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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello everyone!

I read on 90% of peoples profiles that they dont want a first message saying they dont want a "lets fuck" or "how about tonight" message... now that i understand. I like to have a bit of a chat first and get yo know the person/people also, but when i have a bit of depth and context to my messages i get a one line answer back or nothing at all...

I understand disgrepancys and a lick of interest but i thought we were here to be friendly as well haha

So what im getting to is, what the more experienced and more knoledgable or you sexy swingers use and say for a first message to get a half decent response?

All advise would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks guys and girls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped bothering a long time ago. There is no perfect first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they like your profile and the pictures, the content of the message is less important.

We'd suggest that you keep it brief and courteous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they like your profile and the pictures, the content of the message is less important.

We'd suggest that you keep it brief and courteous."
great advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they like your profile and the pictures, the content of the message is less important.

We'd suggest that you keep it brief and courteous."

Spot on

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I aim for thanks but no thanks

But then I do block only to avoid any backlash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best thing to do is, update pics, profile and write up, then stay in the forums. I had rare luck messaging ppl. I never message unless its a friend or replying. Winks are useless aswell. All flirting and connecting is done in the forums for me, then if someone likes me they will message. HOPEFULLY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best thing to do is, update pics, profile and write up, then stay in the forums. I had rare luck messaging ppl. I never message unless its a friend or replying. Winks are useless aswell. All flirting and connecting is done in the forums for me, then if someone likes me they will message. HOPEFULLY"

Your write ups good tho!

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

be polite, respectful.

don't be a sex pest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best thing to do is, update pics, profile and write up, then stay in the forums. I had rare luck messaging ppl. I never message unless its a friend or replying. Winks are useless aswell. All flirting and connecting is done in the forums for me, then if someone likes me they will message. HOPEFULLY"

This, much more success in the forums for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The perfect first message would be one you receive from someone else. You know they want to talk to you then. How you go about getting it is another matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair, id say im far from a pest, im quite articulate when it comes to writing...

I never message more than once and do my best not to sound desperate haha but i dont know if the psychology of a woman is to see my age and think hes just after a quicky haha

What would you say then, mention my intetions and see if its mutual?

Out side of fab i have no issues with approaching people and hitting it off straight away and getting a great conversation going... ive never really been one for messaging...i think im just old school and enjoy face to face interaction.

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"To be fair, id say im far from a pest, im quite articulate when it comes to writing...

I never message more than once and do my best not to sound desperate haha but i dont know if the psychology of a woman is to see my age and think hes just after a quicky haha

What would you say then, mention my intetions and see if its mutual?

Out side of fab i have no issues with approaching people and hitting it off straight away and getting a great conversation going... ive never really been one for messaging...i think im just old school and enjoy face to face interaction.

"

have on your profile your intentions. don't get sexual from a first message as it can come off a bit presumptuous or if the woman doesn't like you it can be 'ew' to her.

honestly.if guys would have their intentions on their profile so we can check them out for compatibility without conversation propelling forward to sex then this would be good for most of us i think.

watch guys who get sexual on the forums and how they get ignored by women who were even speaking to them previously in that topic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The best thing to do is, update pics, profile and write up, then stay in the forums. I had rare luck messaging ppl. I never message unless its a friend or replying. Winks are useless aswell. All flirting and connecting is done in the forums for me, then if someone likes me they will message. HOPEFULLY

Your write ups good tho!"

Cheers bud

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To be fair, id say im far from a pest, im quite articulate when it comes to writing...

I never message more than once and do my best not to sound desperate haha but i dont know if the psychology of a woman is to see my age and think hes just after a quicky haha

What would you say then, mention my intetions and see if its mutual?

Out side of fab i have no issues with approaching people and hitting it off straight away and getting a great conversation going... ive never really been one for messaging...i think im just old school and enjoy face to face interaction.

have on your profile your intentions. don't get sexual from a first message as it can come off a bit presumptuous or if the woman doesn't like you it can be 'ew' to her.

honestly.if guys would have their intentions on their profile so we can check them out for compatibility without conversation propelling forward to sex then this would be good for most of us i think.

watch guys who get sexual on the forums and how they get ignored by women who were even speaking to them previously in that topic."

This i completley understand, like i said i dont like being the pest or looking desperate!

I think most people have common ground about their intention from being on this site

Im not rude or the kind to hurl abuse and pester to get a response i guess im really going to try through the forum and see if i can make some friends through here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I stopped bothering a long time ago. There is no perfect first message "

I rarely right my own posts lately. I just say...

What he said. ^

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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•


"To be fair, id say im far from a pest, im quite articulate when it comes to writing...

I never message more than once and do my best not to sound desperate haha but i dont know if the psychology of a woman is to see my age and think hes just after a quicky haha

What would you say then, mention my intetions and see if its mutual?

Out side of fab i have no issues with approaching people and hitting it off straight away and getting a great conversation going... ive never really been one for messaging...i think im just old school and enjoy face to face interaction.

have on your profile your intentions. don't get sexual from a first message as it can come off a bit presumptuous or if the woman doesn't like you it can be 'ew' to her.

honestly.if guys would have their intentions on their profile so we can check them out for compatibility without conversation propelling forward to sex then this would be good for most of us i think.

watch guys who get sexual on the forums and how they get ignored by women who were even speaking to them previously in that topic.

This i completley understand, like i said i dont like being the pest or looking desperate!

I think most people have common ground about their intention from being on this site

Im not rude or the kind to hurl abuse and pester to get a response i guess im really going to try through the forum and see if i can make some friends through here.

"

good, you seem like you'll fit in and i hope you enjoy the forums.

yeah most people here seem to have a high sex drive, unfortunately (for me anyway) i find that the urge for sex dwindles as most men approach me totally in the wrong way. this does just mean we are not compatible when it comes to seduction but also i'm aware that i'm probably missing out on some good sex coz men are only approaching me in the wrong way.

anyway, like i said hope you enjoy it here. the forums are alright and at least active.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm honest. The profile is the most important thing to me. Messages come second. If the profile isn't good, I'm not even opening the message....

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Get meet verified. On over a year, no veris, will be a 'no' for the majority.

Club or organised social is easy and fun.

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