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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?"
oooooooh il get back to this one, ripe old age of what first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends of my quality of life at that stage. If i was in perfect health and not a burdon on anyone in any way id go for treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?"
I would let nature take its course,and would consider that ive had a good life,and there are much more needy younger people out there who need the treatment more than me..

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Would depend on where the cancer was

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?oooooooh il get back to this one, ripe old age of what first?"

I deliberately didnt say an age to get some responses as to what age some posters might think was too old for them personally.

I feel you're ripe but it isnt from old age - more peachy ripe xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 85year old father has just been diagnosed with lung caner and unfortunately at that age the standard treatment would kill him before the cancer does. He is resigning himself to letting it run it's course. He has had along life and is ok with letting go, he is more concerned about the people around him.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?oooooooh il get back to this one, ripe old age of what first?

I deliberately didnt say an age to get some responses as to what age some posters might think was too old for them personally.

I feel you're ripe but it isnt from old age - more peachy ripe xxx"
Are you ever too old to have a decent quality of life? Hmmmmm i will ponder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My 85year old father has just been diagnosed with lung caner and unfortunately at that age the standard treatment would kill him before the cancer does. He is resigning himself to letting it run it's course. He has had along life and is ok with letting go, he is more concerned about the people around him. "
thats quite a thing to do...god bless him ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My gran accepted treatment at 87 for mouth cancer, survived the first op and round of treament but was upset at being " butchered" (you couldn't even tell they'd removed part of her upper jaw and reconstructed it), it came back 6 months later and she said she just couldn't face more treatment and wanted to go, took a few months but she passed away comfortably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless there was something fundamentally important I had to do...then accepting the treatment to manage the symptoms would be a thought...yer can struggle on can`t yer sometimes...thats the worst outcome fer me..

Hopefully I could be in a position to accept its my time, and hope fer a quick deliverance....wish mercy killing was an easier option ....I haven`t thought about suicide much to be honest....be an option I guess..something quick that didn`t impact on other people...an overdose of painkillers mayhaps..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be quite happy to not accept treatment and let nature take it's course.

I have faced that decision before and had decided against treatment then, but my youngest was too young to leave then. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?"

Treatment .

and it not very nice either. but if its a way of beating it, you do it.

Who knows whats round the corner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?oooooooh il get back to this one, ripe old age of what first?

I deliberately didnt say an age to get some responses as to what age some posters might think was too old for them personally.

I feel you're ripe but it isnt from old age - more peachy ripe xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?

Treatment .

and it not very nice either. but if its a way of beating it, you do it.

Who knows whats round the corner "

Yer can`t beat terninal cancer...only manage the symptoms..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh right...

so hopes out of the window then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?

Treatment .

and it not very nice either. but if its a way of beating it, you do it.

Who knows whats round the corner

Yer can`t beat terninal cancer...only manage the symptoms.."

Ok I'll reword. If you were diagnosed with a cancer that will die from if left untreated would you accept that or would you go for the treatment regardless of your age even though you have a lot of years under your belt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhh right...

so hopes out of the window then "

Who really knows gal...I`m prolly being pedantic...but if yer consultant sits yer down and says theres fuck all else to offer..you`re terminal and its only pain relief they can offer....I think its fair to say ...hopes hard to find....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But hope can keep you going when all else fails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry Jech.....didn`t mean to hijack the thread thru pedantry...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ohhh right...

so hopes out of the window then

Who really knows gal...I`m prolly being pedantic...but if yer consultant sits yer down and says theres fuck all else to offer..you`re terminal and its only pain relief they can offer....I think its fair to say ...hopes hard to find....

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No, not palliative care - traditional treatments - chemo/radiotherapy. In other words life prolonging treatments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhh right...

so hopes out of the window then

Who really knows gal...I`m prolly being pedantic...but if yer consultant sits yer down and says theres fuck all else to offer..you`re terminal and its only pain relief they can offer....I think its fair to say ...hopes hard to find....

No, not palliative care - traditional treatments - chemo/radiotherapy. In other words life prolonging treatments."

I get where yer coming from now Jech....tho palliative isn`t just fer terminal...

Note to self .....stop fucking the thread up ?!*?!*?..retard..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were diagnosed with terminal cancer at a ripe old age would you accept the treatment suggested or decide to just let it take its course?"
Take the bull by the horns and orgaise a fffffm and go out in a blaze of glory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would opt for treatment and hopefully faced what came with a positive attitude. I'm not the type to lie down and accept defeat so I hope ill remain the same when I'm an old lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should acceptance and the appreciaton of a good life be seen as a negative thang...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have visited five people today. Two are suferring from cancer which I only found out because I went round to offer my sympathy for the loss their son (around my age) who has just died of lung cancer. He had treatment but gave up the ghost and died a couple of weeks ago. His mum is in remission and has had treatment for years and looks terrible. His dad was diagnosed around the same time as him and he has oesophagal cancer and is in middle of treatment and looks terrible. I wonder if seeing his parents going through these treatments made him decide to just give in. I visited their friends (these are all old neighbours) over the road - both look ten years younger are in excellent health but led similar lives so I wonder if their positive attitude keeps the others going and aiming for a good outcome from their treatment despite the toll its taking because they want to be like their friends again.

I then visited my aunt who declared "I have cancer you know (I knew) but they're not bliddy experimenting on me, I'm not in any pain, so we'll see how it goes. I'm 81 and not many people can say they have ridden a camel in the desert!'

I couldn't disagree with her - I certainly havent ridden a camel but Im not sure I could be as clear cut about refusing treatment - or as she said it 'experimenting'. Nor am I sure I would want to cling onto life at any cost.

It's a bugger.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

No treatment here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

This is a very interesting question.

My great aunt was 96 the most intelligent sensible sane person you could ever wish to meet, she had her whole "older life" mapped out. Her will had been written and rewritten every minor detail covered what she would wear in the coffin everything. I cant begin to tell you how logical this lady was.

My mum went to see her one day and she complained of stomach cramps, the doctor was called they took her in hospital, 2 days later she was diagnosed with terminal cancer that was so far gone they couldnt do anything about it. From the day she had stomach pains to the day she died was 9 days, she was only in pain for the last three. She knew everything and that she had limited time but you know, for the last three days she begged them to give her an operation. Thankfully she suffered very little with it but the reason ive gone on is, if you knew my great aunt you would never ever have imagined that she would of wanted the operation so i seriously dont think any of us can say until we are in that situation

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

And in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make.

oops, wrong thread?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a very interesting question.

My great aunt was 96 the most intelligent sensible sane person you could ever wish to meet, she had her whole "older life" mapped out. Her will had been written and rewritten every minor detail covered what she would wear in the coffin everything. I cant begin to tell you how logical this lady was.

My mum went to see her one day and she complained of stomach cramps, the doctor was called they took her in hospital, 2 days later she was diagnosed with terminal cancer that was so far gone they couldnt do anything about it. From the day she had stomach pains to the day she died was 9 days, she was only in pain for the last three. She knew everything and that she had limited time but you know, for the last three days she begged them to give her an operation. Thankfully she suffered very little with it but the reason ive gone on is, if you knew my great aunt you would never ever have imagined that she would of wanted the operation so i seriously dont think any of us can say until we are in that situation"

Bless her it seems in her end she saw the operation as a way to take away the pain perhaps rather than it being a cure? who knows? As you quite rightly say nobody knows how they will feel at what they consider is the end of their life.

I still keep thinking back to that Terry Pratchett docu on euthanasia shown earlier this year. I don't know where they get the courage from to choose to end it never mind letting life slowly ebb. Brave people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have thought about this already, and would rather let nature takes its course.

I would like to choose when to cease my life, pain free and in comfort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ohhh right...

so hopes out of the window then

Who really knows gal...I`m prolly being pedantic...but if yer consultant sits yer down and says theres fuck all else to offer..you`re terminal and its only pain relief they can offer....I think its fair to say ...hopes hard to find....

No, not palliative care - traditional treatments - chemo/radiotherapy. In other words life prolonging treatments."

I have lost 8 members of my immediate family to cancer in the last 10 years,

last year it was my beloved sister and she fought till the end. She always had a love for life and lots of courage. Her attitude was , you fought for something you wanted and she did. The treatments were horrid and she lost her hair 3 times due to chemo but not once did she ever complain. Just embraced each new day like it was her first.

Hope is a strong medicine

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