedily send back

You must have too many messages to answer mine"

Shit!busted!! . I was busy talking bins. I'm heading over there now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for it to be read but my messages have got shorter due to lack of replies. They ask you to pay attention to their profiles but then don't acknowledge your message...frustrating when you take the time and they can't even say, sorry no thanks! This has been discussed hundreds of times females dont reply with a no thanks due to the either why nots or the conversations were the guy either tries to change that no or they get abusive so a no reply is your no Ty female replying "

This is obviously the case, but no reply is pure ignorant. No thank you would at least be polite after someone has taken time to read a profile and respond accordingly to requests made.

But hey, women have the power! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for it to be read but my messages have got shorter due to lack of replies. They ask you to pay attention to their profiles but then don't acknowledge your message...frustrating when you take the time and they can't even say, sorry no thanks! This has been discussed hundreds of times females dont reply with a no thanks due to the either why nots or the conversations were the guy either tries to change that no or they get abusive so a no reply is your no Ty female replying

This is obviously the case, but no reply is pure ignorant. No thank you would at least be polite after someone has taken time to read a profile and respond accordingly to requests made.

But hey, women have the power! Lol "

Now you're getting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at profiles and message them.. boring and cba

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