FabSwingers.com forum: Bi or Bi curious?

By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Hi old fabber back again had some good times in the past on fab.

Anyway Me and the wife are particular about who we wish to meet and as a bi guy who likes to receive and play submissive the wife is keen to get me laid as she likes to watch.

Keep seeing profiles saying bi curious and when we chat to guys they say ive been sucked and sucked others etc and it turns them on.

So my question is how the hell can someone be bi curious if they have done stuff with the same sex and enjoyed so much they go back for more.

I say your either bi gay or straight and hate when someone feels the need to say i'm "bi curious when they are obviously bi.

Whats others thoughts on this and what are your pet hates of people using the site?

USANDHIM

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I don't know. Check out our profile, our status update, our meet ad, the first line of our profile and then tell me why we've had now about ten straight guys message us

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Exactly that's my point.

One of the reasons we left last time was the guys saying they where bi turning up and you knew right away the whole agenda was to get in the wifes knickers.

Our profile is quite short with very specific requirements age sexual preferences and as wife needs that physical attraction ( A face pic ) Yet we still get people who obviously never learn't to read messaging us.

Bi is bi your only curious if you aint tried it, that's my reasoning am I wrong?

The other thing is if you ask them they will say they have banged a woman's botty but as you say are only "oraly bi" whats the difference in having sex with a woman's rectum and guy????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think guys who want cock play but not anal will go for bi curious because in their heads it's not quite the label bi is. Ultimately it's up to them, as long as they are open with what they want and are happy to give.

I met a guy, we rubbed cocks and he wanked me, then he said, that he wasn't into that gay stuff or anything. I stifled my laugh.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

The guys I've met (fem here) with partners over the years have been bi. I just object to guys not been honest. Plus I like the confidence of openly bi guys, it's very erotic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i was a curious woman - which i was for a long time - if had just had a kiss and maybe received id still say curious if i liked - once i tried giving and the whole shebang and i liked and went back for more then i changed myself to bisexual - which i did quite early on - i think it would be the mminority that were still jut curious and unsure - so yes if you ve been there, tried and gone back for more - no longer curious - you know what you want

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

The label police will be along shortly to admonish us all for daring to suggest knowing someone's sexuality matters.

If it feels good just do it liberals

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I met a guy, we rubbed cocks and he wanked me, then he said, that he wasn't into that gay stuff or anything. I stifled my laugh. "

Love it.

We are even getting messages from straight guys.

One said I only put straight as the word BI can put people off?

No dishonesty puts us off.

We have been here for just over 3 months we have advertised in advance for a guy to join us in the evening 18th which being tomorrow and we have had guys spend days chatting to us then suddenly saying cant get there in evening but can in the day WTF???? We aint there in the day that's why we said evening ( Drrrrrrrr) LOL s

We have spent a month chatting to guys who say (genuine not a time waster and chances are it will just be me and the wife tomorrow because that's all they have done is waste our time. But hey that's part of the journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to class myself as bi curious

Then met another guy on fab guys so now I'm definitely bi sexual

Wouldn't say I'm gay as I wouldn't have a 'real' relationship with another man

But still would have with woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The label police will be along shortly to admonish us all for daring to suggest knowing someone's sexuality matters.

If it feels good just do it liberals

Go on then.. I'm in.

I don't think sexuality matters. I'm bi but it doesn't mean I'll fuck all men and women. I might be just looking for men so the 'bisexual' label is irrelevant. I think the 'Looking for' bit is more important. Sexuality labels just cloud things.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

I'm listed as 'curious' because there is no bi playful option. In an mmf we have very few limits but I have yet to meet a guy that would make me want to meet them alone which is the category I see as bisexual. That's my tuppence worth and I know other people have different interpretations of this and all the other labels that we adorn ourselves with but I'm happy (so is P) and that's all that matters to us.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I don't know. Check out our profile, our status update, our meet ad, the first line of our profile and then tell me why we've had now about ten straight guys message us "

When you say you want an openly bi man, do i have to have a T shirt that says "I'm bi"?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

This just doesn't happen.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I say I'm bi curious , because I love to play with convincing TVs . On a meet , depending how we all feel at the time , this will involve kissing , them sucking me , and me fucking them , but by no means is this always the case .

With a bi guy I may not engage in any bi play at all , infact in most cases I don't . This is because I have no desire to do so , a guy does nothing for me . But there may be a bit of oral from a guy on the odd occasion , generally only if he is joining in with my wife .

So if I put bi on our profile it's misleading , and not realistically true is it ?

Bi curious is the only option and until bi selfish becomes an option it's the only one that remotely fits .

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst I accept the right of anyone to define themselves as they want - I do find it curious (pun intended) when guys label themselves as 'straight' when they're looking to meet other guys, or play with couples where the guy is bi - the usual reason that's rolled out when queried is that identifying as bi or bi-curious limits their options when it comes to people who won't meet bi guys.

What they don't appear to consider is that they're limiting their options when it comes to meeting people actively looking for bi guys - and so by opening one door, they're closing another.

In fact I'd go so far as to suggest there are as many people looking for bi guys that won't meet bi guys identifying as straight, as there are straight people that won't meet bi.

I'm bi and openly so, and see no reason to hide that fact, and as such actually wouldn't want to play with people that actively dismiss bi guys anyway.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"I don't know. Check out our profile, our status update, our meet ad, the first line of our profile and then tell me why we've had now about ten straight guys message us

When you say you want an openly bi man, do i have to have a T shirt that says "I'm bi"?"

Yes and have sparkles in your hair too

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I don't know. Check out our profile, our status update, our meet ad, the first line of our profile and then tell me why we've had now about ten straight guys message us

When you say you want an openly bi man, do i have to have a T shirt that says "I'm bi"?

Yes and have sparkles in your hair too

Fuck it.

the only sparkles I've got is grey coming through..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say, I'm not sure where I should put myself in this category.

I've tried it, it was ok, but not something I'm in a rush to do again, but if I meet a couple I would want to play with both of them, but not overly keen on meeting a single male.

By the definitions posted above, since I've tried it I'm not bi curious, since I would play with a man if he was part of a couple, I'm not straight, but since I'm not interested in playing just with a man, I'm not really fitting into the bi category either.

How about curiously bi? I think I put that on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me bi curiosity means a latent but as yet unexplored willingness to engage in same sex activity ....

The nature of that activity is not a variable measure of sexual identity

If experimentation takes place and is then repeated regardless of whether the activity is limited to oral or anal or simply wanking and touching or indeed full on rampant sex the person should identify as bisexual.....

That's what I think ....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"To me bi curiosity means a latent but as yet unexplored willingness to engage in same sex activity ....

The nature of that activity is not a variable measure of sexual identity

That's what I think ....

Oops got lost in my previous diatribe and forgot to cover the bi vs bi curious bit but what soxy said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the problem is that sexuality is a spectrum rather than a black and white issue.... and also something that develops and evolves as we grow.... a lot of us don't know exactly where we fit in. .....

I enjoy 2 way oral and topping with guys in a 3 sum situation, yet I don't enjoy playing with a guy 1 on 1..... I find cocks extremely attractive and get turned on by the thought of them.... yet I don't find men themselves attractive as I do women. ....

I am happy to suck, clean up cock and pussy after creampie sex and even rim a guy if he is clean. But the thought of kissing a bloke repulses me. ......

So the truth is I don't realy know what I am... Just what I have tried and enjoyed so far

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By *aughty danMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Im fully bi. Will suck and fuck get sucked and be fucked. Hows that for straight to the point.

In a meet i love sucking cock in front of the wife. There are deffo guys who put bi-curious just to get in amongst a couple and play with the lady.

I prefer fun with a bi couple but only so i can share the husband with the wife and the wife with the husband. The added dynamic is amazing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

This just doesn't happen. "

Which?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

This just doesn't happen.

Which?"

Getting hounded by men for listing as bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

This just doesn't happen.

Which?

Getting hounded by men for listing as bi."

Thought all men get hounded by men.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"Hi old fabber back again had some good times in the past on fab.

Anyway Me and the wife are particular about who we wish to meet and as a bi guy who likes to receive and play submissive the wife is keen to get me laid as she likes to watch.

Keep seeing profiles saying bi curious and when we chat to guys they say ive been sucked and sucked others etc and it turns them on.

So my question is how the hell can someone be bi curious if they have done stuff with the same sex and enjoyed so much they go back for more.

I say your either bi gay or straight and hate when someone feels the need to say i'm "bi curious when they are obviously bi.

Whats others thoughts on this and what are your pet hates of people using the site?

It can't same sex ,sex means your bi sexual or gay ,theme the facts lol

USANDHIM"

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Perhaps they don't want to be hounded by bi and gay guys. Bi curious sounds more unsure.

Perhaps they want to be hounded by men that like unsure men. Straight men fucking each other is horny.

This just doesn't happen.

Which?

Getting hounded by men for listing as bi.

Thought all men get hounded by men.

Nah. Its an urban myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gay and Bi guys often like to try it on with straight guys as a kinda conquest thing, like they are proving some rainbow point.

But I don't understand putting bi curious if they like sucking cock or getting guys to suck their cock, as a lot of gay guys are 'oral' only or 'top' and won't take anal or give oral.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had more than a few guys say they're bi but once we start talking only thing they talk about is getting in VS's underwear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this is about bi guys, but as a bi-curious woman I'm gunna throw my opinion into the mix.

I've kissed women, I've received oral from women, I've performed oral on women, I've done most things with women. However, I still describe myself as bi-curious rather than bisexual. The reason is that I simply don't see myself as fully bisexual. I have no interest in a one-on-one sexual meet with a woman and I don't want female play without any dicks involved. I like group play and the freedom it provides. Bi-playful isn't an option, so I stick with bi-curious. It signals to people interested that I'm interested in women but it also puts off many of the people who are into mostly female on female play. Perhaps some of the men who identify as bi-curious feel similarly to myslef. I dunno.

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"To me bi curiosity means a latent but as yet unexplored willingness to engage in same sex activity ....

The nature of that activity is not a variable measure of sexual identity

That's what I think ....

My thoughts exactly

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By *bione_1Man
over a year ago

Broxbourne

Hi, I take your point.

I class myself as curious.

Ive played with few guys but I've never sucked or been fucked.

Im curious to explore both but during a mmf.

I met a couple and just me and the guy played with each other.

I don't feel I have the experience yet to say bi.

Im looking for meets with couples so I can taste my first guy inside my mouth

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think they continue to be curious way past the stage that most folk would assume their curiosity had been assuaged. It doesn't matter. 3 men meets or more and you can assume they like it minaret what they label themselves as.

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By *sandhim OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"We've had more than a few guys say they're bi but once we start talking only thing they talk about is getting in VS's underwear "

Spot on This was why the wife got fed up last time we where on fab. She hoped it would be different this time round. Yet we have chatted to loads off guys given them the invite then all the excuses start.

All we want is honesty. If the wife asks will they do anal with hubby first they say no at least the boundaries are set and we decide if we move forwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some are curious as to what every cock on fab tastes like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only speculating here but:

There's still in this day and age a little stigma with sexuality. Guys wouldn't be so perturbed about being found out sleeping with women on here.

But their not comfortable about the idea of others knowing they fantasize about a bisexual experience.

Being curious doesn't necessarily mean you are bisexual? Many people have fantasies that they don't necessarily wish to implement.

I am curious tbough...yiu see a lot of status updates on here by people raising this, and almost vilifying the individuals. Should they be outed? Maybe they're not comfortable with their sexuality? No need to be condescending towards them ? (Not directed at OP).

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sexual orientation is a bugger for many people, as a minor interest in a gender typically doesn't seem like their interest for their primary gender of interest.

Men who never fancy men but can discover some sexual pleasure with them, is a very common bi experience. They don't see guys and women in the same way, nor potentially enjoy the same things with each gender or in the same way.

Others are different and have very distinct attraction to more than one type of person - it's crystal clear and perceived in a black and white manner for them. This type of person doesn't get how others don't experience sexual interest in the same way to them.

People are just complex and there's enormous difference amongst us. People can remain curious because they are and will perhaps never grasp the intricacies of their same gender interests. Pressuring them to experience and understand themselves in the way that matches how you yourself does just may stimulate further confusion rather than clarity, because they will never have your makeup.

Chancers on fab who pretend various attributes to gain shags are another matter entirely. Just assume that there are people who will lie about any status.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

" I'm only speculating here but:

There's still in this day and age a little stigma with sexuality. Guys wouldn't be so perturbed about being found out sleeping with women on here.

But their not comfortable about the idea of others knowing they fantasize about a bisexual experience.

Being curious doesn't necessarily mean you are bisexual? Many people have fantasies that they don't necessarily wish to implement.

I think the upset is caused by overtly bi men. You can guarantee when we post a meet like today, we will be inundated with "straight" men wanting to take Sirs cock up their arse. The bi spectrum of these guys tends to range from orally bi and would like to try anal to fully blown (pardon the pun) experienced bi guys that are profile straight because it puts some straight or bi fem couples off.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"Gay and Bi guys often like to try it on with straight guys as a kinda conquest thing, like they are proving some rainbow point.

But I don't understand putting bi curious if they like sucking cock or getting guys to suck their cock, as a lot of gay guys are 'oral' only or 'top' and won't take anal or give oral.

And I get pestered constantly by straight guys so works both ways trust ne

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

Had two perfectly lovely messages from guys listed as Straight but proclaimed to be bi but wanted to be discrete. Another recent straight guy was secretly bi because he wanted to protect his family (from what?).

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"Had two perfectly lovely messages from guys listed as Straight but proclaimed to be bi but wanted to be discrete. Another recent straight guy was secretly bi because he wanted to protect his family (from what?).

It's ok for him to be a swinger but heaven forbid anyone finds out he is bisexual lol

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

We get the same on our couples profile. Soo many black guys can't list as bi because their friends might see...

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