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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Block his number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

Think he's a chancer trying to engineer a situation where you'll "offer" an alternative way to pay for the work. He's seen too many old porn scenes.

I wouldn't suspect he knows you're on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block his number "

I have now but after he said I won't hear from him again and he's been paid I didn't think he'd need to contact me again. I'm not worried about myself, just thinking is there a guy out there who possibly sensed my vulnerability (in the sense that I said I was skint till pay day) and used that for ulterior motives.

The message where he said can you think of any other way to pay him!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

He's hitting on you, I don't think of matters why, I would politely and firmly say no thank you and then just block.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

It's not very professional of him.

I'd treat it the same way if you got a message on here that you didn't like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A chancer, just block his number. He thinks your fit and want to try his luck. Naughty boy....

Hope you don't get any trouble off him xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you fancied him OP, would you have taken him up on his offer of a meal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say it was a national company, so report him to head office. He's probably trying it on with a lot of women, some might feel more indebted than others and give in to him.

It's sexual harassment and he needs dealing with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's bloody cheeky though. The can you think of another way to pay.

Feel insulted he thought it was acceptable to ask me something like that. Like how that guy felt yesterday when he said his neighbour told him he'd stolen someones knickers off the line. It's like why did he think it was acceptable to treat me like a prostitute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block his number

I have now but after he said I won't hear from him again and he's been paid I didn't think he'd need to contact me again. I'm not worried about myself, just thinking is there a guy out there who possibly sensed my vulnerability (in the sense that I said I was skint till pay day) and used that for ulterior motives.

The message where he said can you think of any other way to pay him! "

I'm guessing you are overthinking ot lovely. I doubt he has seen you on here. I genuinely think he would have properly hinted at it, if he knew.

My guess? He's a sleaze, fancied you and tried to take advantage of you being a single mother by hinting you could pay in kind. What a tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not professional at all and it certainly seems like he was trying to manoeuvre you into coming up with the solution he wants...

Did he have your address at all for the invoice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Urgh It's just another example of men treating women like prostitutes

I'm sick of their shit!

You're right its just disrespectful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"
It's quite possibly your own fault Miss Wilkes as you were eating steak McCoys whilst listening to 80's power ballads in your car whilst he worked on the scratch. Did you offer him a pee cock hold too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say he's taking his chances that a beautiful women might actually say yes to his cheap chat up lines.

He'd have had a fit if you said yes you can take me out for dinner

Years ago we had a decorator that didn't want to take no for an answer I had to block his number but the worst is he was a good decorator lol xx

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By *oopy097Man
over a year ago

east mids


"It's bloody cheeky though. The can you think of another way to pay.

Feel insulted he thought it was acceptable to ask me something like that. Like how that guy felt yesterday when he said his neighbour told him he'd stolen someones knickers off the line. It's like why did he think it was acceptable to treat me like a prostitute. "

Or he actually genuinly fancies you... you have a hell of a figure... x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's bloody cheeky though. The can you think of another way to pay.

Feel insulted he thought it was acceptable to ask me something like that. Like how that guy felt yesterday when he said his neighbour told him he'd stolen someones knickers off the line. It's like why did he think it was acceptable to treat me like a prostitute. "

Too much porn probably. But its like that trend of offering rooms in a house in return for sex - so glad they made that illegal apparently, it was becoming rife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd report him if I'm honest. How many other people does he do this too? How many people in desperate situations have fallen victim to this guy? predator is a word that springs to mind but maybe I'm just a bit precious. Either way it's highly unprofessional and needs looking into.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If I'd fancied him I still would have paid him. My sex and blow jobs are free and yeah off the back of that one brief interaction I may have gone on a date with him (if he hadn't propositioned me)

He doesn't know where I live because he did the work on a strangers car at their home address and I met him in town to get the invoice off him so he doesn't know where I live.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yazoo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yazoo "

This is ok, I'm Fonzie

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Yazoo

This is ok, I'm Fonzie"

Happy Days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore his texts.

Simples

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By *ushandkittyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Accept his offer of a meal out (lunch)make sure he knows you're not the slightest interesting in you and afterwards say now I hope you'll keep your word about being the last I'll hear from you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples"

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Hi Miss Wilkes,

Here are our thoughts. Should he have inferred that there would be 'another way to pay'? No, so let's get that out of the way first and well done for taking responsibility for the damage in the first instance.

Beyond that ... you are clearly a very attractive lady and you would be surprised at how many people hook up with customers from a retail background. As someone else has said he is clearly hitting on you and trying to see if he can get a date using the 'discount' as a ruse to help tempt you (as you say, making you feel like you owe him).

If you have now blocked him then we would leave it at that unless he tries to contact you again via other means (in person, tel or email). Take it as a compliment but think of it this way would you feel as annoyed if he was your ideal man/lady??

In summary ... he is going about it all wrong but it sounds like he fancies you and wanted a date. You don't feel the same and sensibly have blocked him. We would leave it there.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If I'd fancied him I still would have paid him. My sex and blow jobs are free and yeah off the back of that one brief interaction I may have gone on a date with him (if he hadn't propositioned me)

He doesn't know where I live because he did the work on a strangers car at their home address and I met him in town to get the invoice off him so he doesn't know where I live. "

So, just forget about him.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

You're attractive. This is how people used to meet each other, through everyday interaction. If the messages said "suck me off and ill reduce the bill" then yeah report him. I don't think he's been out of order. Just attracted to you.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

10 out of 10for effort, block his number and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Miss Wilkes,

Here are our thoughts. Should he have inferred that there would be 'another way to pay'? No, so let's get that out of the way first and well done for taking responsibility for the damage in the first instance.

Beyond that ... you are clearly a very attractive lady and you would be surprised at how many people hook up with customers from a retail background. As someone else has said he is clearly hitting on you and trying to see if he can get a date using the 'discount' as a ruse to help tempt you (as you say, making you feel like you owe him).

If you have now blocked him then we would leave it at that unless he tries to contact you again via other means (in person, tel or email). Take it as a compliment but think of it this way would you feel as annoyed if he was your ideal man/lady??

In summary ... he is going about it all wrong but it sounds like he fancies you and wanted a date. You don't feel the same and sensibly have blocked him. We would leave it there."

I agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be he just fancies you and trying his luck - but if it a national co. how come he could alter the amount of the bill - that would be questioned back at the office surely ? - if you want to cover yourself maybe pay the rest of the bill and thats an end to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he replies again and gets more insistent or specific about what he means by payment in kind then I'd report him. As it is I wouldn't. He might just fancy you and he's just a dick thinking it's ok to speak to women like that.

Although the recent Taylor Swift case has been interesting. Maybe we're conditioned to put up with this shit. Maybe we shouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inbox me his number and I will make sure he NEVER hassles you again absolute idiot it's clear from your replies you know what he's asking for as payment and your not interested. So let me sort it for you ?? And then you can owe me a favour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He lowered the price for you, which is also inappropriate.... You only paid £100, so just block him and move on.

You can't take with one hand and put your fingers up with another. (Well you can, but can't then complain about it).

The only person to actually gain anything out of this is you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How fit was he?

Obviously fancies you take it as a conpminent and move.on or fuck his brains out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"could be he just fancies you and trying his luck - but if it a national co. how come he could alter the amount of the bill - that would be questioned back at the office surely ? - if you want to cover yourself maybe pay the rest of the bill and thats an end to it"

The invoice said £178 and so much pence as well so I dunno how he sahved it down to £100. I still have the messages and everyone I've shown have said that one where he said he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him, was inappropriate. I've blocked him so he won't be getting a penny off me.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Inbox me his number and I will make sure he NEVER hassles you again absolute idiot it's clear from your replies you know what he's asking for as payment and your not interested. So let me sort it for you ?? And then you can owe me a favour "

Well.. this is strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could be he just fancies you and trying his luck - but if it a national co. how come he could alter the amount of the bill - that would be questioned back at the office surely ? - if you want to cover yourself maybe pay the rest of the bill and thats an end to it

The invoice said £178 and so much pence as well so I dunno how he sahved it down to £100. I still have the messages and everyone I've shown have said that one where he said he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him, was inappropriate. I've blocked him so he won't be getting a penny off me. "

Save the texts for at least 6 months. Does he have any other details for you? Address, full name, car registration? He or his company may come after you for the rest of the money. Be ready to show them the texts.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Just ignore any further communication and leave it at that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"could be he just fancies you and trying his luck - but if it a national co. how come he could alter the amount of the bill - that would be questioned back at the office surely ? - if you want to cover yourself maybe pay the rest of the bill and thats an end to it

The invoice said £178 and so much pence as well so I dunno how he sahved it down to £100. I still have the messages and everyone I've shown have said that one where he said he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him, was inappropriate. I've blocked him so he won't be getting a penny off me.

Save the texts for at least 6 months. Does he have any other details for you? Address, full name, car registration? He or his company may come after you for the rest of the money. Be ready to show them the texts. "

Wasn't my car her did the repair on or my address. I think he knows that his first message doesn't make him look good so doubt he would try anything.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Was the bank account details his or the national companies?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Was the bank account details his or the national companies?"

Good question

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"If you fancied him OP, would you have taken him up on his offer of a meal?"

I wondered that. Glad its not just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Handjob

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Send him the final payment in scotch eggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

First the scratch then this, not sure which is worse!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Was the bank account details his or the national companies?"

A franchise maybe?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I had a very similar situation, with an electrician.

He came & gave me a quote, way more than I thought it would be, told him I'd have to leave it til payday.

Did get 2 more quotes, similar prices & told them same.

First guy started texting me, offered to do the job, cheaper, in his own time 'off the company books' and I agreed.

He then tried to hit on me. Said similar about letting him take me out to make up the difference.

I have to admit he was very good looking & I may have been a bit flirty with him & I actually considered going on a date with him.

Told a friend, she told ne he did lots of freebies for folks,had offered her work for no charge, in exchange for a BJ, and at least 2 people I knew of, 1 of which has some serious mental health issues.

I did report him, as at that point I felt/knew he was taking advantage of women

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

What the hell ... I dont see the problem ....its not as if he is stalking you .....

You've paid ....end of

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I thought at the time that he asked you could there be a different way of paying for it and you told him where to go then?

I think he is a chancer that thinks if he dropped the bill you would feel obliged to drop your drawers. It is not very professional and a bit insulting that he thinks you will drop your drawers to get money off your bill.

Even if I fancied the arse off the man I would have told him where to go.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"What the hell ... I dont see the problem ....its not as if he is stalking you .....

You've paid ....end of

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He kept texting.

What if he texts again?

A bit like stalking/harrasing and that wouldn't be the end of it would it?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Then she could block his number... if she wants to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

He knows of you on here.. or he just fancies you and is trying it on.. it's inappropriate if you feel it's inappropriate. End of.

If he knows of you here.. He's a cunt and best avoided at all costs.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

He's a chancer, probably harmless and take it as a compliment. I've had this before and politely said I'm wasn't interested and made up a fictitious partner to prevent any potential stalking. I reckon he'll back off as his livelihood is at risk as he has a business that is easily traceable if he was reported.

Just leave it for now, he's been warned off quite clearly from your message. if he doesn't take notice then report him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bloke, if a woman asked me if there was another way I could pay I'd automatically assume she was talking about me moving her fridge or something. I guess the guy probably was angling either at a date or sex. So, although the words aren't themselves inappropriate... it's probably right that he was angling in on something inappropriate. But it is also a bit sad to see how women think about such "innocent" suggestions. It seems we're unlikely to revert to a bartering economy any time soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he's heard about your roast dinners.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a right slime ball lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like a right slime ball lol"

Doesn't he just..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's a chance block his number and put it down to a bit of flattery (hard I know) store the texts and if you get anymore agro report him to the company with the texts as proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He reduced the bill, took a chance with you and you didn't take him up on it. He's now asked you on a date after you were happy to pay less than 60% of the original quote. If you think he's behaved inappropriately pay up what you owe him and report him to his company. If you're not prepared to do that, you haven't really got the right to moan about him hitting on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a bloke, if a woman asked me if there was another way I could pay I'd automatically assume she was talking about me moving her fridge or something. I guess the guy probably was angling either at a date or sex. So, although the words aren't themselves inappropriate... it's probably right that he was angling in on something inappropriate. But it is also a bit sad to see how women think about such "innocent" suggestions. It seems we're unlikely to revert to a bartering economy any time soon. "

So you think women should use sex as payment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him. "

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

When that happened to me a few years ago, I contacted the head office, as much as I did not want to get him into trouble it is inappropriate bahaviour, the said bloke had done it a few times I discovered later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?"
my thoughts exactly... although that suited her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i were you i'd meet him have a coffee. Then say thats the deal squared now see ya!! Then watch him turn nasty lol X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He reduced the bill, took a chance with you and you didn't take him up on it. He's now asked you on a date after you were happy to pay less than 60% of the original quote. If you think he's behaved inappropriately pay up what you owe him and report him to his company. If you're not prepared to do that, you haven't really got the right to moan about him hitting on you "

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's bloody cheeky though. The can you think of another way to pay.

Feel insulted he thought it was acceptable to ask me something like that. Like how that guy felt yesterday when he said his neighbour told him he'd stolen someones knickers off the line. It's like why did he think it was acceptable to treat me like a prostitute. "

I think he is not thinking with his head ! I would just ignore him unless you are interested. I think no contact is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He reduced the bill, took a chance with you and you didn't take him up on it. He's now asked you on a date after you were happy to pay less than 60% of the original quote. If you think he's behaved inappropriately pay up what you owe him and report him to his company. If you're not prepared to do that, you haven't really got the right to moan about him hitting on you "

Fair play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a bloke, if a woman asked me if there was another way I could pay I'd automatically assume she was talking about me moving her fridge or something. I guess the guy probably was angling either at a date or sex. So, although the words aren't themselves inappropriate... it's probably right that he was angling in on something inappropriate. But it is also a bit sad to see how women think about such "innocent" suggestions. It seems we're unlikely to revert to a bartering economy any time soon.

So you think women should use sex as payment?"

If they are ok with it. Is it anyone else's business?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a bloke, if a woman asked me if there was another way I could pay I'd automatically assume she was talking about me moving her fridge or something. I guess the guy probably was angling either at a date or sex. So, although the words aren't themselves inappropriate... it's probably right that he was angling in on something inappropriate. But it is also a bit sad to see how women think about such "innocent" suggestions. It seems we're unlikely to revert to a bartering economy any time soon.

So you think women should use sex as payment?"

No. Did you read my post? The question "how would you like to pay me back?" is central to any barter economy. My point was I don't know which is sadder... that a woman assumes a guy is asking for sex by saying this... or that she's probably right. Both a bit depressing really.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"As a bloke, if a woman asked me if there was another way I could pay I'd automatically assume she was talking about me moving her fridge or something. I guess the guy probably was angling either at a date or sex. So, although the words aren't themselves inappropriate... it's probably right that he was angling in on something inappropriate. But it is also a bit sad to see how women think about such "innocent" suggestions. It seems we're unlikely to revert to a bartering economy any time soon.

So you think women should use sex as payment?"

I didn't read their comment like that - bartering as in 'make him a chicken casserole, help him fix his car' kind of bartering lol

I don't think it's that big an issue, I've had those kind of comments a few times and rolled my eyes. Made them internally to myself a few times too when it's been a particularly tasty delivery guy or window cleaner etc - difference being I remember to use my inside voice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He reduced the bill, took a chance with you and you didn't take him up on it. He's now asked you on a date after you were happy to pay less than 60% of the original quote. If you think he's behaved inappropriately pay up what you owe him and report him to his company. If you're not prepared to do that, you haven't really got the right to moan about him hitting on you "

Rational like this is soooo sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block his number.

He sounds like a bellend.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Block his number.

He sounds like a bellend."

Have you ever considered doing an Agony Aunt thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Block his number.

He sounds like a bellend.

Have you ever considered doing an Agony Aunt thread "

It would be "bin him"

"Dump her"

"Move on"

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Report him to his company .They'll soon decide if that's the kind of behaviour they condone.

Predatory behaviour. Maybe the next person won't be either in position to clear bill or too weak or too nieve to turn him down .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?"

The inappropriate behaviour started when he first text me saying he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him instead.

I think when I responded to him saying, I will pay you cash when I get paid, I think that's when HE panicked and knew his message was inappropriate and THEN he messaged saying he'll drop the price. At that point I had already been insulted by him thinking I would give him sex instead of paying him so I thought fuck it I will only pay you £100 now.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Block his number.

He sounds like a bellend.

Have you ever considered doing an Agony Aunt thread

It would be "bin him"

"Dump her"

"Move on"

"

No nonsense advice. I like this. I shall hit you up for any future probs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?

The inappropriate behaviour started when he first text me saying he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him instead.

I think when I responded to him saying, I will pay you cash when I get paid, I think that's when HE panicked and knew his message was inappropriate and THEN he messaged saying he'll drop the price. At that point I had already been insulted by him thinking I would give him sex instead of paying him so I thought fuck it I will only pay you £100 now. "

He might not have meant sex, he may have meant things like old car tyres, bags of old plaster, cans of food near their sell by date or half bottles of shampoo!?

JOKE BTW

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?

The inappropriate behaviour started when he first text me saying he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him instead.

I think when I responded to him saying, I will pay you cash when I get paid, I think that's when HE panicked and knew his message was inappropriate and THEN he messaged saying he'll drop the price. At that point I had already been insulted by him thinking I would give him sex instead of paying him so I thought fuck it I will only pay you £100 now.

He might not have meant sex, he may have meant things like old car tyres, bags of old plaster, cans of food near their sell by date or half bottles of shampoo!?

JOKE BTW "

Yup, he was probably hoping she would bake him a nice cake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?

The inappropriate behaviour started when he first text me saying he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him instead.

I think when I responded to him saying, I will pay you cash when I get paid, I think that's when HE panicked and knew his message was inappropriate and THEN he messaged saying he'll drop the price. At that point I had already been insulted by him thinking I would give him sex instead of paying him so I thought fuck it I will only pay you £100 now.

He might not have meant sex, he may have meant things like old car tyres, bags of old plaster, cans of food near their sell by date or half bottles of shampoo!?

JOKE BTW "

I asked people that I worked with, I asked the woman I look after who is very posh and well off and she thought he was hinting at sexual favours too.

I was gonna jokingly message back asking if he wanted his grass cut or some home baked cookies but £180 bill though?

As soon as he messaged me that it made me uncomfortable, plan was to meet him town again to give him the cash but I asked for his bank details to transfer instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

"

Report him to his company! He very clearly implied sex as payment instead of money. When that didn't work, he's pestering you for a date! Using your number for matters not related to the actual job he did! Discusting behaviour. He could try it again but with a more vunerble lady who wouldn't see through him like you did. Please report him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like his initial intention was to try and get a shag to cover the bill

Then hes tried to soften you up by knocking some money off the bill in the hope of getting his foot in the door

Now he's trying to get you to go on a date

But yeah I think he just wants to bang you. He sounds like a bit of a dirtbag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah seems to me he was being purely inappropriate with his advances....though I can understand why!!

However if he works for a national company then they have set repair/rectification prices so there is no way he could be able to reduce a bill down to £100!!?? He's either moonlighting or he's a franchisee! All in all you have the proof to damage his reputation but as you've blocked him and he doesn't know where you live then I'd put it down to another of life's experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him.

The inappropriate behaviour started when he dropped the bill, did you think to report him then?

The inappropriate behaviour started when he first text me saying he feels bad taking my money and if I can think of another way to pay him instead.

I think when I responded to him saying, I will pay you cash when I get paid, I think that's when HE panicked and knew his message was inappropriate and THEN he messaged saying he'll drop the price. At that point I had already been insulted by him thinking I would give him sex instead of paying him so I thought fuck it I will only pay you £100 now. "

So you should have reported him then and paid the full bill direct to the company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some of the suggested reactions are a little OTT. The guy asked you out,he accepted your refusal (albeit in a slightly smarmy way). I would say it only becomes sexual harassment when they just won't take no for an answer and keep on pestering you.

If he hasn't charged you the full amount and the company find out,it's his problem.You paid what you were asked to pay (I'd keep that text).

If he carries on pestering you,then maybe take things further but if he has got the message,I'd just leave it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I would have just paid the £ 180, which was the total of the bill and forget about him.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

Report him to his company! He very clearly implied sex as payment instead of money. When that didn't work, he's pestering you for a date! Using your number for matters not related to the actual job he did! Discusting behaviour. He could try it again but with a more vunerble lady who wouldn't see through him like you did. Please report him."

Yeah but then she may have to fork out the other £80,she got the job done cheap. He's been annoying pestering her but she's no wallflower by the sound's of it,I would have thought she'd just tell him to fuck off and leave her alone.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Language !!!!!

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over a year ago

I've got to say, from the way the conversation started ie you want the work doing but can't afford to pay him yet, can you have his details etc he probably misread the situation and your intentions, it does sound like the opening scene to a cheesy porno!

You've got a good deal out of it all by not having to pay immediately and accepting a hefty discount but now dont like the fact hes being unprofessional. If he'd been professional you wouldnt have got the job done unless you stumped up the full amount on the day.

You've told him you're not interested and he's out of pocket for misreading the situation, I'd leave it at that, thank my lucky stars and let the guy get on with doing his job without informing his company or you are likely to end up with a bill for the remainder of the money x

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Remember the other other month when I said how I scratched that car in the car park at one of my daughters classes and I left a note for them to contact me? Anyway they were happy for me to pay for the work and not go through insurance as it was just a body work scratch. I contacted a national company that did mobile body work repairs and they allocated the job to a guy in my local area.

I had the quote, was happy for him to do the persons car but told him (beforehand) that I didn't get paid till a certain date (he said he'd do it and get paid later) It was £180 with vat and I'd met him in town after he'd done the job and had the invoice off him (just briefly, was whilst my daughter was in her class and I was in town waiting for her)

Now I was text again yesterday that's why I'm bringing it up again. Just want people's thoughts and opinions and if I should do anything about it really. Now this is nothing to do with the site so no airing dirty washing or anything, my friend reckons I should report him but we're a bit more liberal on here.

Anyway these are the messages, I'll copy and paste them..

This is the first one, you tell me what you think he's implying.

Hiya ****, hope you are ok? Look, I've been worried about the bill for ****** car .... I don't know if there's any other way of paying it back without taking money off you, as I feel awful taking your money. Let me know if you can think of anything. ******. Now I text him back saying don't worry I'll pay you.

I then had this text

Tell you what ... If you can come up with £100 I'll let you off the rest .... Lemme know yea? **** I text back ok yeah sound.

I'd already been given his sort code and account number and 2 days after the day I paid him back (via direct transfer) he text saying hi can you give anything, I said I've done it check your bank, I then had this text message

***** you're a diamond .... Thanks very much, you won't be hearing from me anymore ... unless you want to of course. Xx ??

I didn't answer.

I then had this text yesterday

Hi **** .... How r u doing .... I was just wondering if I could make up for having to take money off you .... Would you let me take you out one night? I dunno, a meal or film something like that? Xx just let me know ... ??

Now I'm thinking has me on here or something and that's why he thinks it's appropriate to say all he has. I messaged him back yesterday saying I paid for a service, I don't ask the cashiers in Asda if I can take them out, I find this really appropriate if I'm honest.

He text back.. appologies with kisses and one of those blow kiss emoji things.

Is he a chancer or what. It was a national company do I say something to the company about him?

Report him to his company! He very clearly implied sex as payment instead of money. When that didn't work, he's pestering you for a date! Using your number for matters not related to the actual job he did! Discusting behaviour. He could try it again but with a more vunerble lady who wouldn't see through him like you did. Please report him.

Yeah but then she may have to fork out the other £80,she got the job done cheap. He's been annoying pestering her but she's no wallflower by the sound's of it,I would have thought she'd just tell him to fuck off and leave her alone."

lol that'll do the trick

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Language !!!!! "

Are you telling me off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't report him as you paid the discounted price. I would have paid the original bill, told him I don't pay with sex and please don't text me again, or I will report you.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"Ignore his texts.

Simples

I have. The thread is asking opinions on whether I should report him to the national company he works for as I believe his behaviour was inappropriate. I'm not worrying about how to handle him. "

No! You want the guy to lose his job just because he likes you and asked you out sorry but you seem very paranoid god only knows why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to know what to do about it OP...

Forget it walk away get on with your life.

It's hardly a problem unless you want to make it one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You paid less.

Just as guilty as him .

Drama isn't an attractive thing.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Language !!!!!

Are you telling me off? "

Yes. I don't want you kissing me with that potty mouth

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Language !!!!!

Are you telling me off?

Yes. I don't want you kissing me with that potty mouth "

Sorry . I never used to swear,but I can be pretty bad now. I'm going to try to be good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, your life is filled with such drama!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Language !!!!!

Are you telling me off?

Yes. I don't want you kissing me with that potty mouth

Sorry . I never used to swear,but I can be pretty bad now. I'm going to try to be good "

That should have been a not

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"I've got to say, from the way the conversation started ie you want the work doing but can't afford to pay him yet, can you have his details etc he probably misread the situation and your intentions, it does sound like the opening scene to a cheesy porno!

You've got a good deal out of it all by not having to pay immediately and accepting a hefty discount but now dont like the fact hes being unprofessional. If he'd been professional you wouldnt have got the job done unless you stumped up the full amount on the day.

You've told him you're not interested and he's out of pocket for misreading the situation, I'd leave it at that, thank my lucky stars and let the guy get on with doing his job without informing his company or you are likely to end up with a bill for the remainder of the money x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You paid less.

Just as guilty as him .

Drama isn't an attractive thing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to say, from the way the conversation started ie you want the work doing but can't afford to pay him yet, can you have his details etc he probably misread the situation and your intentions, it does sound like the opening scene to a cheesy porno!

You've got a good deal out of it all by not having to pay immediately and accepting a hefty discount but now dont like the fact hes being unprofessional. If he'd been professional you wouldnt have got the job done unless you stumped up the full amount on the day.

You've told him you're not interested and he's out of pocket for misreading the situation, I'd leave it at that, thank my lucky stars and let the guy get on with doing his job without informing his company or you are likely to end up with a bill for the remainder of the money x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report him. Because the next woman he does work for he may well know their home address if he's mobile repair. If he's unsavoury enough to go to the lengths he did I would not like him to have my address

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's a bit of a slippery slope this one, I would close the chapter before it gets messy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You paid less.

Just as guilty as him .

Drama isn't an attractive thing.

"

Drama isn't an attractive thing? Drama isn't an attractive thing, I've read it twice and the sentence doesn't make sense, I know what you're trying to say though.

Right the full jist of it, contacted a national number and they must've acted as a broker of some kind, they passed my details to someone in my local area that did on on the spot body repairs.

I received a call from the guy and I explained the situation, said I'd scratched a parked 3rd party vehicle and the owners are happy not to go through insurance and let me pay for the repairs. I wanted an on the spot repair so as not to inconvienience the car owner with having to take it to a garage etc (thought I was doing the best I couldn't considering it was my fault) I was in touch with the car owners and they were happy for him to go to their address to check the car to see how much it would be, these are people who have kids in my daughters drama school, I know them by sight and they were decent people, I explained that however much it was I didn't get paid till the end of the month, they said no rush it's no mechanical damage.

The repair guy had text me with the quote and I accepted it as I just wanted the car done, I asked when and he said he's fully booked the next 3 weeks and I said good cos I don't get paid till the end of the month anyway. He said I can drop the paperwork to you later I said I'm actually in town now (I knew the car owners property wasn't far away) he said I'll bring it over to you. I had the invoice and actually gave him 40 quid there and then and he write on the invoice with biro the new amount owed £137 and so much pence.

It was a day after he did the repair that I had the message saying he feels bad taking my money and I feel I could think of any other way, it was only a few days away till I got paid. I thought oooh cheeky fucker I don't like this and showed everyone the message and everyone agreed that it was creepy, my mother even asked if she wanted money to pay him there and then to get rid of him. I thought no no, he's tucked himself up by here and I wouldn't have paid fuck all, would've just reported him there and then, but I said no no I'll pay you in cash as agreed when I get my pay.

It was then that he said oh call it £100 then, I said yeah ok sound and asked for his bank details as I didn't want to meet him in person again.

I'd paid him the 100 and 2 days after that he messaged asking if I had anything for him, I said I've paid it check your bank account.

That's when he sent the message saying I won't hear off him again unless I want to. I ignored that message and then had that message yesterday asking if he could take me out or watch a DVD as he feels bad taking my money.

Right I dunno how that can be twisted in a way that makes me as bad as him, yeah I would've ripped the cunt off after he sent me that first message hinting for me to whore myself out for a scratch repair but no I thought I'll pay him as he did the work and the car owners were happy with it.

I have blocked him and I'm not worried at all about myself, but what if another woman was in the same predicament and didn't feel like she could turn him down.

That is why I asked if I should do anything about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got to say, from the way the conversation started ie you want the work doing but can't afford to pay him yet, can you have his details etc he probably misread the situation and your intentions, it does sound like the opening scene to a cheesy porno!

You've got a good deal out of it all by not having to pay immediately and accepting a hefty discount but now dont like the fact hes being unprofessional. If he'd been professional you wouldnt have got the job done unless you stumped up the full amount on the day.

You've told him you're not interested and he's out of pocket for misreading the situation, I'd leave it at that, thank my lucky stars and let the guy get on with doing his job without informing his company or you are likely to end up with a bill for the remainder of the money x

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How do you know he's out of pocket? More fool him if he is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that "

It was wrong what he sent me, I couldn't believe it. I also didn't think you couldn't talk to people on a normal human level without them interpreting it as an invitation that you want to be propositioned for sex. I'd said to the car owners that I was skint till pay day, they didn't text me with offers of how to work off the bill, I said to the car repair guy when I had the quote, yeah I'm a bit skint till I get paid. Didn't think he would take that as a green light for other ways for me to work off the bill.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"

That is why I asked if I should do anything about it. "

I agree it was inappropriate, and did sound like he thought you might offer to pay him in kind with sexual favours - BUT, the fact that he has subsequently asked you out on a normal date and is now trying the angle that he wants to pay YOU back, that does put a doubt in my mind as to his original intention, so I would leave it be on this occasion.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Don't worry about anyway else that's down to them and how they deal with him if that's his normal ammo. Most women aren't stupid and let's face it I'm sure some women may welcome it.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that

It was wrong what he sent me, I couldn't believe it. I also didn't think you couldn't talk to people on a normal human level without them interpreting it as an invitation that you want to be propositioned for sex. I'd said to the car owners that I was skint till pay day, they didn't text me with offers of how to work off the bill, I said to the car repair guy when I had the quote, yeah I'm a bit skint till I get paid. Didn't think he would take that as a green light for other ways for me to work off the bill. "

Is it possible that he thought he was being cheekily charming and it came out all wrong? Some dude on here sent me what could be seen as a death threat as a first mail the other day, thinking he was being clever and funny and then couldn't understand why I reported him for it *rolls eyes* Some guys just need a masterclass in how to chat up women.

Whatever the issue, you got a cheap deal, he's probably feeling like a Grade A dick and it's just him and his palm this Friday night as ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that

It was wrong what he sent me, I couldn't believe it. I also didn't think you couldn't talk to people on a normal human level without them interpreting it as an invitation that you want to be propositioned for sex. I'd said to the car owners that I was skint till pay day, they didn't text me with offers of how to work off the bill, I said to the car repair guy when I had the quote, yeah I'm a bit skint till I get paid. Didn't think he would take that as a green light for other ways for me to work off the bill. "

I meant I didn't think it was wrong of you to pay £100 and not the original price he quoted as some are implying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that

It was wrong what he sent me, I couldn't believe it. I also didn't think you couldn't talk to people on a normal human level without them interpreting it as an invitation that you want to be propositioned for sex. I'd said to the car owners that I was skint till pay day, they didn't text me with offers of how to work off the bill, I said to the car repair guy when I had the quote, yeah I'm a bit skint till I get paid. Didn't think he would take that as a green light for other ways for me to work off the bill.

I meant I didn't think it was wrong of you to pay £100 and not the original price he quoted as some are implying. "

Yeah I know, was going off on a tangent! Claws are out in this thread. It's getting too milkshake in here now anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You haven't done anything wrong.

It was his choice to say you could pay less than he originally said.

i don't know why people think there's anything wrong with that

It was wrong what he sent me, I couldn't believe it. I also didn't think you couldn't talk to people on a normal human level without them interpreting it as an invitation that you want to be propositioned for sex. I'd said to the car owners that I was skint till pay day, they didn't text me with offers of how to work off the bill, I said to the car repair guy when I had the quote, yeah I'm a bit skint till I get paid. Didn't think he would take that as a green light for other ways for me to work off the bill.

I meant I didn't think it was wrong of you to pay £100 and not the original price he quoted as some are implying.

Yeah I know, was going off on a tangent! Claws are out in this thread. It's getting too milkshake in here now anyway!"

YAZOO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if it was your wife/daughter im the OP's position?

Report him as he could well be a serial offender.

If we are bartering a reduction in fees for any service based on the attractiveness of the customer, we are in a bad way...

What would happen if he tried it with a vunerable person and not a bolshy forumite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

could be just the way we think here surrounded by sexual offers of all sorts all the time - maybe in the vanilla world he was just being nice and maybe a bit flirty

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

OP I'm going out on a limb here and I might be very wrong. Some people do seem to have lives with more drama. I will hold my hand up partly to being one of those people. And the reason I think this is two things

- one how I handle a situation. Without being specific, a lot of people walk away from things. Sometimes this is right and sometimes wrong. I am probably just starting over recent years to pick my battles

- two, how others perceive you. Often I have had untoward reactions, such as you describe, because my smiling happy demeanour gives off the wrong vibe.

When I read threads like this and the hostile posts it makes me smile a little that others clearly don't get reactions like that.

How you deal with it next is down to you. I've read good and contradictory advice from others on both sides of the fence. What is best for you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He lowered the price for you, which is also inappropriate.... You only paid £100, so just block him and move on.

You can't take with one hand and put your fingers up with another. (Well you can, but can't then complain about it).

The only person to actually gain anything out of this is you. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He reduced the bill, took a chance with you and you didn't take him up on it. He's now asked you on a date after you were happy to pay less than 60% of the original quote. If you think he's behaved inappropriately pay up what you owe him and report him to his company. If you're not prepared to do that, you haven't really got the right to moan about him hitting on you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit weird, he's seen you may have been vulnerable and tried to take advantage of that. You paid what he agreed to so just block him and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I'm going out on a limb here and I might be very wrong. Some people do seem to have lives with more drama. I will hold my hand up partly to being one of those people. And the reason I think this is two things

- one how I handle a situation. Without being specific, a lot of people walk away from things. Sometimes this is right and sometimes wrong. I am probably just starting over recent years to pick my battles

- two, how others perceive you. Often I have had untoward reactions, such as you describe, because my smiling happy demeanour gives off the wrong vibe.

When I read threads like this and the hostile posts it makes me smile a little that others clearly don't get reactions like that.

How you deal with it next is down to you. I've read good and contradictory advice from others on both sides of the fence. What is best for you ?"

Honestly I ain't arsed about myself and in no way did I or do I feel threatened by him, offended yeah because I thought well would he have said that if I'd said oh my husband will sort this out. I had to think back to the day that I saw him in the flesh, it was off the back of a day in work and I would've been in the reptile shop looking at the Burmese pythons like I always do when I'm waiting for my daughters kickboxing class to finish. I would've been tired, I would've been wanting to get home and watch emmerdale, I would've had a hoody on and tracksuit bottoms, wouldn't have been smiley or warm and welcoming cos I'm blunt and naturally standoffish.

I've blocked him so he's done now, and based on the reactions I'm not going to do anything about it. He can be someone else's problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The initial message was way off about finding another way to pay, I do think that was bad hopefully it was just borderline bad humour.

That said I think regardless of if we find someone attractive or not if people don't act how are relationships ever formed? He may have chanced his arm had you met him in a bar, restaurant, train, gym or taxi queue. He happened to meet you in the manner he did so I'm not sure that by asking someone out to buy them dinner he's doing anything that bad.

If we can't speak to people we're attracted to and try and find out if they'd like to spend some time with us then we're all in trouble.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

He's not said anything that's obscene and as someone who's a bit of a flirt, I'd just take it as someone who's trying to make the most of his life too. Be clear upon your interest level for him and block, as you could on Fab.

Don't involve his company, I think it would be bad form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would've had a hoody on and tracksuit bottoms, wouldn't have been smiley or warm and welcoming cos I'm blunt and naturally standoffish."

Thats such a shame you live that way Is that a defence mechanism against the world because you assume everyone wants to fuck you in some way or other? I'm naturally smiley But then I don't have crowds of topless women chasing me off a cliff

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The initial message was way off about finding another way to pay, I do think that was bad hopefully it was just borderline bad humour.

That said I think regardless of if we find someone attractive or not if people don't act how are relationships ever formed? He may have chanced his arm had you met him in a bar, restaurant, train, gym or taxi queue. He happened to meet you in the manner he did so I'm not sure that by asking someone out to buy them dinner he's doing anything that bad.

If we can't speak to people we're attracted to and try and find out if they'd like to spend some time with us then we're all in trouble. "

Yes, the fact that he is asking her to date now makes me think it could have been fairly innocent - incompetant maybe, but innocent.

If he has seen her on fabs and has read this thread I expect he's about ready to lynch himself by now lol!

Playing Devil's Advocate for a moment -

I have a question for those who have their faces on public display on here. Would you be offended if people recognised you and related to you in a more sexualised fashion because of it?

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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago

york

This is the problem with texts or messages they can be misunderstood sometimes purely on the receivers mood. Not saying you have read it wrong but he may have been saying as a joke in his mind but it doesn't read like that to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can people grasp the fact that it was his first message that offended me and set the tone. The saying he felt bad taking my money and if I could think of another way to pay him without money.

It was that, purely that. Now he could've been the most charming handsome big dicked mother fucker in the land but he'd offended me by suggesting I would give him my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services.

If he had asked for a date in the first instance I still would have said no, but it wouldn't have left me feeling like he thought I was an easy target or someone's that would sell my shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The initial message was way off about finding another way to pay, I do think that was bad hopefully it was just borderline bad humour.

That said I think regardless of if we find someone attractive or not if people don't act how are relationships ever formed? He may have chanced his arm had you met him in a bar, restaurant, train, gym or taxi queue. He happened to meet you in the manner he did so I'm not sure that by asking someone out to buy them dinner he's doing anything that bad.

If we can't speak to people we're attracted to and try and find out if they'd like to spend some time with us then we're all in trouble.

Yes, the fact that he is asking her to date now makes me think it could have been fairly innocent - incompetant maybe, but innocent.

If he has seen her on fabs and has read this thread I expect he's about ready to lynch himself by now lol!

Playing Devil's Advocate for a moment -

I have a question for those who have their faces on public display on here. Would you be offended if people recognised you and related to you in a more sexualised fashion because of it?"

It would depend in what context it was. I would be just as offended if I worked say in a pharmacy and on a night out with friends someone recognised me and asked me for advice on their rash.

There is a time and place for everything.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Just leave it now and move is my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm after reading that 1st txt yeah he's bit of a sluy character you've mentioned is appropriate just block his numb & if he keeps bugging u, then fair enough u warned him can take it up to higher powers

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

You were quite happy to go along with all he suggested.

Why get uppity now ?

Don't report him. All he did was cast some bait and he got his arm bitten off to the tune of £80.00.

If you don't fancy him don't fuck him.

P.S. To all those saying 'how dare he'.........

He didn't suggest anything improper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he'd offended me by suggesting I would give him my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services. "

I think the best you can argue is that he *inferred* this, as he never outrightly *suggested* it. I severely doubt it but there is the very slim chance he may have been angling on you cleaning his dishes for a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he'd offended me by suggesting I would give him my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services.

I think the best you can argue is that he *inferred* this, as he never outrightly *suggested* it. I severely doubt it but there is the very slim chance he may have been angling on you cleaning his dishes for a week. "

There is also the chance he's a lovely kind nice guy who's a bit lonely, looking for love or friendship, and just felt you might be a nice person behind your standoffish veneer. The thought of sex may not have crossed his mind. He may merely have wanted your company. Call me a naive romantic but I always try to look for the good in people

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"he'd offended me by suggesting I would give him my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services.

I think the best you can argue is that he *inferred* this, as he never outrightly *suggested* it. I severely doubt it but there is the very slim chance he may have been angling on you cleaning his dishes for a week.

There is also the chance he's a lovely kind nice guy who's a bit lonely, looking for love or friendship, and just felt you might be a nice person behind your standoffish veneer. The thought of sex may not have crossed his mind. He may merely have wanted your company. Call me a naive romantic but I always try to look for the good in people "

Give me money.

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By *upcakegirl27Woman
over a year ago

Eastbourne

I wouldnt report him. Alright he tried it on, but did he do enough to potentially get fired and loose his earnings, potential ruin his life? No, his a chancer, leave it as that

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"he'd offended me by suggesting I would give himt my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services. "

did he really?? Or you just took it that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you pay him the full amount?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You were quite happy to go along with all he suggested.

Why get uppity now ?

Don't report him. All he did was cast some bait and he got his arm bitten off to the tune of £80.00.

If you don't fancy him don't fuck him.

P.S. To all those saying 'how dare he'.........

He didn't suggest anything improper.

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

He probably recognises you from here.

Clearly a chancer.

I'd just block him and leave it at that. If he contacts you again tell him straight and report him.

Nip that shit in the bud early.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You were quite happy to go along with all he suggested.

Why get uppity now ?

Don't report him. All he did was cast some bait and he got his arm bitten off to the tune of £80.00.

If you don't fancy him don't fuck him.

P.S. To all those saying 'how dare he'.........

He didn't suggest anything improper.

"

Let me know if you can think of any other way of paying rather than in cash? That's not improper?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Did you pay him the full amount? "

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you pay him the full amount?

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't."

I'd say that gave him a message that the rest might be paid some other way. So he asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know why people are bringing up money to hold it against her, he says £100 before asking her out so that's on him. If he really did just mean it all harmlessly he has a bad way with words lmao. His texts about meeting her show his intentions about 'finding another way to pay'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he'd offended me by suggesting I would give him my body or do any type of sexual act in exchange for goods or services.

I think the best you can argue is that he *inferred* this, as he never outrightly *suggested* it. I severely doubt it but there is the very slim chance he may have been angling on you cleaning his dishes for a week.

There is also the chance he's a lovely kind nice guy who's a bit lonely, looking for love or friendship, and just felt you might be a nice person behind your standoffish veneer. The thought of sex may not have crossed his mind. He may merely have wanted your company. Call me a naive romantic but I always try to look for the good in people

Give me money."

Do you want that in £10s or £20s?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you pay him the full amount?

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't.

I'd say that gave him a message that the rest might be paid some other way. So he asked. "

I've read it as him asking if she can think of any other way to pay, she said no she'd pay in cash and he then said to make it £100 which she paid by bank transfer so she wouldn't have to see him in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you pay him the full amount?

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't.

I'd say that gave him a message that the rest might be paid some other way. So he asked.

I've read it as him asking if she can think of any other way to pay, she said no she'd pay in cash and he then said to make it £100 which she paid by bank transfer so she wouldn't have to see him in person.

"

Paying the full amount would have left her owing him nothing from the original price. Him reducing it, to me, gives him a reason to not leave it alone. Like he's done her a favour and now would like something back. Paying in full wouldn't have given him any leverage. Then, if he asked for her number, it would be on a level playing field.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Did you pay him the full amount?

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't.

I'd say that gave him a message that the rest might be paid some other way. So he asked. "

No. The first thing he said was that he didn't want to take my money so can I think of another way to pay him back without money. The reduced offer was AFTER I said I will pay you the cash when I get paid like we agreed.

I'd already given him 40 cash, the amount left to pay was £137.31 he said just call it 100. I said ok sound and paid the 100. Even after I'd paid it he sent me a message saying I won't hear from him again unless I want to with loads of kisses which I ignored and then had another message saying he still feels bad for taking my money and could he make it up to me by taking me for a meal or going over to watch a DVD, now going to watch a DVD is code to me for fucking as well or again am I jumping to conclusions.

Fucking hell you lot are hard work ay.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I bet you any money he already has netflix

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

You should have paid him the full amount.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You should have paid him the full amount. "

Why? He had already asked if I could pay him in kind before he knocked 37 pound off the bill.

I believe he only offered the reduced rate because of the inappropriate suggestion. He asked what he asked, I said IMMEDIATELY no I'll pay you cash like I said I would. He then said oh we'll just call it 100 then.

Had I said to him oh ok I'll give you 137 quids worth of sex and blow jobs. Would that have been better because that's what he wanted, that's what he was willing to accept.

Fuck it anyway. I ain't doing anything about it now so just leave it. If he tries it on with some other woman who may take the offer and end up regretting it and fucks up her life, ain't my problem would be hers. Women should expect to be propositioned and whatever the fuck else.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Why? Well if you'd paid the full amount you wouldn't be in this situation now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you pay him the full amount?

Sticking my nose in,but no she didn't.

I'd say that gave him a message that the rest might be paid some other way. So he asked.

No. The first thing he said was that he didn't want to take my money so can I think of another way to pay him back without money. The reduced offer was AFTER I said I will pay you the cash when I get paid like we agreed.

I'd already given him 40 cash, the amount left to pay was £137.31 he said just call it 100. I said ok sound and paid the 100. Even after I'd paid it he sent me a message saying I won't hear from him again unless I want to with loads of kisses which I ignored and then had another message saying he still feels bad for taking my money and could he make it up to me by taking me for a meal or going over to watch a DVD, now going to watch a DVD is code to me for fucking as well or again am I jumping to conclusions.

Fucking hell you lot are hard work ay. "

He wanted to shag you. He chanced his arm, didn't get the response he hoped for so blustered about. His kisses etc were a hint that he fancied you. Maybe leaving ball in your court to say yeah lets go for a drink.

Maybe he tried it before with someone and it worked so thought he'd try it on you as you're a hottie and he was feeling lucky.

He crashed and burned.

He's a very cheeky twat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why? Well if you'd paid the full amount you wouldn't be in this situation now. "

There we are then.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why? Well if you'd paid the full amount you wouldn't be in this situation now.

There we are then. "

More tea?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

We have a thread where the bloke jokingly suggests employing 'eye candy' and gets roasted.

We have this thread where the OP gets propositioned as she explained and she gets roasted.

Probably different members but seems double'ish standards.

I'm probably going to get roasted now aswell.

Fuck it. Let's all get roasted.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"We have a thread where the bloke jokingly suggests employing 'eye candy' and gets roasted.

We have this thread where the OP gets propositioned as she explained and she gets roasted.

Probably different members but seems double'ish standards.

I'm probably going to get roasted now aswell.

Fuck it. Let's all get roasted.

"

Typical man, sayin' stuff

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We have a thread where the bloke jokingly suggests employing 'eye candy' and gets roasted.

We have this thread where the OP gets propositioned as she explained and she gets roasted.

Probably different members but seems double'ish standards.

I'm probably going to get roasted now aswell.

Fuck it. Let's all get roasted.

Typical man, sayin' stuff "

I'm like a man but more of a boy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why? Well if you'd paid the full amount you wouldn't be in this situation now. "

He shouldn't have asked if she could pay in some other way instead of money in the first place.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Don't know why people are bringing up money to hold it against her, he says £100 before asking her out so that's on him. If he really did just mean it all harmlessly he has a bad way with words lmao. His texts about meeting her show his intentions about 'finding another way to pay'"

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