FabSwingers.com forum: older guys

By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

OK a problem that hits many older guys. Your horny and you have sex however long you guys last or allege you last lol.

you shoot your load and unlike years ago when it stayed hard now it goes soft right away.

and you struggle to get it up again even though your horny as fuck. Good days you can bad days not a twitch.

would this put you off meeting fems or guys incase you don't meet their expectations.

Would this put you girls off seeing the guy again

Thoughts peeps

what's people's take on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as a guy is honest about his stamina then it's not a problem.

It's when they say "fast reload, can go for ages", when in actual fact it's a case of wham bam!!!

Plenty of foreplay and some attention after is always good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never worry about it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think age is the main factor here. Depends on the person and their willpower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my concern as it has been years since I last had sex

and want to get back in although wife isn't interested.

I don't want to disappoint but feel that there's plenty of other things to do before and after to ensure the lady is pleased. And if I have enough time to play hopefully there will be time for a 2nd and hopefully 3rd performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I think in that situation a man's confidence could take a knock, and no man wants to be known as a one hit wonder.

Performance anxiety is a real thing, I think the thing to remember is that you don't have to be forever 21, and if you try to do anything the same way at 45 as you did at 21, you are going to disappoint yourself.

Just be confident in your experience, because if your technique is good, she isn't going to need hours of your best jackhammer impersonation.

If a woman chose you to share an intimate moment with, she wants you, not a version of you that is in your long term memory.

Be yourself, and don't try so hard, you are good enough

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I have a lot of self control as the wife likes to play the frustration game I ain't aloud to shoot till I'm told I can lol so sex part ain't a problem it's the quick flop after and the anoyance of wanting more but the cock wont do as he's told. It's good to hear what you laddies think as it could help more guys like me. Never had any complaints about the sex side. But as a guy over 50 I do freak and worry not being a rapid refiller multi cum guy anymore. But I'm honest about it

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I'd say discuss with GP first and see if anything can be done.

Failing that perhaps change the way you play. I've seen in profile and in real life couples that have adapted.

One couple contacted us to say thank you for putting a show on - in the dungeon in the Attic. Had quite an audience including this couple, the guy suffered from premature ejaculation, but they still liked to watch... and he did cum as he watched me blindfolded and flogged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose an mmf is good in this situation. The guys can take it in turns to keep the lady happy while one has a break.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"I suppose an mmf is good in this situation. The guys can take it in turns to keep the lady happy while one has a break."

I've found this works very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like a tiny windsock at times, and has probably influenced the kind of kink that I like to get involved in. It gets all alert and ready, but sticking a jimmy hat on it makes it think it's bedtime and off to sleep it goes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope if i like the man,then i would certainly meet again.there are plenty of other things to do.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As ever with these things a lot of it is in the head and conquering that isn't the easiest of things but with an altered approach, taking your time, and understanding playmates it doesn't have to be a problem - there are plenty of things you can be doing while waiting for the slightly longer recovery time to kick in

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I suppose an mmf is good in this situation. The guys can take it in turns to keep the lady happy while one has a break."

That's exactly how I overcome this so the wife gets more pleasure as I watch and wait my turn.

Now she's arranging mm fun as she has some issues plaguing her with pain at the moment and can't garuntee the guy sex with her at the meet. She admitted she likes watching a guy having sex with me which was a revelation lol so now to learn new self managing tricks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the problem of stamina isn't solely the issue of older men..... I personally prefer older men as they seem to be more able to make me cum (my experience only, not saying it's the rule)..... yes, hard cock is amazing, but there are so many other ways of stimulating me, that I wouldn't see what the op has described as a problem for me..... but that's me..... others may see it differently....

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It's not a stamina issue being described it's the quick flop after sex and wanting more but the cock wont rise again I wanted to know how many other guys have this issue and how this affects the laddies thought process on the guy. I thought it would be good to have a open and honest discussion about this to help older guys and build confidence.

we see lots on woman's sexual issues but men don't talk about theirs so I hoped by sharing this we could explore the issue and in some way let guys with similar issues cope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a stamina issue being described it's the quick flop after sex and wanting more but the cock wont rise again I wanted to know how many other guys have this issue and how this affects the laddies thought process on the guy. I thought it would be good to have a open and honest discussion about this to help older guys and build confidence.

we see lots on woman's sexual issues but men don't talk about theirs so I hoped by sharing this we could explore the issue and in some way let guys with similar issues cope."

I'm not expert (V talking here), but my ex had the same issue you describe, unless he popped a pill.... M is different again..... there are times when he finishes and then stays hard and we have a round two, and there are times when we have to wait for 30 mins or so.... it varies..... would perhaps cock ring make a difference?? As I've said, I'm no expert, but I wonder whether diet, time of the day, stress, etc affects it also??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I fall into the older category just yet, 40 in a few weeks.

I suffer from delayed ejaculation, can take an hour or more at times and I'm a one shot wonder

It isn't really an issue for me, once I've cum I like to have a spoon and just relax for a bit and then build back up, lots of kissing,stroking, touching, oral whatever until I'm ready again. I can pretty much stay hard for as long as I want/need then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an ex that would roll over and fall asleep. I was left to finish myself off

Now I don't mind at all but don't forget about the lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had an ex that would roll over and fall asleep. I was left to finish myself off

Now I don't mind at all but don't forget about the lady

I'm with you totally here

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