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To message or not to message, that is the question!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I was thinking about how messaging runs on here. After seeing another woman post how she had 500 messages to work through I though what is teh best way to operate?

As a single guy trying to come up with original messages is always hard, but its even harder when you think that maybe 50% will just get batch deleted. Then you have the dilemma of of messaging again, risking wrath (hell hath no fury right?), or just letting it go and missing out on an opportunity.

So my question is what is better? Do women prefer to message the guys they're interested in (I've seen a few profiles stating this) or do they still prefer the standard maxim of a gentleman should always start the conversation?

For the guys how do you deal with this? Do you message lots or do you just wait and respond?

Hopefully thi smakes sense, I wwas thinking about it whilst lying in bed this morning...I lead an exciting life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block all men and do my own searches.

I often think women who constantly moan about the amount of messages they get protest too much! There's an easy solution but they don't choose it

I'd like my teacup please x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a great method and attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an iffy one isn't it.

Lots of women do state they will find you

But how will they come across you, too many cocks spoil the broth.

I have messages women who have had this on their profiles and it has worked.

I also messages,got bulk felted then was found again

I would just send a nice message myself and see if she responds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I block all men and do my own searches.

I often think women who constantly moan about the amount of messages they get protest too much! There's an easy solution but they don't choose it

I'd like my teacup please x"

Probably the best idea is as you say block all men and just search for the men yourself ...easier to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

waste of effort messaging. Just sit in the corner, licking your eyebrows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find my men in various ways! Chatting on the forum is great but frustrating as they're normally miles away!

Occasionally I'll take the block off for a while and see what happens

I've not done too badly and met some really lovely guys x

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Be like me. Get no messages from women and it solves the problem. (Did you spot that bit of reverse psychology there, readers?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I block all men and do my own searches.

I often think women who constantly moan about the amount of messages they get protest too much! There's an easy solution but they don't choose it

I'd like my teacup please x"

Your approach makes waaaayyy more snese to me due to the obvious imbalance of men to women on here. Not sure it's the norm though!

Hmm any request on for the art that goes on it? I can do a mean stick man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"waste of effort messaging. Just sit in the corner, licking your eyebrows."

With your own tongue! Good lord man how big is your tongue! Quick..someone grab the Guinness world records commission!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's an iffy one isn't it.

Lots of women do state they will find you

But how will they come across you, too many cocks spoil the broth.

I have messages women who have had this on their profiles and it has worked.

I also messages,got bulk felted then was found again

I would just send a nice message myself and see if she responds"

Thats what I tend to do..or try to do, most of my messages come out as gobbledeygook I imagine! I go nice but then always wonder if I should have been more dirty in order to grab attention...but I'm pretty poor at that off the bat so try not too. Find its hard to hit teh right spot when you havent even spoken to someone.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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have your profile good, waste more time making that interesting than your messages.

message who you want then, they can browse your profile in their own time and the message just introduces yourself to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are the thoughts on winks to show interest? Rather than clogging up the inbox it can leave them view your profile whenever. Or is the problem the same with getting a lot of winks?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"What are the thoughts on winks to show interest? Rather than clogging up the inbox it can leave them view your profile whenever. Or is the problem the same with getting a lot of winks?"

I think winks get completely ignored a lot of the time. I know I don't look at mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think winking is a good way to start. Then if the couple responds you need a good first message. One liner messages don't do it for us. You don't have to be 'original' you just have to come across as honest, genuine and nice.

A cock as the profile pic is a turn off.

Others on the site hate winking, so it's horses for courses.

Its true that couples get loads of messages and so it's sometimes very hard to sort the wheat from the chaff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Targeted messaging works for me I'm not a fan of the scattergun approach

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I prefer chatting in the forums first..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lot of good thoughts above. I tend to stay awway from winks as I have never received any positive returns from them, although just a random thought, can you wink folks when you're not in their age bracket? Might be a way to show some interest maybe though I imagine teh answer is no.

I always try target a message but can be hard if you're looking at a profile with little on it (although i know the obvious thing there is why are you messaging them in the first place?).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer chatting in the forums first.."

I seem toi find I get a lot more attention when I spend some time in the forums, although it results in messaging ladies hwo usually live quite a distance away unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forums is the way forward i think. I dont message many. The thought of being in the pecking order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I block all men and do my own searches.

I often think women who constantly moan about the amount of messages they get protest too much! There's an easy solution but they don't choose it

I'd like my teacup please x

Your approach makes waaaayyy more snese to me due to the obvious imbalance of men to women on here. Not sure it's the norm though!

Hmm any request on for the art that goes on it? I can do a mean stick man! "

I'd prefer a happy stick man or even a couple playing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I'd prefer a happy stick man or even a couple playing x"

Haha deal, what's the delivery address :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanders out ....

Reads thread...

Scratches chin....

What's a message...

Slips unnoticed back into the man cave...

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