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By *oping for fun OP   Man
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Dude given think the ratio is about 300 blokes to every woman...and the volume of mail a woman gets (been shown and told by women on here) it would be a full time occupation

To reply to all messages for a woman. The other thing is, if she gets hundreds of messages each time...then she might never actually see yours, yeah she might have read it but like said it would be full time job to reply to all way I've seen it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most of time you get inundated with messages saying but why not. Or you get abuse. Or they can't be arsed.

Read the rules. You don't have to respond

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Have a forum search on 'replies'.

Some women get 200 messages every single day, shitty replies back etc. It's a common question but the reality.

People can't answer all their mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying no to every message gives me sore fingers and I need them for other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's their prerogative whether they choose to respond or not. I don't take it as rudeness not to get a reply. I imagine they just don't have the time. Besides i think a lot of guys on here expect too much without putting that much effort in first.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Yes! Next question

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Deoends who the lady is. Some will give you the "do you know how much messages i get" yawn. And some i've met will say thank you but no thanks. Just deoends what kind of lady it is. All ladies get an ridiculous amount if mail but yet some will always reply. Lucky dip mate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Yes it is too much to expect a reply. Along with people reading the FAQ which clearly states no reply means no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Probably not as woman would have to reply to hundreds daily

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Why would an inbox full of rejection make you feel any better about being on here?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's too much op when site rules and tradition is for something else

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not sure if this cropped up before OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

I hope you're going to reply to every single person on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type?

I hope you're going to reply to every single person on this thread "

Best response ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saying no to every message gives me sore fingers and I need them for other things "

You can borrow mine if yours get sore

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Logistically? Filters. I regularly turn my filters on so I don't get unwanted mail. Anyone I have ever replied to though during a filters off period, even if it is to say no, can get through those filters once they're reapplied. And tend to have forgotten I said no the first time. Plus, I am a wuss and I avoid awkward conversations in real life let alone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was recently sent a message rebuking me for not replying to the guys previous message.I was told that a simple no thanks should not be too much trouble for me.

I took this criticism on board and replied to the next message from a random guy who clearly finds it easier to look at pics than to read, with a polite but firm 'no thanks' and a detailed explanation of why not.

Did I get any thanks for this? No I did not.

So, I thought to myself, 'stuff that.I just won't bother replying again if they can't be bothered to reply to my replies'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

It's really simple to cut down mail using mail filters and other means. But then that deflates the ego...

I reply to all polite messages and I've had less than 10 shitty responses in many years. I wonder why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

As a guy I expect nothing. This isn't Instashag.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type?

I hope you're going to reply to every single person on this thread

Best response ever "

Or anyone...?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"As a guy, when you take time to message a lady on here and avoid a rude or smutty opening message ...

is it too much to expect a response even if its a not thanks not my type? "

Will an inbox full of no's make you feel any better?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

It's a struggle to keep up with replying to threads asking this question .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Note to FAB Admin.

How about two more buttons next to the delete button.

One for an automatic 'no thanks' reply

And the other for an auto 'fuck off' reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design."

It's nothing like that though. Those are unsolicited mail.

I think a better analogy would be a house with signs all over the windows of people eating pizza/ curry etc in lots of different positions with cheese dripping off their tongue. And saying how much they love and want pizza and curry makes them soooo hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design.

It's nothing like that though. Those are unsolicited mail.

I think a better analogy would be a house with signs all over the windows of people eating pizza/ curry etc in lots of different positions with cheese dripping off their tongue. And saying how much they love and want pizza and curry makes them soooo hot. "

Fuck.... thats so fucking horny, love to hear you talk dirty like that

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design.

It's nothing like that though. Those are unsolicited mail.

I think a better analogy would be a house with signs all over the windows of people eating pizza/ curry etc in lots of different positions with cheese dripping off their tongue. And saying how much they love and want pizza and curry makes them soooo hot. "

Pure filth. Can you do some more for me please

I like most foods.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages are limited they sod run out very quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design.

It's nothing like that though. Those are unsolicited mail.

I think a better analogy would be a house with signs all over the windows of people eating pizza/ curry etc in lots of different positions with cheese dripping off their tongue. And saying how much they love and want pizza and curry makes them soooo hot.

Pure filth. Can you do some more for me please

I like most foods."

My fingers are all slippery now.... maybe later.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a volatile subject.

Replying thanks but no thanks, some will, some won't.

Some will use the excuse of x thousand messages a day, and cannot possibly reply to all.

I'd say it's a question of class & style.

The good ones reply.

pick wisely ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone here years ago wrote along the lines:

OP, you know when you get home, open the door and see fast food menus on the door mat?

Do you ring them up and say 'No thank you' I don't want to buy anything from you.

No, you don't and the fast food shops don't expect you to but when your ready you will contact them.

It's a bit like that and whoever put it; put it very well.

It should be a sticky but the forums has a different design.

It's nothing like that though. Those are unsolicited mail.

I think a better analogy would be a house with signs all over the windows of people eating pizza/ curry etc in lots of different positions with cheese dripping off their tongue. And saying how much they love and want pizza and curry makes them soooo hot.

Pure filth. Can you do some more for me please

I like most foods.

My fingers are all slippery now.... maybe later..... "

Can you write something that includes a saveloy and a pot noodle please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Note to FAB Admin.

How about two more buttons next to the delete button.

One for an automatic 'no thanks' reply

And the other for an auto 'fuck off' reply

"

Amen to that Jesus

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