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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london

I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mix of both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I go with there personality and how much they make me laugh

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"A mix of both."

See a friendly caring sweet but naughty personality turns me on more than looks alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both, definitely. Intelligence certainly enhances appearance in my view.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Yes I go with there personality and how much they make me laugh

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Actually I should have included sense of humour in my statement!

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

For me it has to be a bit if both

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A bit of looks but mostly personality

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Don't get me wrong, I am not criticising anyone who judges on looks alone, but personally I like a bubbly nice person who just happens to be naughty as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mix of both.

See a friendly caring sweet but naughty personality turns me on more than looks alone"

I did say both.

IF you were by personality alone surely you'd be at least bi-curious?

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"A mix of both.

See a friendly caring sweet but naughty personality turns me on more than looks alone

I did say both.

IF you were by personality alone surely you'd be at least bi-curious?"

That's an interesting point but no. I like the female bits not men's bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I go with there personality and how much they make me laugh

Actually I should have included sense of humour in my statement!"

Sense of humour ...personality

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh

personality

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

Very mutch agree

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

All goes out the window if they've a cracking pair of tits!

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Very mutch agree "

Shame most of the ladies I chat to don't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Very mutch agree

Shame most of the ladies I chat to don't lol"

Perhaps the begging for them to sit on your face in a pleading tone isn't working to get them interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

A bit of both is ideal. No amount of goods looks makes up for a lack of personality.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like a mix of both. I mean I couldn't shag a guy who I don't find attractive facially

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

A bit of both is ideal. No amount of goods looks makes up for a lack of personality."

I like conversation too

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Very mutch agree

Shame most of the ladies I chat to don't lol

Perhaps the begging for them to sit on your face in a pleading tone isn't working to get them interested in you"

I have a sense of humour, that's all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I hope personality wins out part of me worries because i dont think I'm bad looking, must just not be likeable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality draws us in each and every time. Pics can make or break after but if the zing and twinkle is there its always good to have that social and see if it leads anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me if I'm looking to meet someone for a one off meet then initial attraction is bound to be physical. However I love to laugh and if a guy is a good man than makes me laugh it really changes the initial physical attraction to something deeper than what's on the outside x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both as I like meets to be fun and chatty as well as hot and steamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be initially attracted to someone. But their personality is what gets me interested in meeting. So for me, a mix of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality wins all day long with me.

Where did I leave my steed? *looks about* buggered off again hasn't she. *tin foil armour rustles*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a mix really. Obviously there has to be attraction, but you do have to feel OK with the person you are going to be with I think I'm coming down on the side of personality really.

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Bit of both , has to be attraction, but someone's personality always plays a huge part in how attractive I find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the intention and purpose of the attraction. Friendships are born out of personalities and not necessarily physical traits. I think if it's to be intimate and physical then both are key. Some on here said if it's one offs meets then personality plays a lesser part but if you get both right then it makes for an explosive meet and experience. Who knows those may not be just one offs.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I have to be initially attracted to someone. But their personality is what gets me interested in meeting. So for me, a mix of both "

You have the most incredibly sparkling beautiful personality. I have always thought that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks most important for me. If I'm not attracted to them it doesn't matter how good their personality is, I won't be meeting them.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Looks most important for me. If I'm not attracted to them it doesn't matter how good their personality is, I won't be meeting them. "

But is personality important in any way? Are you ok fucking a really good looking guy even if he has no personality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks most important for me. If I'm not attracted to them it doesn't matter how good their personality is, I won't be meeting them.

But is personality important in any way? Are you ok fucking a really good looking guy even if he has no personality?"

I didn't say they have to be good looking, I just said *I* have to be attracted to him or her. I find some people attractive, and some not.

If I'm attracted to their looks but not their personality then I won't be meeting them anyway, no.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Looks most important for me. If I'm not attracted to them it doesn't matter how good their personality is, I won't be meeting them.

But is personality important in any way? Are you ok fucking a really good looking guy even if he has no personality?

I didn't say they have to be good looking, I just said *I* have to be attracted to him or her. I find some people attractive, and some not.

If I'm attracted to their looks but not their personality then I won't be meeting them anyway, no. "

You said "looks most important"

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

They can have a sparkling and fantastic personality but if I don't fancy them in some way. I won't be meeting them for any naked shenanigans.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to get me.

Personality to keep me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No....if a woman has a face like a bag of spanners it doesn't matter how good her personality is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I dig personalities. There's some amazing people out there that the looks only people are truly missing out on.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Seems woman go more for looks and men personality

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Maybe when you don't have the looks you concentrate more on your personality

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By *rednwilma1Couple
over a year ago

york

Being totally honest it's got to be looks,.... i know it sounds shallow but if we are gonna shag someone they have got to be attractive

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think personality can definitely make someone more attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a balance between the two on here; I am attracted to personality and character however there has to be a physical attraction as well for me to meet and play.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Being totally honest it's got to be looks,.... i know it sounds shallow but if we are gonna shag someone they have got to be attractive "

It's your choice, at least your honest about it and honesty is good. But some woman (and men) are shallow. If I mention my financial situation and then suddenly a lady is interested I am then very wary of there motives

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Always personality and voices. I like to be blindfolded in the bedroom, and even if I don't I'll close my eyes as it heightens the whole experience for me. So some of my partners have quite frankly baffled my friends and other half but for me, it's all about the force of their personality and the way they talk to me that gets me going.

Though a cute bum and nice shoulders never hurt me any

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Always personality and voices. I like to be blindfolded in the bedroom, and even if I don't I'll close my eyes as it heightens the whole experience for me. So some of my partners have quite frankly baffled my friends and other half but for me, it's all about the force of their personality and the way they talk to me that gets me going.

Though a cute bum and nice shoulders never hurt me any "

I loved our chats before but now I seem to be out of your age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, looks first.

As said on the "other thread". Physical attraction is paramount.

Then comes the personality bit. I've chatted here to really hot guys who have no personality and rely on looks to get meets, not for me!

If we meet and get on on a basic level, then comes the next bit.... The mutual sexual pleasure. If the sex is very good, we meet again. If the sex is crap, he'll be a one off!

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

"

I agree, it's sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality plays a big part in how attractive I find people. Fancy their mind, and the body and face follows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality plays a big part in how attractive I find people. Fancy their mind, and the body and face follows "

This for me. And hopefully vice Versa x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here the face will catch my eye, the personality will decide if I want to meet them, or not. In person the face will catch my eye, how they walk, talk and what they say will decide if they are for me, or not.

And the shoes make a difference.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Personality and chemistry....Oh and they have to be drop dead gorgeous too!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes most definately. I have know some, what most would say, good looking women who have not been remotely attractive to me in any way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer those with neither looks or personality - they are an untapped resource!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

Yep!

In my job, I work around some very good looking people, but I don't mind many of them attractive.

If someone can make me smile, laugh & I'm happy in their company, thars always a winner

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yep!

In my job, I work around some very good looking people, but I don't mind many of them attractive.

If someone can make me smile, laugh & I'm happy in their company, thars always a winner "

It's truly refreshing when someone has this view xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt matter, it is just a shag lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that perfectly normal but in this world of online dating/shagging you only have the looks from a few photos option. Being in a persons company provides so much more than a visual inspection. A persons mannerisms, smell, a look they give, their general persona etc etc all adds to what makes us fancy people. Most of it is lost online. Sadly for me, I'm the type of guy that grows on you when you get to know them and become more fanciable than a photo of my face would suggest.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

Yes. On a site like this there is obviously a visual component at first, especially when my filters are on and I am the one doing the first messaging (and I would be an idiot to say that isn't a factor) but a profile or decent message exchange will pique my interest far more than a pretty face. Once I like someone I find them attractive, regardless of what they look like. It's why I don't have a visual 'type.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"

It's truly refreshing when someone has this view xxx"

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad"

Why is it sad? I'm not a charity shag.

I fuck people I'm attracted to.

Do you fuck women no matter what they look like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

I'd say my personality and good sense of humour are better than my looks so I hope people go for that more...

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over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes. On a site like this there is obviously a visual component at first, especially when my filters are on and I am the one doing the first messaging (and I would be an idiot to say that isn't a factor) but a profile or decent message exchange will pique my interest far more than a pretty face. Once I like someone I find them attractive, regardless of what they look like. It's why I don't have a visual 'type. "
thats exactly my views as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes. On a site like this there is obviously a visual component at first, especially when my filters are on and I am the one doing the first messaging (and I would be an idiot to say that isn't a factor) but a profile or decent message exchange will pique my interest far more than a pretty face. Once I like someone I find them attractive, regardless of what they look like. It's why I don't have a visual 'type. "

There's hope for me yet then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes. On a site like this there is obviously a visual component at first, especially when my filters are on and I am the one doing the first messaging (and I would be an idiot to say that isn't a factor) but a profile or decent message exchange will pique my interest far more than a pretty face. Once I like someone I find them attractive, regardless of what they look like. It's why I don't have a visual 'type.

There's hope for me yet then "

Shushhh you! You're a good looking guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes. On a site like this there is obviously a visual component at first, especially when my filters are on and I am the one doing the first messaging (and I would be an idiot to say that isn't a factor) but a profile or decent message exchange will pique my interest far more than a pretty face. Once I like someone I find them attractive, regardless of what they look like. It's why I don't have a visual 'type.

There's hope for me yet then

Shushhh you! You're a good looking guy

"

You havnt seen the boat race have you?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

Why is it sad? I'm not a charity shag.

I fuck people I'm attracted to.

Do you fuck women no matter what they look like? "

I don't think its quit that.......

I think wot op ment is thar is a lot of people Hoo woodount even consider meeting sumone els simple on thar looks so won't even try to get to no them....

So dispite thay cood be the best pursoun you ever meet cos of looks thay just get over looked with no atempet to get to no them......

This make sense ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry guys total disagree here! If you met someone in a bar that was ugly, I doubt you would talk to them to realise the personality could win you over!

Most people are shallow and rely on looks first then personality.

My thoughts anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry guys total disagree here! If you met someone in a bar that was ugly, I doubt you would talk to them to realise the personality could win you over!

Most people are shallow and rely on looks first then personality.

My thoughts anyway!"

I'd agree with that in a bar say or night out but people can get more attractive as you get to know them which suggests it is their personality that wins you over in time. Also people can get less attractive too as you get to know them.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

Why is it sad? I'm not a charity shag.

I fuck people I'm attracted to.

Do you fuck women no matter what they look like? "

I get to know people, if I like them and we are sexually compactable then we play. But compactable isn't about looks in my view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never approached an unknown female & started chatting because they looked like they had a good personality .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

Why is it sad? I'm not a charity shag.

I fuck people I'm attracted to.

Do you fuck women no matter what they look like?

I get to know people, if I like them and we are sexually compactable then we play. But compactable isn't about looks in my view"

I also like someone I can squish into a box

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Both.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

With good looking people i prefer looks. But people with less attractive faces and body morphs i prefer personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I go with there personality and how much they make me laugh

"

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad"

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I'm one of those "up their own arse" women then as I don't find personalities alone make me fancy a person. If I'm not attracted to a guy physically then we'll only ever be mates. If I find a guy physically attractive but no personality. ..well. ..that's what gags were invented for

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad? "

I think it's sad the amount of women that judge men on there looks alone compared to men who are attracted by personality. And also the amount of times a conversation ends instantly when a man sends a face pic. No further messages at all even tho your may have been chatting for hours or even days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to grab my attention, but personality to keep it!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Looks to grab my attention, but personality to keep it!"

Nailed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call it shallow, up our own arse, sad, whatever...but we're here to fulfill fantasies of sexual interaction with others. That interaction requires us to have certain level of attraction that is purely physical. No amount of personality can overcome looks we don't find desirable for the purposes of shagging. We're not here to form meaningful relationships/friendships where personality would be of more importance.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Call it shallow, up our own arse, sad, whatever...but we're here to fulfill fantasies of sexual interaction with others. That interaction requires us to have certain level of attraction that is purely physical. No amount of personality can overcome looks we don't find desirable for the purposes of shagging. We're not here to form meaningful relationships/friendships where personality would be of more importance. "

Loooooool

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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago

between havant and chichester

Personally for me and more if you make me relaxed and laughing

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Another shallow person here

If I don't fancy you then there is no chance I am getting naked with you

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Personally for me and more if you make me relaxed and laughing "

It would be a sad world if every woman was shallow

Well done you xxxxx

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By *ittleLou4Woman
over a year ago

Near You

I've been brought up to always remember that looks with fade with age but someone's personality will remain forever x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad?

I think it's sad the amount of women that judge men on there looks alone compared to men who are attracted by personality. And also the amount of times a conversation ends instantly when a man sends a face pic. No further messages at all even tho your may have been chatting for hours or even days "

I would want to meet someone who was sexually attracted to me as well as liked my personality. I'd want to feel desired as well as liked. But that's just me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad?

I think it's sad the amount of women that judge men on there looks alone compared to men who are attracted by personality. And also the amount of times a conversation ends instantly when a man sends a face pic. No further messages at all even tho your may have been chatting for hours or even days "

I would understand and agree with your views if I was looking for a long term partner, but this site isn't for that, attraction does come into it, I honestly don't know why on a site like this you think it is shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there has to be a good mix of looks, personality and humour with the priority being personality and humour over looks

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad?

I think it's sad the amount of women that judge men on there looks alone compared to men who are attracted by personality. And also the amount of times a conversation ends instantly when a man sends a face pic. No further messages at all even tho your may have been chatting for hours or even days

I would understand and agree with your views if I was looking for a long term partner, but this site isn't for that, attraction does come into it, I honestly don't know why on a site like this you think it is shallow "

It's when your really getting on well with someone. Chatting lots, being flirty, talking about meeting. Having naughty chats etc. Then you exchange pics and that's the last you hear from them. That's really sad

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

I'm confused by this. I would have thought that a mix was a given. The fact that everybody has different idea of what they find physically attractive is what gets people meeting. There is no ideal look that every single person goes for, so we all have a chance to meet. Personality is equally important to me. I also find that my attraction to somebody can grow as I get to know them more. If I find someone very unattractive and have no sexual desire for someone, so choose not to have sex with them. How is that sad?

I think it's sad the amount of women that judge men on there looks alone compared to men who are attracted by personality. And also the amount of times a conversation ends instantly when a man sends a face pic. No further messages at all even tho your may have been chatting for hours or even days

I would understand and agree with your views if I was looking for a long term partner, but this site isn't for that, attraction does come into it, I honestly don't know why on a site like this you think it is shallow

It's when your really getting on well with someone. Chatting lots, being flirty, talking about meeting. Having naughty chats etc. Then you exchange pics and that's the last you hear from them. That's really sad"

^^And I also learnt the hard way, exchange face pics asap, there is nothing worse than being disappointed and also upsetting the other person, but it is life I'm afraid, I didn't go quiet, but I did have to say sorry, but not for me

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Looks will attract me but personality will win me over

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Looks initially as you don't see a persons personality you get to know it. All those people who says personality as the initial attraction are either ugly or fooling themselves.

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By *Ollyinone.Man
over a year ago

West Mids

Looks can turn the head but a personality will move the body

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Don't get me wrong, I am not criticising anyone who judges on looks alone, but personally I like a bubbly nice person who just happens to be naughty as well"

I'm with you on this one, but the 'Face pic then silence' thread was enlightening today.....

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Looks initially as you don't see a persons personality you get to know it. All those people who says personality as the initial attraction are either ugly or fooling themselves."

I know myself well enough to know that I am more likely to be talked into bed than be drawn there by a 'phwoar' moment, so I'm not fooling myself when I say personality is the initial attraction. I didn't see a pic of my regular squeeze until just before we met in real life; since I'd already fallen for him it didn't seem important. According to the above logic I must therefore be ugly.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Looks initially as you don't see a persons personality you get to know it. All those people who says personality as the initial attraction are either ugly or fooling themselves.

I know myself well enough to know that I am more likely to be talked into bed than be drawn there by a 'phwoar' moment, so I'm not fooling myself when I say personality is the initial attraction. I didn't see a pic of my regular squeeze until just before we met in real life; since I'd already fallen for him it didn't seem important. According to the above logic I must therefore be ugly. "

True enough, but I'm willing to take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

Yes i feel exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes i feel exactly the same "

Yes but there still has to be something that I'm attracted to. It could be something small though, smile, eyes etc.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Don't get me wrong, I am not criticising anyone who judges on looks alone, but personally I like a bubbly nice person who just happens to be naughty as well

I'm with you on this one, but the 'Face pic then silence' thread was enlightening today..... "

It was! Us men know how bad that can be on here

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Looks will attract me but personality will win me over "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

Yes i feel exactly the same

Yes but there still has to be something that I'm attracted to. It could be something small though, smile, eyes etc."

Same for me .... personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality and sense of humour are paramount for me, if I would set a percentage on how much looks count for me, then I would say 10%.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Personality and sense of humour are paramount for me, if I would set a percentage on how much looks count for me, then I would say 10%."

So you have no public pics on display, can I ask why someone would either message you or why would you message a profile, if looks are not the first thing that attracts you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

Yes.. most definately. it's that age old thingymajig innit..

someone who at first appeared ugly.. can turn into someone beautiful.

A beautiful looking person can become hideous in one sentance or action.

OP if this is true for you.. then you're in good company and will have more than you ever expected from this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll never see a group of women looking lustfully at a photo of a hot guy and declaring "Phwoarr! - look at the personality and GSOH on him!".

For the majority of fabbers, it is initially ALL about the pictures. Ten seconds of make or break.

You could be the funniest and most amiable guy in the world but if people don't like the photos, then everything else - personality, humour, etc - means diddly squat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I experienced that before. If it clicks for me I don't care much about the look. I like intelligent people who appreciate my sarcasm so that's why I had some problems with finding a guy lol.

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By *aughtyLondonGuy OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"To be honest I experienced that before. If it clicks for me I don't care much about the look. I like intelligent people who appreciate my sarcasm so that's why I had some problems with finding a guy lol. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality and sense of humour are paramount for me, if I would set a percentage on how much looks count for me, then I would say 10%.

So you have no public pics on display, can I ask why someone would either message you or why would you message a profile, if looks are not the first thing that attracts you? "

It's my choice to have my photos for my friends only to see. I do know how to 'get my message across' when I want to and spending time conversing and getting to know someone is never wasting time for me. I reply with a facephoto within a couple of messages. Different strokes for different people.

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By *0shades 2000Man
over a year ago

coleraine

You need a mixture of both I think.....

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"To be honest I experienced that before. If it clicks for me I don't care much about the look. I like intelligent people who appreciate my sarcasm so that's why I had some problems with finding a guy lol. "

This but not really looking for guys.. If a guy gets me and my personality. Can engage with me and not talk to my tits there is a possibility things may progress.

Still looking!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks all the way

it's a sexs site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good job its not just about looks otherwise id be fùcked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want a man to fuck me because he's let my looks slide, because I have a nice personality. The sex would be uninspiring and clinical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reads thread

Invents Google

Looks up personality....and looks..

Think I need me some of each...

Wanders into man cave starts whittling...

Face mask sorted...

Wonder how I carve personality out of tree trunk...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reeding throw the thread and seeing how meney meet on just looks alown is a bit depressing.....

I'm leaving this thread .......

*walks off to find a mor jolly thread*

I agree, it's sad

Why is it sad? I'm not a charity shag.

I fuck people I'm attracted to.

Do you fuck women no matter what they look like?

I don't think its quit that.......

I think wot op ment is thar is a lot of people Hoo woodount even consider meeting sumone els simple on thar looks so won't even try to get to no them....

So dispite thay cood be the best pursoun you ever meet cos of looks thay just get over looked with no atempet to get to no them......

This make sense ?"

Yes it does make sense. But most people aren't here looking to date. They want to meet people they want to fuck.

If I was looking for friends, looks have nothing to do with it.

I'm happy for the sad OP to call me shallow. His pathetic attempt to shame women into fucking him doesn't affect me at all.

He's hurt that someone turned him down, I understand that. People turn me down all the time. It's not the end of the world. Some people fancy me and most don't.

It's no-one else's business what my criteria are for who I choose to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

It's got to be a mixture of both. I've met people on the extreme ends of both of those qualities, extremely awesome personality and a face only a mother could love, and guys with faces that were carved by angels but have zero or very shit personalities. Gotta be a mixture of both.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

It's got to be a mixture of both. I've met people on the extreme ends of both of those qualities, extremely awesome personality and a face only a mother could love, and guys with faces that were carved by angels but have zero or very shit personalities. Gotta be a mixture of both. "

I'm alright to look at, and I'm a bit of a prick......?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality every time. Make me smile and laugh, challenge my mind and you'll have my attention and maybe alot more. I say personality often makes for good sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the fuck do I bother trying to look attactive? Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. No fucker cares what I look like alledgedly so I'll do away with pics too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. "

*faps*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why the fuck do I bother trying to look attactive? Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. No fucker cares what I look like alledgedly so I'll do away with pics too."

Apparently all I've got to do is fake flirt like the rest of you. ..oh and pretend to be sickly sweet. That works too apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My feeling is that although looks are important when a great personality attracts me, if the looks are maybe not initially apparent they can grow on me. It doesn't work the other way round though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why the fuck do I bother trying to look attactive? Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. No fucker cares what I look like alledgedly so I'll do away with pics too.

Apparently all I've got to do is fake flirt like the rest of you. ..oh and pretend to be sickly sweet. That works too apparently. "

Men love that shit. I look like utter shit but if I flirt and say nice things they'll all shag me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front.

*faps*"

Admit it. ..that's for my new hair really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front.

*faps*

Admit it. ..that's for my new hair really "

Ooooh new hair, show me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why the fuck do I bother trying to look attactive? Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. No fucker cares what I look like alledgedly so I'll do away with pics too.

Apparently all I've got to do is fake flirt like the rest of you. ..oh and pretend to be sickly sweet. That works too apparently.

Men love that shit. I look like utter shit but if I flirt and say nice things they'll all shag me.

"

Yay...now I know where to come when i get desperate. Forum guys don't care what the fuck I look like as long as I pretend to agree with them and be nice. Got it. ....oh fuck. ..it's harder than I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll never see a group of women looking lustfully at a photo of a hot guy and declaring "Phwoarr! - look at the personality and GSOH on him!".

For the majority of fabbers, it is initially ALL about the pictures. Ten seconds of make or break.

You could be the funniest and most amiable guy in the world but if people don't like the photos, then everything else - personality, humour, etc - means diddly squat.

"

I think you'll find a lot of women aren't anywhere near as superficial as you think they are And even if they were.. Don't you'd think they'd prefer to spend some time with the nice, normal, pleasant... ripped, big cocked fuck machine.. over the guy with the quirky photos or text with a big, ripped cock on his head?

But there are a lot of lovely superficial sluts who'll prove me wrong.. Horses for courses.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why the fuck do I bother trying to look attactive? Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front. No fucker cares what I look like alledgedly so I'll do away with pics too.

Apparently all I've got to do is fake flirt like the rest of you. ..oh and pretend to be sickly sweet. That works too apparently.

Men love that shit. I look like utter shit but if I flirt and say nice things they'll all shag me.

Yay...now I know where to come when i get desperate. Forum guys don't care what the fuck I look like as long as I pretend to agree with them and be nice. Got it. ....oh fuck. ..it's harder than I thought "

Put your sexy arse away ffs. Show your personality or you'll never get laid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My feeling is that although looks are important when a great personality attracts me, if the looks are maybe not initially apparent they can grow on me. It doesn't work the other way round though."

Very put. Lot a truth in that. How often have you seen couples walking hand in hand and you've thought what does she see in him or what he see in her.

Yes it's not a dating site but many of the rules do actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this? "

I am the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

I am the same "

MY NIGGA!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

I am the same

MY NIGGA! "

nope.. don't work with pink thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am being truly honest when I say that I can fancy someone based on their personality and not their looks.

Anyone else feel like this?

I am the same

MY NIGGA!

nope.. don't work with pink thumbs"

But it came from my black soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Might as well mong out in my trakkie with bolognese slurped down the front.

*faps*

Admit it. ..that's for my new hair really

Ooooh new hair, show me!! "

I can attest to the fact that the hair is epic.

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