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"kind of, but the filthy slut is the narc. not the other person they're conning." Yeah true.. but from the broken hearts perspective.. she's not going to hold much good feeling toward the other women is she? if it's all behind her back. | |||
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"kind of, but the filthy slut is the narc. not the other person they're conning. Yeah true.. but from the broken hearts perspective.. she's not going to hold much good feeling toward the other women is she? if it's all behind her back." been broken by a covert narc personally and tbh i didn't even give a shit about the other woman, it was a shock to find out about her (as i'm sure it was when she found out about me) but no i never begrudged her anything and just needed to sort my head out once i realised everything about him was bullshit. luckily i found a couple of really good self help therapists on face book who were free and willing to give out all the information that helped me to heal.  | |||
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"kind of, but the filthy slut is the narc. not the other person they're conning. Yeah true.. but from the broken hearts perspective.. she's not going to hold much good feeling toward the other women is she? if it's all behind her back. been broken by a covert narc personally and tbh i didn't even give a shit about the other woman, it was a shock to find out about her (as i'm sure it was when she found out about me) but no i never begrudged her anything and just needed to sort my head out once i realised everything about him was bullshit. luckily i found a couple of really good self help therapists on face book who were free and willing to give out all the information that helped me to heal. "I'm sorry to hear that  Apart from the Slut bit then.. does it strike a chord at all? Maybe it's just my taste in things. | |||
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"kind of, but the filthy slut is the narc. not the other person they're conning. Yeah true.. but from the broken hearts perspective.. she's not going to hold much good feeling toward the other women is she? if it's all behind her back. been broken by a covert narc personally and tbh i didn't even give a shit about the other woman, it was a shock to find out about her (as i'm sure it was when she found out about me) but no i never begrudged her anything and just needed to sort my head out once i realised everything about him was bullshit. luckily i found a couple of really good self help therapists on face book who were free and willing to give out all the information that helped me to heal.
I'm sorry to hear that Apart from the Slut bit then.. does it strike a chord at all? Maybe it's just my taste in things."i'm sure not everyone experiences the exact same things (despite them all doing very similar stuff) but i will copy the first reply and break it down into my experience if you like? it's not anti my experience though and i can relate to some stuff. | |||
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"I like this poem, even tho it's sad and I can relate to it." That's what I thought. | |||
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"kind of, but the filthy slut is the narc. not the other person they're conning. Yeah true.. but from the broken hearts perspective.. she's not going to hold much good feeling toward the other women is she? if it's all behind her back. been broken by a covert narc personally and tbh i didn't even give a shit about the other woman, it was a shock to find out about her (as i'm sure it was when she found out about me) but no i never begrudged her anything and just needed to sort my head out once i realised everything about him was bullshit. luckily i found a couple of really good self help therapists on face book who were free and willing to give out all the information that helped me to heal.
I'm sorry to hear that Apart from the Slut bit then.. does it strike a chord at all? Maybe it's just my taste in things.
i'm sure not everyone experiences the exact same things (despite them all doing very similar stuff) but i will copy the first reply and break it down into my experience if you like? it's not anti my experience though and i can relate to some stuff."Go for it | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming " | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming " Shit? Really? Well that's the thing about the arts.. it's subjective isn't it.. thanks for being honest though. | |||
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"I don't call any woman a filthy slut. Not even the one my husband had an affair with. And, I didn't go roaming the streets looking for him. I didn't care if he never came home." Ok so you don't like the Slut part either.. What if it was changed so the man became the filthy slut like previous poster suggested? | |||
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"It's tough to see that web of lies Unfold before your very eyes It hurts your heart it hurts your soul The rage builds up, tears start to roll You thought they cared, that they were kind How could you be so bloody blind?" can relate to all of this. don't think i got angry straight away, it more felt unreal and hard to take in. the main thing i kept in my head that helped me the most was that the person i was grieving was not even real. i did feel stupid at first but eventually realised (with help) that all i was, was naively trusting and someone inherently selfish had abused that trust. "They bully, torment, laugh and tease Still you do all you can to please They call you fat, they call you mad They call you a pussy for being sad" he never abused me overtly, this didn't happen to me. he may have slagged me off to others though? idk. he kept me on a pedestal for a very long time before knocking me off it. i did well to stay up there for 18 months but i think it's coz i'm an agreeable person who had been primed for abuse so know how to keep things good between myself and an abuser. i also recognise abuse easily and so do have some skills for stopping that dead. "Some nights they simply don't come home So on the darkened streets you roam You worry that they might be dead But no, they're in another's bed You search the streets again & again Then they stroll in at 3pm You know in your heart and in your gut That they were with a filthy slut" this section i can't relate too much but i will explain why, i think it's coz he is unattractive to women so struggled to find anyone. i read about the red flags after we split and i can see them now, but at the time i didn't think anything of them coz everything else about him seemed so awesome, i believe his flags are more obvious to other women though and so they don't like him. we spent most of our spare time together so i know he didn't do this. but i'm pretty sure it was only because he couldn't actually find anyone else. he did have a few random nights out with his 'family' throughout the relationship, even getting ready for them in front of me but i now suspect these were dates (and nothing came of them) and i think he got a buzz out of conning me and blatantly shoving his dates in my face without me knowing about them. i'm sure he had dates coz i eventually found his profiles all over the internet looking for hook ups and dating (they still exist and he hasn't changed despite being in a relationship with who he left me for, he's still a 'slut' although scumbag shithead or other words maybe better describe him). towards the end he kept going to the toilet a lot and this is when i first suspected he'd replaced me. pretty sure he was texting her or calling her then. ""How dare you question, how dare you accuse I slept under the bridge, I'd had too much booze" The one bridge I know of, the one by the bar The one I checked under when I found his car" he denied everything despite my having obvious evidence. this was the first time i actually realised he wasn't right in the head. and he over dramatised with his replies, like a terrible actor. so i can relate to this but just different words but i can hear his narc drama voice in my head right now lol. he sounded weird. "I really can't take it I just want to die I'm broken inside, I sit silent and cry He leaves once again to go and get pissed That lying fucking narcissist." when i didn't know what was going on i did feel like this, completely. even for the first few months i was learning about narcissism i felt like this too. once things became clearer in my head and i understood him (and then myself for falling for his shit) things improved a lot. so glad i found support coz i'd still be confused today if i hadn't. i definitely have trust issues still now but they're fading and so has the pain. | |||
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"I don't call any woman a filthy slut. Not even the one my husband had an affair with. And, I didn't go roaming the streets looking for him. I didn't care if he never came home. Ok so you don't like the Slut part either.. What if it was changed so the man became the filthy slut like previous poster suggested? " I like words that can rattle people sometimes.. I love the C word when usef very sparingly.. or during sex filthy kinky sex.. so personally I'd leave as is. | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming Shit? Really? Well that's the thing about the arts.. it's subjective isn't it.. thanks for being honest though. " no poem is shit if it's your feelings being expressed, my opinion. | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming Shit? Really? Well that's the thing about the arts.. it's subjective isn't it.. thanks for being honest though. no poem is shit if it's your feelings being expressed, my opinion." No it's not my feelings.. I've been the cheater but in not the man in question. Nor has it any connection to me.. I just like poetry occasionally. Normally things like Invictus.. or Dulce st decorum est.. but I also love smaller, simpler.. modern ones that have a bit of raw emotion in.. be it positive or negative. So I'll respectfully agree to disagree. | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming Shit? Really? Well that's the thing about the arts.. it's subjective isn't it.. thanks for being honest though. no poem is shit if it's your feelings being expressed, my opinion. No it's not my feelings.. I've been the cheater but in not the man in question. Nor has it any connection to me.. I just like poetry occasionally. Normally things like Invictus.. or Dulce st decorum est.. but I also love smaller, simpler.. modern ones that have a bit of raw emotion in.. be it positive or negative. So I'll respectfully agree to disagree." yeah whatever, i still think feelings aren't shit, no matter how they are expressed.  | |||
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"Its a pretty shit poem but I can appreciate the rhyming Shit? Really? Well that's the thing about the arts.. it's subjective isn't it.. thanks for being honest though. no poem is shit if it's your feelings being expressed, my opinion. No it's not my feelings.. I've been the cheater but in not the man in question. Nor has it any connection to me.. I just like poetry occasionally. Normally things like Invictus.. or Dulce st decorum est.. but I also love smaller, simpler.. modern ones that have a bit of raw emotion in.. be it positive or negative. So I'll respectfully agree to disagree. yeah whatever, i still think feelings aren't shit, no matter how they are expressed. "Sorry.. I hadn't read your post properly.. yeah that's my view.. it means something to who wrote it, it means something to those who like it. | |||
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