FabSwingers.com forum: Sex & Feelings

By *aturalMystic OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I would like to see more people being kind and compassionate toward each other here and to feel that would transcend to when meeting others. Sex is something where we are vulnerable and I think many probably don't acknowledge that within themselves and others.

We've all suffered, we all suffer. We all want to avoid suffering and to be happy. All of us. So having sex like a randy goat is simply unnatural and dishonest. We need human warmth and affection if sex is going to be anything more than just a physical release.

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like it to be just a physical release,particularly in the swinging world where it's just sex in the main!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with it all

Sometimes I just want me knob sucked though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is our hobby. Our personal sex life has love and emotion.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I would like to see more people being kind and compassionate toward each other here and to feel that would transcend to when meeting others. Sex is something where we are vulnerable and I think many probably don't acknowledge that within themselves and others.

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience. "

The latter is to be found here, but for many swinging is the former, so you have to search for it!

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By *aturalMystic OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Yes I understand that. I am a excellent researcher. Time will tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful post x... Wishing you many mutually satiating sexual experiences filled with intimacy, respect and tlc XO... As well as a huge dollop of KINK lol x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I would like to see more people being kind and compassionate towards each other in every walk of life.

However just as eating needn't be a spiritual experience, neither does sex. I don't have the emotional resources or the spiritual energy to connect that way with everyone I meet.

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By *aturalMystic OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Thank you Rigola, lovely to hear from you. Interesting to hear people's opinions too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience. "
i must be very unnatural because I enjoy sex with no connection other than the physical. And if Im frank and honest I enjoy the end result the most and am not even bothered if I get touched.. in fact truth be told. With single guys I prefer not to be.

What I share with my partner is totally different. I am emptionally invested and trusy him to let myself go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience. "

We don't want that emotional connection with our play partners. We have a regular couple who we're friends with but that's as deep as we like it.

The emotional stuff we keep for each other when we can truly let go as we trust each other unconditionally x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I also think you make yourself vulnerable if you invest too heavily emotionally in casual sex partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly don't want affection from a meet. But I dont do intimacy either. Just sex because its what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find sex is better when people aren't being selfish... Though I get that some find being used a turn on... I just only like that in small amounts as I put a lot of effort into making sure people orgasm... And I get angry if people repeatedly treat me like a fuck bucket lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a bit.. 'wishy washy'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's why I'd prefer to meet just one person regularly, in order to build up a connection. Not necessarily a proper emotional connection with strong feelings, but enough that regular sex becomes more than just elaborate masturbation, which is often what I feel when I do have NSA sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us have that. I don't think it's something that couples would want with strangers though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find sex is better when people aren't being selfish... Though I get that some find being used a turn on... I just only like that in small amounts as I put a lot of effort into making sure people orgasm... And I get angry if people repeatedly treat me like a fuck bucket lol"
i certainly dont feel Im used. If I get what I want and they get what they want all is good. The clue is to meet people that are compatible with. If someone wants an intimate with kissing experience then im not going to be for them..as only person I enjoy intimacy with is my partner..

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like to keep sex and feelings separate, that said I do try and find people I have a connection with, people I like and who I enjoy spending time with

I get too many messages from selfish guys who just want to 'fuck and go' I find them very unappealing!!!

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By *aturalMystic OP Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm nobody's masturbation toy. If someone wants to use my body for their satisfaction without giving something of themselves I'm not interested. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

If you enjoy spending time with a person and you like them, there are feelings involved. You're feeling something. You're not just bashing genitals together. You're not the dead fucking the dead.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I'm nobody's masturbation toy. If someone wants to use my body for their satisfaction without giving something of themselves I'm not interested. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

If you enjoy spending time with a person and you like them, there are feelings involved. You're feeling something. You're not just bashing genitals together. You're not the dead fucking the dead."

First off let's just remember that this is a swinging site .

A site which exists for those people who enjoy engaging in a lifestyle which offers the opportunity to engage in all manner of hedonistic pleasure with like minded people .

Yes , it can be used by anyone for any purpose , but primarily a swinging site wouldn't be the first choice for those looking for what you seek .

And to suggest that those who don't have the feelings that you have are the dead fucking the dead is simply disrespectful and judgemental .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My perspective is that of a single woman... You guys in couples are having the best of both worlds I guess... I just want the kink, the hit sex and the intimacy wrapped up into one person... And then I'd hope we'd explore swinging together or realising fantasies as I just want the most out of this life I have.

I've had sex with a lot of people, those that are "colder" usually like me a lot because I put effort into every interaction... I just have had to say to the last 3 guys (apart from the very last I'm in love with) I saw casually that I don't want to see them again as we're not that bothered about each other... If I hadn't they'd still be coming bk for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm nobody's masturbation toy. If someone wants to use my body for their satisfaction without giving something of themselves I'm not interested. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

If you enjoy spending time with a person and you like them, there are feelings involved. You're feeling something. You're not just bashing genitals together. You're not the dead fucking the dead.

First off let's just remember that this is a swinging site .

A site which exists for those people who enjoy engaging in a lifestyle which offers the opportunity to engage in all manner of hedonistic pleasure with like minded people .

Yes , it can be used by anyone for any purpose , but primarily a swinging site wouldn't be the first choice for those looking for what you seek .

And to suggest that those who don't have the feelings that you have are the dead fucking the dead is simply disrespectful and judgemental .

As I was scrolling down the posts, I was trying to think of words to how I felt. You just did it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have sex with the same person too many times I'll fall in love with them and then that opens me up to a whole world of shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I have sex with the same person too many times I'll fall in love with them and then that opens me up to a whole world of shit. "

I would also NOT consider someone 'kind and compassionate', when they make judgemental statements like...'if you have a list of lots of men you have slept with, I'm not interested'. School ground stuff.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"If I have sex with the same person too many times I'll fall in love with them and then that opens me up to a whole world of shit. "

That's one possible pitfall I guess , but not the only one .

Feelings may be one sided , vulnerability sets in , possessiveness , exclusivity and all the baggage that goes on within the structure of normal relationships . The very opposite of the swinging concept .

I'm not saying that swinging needs to be cold and heartless , far from it . But to differentiate between love and sex is pretty important in this lifestyle .

We have seen so many singles in this lifestyle get their hearts broken because they have fallen for someone who doesn't feel the same way about them . So sad

Of course there are others who have found love , but far fewer than those who have found a shitstorm of emotional turmoil .

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"My perspective is that of a single woman... You guys in couples are having the best of both worlds I guess... I just want the kink, the hit sex and the intimacy wrapped up into one person... And then I'd hope we'd explore swinging together or realising fantasies as I just want the most out of this life I have.

I put the effort in also

I mean I really listen in all the chats before we ever get down to the sex so I'm have a understanding of there sexual triggers and of them as a human being .

I then put it all together its a lot of work doing things this way as one has to dedicate put of ones mind to the other person .

I look for women willing to take this approach with me learn how to trigger me as I've learned to trigger them .

as I've been around the bushes a fair bit myself I've learned that on the whole swinging ,one night stands , bed hoping is about getting easy sex which in my experience is often average or below average sex,

now speaking personality I don't want a average encounter hence the reason why I take the time to learn as much as possible about the sexual make up of those I'm interested in.

great sex leads to emotions that's a fact you cant get away from so your best bet in my opinion is to just except and enjoy the emotions of it all as well as the great sex that accompanies those emotions.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its a swinging site to have recreactional sex with a variety of different people imo. Im not here looking for deep meaningful relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its a swinging site to have recreactional sex with a variety of different people imo. Im not here looking for deep meaningful relationships"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm nobody's masturbation toy. If someone wants to use my body for their satisfaction without giving something of themselves I'm not interested. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

If you enjoy spending time with a person and you like them, there are feelings involved. You're feeling something. You're not just bashing genitals together. You're not the dead fucking the dead."
OP Are you on the right site.? Its not a dating site its a sex site and most here are looking for fast lane sex nothing more ... A lot here are not looking for feelings just to get a sex fix and not have to pay . A lot don't even wish to be friends after sex .. Some even block after meeting people for sex . You see everyone is different here its a real mix . A lot would run a mile if you said you only like sex with feelings and love and passion.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's lovely that sex is such a deep and meaningful experience for you, OP.

I'm in the randy goat camp - impossible to keep me serious in bed

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Knock Knock,

Why do people :- write , chat , post about this topic as if there are only two points on a very short line ?

A this or that ?

The line ( i'm theorising) is long, very long, infinite.

I can join that line at any point I want to.

I can be totally cold and kinky if I want to be or deeply submerged and sensual.

Sex is just another candy store. Stop trying to tell everyone to suck the same lollipop.

If you want a long lick while you stare into someone's eyes like Bambi when he lost his mother, no one is going to judge you.

Well I might but i'll keep it to myself.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Knock Knock,

Why do people :- write , chat , post about this topic as if there are only two points on a very short line ?

A this or that ?

The line ( i'm theorising) is long, very long, infinite.

I can join that line at any point I want to.

I can be totally cold and kinky if I want to be or deeply submerged and sensual.

Sex is just another candy store. Stop trying to tell everyone to suck the same lollipop.

If you want a long lick while you stare into someone's eyes like Bambi when he lost his mother, no one is going to judge you.

Well I might but i'll keep it to myself.

Spot on granny c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience. "

Agree...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm nobody's masturbation toy. If someone wants to use my body for their satisfaction without giving something of themselves I'm not interested. I'd rather have a cup of tea.

If you enjoy spending time with a person and you like them, there are feelings involved. You're feeling something. You're not just bashing genitals together. You're not the dead fucking the dead."

Hmmm.

We're all here for different experiences. Why so aggressive about those whose required experiences are different to yours? That's quite at odds with your request that we're all kinder and more compassionate towards each other.

I completely respect your wish to engage at a deeper level and hope you find what you seek.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Knock Knock,

Why do people :- write , chat , post about this topic as if there are only two points on a very short line ?

A this or that ?

The line ( i'm theorising) is long, very long, infinite.

I can join that line at any point I want to.

I can be totally cold and kinky if I want to be or deeply submerged and sensual.

Sex is just another candy store. Stop trying to tell everyone to suck the same lollipop.

If you want a long lick while you stare into someone's eyes like Bambi when he lost his mother, no one is going to judge you.

Well I might but i'll keep it to myself.

It's a long line , I agree .

But to suggest that anyone not doing it his way is the dead fucking the dead ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was reading how some woman come on sites like this just for the seed to have a child .. As cant get that at home so get it on sites like this. And looking for nothing more then seed .

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"I was reading how some woman come on sites like this just for the seed to have a child .. As cant get that at home so get it on sites like this. And looking for nothing more then seed ."

I'm not sure where you are going with this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was reading how some woman come on sites like this just for the seed to have a child .. As cant get that at home so get it on sites like this. And looking for nothing more then seed .

I'm not sure where you are going with this ?"

All the way apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope people will talk to each other and give each other some affection and help make a difference, while enjoying a positive sexual experience. "

Judging by what I've seen today.. Good luck with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First off let's just remember that this is a swinging site .

A site which exists for those people who enjoy engaging in a lifestyle which offers the opportunity to engage in all manner of hedonistic pleasure with like minded people .

Yes , it can be used by anyone for any purpose , but primarily a swinging site wouldn't be the first choice for those looking for what you seek .

And to suggest that those who don't have the feelings that you have are the dead fucking the dead is simply disrespectful and judgemental .

bang on again and agree its a swinging site ...a single person meeting one person only for regular sex is not swinging but agree everyone should used the site as they wish.

we are here as a couple for extra sex we dont have sex with others the same way we have with each other and those that are looking for that ''special sexual/friends feelings'' are not for us cant be done with baggage / emotions / jealousy .

we have great sex with others without all that and have been now for nearly 18 years ..we are most deffo alive and theres a queue of live people wanting to meet .... happy swinging

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We're all unique, so expecting a one size fits all approach to satisfy us is unlikely to happen. We share our core needs but are complex. Respect for others is a great and appropriate starting point, though how we decide to live our lives should remain unfettered to a large extent. Freedom is a satisfying experience, so find your own way to share this with the pervs here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on!... I like/love memorable sex... Not particularly looking to get married to anyone afterwards tho lol... Love having a double bed all to myself tbh and even if or when I find a love match I think it might be funner to both have our own homes so we don't end up taking each other for granted?!... not sure how realistic my weird views on love relationships are tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This messes with my head. I like the OPs main points, and get them to an extent. However, I like the line analogy, although I think I spend most of my time towards its connection end.

I've had some fabulous times at the other end, but it's not really what I'm actively looking for now.

Thanks for getting me thinking about this again.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i'm too vulnerable for this shit, seriously.

slightest bit of nice and people take the piss.

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