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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know I'm not alone in thinking that veris are a bit off putting.

Not only are they cringey but as a woman I can't help but compare myself the the other meets.

Or maybe it is just me and the rest of you are super self confident

I also realised recently that a potential meet of mine had met someone I find erm ... undesirable

And it told me a lot about that person and what sort of things he likes to engage in

Rambling ....

I'm tired and I can't sleep

Do you know what I'm on about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I understand. Can you display your verifications so we can judge you by them?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I understand. Can you display your verifications so we can judge you by them? "

Haha - no.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes. And I wonder who gets avoided like they have the plague, once I've left one for someone I've chatted with at a club - poor sods.

We should be able to vote down lurid very details, so that just confirmation of meeting is displayed, once enough people do it.

I aim not to look - though is perhaps a filtering too Minnie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves. "

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

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You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer no verification system at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. And I wonder who gets avoided like they have the plague, once I've left one for someone I've chatted with at a club - poor sods.

We should be able to vote down lurid very details, so that just confirmation of meeting is displayed, once enough people do it.

I aim not to look - though is perhaps a filtering too Minnie "

Haha yes I think not looking is better.

I'm sooooo judgey

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I'd prefer no verification system at all. "

Pros and cons. But it only tells half or part a story anyway I suppose. I like it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?"

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe "

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet. "

Yes I agree!

I dont know if it's because I'm tired but I'm finding everything a bit sinister on here today

Also I've never seen a bad veri ....

It's all blahhhhhh

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By *ungguy33Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

As a guy fairly new to this site im a bit torn on this. Yes i see the benefits of veri's its nice to know if someone is genuine or a twat before you meet them but also not having any veri's seems to put some people off meeting, seems you need veri's to be met yet cant get a veri until you have met and so it goes around

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a guy fairly new to this site im a bit torn on this. Yes i see the benefits of veri's its nice to know if someone is genuine or a twat before you meet them but also not having any veri's seems to put some people off meeting, seems you need veri's to be met yet cant get a veri until you have met and so it goes around"

You can't win

One persons idea of a twat differs from mine - so veris are pointless in that respect.

I guess they just prove you're real.

Nothing else.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

New system needed. First veri must be from a panel of Fab judges

And you have to display regardless of what it says. The panel should include a broad demographic - oh fuck so broad. The panel would be huge

Like an X factor audition

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By *ungguy33Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

I cant win? Haha thanks for the confidence boost. Oh well I will just sit here and continue to ride around on the fab merry go round until you come and pull me off

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By *ungguy33Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

Verified by a panel? My god that could get kinky! Woukd each member of the panel be required to have a different fetish? I hope there are some rope bunnies on the panel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never meet unverified users.... I made that error last year. I now use the verification system as a way of confirming genuine person. I met a guy once who wasnt verified and it wasn't even the same person from the pic he sent

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"New system needed. First veri must be from a panel of Fab judges

And you have to display regardless of what it says. The panel should include a broad demographic - oh fuck so broad. The panel would be huge

Like an X factor audition "

Haha

Brilliant idea - I'm clearly a terrible judge of character- I need help

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We agree Op

We all know what we are on here for and once you have a couple of veris in our book, why do you need more??????

They Verify that you are who you say you are, hence the word verification.

Can't see the point in the cringe "all out there" ones unless the person displaying them has low self esteem and wants to say "look what I did"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point... But as a guy still working on my first verification it's frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have absolutely no idea why people choose to play out their sex lives on the internet. It smacks of insecurity to me

Some people even do it in the forums! Seriously, people!

I wont be party to the ridiculous verification nonsense

Means nowt

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Ahhh...I'm a tripadvisor/amazon slut - a well written review is a thing of beauty!

For me, it's not for anyone else, it's a sincere way to say thank you to the person I have spent time with and one in return is a keepsake to remind me of a hot night...or three!

And then, it does help when making choices - seeing what they've written for others, what they have chosen to display and from whom, is very revealing - sometimes more so than the profile itself.

Veris for the win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you say OP.

But I guess ultimately this site is potentially about meeting mire than one or two people? Consequently your meets may well connect with others you wouldn't choose to? Though as for displaying detailed descriptions of what you engaged in....ni thanks. A simple few lines with a personal touch about them being decent and good company is all that's needed.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I disagree, I find the verification system invaluable even though it's no guarantee of anything you can read a lot between the lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totllay agree with what your saying.

It does seem on here though that the more veri you have the more chance you have of meeting someone

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I'm with you OP sometimes I read a veri and I'm like ok we won't be meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how you feel about a guy without a veri

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By *a72Man
over a year ago

london

Veri's are ok but not perfect and I know some members on here take them far too seriously. Veri's are supposed to prove that a member is real and turned up for their meet and lived up to their profile claims (as long as the person verifying is being honest of course) but most veri's are an exaggeration and overly praising others in my opinion. Some members have a 101 veri's which can be a turn on to some and a turn off to others. I think veri's are a good thing but members could try being a bit more honest with them not rude or nasty just honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the verification system has got a bit out of hand to be honest, maybe needs a rethink??

I do judge people by their veri's, that's what they are there for?

One of the worst thing is insecure women messaging me to check on my verification of a guy?? Wtf?

I've never messaged another woman about a guy they've verified, I don't get it?

I won't veri a newbie on a first meet. I ask the guys I veri not to display it because I don't want messages off other people regarding it!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've hidden most of my Veris and just left the most recent one and some funny ones.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I think the verification system has got a bit out of hand to be honest, maybe needs a rethink??

I do judge people by their veri's, that's what they are there for?

One of the worst thing is insecure women messaging me to check on my verification of a guy?? Wtf?

I've never messaged another woman about a guy they've verified, I don't get it?

I won't veri a newbie on a first meet. I ask the guys I veri not to display it because I don't want messages off other people regarding it!! "

If you blindly believe what other people say, then your own opinion is influenced. The Veris might not be entirely truthful or in my case, I show joke ones. I guess we won't be meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love reading verifications but then I'm a nosey parker. I find the insight into other people's sex lives quite arousing. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im much more likely to meet a person iv been chatting too in the forums,you get a sense of what people are like after chatting in here after awhile,varis mean nothing to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veriz are part of the game ..omg lighten up OP part of the fab razzamataz it's not like POFha ha . A Sunday is best for verifications you notice peoples play more at the weekend..

Also it gives me an insight on who actually are game from my hot list and localls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can be a double-edged sword but are a good filtering system in my view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love reading verifications but then I'm a nosey parker. I find the insight into other people's sex lives quite arousing. Xx"
I'm very nozy ..I like to do see the array of verifications

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I totllay agree with what your saying.

It does seem on here though that the more veri you have the more chance you have of meeting someone

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Not so, plenty of people put off by too many, one good one will suffice and I have met people with none, they just have to be good communicators.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personaly i wouldnt meet a woman whos sucks like a dyson and takes it in all holes like a good un

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally see where you are coming from, as a women I judge myself way too much then I should, if we have spoken to someone and I check the varies out, I'm often curious to what on earth they would want with me! But that's my personal downfall I never give myself enough credit.

On the upside i do like to to read varies to get a little more info. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im much more likely to meet a person iv been chatting too in the forums,you get a sense of what people are like after chatting in here after awhile,varis mean nothing to me"

If you spot someone on the forums the chances are they've been spotted by other people too and will be fucking around getting contaminated by everyone else

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock


"As a guy fairly new to this site im a bit torn on this. Yes i see the benefits of veri's its nice to know if someone is genuine or a twat before you meet them but also not having any veri's seems to put some people off meeting, seems you need veri's to be met yet cant get a veri until you have met and so it goes around"

I agree it's difficult as a single guy to know what to do for the best sometimes. Some women state they won't meet guys with lots of verifications and other women say they won't meet unverified guys? Damned if you do and damned if you don't. At the end of the day it's your own profile though so run it how you like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im much more likely to meet a person iv been chatting too in the forums,you get a sense of what people are like after chatting in here after awhile,varis mean nothing to me

If you spot someone on the forums the chances are they've been spotted by other people too and will be fucking around getting contaminated by everyone else "

Classy chicks in the forum dont you know

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Im much more likely to meet a person iv been chatting too in the forums,you get a sense of what people are like after chatting in here after awhile,varis mean nothing to me

If you spot someone on the forums the chances are they've been spotted by other people too and will be fucking around getting contaminated by everyone else "

it does feel like a family affair at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves. "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean OP.

The swinging scene in Wales must be very small on here, cos everytime i check out a guys profile, they all seem to have been with the same women/couples as each other (sex meets not socials).

That puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love reading them, hate displaying them.

I like to stay something of an enigma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly i wouldnt meet a woman whos sucks like a dyson and takes it in all holes like a good un"
why??your missing out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy fairly new to this site im a bit torn on this. Yes i see the benefits of veri's its nice to know if someone is genuine or a twat before you meet them but also not having any veri's seems to put some people off meeting, seems you need veri's to be met yet cant get a veri until you have met and so it goes around

I agree it's difficult as a single guy to know what to do for the best sometimes. Some women state they won't meet guys with lots of verifications and other women say they won't meet unverified guys? Damned if you do and damned if you don't. At the end of the day it's your own profile though so run it how you like. "
well said ! It can be a tool or a rod for your own back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly i wouldnt meet a woman whos sucks like a dyson and takes it in all holes like a good unwhy??your missing out lol "

Naaaaaa not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im much more likely to meet a person iv been chatting too in the forums,you get a sense of what people are like after chatting in here after awhile,varis mean nothing to me

If you spot someone on the forums the chances are they've been spotted by other people too and will be fucking around getting contaminated by everyone else "

Haha this did make me laugh

It's a bit like local to me, lots of inbreeding

As for forum regulars, lots of lamppost pissing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what you mean OP.

The swinging scene in Wales must be very small on here, cos everytime i check out a guys profile, they all seem to have been with the same women/couples as each other (sex meets not socials).

That puts me off. "
ha ha what are you saying haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications prove only one thing; that one is the gender they claim to be

If there isn't a single verification in the last six months on a single woman or couple profile, then we view them as possible fakes; i.e. a sad little bloke wanking on his keyboard

- Mrs. J -

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"I know I'm not alone in thinking that veris are a bit off putting.

Not only are they cringey but as a woman I can't help but compare myself the the other meets.

Or maybe it is just me and the rest of you are super self confident

Exactly my thought

Some rude old man messaged me yesterday and oh my all his meets were very ropey...

Says a lot of about the person tje veris...

I also realised recently that a potential meet of mine had met someone I find erm ... undesirable

And it told me a lot about that person and what sort of things he likes to engage in

Rambling ....

I'm tired and I can't sleep

Do you know what I'm on about?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Some will like veris some wont.

Someone had to say it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet.

Yes I agree!

I dont know if it's because I'm tired but I'm finding everything a bit sinister on here today

Also I've never seen a bad veri ....

It's all blahhhhhh "

You've never seen a bad veri, because people just don't display it. But it would be nice to see that he/she has photos out of date, that he/she is not so nice and lovely and genuine and so on.

I have on show just veris from a social. It prove you that I'm real, but you don't know nothing about my sucking skills

And also recently I have met a guy for a social and the only veri he has on show is from a woman who is on a pg1 of hot photos everytime she uploads something new. Gym fit body and silicone boobs, so I'm really self-conscious to be naked in front of him.

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Veris should be to say a person is genuine and they are who they say they are...not anything more

Dnt wanna read the who's who's ov fab its not tripadvisor

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

We use verification basically just to show others we are genuine we may not play with everyone we meet but at least it helps to prove both sides to turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never seen anyone post a bad veri.

The complete verification cliche list is too long and boring to type but ranges from he/she was the best bj/ fuck ever... until the poster writes their next veri..all the usual crass excessively descriptive posts the passive aggressive treat her/ him well or else... or the bod standard cut and paste used on every single profile some fabbers meet.

It either puts peolle off... too many veries...or put a peolle off...too few veries.

Can no one here make their own mind up without relying on someone else's opinion of who they should meet and why?

And as we are all different why would someone I meet and have a great time with and vice versa be an ideal meet for any other fabber...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some will like veris some wont.

Someone had to say it!"
like it or lump it...who gives a Stuff people need to get and get a few verifications... Lol

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

The profiles that rely on their verifications are the most disappointing. You know those that say "just see my veris", so you look and they're nothing special, just the same old veris you read on every other profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never seen anyone post a bad veri.

The complete verification cliche list is too long and boring to type but ranges from he/she was the best bj/ fuck ever... until the poster writes their next veri..all the usual crass excessively descriptive posts the passive aggressive treat her/ him well or else... or the bod standard cut and paste used on every single profile some fabbers meet.

It either puts peolle off... too many veries...or put a peolle off...too few veries.

Can no one here make their own mind up without relying on someone else's opinion of who they should meet and why?

And as we are all different why would someone I meet and have a great time with and vice versa be an ideal meet for any other fabber...

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I see it as sending a Thankyou card and appreciation ....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'd prefer no verification system at all. "

Imagine that: the idea of actually thinking for yourself and deciding who you want to fuck without seeking validation from strangers?!!

Nah...what alternative universe are you living in?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never seen anyone post a bad veri.

The complete verification cliche list is too long and boring to type but ranges from he/she was the best bj/ fuck ever... until the poster writes their next veri..all the usual crass excessively descriptive posts the passive aggressive treat her/ him well or else... or the bod standard cut and paste used on every single profile some fabbers meet.

It either puts peolle off... too many veries...or put a peolle off...too few veries.

Can no one here make their own mind up without relying on someone else's opinion of who they should meet and why?

And as we are all different why would someone I meet and have a great time with and vice versa be an ideal meet for any other fabber...

I see it as sending a Thankyou card and appreciation .... "

Just send them flowers...

Do you send a thank you card to the entire town to tell them you met Elvis in their chip shop

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It's useful to show that someone really exists, otherwise I don't take much notice of them. Maybe it should be like the eBay feedback with stars out of 5 for postal charges, prompt delivery, being as described etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to see a tick list veri system. Possibly with an overall average.

Things like,

Met this person at public social

Met this person at private social

Met this person for sex

Profile pictures reflect person

Arranged meet person cancelled?

Something like that, verification rather than review...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system . "

Say it in Welsh....it sounds so much filthier

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over a year ago

I would like to know what my verifications say about me lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet. "

Exactly this!

It gives some people false security.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system .

Say it in Welsh....it sounds so much filthier "

Hahaha I did get a bit carried away on the other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just part of the process lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you OP sometimes I read a veri and I'm like ok we won't be meeting. "

I'm the same, it can be for several reasons but the main one that puts me off is if I see a certain name in the list, I'm not judging her in anyway as she can make her own choices but with that I choose not to go where she's been either and its quite revealing about the type of man he is too

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system .

Say it in Welsh....it sounds so much filthier "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to see a tick list veri system. Possibly with an overall average.

Things like,

Met this person at public social

Met this person at private social

Met this person for sex

Profile pictures reflect person

Arranged meet person cancelled?

Something like that, verification rather than review...

"

That just feels like it may be too clinical.

Had sex....tick.

Gives oral.... tick

Takes longer than five minutes to orgasm....tick

Do they respond well to dirty talk?... tick

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system .

Say it in Welsh....it sounds so much filthier

Hahaha I did get a bit carried away on the other thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like them personally. You can tell a lot from what they say. If they are really vulgar in their description... Either the one they've sent to that meet, or the one that they are happy to display, then I won't go there. It makes for a another great filtering system .

Say it in Welsh....it sounds so much filthier

Haha"

Bugger off you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personaly i wouldnt meet a woman whos sucks like a dyson and takes it in all holes like a good un"

Bugger that's me out then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you OP sometimes I read a veri and I'm like ok we won't be meeting.

I'm the same, it can be for several reasons but the main one that puts me off is if I see a certain name in the list, I'm not judging her in anyway as she can make her own choices but with that I choose not to go where she's been either and its quite revealing about the type of man he is too "
a lot of guys piggy back off em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to know what my verifications say about me lol"

That say your worth travelling for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to see a tick list veri system. Possibly with an overall average.

Things like,

Met this person at public social

Met this person at private social

Met this person for sex

Profile pictures reflect person

Arranged meet person cancelled?

Something like that, verification rather than review...

That just feels like it may be too clinical.

Had sex....tick.

Gives oral.... tick

Takes longer than five minutes to orgasm....tick

Do they respond well to dirty talk?... tick

"

I've got the giggles now....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you OP sometimes I read a veri and I'm like ok we won't be meeting.

I'm the same, it can be for several reasons but the main one that puts me off is if I see a certain name in the list, I'm not judging her in anyway as she can make her own choices but with that I choose not to go where she's been either and its quite revealing about the type of man he is too a lot of guys piggy back off em"

Trust me, their backing something and the first word isn't piggy!!!

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Interesting range of views on this thread. Anyone can join fab for free and proclaim to be anyone, plenty of men posing as a couple and so on. Equally plenty of profiles will state they only meet verified people for that very reason. Verifications are a tool just as your profile text, preferences and photos are. No more no less. A read of a profiles verifications can give you a flavour of that person from the people that have met them, rather than just relying on the profiles own words.

I've had meets where I'm told my verifications have sealed the deal because they convey my personality etc

Equally I've been turned down because "you've met other people" interestingly I've never had that reaction from couples only single ladies. Fair enough because you can't and shouldn't seek to appeal to or please everyone.

At the end of the day it's a swingers site first and foremost but this whole veri dilemma seems to be a predominately singles dilemma and not so much for the couples.

It's an interesting dilemma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes won't verify to be discreet,sometimes they can ruffle feathers!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I to have a distaste for the veri system op

On grounds of its a bragging system used by many to big themselves up and to try and belittle others .

Often in the forums someone will shout at me bullshit were is the veri to prove it .

That sort of thing proves my point exactly it seems swingers assume everyone's a liar who needs to prove everything first by getting others to vouch for them before they will be taken seriously .

I have three social veries that prove I meet and that I am fairly normal .

I'm sure 90 prevent of the veri system is purely childish bragging ie look who I got to fuck

I always say this id be more interested in who turn who down than who fucked who .

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

But hay I won't lie I use the who fucked who nature of veries as a filter out who to not get involved with socially or otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

"

That doesn't make sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd prefer no verification system at all. "

Try another site that doesn't have verifications. You'll soon realise it's one of the good things about this site.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

That doesn't make sense.

"

If makes perfect sense as a lot of the women on fab swing both ways which I'm fine with by the way so one can use that fact as a filter if one chooses to .

IE she fancies the kind of person I definably do not it's a fact all the people I get on with in this world tend to be attracted to the same type of persons I like and vice versa so as a filter such thinking works very well give it a try

In fact I would go as far as to say put all the women I have ever topped into a room together as totally strangers and they will get on like a house on fire because they will see each other in each other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would like to see a tick list veri Takes longer than five minutes to orgasm....tick

"

5 minutes! I'll have you know that 5 seconds after we meet I will lower my sunglasses, give you the smouldering look, and watch how well you carry off a discreet orgasm in a coffee bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners "

Spin that around, you rejected based on a few written words, if you are attracted to someone who has a verification from one of your rejects, perhaps you need to revisit your rejects

Of course if all parties are straight that may confuse the issue a little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are useful:

They give me a flavour of what the person will be like and what kind of person they meet.

Whilst none are negative I've often read very carefully worded veris where a lot is NOT said.

I see them as a thank you note. 'Thanks for the good sex and now I'm moving on'.

And I feel surprisingly pissed off if I've had a good meet and someone doesn't leave me one.

I recently met someone from a dating site. We had a lovely time but no chemistry. I missed the veri at the end of the evening! A small tangible memento of a good evening and that I'm a genuine person who does meet.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners

Spin that around, you rejected based on a few written words, if you are attracted to someone who has a verification from one of your rejects, perhaps you need to revisit your rejects

Of course if all parties are straight that may confuse the issue a little "

I reject based off of compatibility only I can do this because i control my libido not the other way round

this means I do not feel the need to fuck someone just because i can I am very much like a woman in that regard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

That doesn't make sense.

If makes perfect sense as a lot of the women on fab swing both ways which I'm fine with by the way so one can use that fact as a filter if one chooses to .

IE she fancies the kind of person I definably do not it's a fact all the people I get on with in this world tend to be attracted to the same type of persons I like and vice versa so as a filter such thinking works very well give it a try

In fact I would go as far as to say put all the women I have ever topped into a room together as totally strangers and they will get on like a house on fire because they will see each other in each other ."

You can only use it as a filter if they are bisexual so as a filter on here, it's not really the most useful one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never display a verification. It's not s guarantee of quality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners

Spin that around, you rejected based on a few written words, if you are attracted to someone who has a verification from one of your rejects, perhaps you need to revisit your rejects

Of course if all parties are straight that may confuse the issue a little

I reject based off of compatibility only I can do this because i control my libido not the other way round

this means I do not feel the need to fuck someone just because i can I am very much like a woman in that regard "

You mean me choosing to wait 6 to 12 weeks between meets with my wife means I am like a woman? Got to say never thought of it that way.

Reject based on a social is one thing, reject based on a profile is a very shallow rejection which may or may not be accurate, and it doesn't really matter, except when that decision rolls out to several others...

actually it doesn't matter then either, as you were

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

That doesn't make sense.

If makes perfect sense as a lot of the women on fab swing both ways which I'm fine with by the way so one can use that fact as a filter if one chooses to .

IE she fancies the kind of person I definably do not it's a fact all the people I get on with in this world tend to be attracted to the same type of persons I like and vice versa so as a filter such thinking works very well give it a try

In fact I would go as far as to say put all the women I have ever topped into a room together as totally strangers and they will get on like a house on fire because they will see each other in each other .

You can only use it as a filter if they are bisexual so as a filter on here, it's not really the most useful one "

Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't used to show mine, I've decided to show some though now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

That doesn't make sense.

If makes perfect sense as a lot of the women on fab swing both ways which I'm fine with by the way so one can use that fact as a filter if one chooses to .

IE she fancies the kind of person I definably do not it's a fact all the people I get on with in this world tend to be attracted to the same type of persons I like and vice versa so as a filter such thinking works very well give it a try

In fact I would go as far as to say put all the women I have ever topped into a room together as totally strangers and they will get on like a house on fire because they will see each other in each other .

You can only use it as a filter if they are bisexual so as a filter on here, it's not really the most useful one

Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association "

That is very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe "
yet for me when i was on as a single it made me feel safer as showed they had met others and were popular.

Also verifications should be taken with a pinch of salt x as ours dont show anywhere near the true number of people we have met in many years on here.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I'm not keen on explicit veris, don't need to know that someone sucked like a Dyson. But I do like reading them to see if they sound like someone I'd have fun with, and yes I have avoided people who have met certain fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications are taken WAY too seriously on here - some of mine are meant to be lighthearted, and I've had people refuse to meet me because of one of them (it happened this very week in fact).

People seem to think that verifications are the be all & end all, and the only yardstick by which to measure people - I meet people from various places/sites/apps, and given that I only have about 5 verifications, people assume I've only met 5 people ever. Given that I've been doing this on & off for 12 years, that's simply not the case at all!

Also, verifications are obviously written by other people so you have no control over what they say, and therefore they're not a reflection of you as such anyway - they're a snippet of the mind of the writer, not the person they're writing about.

I've had some badly written ones that I haven't put up because the writer wrote something I found either badly written, or just too crass.

There are also people on here with fake verifications, so y'know....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are taken WAY too seriously on here - some of mine are meant to be lighthearted, and I've had people refuse to meet me because of one of them (it happened this very week in fact).

People seem to think that verifications are the be all & end all, and the only yardstick by which to measure people - I meet people from various places/sites/apps, and given that I only have about 5 verifications, people assume I've only met 5 people ever. Given that I've been doing this on & off for 12 years, that's simply not the case at all!

Also, verifications are obviously written by other people so you have no control over what they say, and therefore they're not a reflection of you as such anyway - they're a snippet of the mind of the writer, not the person they're writing about.

I've had some badly written ones that I haven't put up because the writer wrote something I found either badly written, or just too crass.

There are also people on here with fake verifications, so y'know...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are also people on here with fake verifications, so y'know...."

tell me that's not true

think I spotted one yesterday

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating "

Oh that's lovely to hear

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We love veri's and do have a few on display . We aren't in the least bit insecure , nor are we bragging about who we've been with . We show the ones we show to give an idea to potential meets what they may expect from a meet with us . The ones we display also give an insight ino what we are looking for at any given time .

There are always those who don't like them and say they're all the same etc. So simply ignore them then . Simple .

I've no doubt there are plenty of people who think they don't want to meet someone because they met us . That's unfortunate but inevitable and we don't display veris when asked not to . It's human nature to be judgemental and we respect their choice .

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating

Oh that's lovely to hear

"

Thank you it's very early days, only been seeing each other a few weeks, but going well so far. Introducing him to a club on Saturday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating

Oh that's lovely to hear

Thank you it's very early days, only been seeing each other a few weeks, but going well so far. Introducing him to a club on Saturday "

Be gentle with him lol x

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating

Oh that's lovely to hear

Thank you it's very early days, only been seeing each other a few weeks, but going well so far. Introducing him to a club on Saturday

Be gentle with him lol x "

Can't promise

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating "

I had the same, except we aren't dating no matter how hard I begged

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bit randomly, I've just started seeing a guy from fab. We clicked from the start and had a few fun meets, and then a couple of ladies asked him if we were dating as it looked like it from our veris.

We laughed about that, then a conversation was had, and now we're dating "

This has happened to me as well - I now live with my 2 open-poly non-monogamous girlfriends, one of whom I met through Fab, and the other is also on here - it can and does happen (apologies for the slightly irritating label)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't not met someone because of reading a veri but I have met someone I was a little undecided about from reading one....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Can I just say that I'm a LOT better than a wank?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd prefer no verification system at all.

Try another site that doesn't have verifications. You'll soon realise it's one of the good things about this site."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex said she only will verify, if they give her a good time

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

When you get a veri like our last one it would be a crime not to show it

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"When you get a veri like our last one it would be a crime not to show it "

Agreed.

I need more mind blowing nights like you had glad you enjoyed xx

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"When you get a veri like our last one it would be a crime not to show it

Agreed.

I need more mind blowing nights like you had glad you enjoyed xx"

Ah thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never meet unverified users.... I made that error last year. I now use the verification system as a way of confirming genuine person. I met a guy once who wasnt verified and it wasn't even the same person from the pic he sent "

Yes been there myself! I like having verifications as it gives me a clue about the person. If they've met someone I don't like the look of, I then don't meet them - Simples. I also don't meet newbies. They never have a clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why it is good to not have veris lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have absolutely no idea why people choose to play out their sex lives on the internet. It smacks of insecurity to me

Some people even do it in the forums! Seriously, people!

I wont be party to the ridiculous verification nonsense

Means nowt"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to have a quick read of them but don't look at the profiles any more for the same reasons, I just compare myself negatively and it puts me off meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly mess around with our verifications. I display different ones at different times just because I like seeing whether they have an effect on who messages and what they say in their messages.

Based on my own random study, it seems that verifications matter quite a bit to people. They will judge you on them, and they don't mind telling you. I think it's interesting, especially given the nature of the verification system.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Yawn"

Yawn

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I have absolutely no idea why people choose to play out their sex lives on the internet. It smacks of insecurity to me

Some people even do it in the forums! Seriously, people!

I wont be party to the ridiculous verification nonsense

Means nowt

"

Love to do it in the forums , it's entertainment for the ones who never meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I regularly mess around with our verifications. I display different ones at different times just because I like seeing whether they have an effect on who messages and what they say in their messages.

Based on my own random study, it seems that verifications matter quite a bit to people. They will judge you on them, and they don't mind telling you. I think it's interesting, especially given the nature of the verification system. "

I love profile experiments. I changed my joke verifications around and got different reactions. When I put my actual verification summary on show I get different messages again.

It was mad how many people thought my joke veri's were real though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It amazes me how many people think you don't meet if you don't display veris

Everyone should manage their profile the way they want - but for me - veris put me off.

In exactly the same way Facebook puts me off.

I know it's a bizarre comparison ..

But the cringey bragging is the same!

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over a year ago


"It amazes me how many people think you don't meet if you don't display veris

Everyone should manage their profile the way they want - but for me - veris put me off.

In exactly the same way Facebook puts me off.

I know it's a bizarre comparison ..

But the cringey bragging is the same!

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annoyin when people get jelous of verifications .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a buyers market after all, oh wait, it's not that kind of thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think sometimes some of the detail would potentially put a user off allowing the verification to appear on their profile.

That being said, I'd rather have a verification than none at all which is where I am currently at.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take em with a pinch of salt ...its just a bit of fun and part of the process lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overly graphic verifications are entirely unnecessary and I also find them offputting.

Why people feel the need to make them so graphic is beyond me - behaving like a sensible adult seems to be the hardest thing for a lot of people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

someone should give thier opinion on my verifications, see if there is scope for improvement :D

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Ahhh...I'm a tripadvisor/amazon slut - a well written review is a thing of beauty!

For me, it's not for anyone else, it's a sincere way to say thank you to the person I have spent time with and one in return is a keepsake to remind me of a hot night...or three!

And then, it does help when making choices - seeing what they've written for others, what they have chosen to display and from whom, is very revealing - sometimes more so than the profile itself.

Veris for the win! "

What she said

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

And...

People judge without actually taking a good look.

As an example, out of the multitude of veries we have, we've only actually played with about a third, and that's over a period of 8 or 9 years (although some have vanished due to people leaving site), the rest are from socials and other events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 10/09/17 14:44:34]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be picking on me

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We now have some lovely overly graphic veris , and love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet. "

I've met 5 people on here and asked just one to verify me...

The guy who's verified me has stated I'm polite in the flesh which I am... I just want people to know that even tho I'm opinionated in the forums and discussions, in the flesh I'm respectful of not upsetting anyone's views.

I'm not going to get anymore veri's either... My sex life is my business and no one else's lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot I red are cringey!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would anyone posting in this thread prefer that Verifications didn't exist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would anyone posting in this thread prefer that Verifications didn't exist?

"
there's nowt wrong or right with a verification it shows you have manners of you verify someone even out of courtesy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would anyone posting in this thread prefer that Verifications didn't exist?

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Me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I think just a verification to say someone turned up is enough,I don't want to read all the in's and out's of someone's internal working really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"

Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association "

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I like to read veris, because it shows the person is genuine. I will say some veris have put me off meeting some people though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They serve a purpose but I like to reserve some discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They serve a purpose but I like to reserve some discretion "
Sunday seems to be the day for verified people to display new ones it's great reading.

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over a year ago


"Would anyone posting in this thread prefer that Verifications didn't exist?

Me."

What benifit would that serve. (I know the plus side of veris, i can see the downside to). But how would no veris make things better?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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After all I'm never going to fuck someone who fucks one of my rejects as that fact alone proves to me we are incomparable as we don't share the same tastes in sexual partners .

That doesn't make sense.

If makes perfect sense as a lot of the women on fab swing both ways which I'm fine with by the way so one can use that fact as a filter if one chooses to .

IE she fancies the kind of person I definably do not it's a fact all the people I get on with in this world tend to be attracted to the same type of persons I like and vice versa so as a filter such thinking works very well give it a try

In fact I would go as far as to say put all the women I have ever topped into a room together as totally strangers and they will get on like a house on fire because they will see each other in each other .

You can only use it as a filter if they are bisexual so as a filter on here, it's not really the most useful one

Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association "

Ain't that the truth - very inces*uous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them, plus it just shows they are also genuine.

I agree though some are cringey.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association

"

Exactly this!

One potential meet I had I traced back to a woman who's got over 500 veris ....

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Hate the grafic 1s but love reading and leaving a good rumoured 1. You gotta have a giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I'm not alone in thinking that veris are a bit off putting.

Not only are they cringey but as a woman I can't help but compare myself the the other meets.

Or maybe it is just me and the rest of you are super self confident

I also realised recently that a potential meet of mine had met someone I find erm ... undesirable

And it told me a lot about that person and what sort of things he likes to engage in

Rambling ....

I'm tired and I can't sleep

Do you know what I'm on about?

"

I have never read a ladies verification from a man and not cringed. Some of the stuff ewww!!!

I think ladies & couples left for others read ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Fab in a lot of cases is like a inbred family you can if you choose trace the fuck line like the branches on a family tree . On fab with some people you really are only a few fucks away from fucking half the site by association

Exactly this!

One potential meet I had I traced back to a woman who's got over 500 veris ....

"

Well to me this proves that the entire human race is linked genetically lol.. If we all had dna tests we'd she we're not pure races lol...

Not particularly a nice way to find out we're all related I admit but definitely informative!!! X

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd recommend trying the alternative: loads of timewaters on A.MN. Other site that has no verifications.

Then you can compare and contrast before making an informed purchase.

Verifications are the only reason I recommend this site to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate reading 3/4/5/6 from the same person as I think its really them saying hands off he is all for me . lol I like them but hide most as some here can know too much. I had this woman mailing everyone I was meeting saying she new me ... I had never meet her in my life .. I new as had them mailing asking about her .

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I know I'm not alone in thinking that veris are a bit off putting.

Not only are they cringey but as a woman I can't help but compare myself the the other meets.

Or maybe it is just me and the rest of you are super self confident

I also realised recently that a potential meet of mine had met someone I find erm ... undesirable

And it told me a lot about that person and what sort of things he likes to engage in

Rambling ....

I'm tired and I can't sleep

Do you know what I'm on about?

"

Some can be yes and some a really bloody good read ha. In response to you saying that you compare yourself..why what does that achieve?. I very rarely read them what another thinks isn't necercerially what i will think. As far as seeing someone they'd met and you didn't like how that person portrayed themselves. Did that make the meet you had with them less enjoyable?..if not then it has no relevance.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I hate reading 3/4/5/6 from the same person as I think its really them saying hands off he is all for me . lol I like them but hide most as some here can know too much. I had this woman mailing everyone I was meeting saying she new me ... I had never meet her in my life .. I new as had them mailing asking about her . "

Not just the fact that they had a really good time and wanted to leave one every time they met?.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Would anyone posting in this thread prefer that Verifications didn't exist?

Me.

What benifit would that serve. (I know the plus side of veris, i can see the downside to). But how would no veris make things better? "

It wouldn't. Could you imagine the s@#t storm every day. You wouldn't know who to meet. Sometimes verifications are you only real clue to them actually meeting others. No they aren't the b and end all of what a genuine person is but it can help that process. Maybe that's just me ha

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"So to that end veris are good. Gives you a bit more of an insight to what that person is like and how they conduct themselves.

I think so

I'm not sure anymore!

You are a bit taken aback by what you've read then ?

I'm not taken aback - it's just made me think about how little we know about the people we fuck on here - and it's just made me feel a bit vulnerable and unsafe

That's one of the reasons I don't like the verification system. People seem to think it's a bible for detailing a person's sexual history and personality. It just isn't.

They might have one veri on show but be fucking 200 people every night.

They might have one 'hot' veri but prefer BBW's.

They might have veri's saying how lovely they are but one night they turn and attack someone they meet. "

Huh . That could all of us then . So get rid of them and just try your luck. Is that your solution to the issue?. What if you have 5+ saying all the good things. Does that mean all 5 are lying and really you're a horrible person?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate reading 3/4/5/6 from the same person as I think its really them saying hands off he is all for me . lol I like them but hide most as some here can know too much. I had this woman mailing everyone I was meeting saying she new me ... I had never meet her in my life .. I new as had them mailing asking about her .

Not just the fact that they had a really good time and wanted to leave one every time they met?."
YES what is the need to do that .? one is all they need .

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"As a guy fairly new to this site im a bit torn on this. Yes i see the benefits of veri's its nice to know if someone is genuine or a twat before you meet them but also not having any veri's seems to put some people off meeting, seems you need veri's to be met yet cant get a veri until you have met and so it goes around

You can't win

One persons idea of a twat differs from mine - so veris are pointless in that respect.

I guess they just prove you're real.

Nothing else.

"

And there's the answer to your own dilemma. The person you met is real. That's all a veri can be 100% fact. Whether they're a nice person,good fuck etc has always and will always be down to the inividual in qusetion. What he says isn't what another will think

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I cant win? Haha thanks for the confidence boost. Oh well I will just sit here and continue to ride around on the fab merry go round until you come and pull me off"

Yes you can win. Don't listen to them and their negative bs. Get to some socials. Get your personality out there and if you're not a twat lol. You will get your veri and be on your merry way

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I never meet unverified users.... I made that error last year. I now use the verification system as a way of confirming genuine person. I met a guy once who wasnt verified and it wasn't even the same person from the pic he sent "

And on the flip side i met a single lady who wasn't verified and was one of the best meets I've had. We're still friends now

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"I totllay agree with what your saying.

It does seem on here though that the more veri you have the more chance you have of meeting someone

Not so, plenty of people put off by too many, one good one will suffice and I have met people with none, they just have to be good communicators. "

This

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

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"I hate reading 3/4/5/6 from the same person as I think its really them saying hands off he is all for me . lol I like them but hide most as some here can know too much. I had this woman mailing everyone I was meeting saying she new me ... I had never meet her in my life .. I new as had them mailing asking about her .

Not just the fact that they had a really good time and wanted to leave one every time they met?. YES what is the need to do that .? one is all they need ."

Erm. Because they wanted to?. There isn't always a hidden agenda behind it. Obviously that would be subject to how many times. If they met say 10 times and left 10 veries then that would be a bit weird but never would I try and say why they did it.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

This thread has run and run since I last looked and such a range of views it's fascinating. It's made me go and re read my own verifications to try and imagine how others would perceive me through them.

The conclusion I've come to is that some will like them and some will not.

But that's Fab for you anyway ... you'll never please everyone nor should you try to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why are there only good ones what about the bad verifications,saying dont go here etc

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"why are there only good ones what about the bad verifications,saying dont go here etc "

Have you ever seen one displayed as that would be counter productive?

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