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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners?" ANY single on here that is married and their spouse doesn't know! (But I guess that is not what you wanted!) If one of us went off without the others knowledge and shagged someone else, that is cheating!! Simple really.. | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners?" There is and it is exactly the same and in any other dictionary. | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? ANY single on here that is married and their spouse doesn't know! (But I guess that is not what you wanted!) If one of us went off without the others knowledge and shagged someone else, that is cheating!! Simple really.." Your first was general cheating. Your second; lovely!!! It's becoming clear now | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners?" oh dear.. pandora's box opened up again..... let me try and answer it like this... if someone is here and meeting with the consent of the other half... that is not cheating... if someone is here and meeting without the consent of the other half... that is where a lot of the issues arise... and for a long of people... it is the justification for it all is the point where some would like to scream.... | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? There is and it is exactly the same and in any other dictionary." Ok, but once your partner is there it's not any more yeah? | |||
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"If everyone know whats going on ... And man or woman not playing away with out other half knowing how can it be cheating ? " I don't think it is, just getting that bit now | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? Not being upfront about what your up to . Most cpls i know have their own code of conduct. Its what makes it work. " Yours seems to be a new view. So each couple define what cheating is to them then? | |||
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"We swing as a couple so anything that could be done without the other present, or in secret would be cheating .... Just like any other cpl, Swingers or not " Thanks, that's getting clearer now | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? oh dear.. pandora's box opened up again..... let me try and answer it like this... if someone is here and meeting with the consent of the other half... that is not cheating... if someone is here and meeting without the consent of the other half... that is where a lot of the issues arise... and for a long of people... it is the justification for it all is the point where some would like to scream.... " | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? Not being upfront about what your up to . Most cpls i know have their own code of conduct. Its what makes it work. Yours seems to be a new view. So each couple define what cheating is to them then? " Its like ...do it with me and alls fine...do it against me and your well and truly fucked...but not in a nice way | |||
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"In a swingers' dictionary, is there anything like cheating? If there is, what would be cheating to swinging couples or partners? Not being upfront about what your up to . Most cpls i know have their own code of conduct. Its what makes it work. Yours seems to be a new view. So each couple define what cheating is to them then? Its like ...do it with me and alls fine...do it against me and your well and truly fucked...but not in a nice way " Aw, I got that, it wouldn't be a memorable but not fun memory fuck then! | |||
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"Its a oxymoron ....you have separated th act of sex from love ..so it should be it can only be cheating if you fall in love with someone else .....and by that i mean just the fact you have fell on love with another person even if your not sleeping with them would mean your cheating ... " So lying and deceit has nothing to do with it? | |||
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"to me ignorance is blissssss.." I can believe it. | |||
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"to me ignorance is blissssss.. I can believe it." hehe.... | |||
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"Its a oxymoron ....you have separated th act of sex from love ..so it should be it can only be cheating if you fall in love with someone else .....and by that i mean just the fact you have fell on love with another person even if your not sleeping with them would mean your cheating ... So lying and deceit has nothing to do with it?" There is not a human being on this planet that does not lie ...we are all lying deceitful creatures by nature ....read the lying ape by Brian king ....we lie to ourselfs to get through the day and we all lie to others every day ....so to judge others about there lies... we must be a non liar which is a impossibility.... because of human nature | |||
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"Its a oxymoron ....you have separated th act of sex from love ..so it should be it can only be cheating if you fall in love with someone else .....and by that i mean just the fact you have fell on love with another person even if your not sleeping with them would mean your cheating ... So lying and deceit has nothing to do with it? There is not a human being on this planet that does not lie ...we are all lying deceitful creatures by nature ....read the lying ape by Brian king ....we lie to ourselfs to get through the day and we all lie to others every day ....so to judge others about there lies... we must be a non liar which is a impossibility.... because of human nature " Well as I usually say to such things.... I'll accept the reasons a cheat has for cheating 5 minutes after their partner does. When it's good enough for them, it will be good enough for me. | |||
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" So lying and deceit has nothing to do with it? There is not a human being on this planet that does not lie ...we are all lying deceitful creatures by nature ....read the lying ape by Brian king ....we lie to ourselfs to get through the day and we all lie to others every day ....so to judge others about there lies... we must be a non liar which is a impossibility.... because of human nature " eh,it's true we all lie,and at times we are all deceitful. if you have sex,with someone other than your partner,and you lie,and are deceitfull about it,thats cheating. if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating." Phew! | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Phew! " lmao | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Phew! " Unless of course you made a commitment to your partner to fight your shoe fetish! | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Phew! Unless of course you made a commitment to your partner to fight your shoe fetish!" I never commit to something I know is never going to happen | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating." Does that apply to handbags too? | |||
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"Its a oxymoron ....you have separated th act of sex from love ..so it should be it can only be cheating if you fall in love with someone else .....and by that i mean just the fact you have fell on love with another person even if your not sleeping with them would mean your cheating ... So lying and deceit has nothing to do with it? There is not a human being on this planet that does not lie ...we are all lying deceitful creatures by nature ....read the lying ape by Brian king ....we lie to ourselfs to get through the day and we all lie to others every day ....so to judge others about there lies... we must be a non liar which is a impossibility.... because of human nature " You lie everyday? I'm sorry I can't remember the last time I lied to someone, not evben a white one. Ok not to say I've never done, far from it, but to me that sounds like someone trying to justify their behaviour. Anyway back on topic, we have rules, not many but they exist and they are set in stone. Personally I think the flipside of the freedom that swinging gives you is that cheating would be even more damaging to a relationship. | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too?" lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too? lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. " Wise words from Mrs Saucy ! | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too? lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. Wise words from Mrs Saucy !" Bugger off you lot would be lost wi out us xx | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too? lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. Wise words from Mrs Saucy ! Bugger off you lot would be lost wi out us xx " your right soapy,lost,lost,lost,without us. although to be honest,to get back in. i had to buy her a new bag,and a pair of shoes. | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too? lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. :- Wise words from Mrs Saucy ! Bugger off you lot would be lost wi out us xx your right soapy,lost,lost,lost,without us. although to be honest,to get back in. i had to buy her a new bag,and a pair of shoes. " Fancy lettin the side down Be a man like me Wendy and i both know who wears the trousers in our relationship xx | |||
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" if you lie,and are deceitful,about shoes you have bought.that is not cheating. Does that apply to handbags too? lol i once said to mrs saucy,either those shoes and handbags go,or i do. she said,i'll miss you. Wise words from Mrs Saucy ! Bugger off you lot would be lost wi out us xx " Minus vibrator? | |||
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"You might wear the trousers Soapy.....but Wendy tells you what ones to put on every morning." | |||
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"AND.....they are little trousers " Mmmm ya right there the other day I borrowed the ex wife's car and gad to adjust the seat forward Thing is she is only four foot eleven xx | |||
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"We swing as a couple so anything that could be done without the other present, or in secret would be cheating .... Just like any other cpl, Swingers or not " +1 | |||
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"Every relationship we have is based on rules. These rules are either implicit or explicit. They are like the terms of an unwritten contract. To knowingly break one of those rules breaks the contract of the relationship. A cheat intentionally doesn't stick to the terms of the contract but wants to keep benefitting from the original deal. They therefore decieve the other party into continuing with the 'broken' contract. Sex outside of the relationship is just one of many different rules SOME couples may CHOOSE to have as part of their deal. This is why I don't understand why there is ever any confusion with swinging and cheating. As long as swinging is part of the terms and conditions of your deal, it can never be cheating. Cheating is not about sex, it's about breaking rules. " i seriously dont know why u bother spice, the whoosh of this going over the trolls head can be heard from here | |||
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"Every relationship we have is based on rules. These rules are either implicit or explicit. They are like the terms of an unwritten contract. To knowingly break one of those rules breaks the contract of the relationship. A cheat intentionally doesn't stick to the terms of the contract but wants to keep benefitting from the original deal. They therefore decieve the other party into continuing with the 'broken' contract. Sex outside of the relationship is just one of many different rules SOME couples may CHOOSE to have as part of their deal. This is why I don't understand why there is ever any confusion with swinging and cheating. As long as swinging is part of the terms and conditions of your deal, it can never be cheating. Cheating is not about sex, it's about breaking rules. " very well put , sex is sex at the end of the day | |||
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"Every relationship we have is based on rules. These rules are either implicit or explicit. They are like the terms of an unwritten contract. To knowingly break one of those rules breaks the contract of the relationship. A cheat intentionally doesn't stick to the terms of the contract but wants to keep benefitting from the original deal. They therefore decieve the other party into continuing with the 'broken' contract. Sex outside of the relationship is just one of many different rules SOME couples may CHOOSE to have as part of their deal. This is why I don't understand why there is ever any confusion with swinging and cheating. As long as swinging is part of the terms and conditions of your deal, it can never be cheating. Cheating is not about sex, it's about breaking rules. " I go with you all the way. Good way to present it. | |||
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