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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

It happens every minute of every hour on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

Looks like people don't like average built 90s rejects anymore

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??"

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on "

That's what I do although my block list is growing daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often.

It just confirms what I see in the mirror every morning but I've had years to get used to what I see.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It happens to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It happens to everyone. "

Even you!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

That's what I do although my block list is growing daily "

Mine is huge (oo-er Missus), but block lists are open-ended, and it means you can concentrate on people you'd want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on "

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I've scared a few away

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

My face is on my profile pic, it prevents the awkward silences, although it does seem to have the scarecrow effect, scares off the birds but not the uphill gardeners

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It happens to everyone.

Even you!! "

Yep. Many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best i had. I sent a pic then she explained in the most kindest way that, im not for her. I was so grateful to her rather that just blocking me. I'd never bother her again ! So the blocks are completely irrelevant unless ur in stalker mode!

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh

many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best i had. I sent a pic then she explained in the most kindest way that, im not for her. I was so grateful to her rather that just blocking me. I'd never bother her again ! So the blocks are completely irrelevant unless ur in stalker mode!"

They stop showing up in you're search then. Hence makes room for more newbies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You ugly

I get it all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??"

It's not a problem, it's a given

You can't appeal to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on "

Shallow? Really?

Is your ego really that delicate that someone not replying because they don't find you attractive is shallow.

If someone sends us face pics and we're not attracted it doesn't go any further.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate? "

That makes me shallow too, I prefer to call it having standards tho

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"It happens every minute of every hour on here"
yes everyone get that in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have your face on show, then you won't have that issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on "

You know....its not about being shallow. It's about whether one is attracted. It's a fact that we will not be everyone's cup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just put it down to my hideous face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally just get silence..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?"

Make sure you have a really good clear pic of yourself. People need to think past your keyboard and think people skills....just as if you were going to meet someone in reality. It's best to accept that there will always be rejection in life especially more so on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or think of it another way, they saw your face and realised they werent in your league

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?"

Because that picture along with your profile and message is all they have to go on. I can't meet everybody who messages to give them a fair chance unfortunately, I doubt anyone would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it has happened and ive done the same myself and blocked many times - just the easiest way to stop the chatter from going on when its going to go nowhere - if you had messaged me i probably wouldnt have bothered as you dont have the most enthralling profile - no pics at all and not much text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning OP...

It's only a problem if you see it as a problem....and why would you do that?

Breathe . .smile.... embrace the calm.....

and remember no one here is entitled to expect anything from any one else..

Any connection we make with another here or beyond fab enriches our life....so when or if someone does respond be happy...

And if they don't...you haven't lost anything so still be happy..

Because the alternative is whiny threads on here

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

No, I'm very good looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A moronic expressionless still from a,webcam like a serial killer..

I get sent a lot of those... Never mind silence, run...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody has or will have this experience. It isn't very nice, but you should try not to let it get to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A moronic expressionless still from a,webcam like a serial killer..

I get sent a lot of those... Never mind silence, run... "

I have to agree, a lot of pics I get sent, the men look so pissed off. You'd think they were going to be sent to jail rather than on a site looking to meet people and hopefully have sex with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My face has launched a thousand blocks - silence would be an improvement

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"No, I'm very good looking. "

It is not a curse, having all the ladies (and men) fall at your feet, Clem?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"No, I'm very good looking.

It is not a curse, having all the ladies (and men) fall at your feet, Clem?

"

You get used to it. That's why I'm so choosy as to who gets to see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate? "

A realist. I like your style ma'am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or think of it another way, they saw your face and realised they werent in your league "

Haha brilliant.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"No, I'm very good looking.

It is not a curse, having all the ladies (and men) fall at your feet, Clem?

You get used to it. That's why I'm so choosy as to who gets to see it. "

That's very sensible of you.

Otherwise, it could turn into a full time job batting them all off.

I won't ask to see, I've only just put my knickers on. I don't want to get them messy.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It's not a problem, they simply don't like what they see. NEXT!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a problem, they simply don't like what they see. NEXT!!"

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"No, I'm very good looking.

It is not a curse, having all the ladies (and men) fall at your feet, Clem?

You get used to it. That's why I'm so choosy as to who gets to see it.

That's very sensible of you.

Otherwise, it could turn into a full time job batting them all off.

I won't ask to see, I've only just put my knickers on. I don't want to get them messy. "

Very wise.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??"

I don't see it as a problem. There are two reasons for such; either they don't find me attractive so don't want us to waste each other's time in further fruitless conversation or they are so intimidated by my glorious countenance they can't cope. Either reason is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

I don't see it as a problem. There are two reasons for such; either they don't find me attractive so don't want us to waste each other's time in further fruitless conversation or they are so intimidated by my glorious countenance they can't cope. Either reason is fine."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on "

Why is it shallow?

For most of us this is fantasy and we're looking for our fantasy figure. A white couple may be looking for a black playmate and get a pic from a white guy. Doesn't mean he's hideous, just not what they're looking for.

You send a face pic knowing you'll not appeal to everyone: no one has universal appeal, something some on here fail to recognise.

There are some who don't take rejection well: to avoid being insulted some choose to stop contact with those they're not interested in.

C'est la vie!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate? "

Exactly my point!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it has happened and ive done the same myself and blocked many times - just the easiest way to stop the chatter from going on when its going to go nowhere - if you had messaged me i probably wouldnt have bothered as you dont have the most enthralling profile - no pics at all and not much text "
Hahaha no faffing around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all the time, i tend to scare people off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't get worried by it. Pic sent, receiver decides you're rancid..... what's easier for them? Email back saying 'Sorry but your face is hideous and I'm no longer interested.' Or just don't reply?

Cruel to be kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all the time, i tend to scare people off lol "

Me too get much luck your end of Cheshire?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it has happened and ive done the same myself and blocked many times - just the easiest way to stop the chatter from going on when its going to go nowhere - if you had messaged me i probably wouldnt have bothered as you dont have the most enthralling profile - no pics at all and not much text Hahaha no faffing around!"

no time for faffing or faffers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate? "

You're talking to a bloke, most of us will say we have standards but if someone puts a fanny in front of us then we're probably going to want to fuck it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes it has happened and ive done the same myself and blocked many times - just the easiest way to stop the chatter from going on when its going to go nowhere - if you had messaged me i probably wouldnt have bothered as you dont have the most enthralling profile - no pics at all and not much text Hahaha no faffing around!

no time for faffing or faffers "
or faffety faff faff fack. Or feck fuck lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate? "

Not at all. I was referring to my experiences in here, when I've taken the time to craft a respectful, thought-out message to someone I'm interested in, to receive a one-line reply of "Face pic?", which I then have either ignored, straight delete, or the ubiquitous "Not my type" and blocked. My apologies if I'm coming across as embittered and hardened

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

It doesn't happen to us because we don't have face pics here and wouldn't show or rely on them anyway - they're far too easy to fake. We don't need to see a face to establish whether a guy is charming and attractive or just an arrogant plonker who spends more time looking in the mirror than anything else. Yes there needs to be some mutual attraction but for us there's far more to that than just a face so we look for likeminded people. We'll only meet someone after we've chatted, got to know them and seen eachother on cam. That might involve partially showing faces but it's not essential. It works well for us.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Shallow? Really?

Is your ego really that delicate that someone not replying because they don't find you attractive is shallow.

If someone sends us face pics and we're not attracted it doesn't go any further."

Again, it's not about the strength of my ego, I just look for more than a really good selfie from someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made the mistake of sending a face picture once in man mode...it went quiet after....won't happen again and not good for your confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silence i wish!

Just an immediate block

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

You're talking to a bloke, most of us will say we have standards but if someone puts a fanny in front of us then we're probably going to want to fuck it "

Tut tut

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

It's happens all the time, and I guess that's life but what I don't like is when you have been chatting and making plans then they see a face pic and you never hear from them again. It's just rude.

So I tend to send a face pic very early on in the conversation so that I don't waste lots of time on rude people x

If someone doesn't fancy me that's fine but don't suddenly go quiet. A polite reply is all that's needed

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Either have face picture on show or send with first message. Saves an awful lot of problems

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It happens... Specially when you ask for one back... Move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if I'd asked to see a face pic, then I would have to reply back either yay or nay, would seem rude not too.

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?

Make sure you have a really good clear pic of yourself. People need to think past your keyboard and think people skills....just as if you were going to meet someone in reality. It's best to accept that there will always be rejection in life especially more so on here."
lol that still doesnt answer my question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send it in the first message, and it's on my profile anyway. That way there's no chuffing about, people can see that I'm a pound shop Wayne Rooney :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

You're talking to a bloke, most of us will say we have standards but if someone puts a fanny in front of us then we're probably going to want to fuck it "

Well more fool you!!!

But then again, looking at some people's veri's that really doesn't surprise me!!!

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?

Because that picture along with your profile and message is all they have to go on. I can't meet everybody who messages to give them a fair chance unfortunately, I doubt anyone would. "
and what about sending a clear pic on pm?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??"

Ive had that occur. Not exactly a problem though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried to tell a bloke in the past very kindly that although he sent us a very decent message had verications etc but he just didn't do anything for me, he then became very rude, nasty and repulsive! No I just don't respond if I'm not attracted as I never or should have to go through that again! I think you do have to have some kind of an attraction! I would never be offended if I wasn't someone's cup of tea it's just one of those things.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"I've tried to tell a bloke in the past very kindly that although he sent us a very decent message had verications etc but he just didn't do anything for me, he then became very rude, nasty and repulsive! No I just don't respond if I'm not attracted as I never or should have to go through that again! I think you do have to have some kind of an attraction! I would never be offended if I wasn't someone's cup of tea it's just one of those things. "

No need for rudeness on either part. At least you know you made the right decision

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By *urph6969Man
over a year ago

armagh


"It doesn't happen to us because we don't have face pics here and wouldn't show or rely on them anyway - they're far too easy to fake. We don't need to see a face to establish whether a guy is charming and attractive or just an arrogant plonker who spends more time looking in the mirror than anything else. Yes there needs to be some mutual attraction but for us there's far more to that than just a face so we look for likeminded people. We'll only meet someone after we've chatted, got to know them and seen eachother on cam. That might involve partially showing faces but it's not essential. It works well for us."
well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried to tell a bloke in the past very kindly that although he sent us a very decent message had verications etc but he just didn't do anything for me, he then became very rude, nasty and repulsive! No I just don't respond if I'm not attracted as I never or should have to go through that again! I think you do have to have some kind of an attraction! I would never be offended if I wasn't someone's cup of tea it's just one of those things. "
yes a number of woman have said this. Some cant take rejection. Losers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another reason I have my face on show. Those that do message, already know what I look like then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep happens to everyone I can conquer...sometimes I'm not sure it's inetional but it does happen

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london


"Yep happens to everyone I can conquer...sometimes I'm not sure it's inetional but it does happen"

The face is only one part of the body, a small percentage of them as a whole lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes silence says a lot more than words.

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan
over a year ago

london

Life's too short for silence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?"

pretty easily.

I mean you look at the picture, decide if you like the picture, and you're done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

Not at all. I was referring to my experiences in here, when I've taken the time to craft a respectful, thought-out message to someone I'm interested in, to receive a one-line reply of "Face pic?", which I then have either ignored, straight delete, or the ubiquitous "Not my type" and blocked. My apologies if I'm coming across as embittered and hardened "

tbh if your message was so well thought out it would have included a face pic

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

Not at all. I was referring to my experiences in here, when I've taken the time to craft a respectful, thought-out message to someone I'm interested in, to receive a one-line reply of "Face pic?", which I then have either ignored, straight delete, or the ubiquitous "Not my type" and blocked. My apologies if I'm coming across as embittered and hardened

tbh if your message was so well thought out it would have included a face pic "

Tbf; I usually include a face pic if their profile is photo-verified, has photos in their public or private galleries, or they have actual meet verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

Not at all. I was referring to my experiences in here, when I've taken the time to craft a respectful, thought-out message to someone I'm interested in, to receive a one-line reply of "Face pic?", which I then have either ignored, straight delete, or the ubiquitous "Not my type" and blocked. My apologies if I'm coming across as embittered and hardened

tbh if your message was so well thought out it would have included a face pic

Tbf; I usually include a face pic if their profile is photo-verified, has photos in their public or private galleries, or they have actual meet verifications "

so you only have a problem when messaging unverified profiles with no pictures and no meets?

I mean fair enough but this seems like a non issue?

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Yep. Just happened about 10 mins ago.

Messaged out the blue asking for a face pic.

Either they don't like my face or they're slow at typing! Can't be everyones cup of tea.

I quite like my face and that's all that matters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are busy. It is horrible to go mid conversation but needs must sometimes. I often open a message an get back to it later.

I'm also not here for a face just fun times. If ya face is that bad just do it doggie problems solved haha

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

Not a problem at all; quickest way to discover how shallow someone is, then you can block them and move on

Why is it shallow?

I'm not gonna fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to, are you?

"Don't look at the fireplace when you're stoking the fire"?

"Put a bag over his/her head"?

If I were looking for a relationship then maybe I would look past the fact that someone isn't that attractive and fall for someone's personality and outlook on life.

But this isn't a dating site!!!

If not wanting to be intimate with someone who I don't find attractive makes me shallow, then that must mean that you'd fuck anything that offered regardless of looks because you're desperate?

Not at all. I was referring to my experiences in here, when I've taken the time to craft a respectful, thought-out message to someone I'm interested in, to receive a one-line reply of "Face pic?", which I then have either ignored, straight delete, or the ubiquitous "Not my type" and blocked. My apologies if I'm coming across as embittered and hardened

tbh if your message was so well thought out it would have included a face pic

Tbf; I usually include a face pic if their profile is photo-verified, has photos in their public or private galleries, or they have actual meet verifications

so you only have a problem when messaging unverified profiles with no pictures and no meets?

I mean fair enough but this seems like a non issue?"

Not all the time no; I've had some cracking rapport built up over a spread of time with some people, people like myself with verified profiles, working up to the point of a potential meet, so face pic sent, then like the OP says, silence. Or blocked. Don't you find it's a bit of a juggling game this, being forward enough to show how keen you are, but walking the tightrope of not seeming desperate, or pushy? What I really don't like though, are the unverified profiles, with no pics, or meets, who ask for a face pic, and then you're blocked, and you don't know who has viewed your pic, and did they save it, so they can use it elsewhere?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A thought provoking thread people

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"many times,but how can anyone judge a person by looking at a picture nor ever met them in person?

Because that picture along with your profile and message is all they have to go on. I can't meet everybody who messages to give them a fair chance unfortunately, I doubt anyone would. and what about sending a clear pic on pm?"

Yes, as I said, that's an important factor in choosing who I would meet, along with their message and profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if I'd asked to see a face pic, then I would have to reply back either yay or nay, would seem rude not too.

"

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's happened, it hurt my feelings the first few times but hey, we can't be every girls cup of tea can we. In fairness I've done it too, well not silence but I've gone cold if I don't fancy the girl. It's human nature, we like what we like, don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if I'd asked to see a face pic, then I would have to reply back either yay or nay, would seem rude not too.

Same. "

I see where you are coming from there. Personally though I think I'd rather just have the delete. When it's so obviously my face that is the issue I don't know that I'd want the pain prolonged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??"

yea but i'm an ugly fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checking if anyone has had this problem??

yea but i'm an ugly fucker "

I'm the same. I scare everyone off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if I'd asked to see a face pic, then I would have to reply back either yay or nay, would seem rude not too.

Same.

I see where you are coming from there. Personally though I think I'd rather just have the delete. When it's so obviously my face that is the issue I don't know that I'd want the pain prolonged. "

I have a way of soothing the pain. Never had anyone get pissed off when I've said no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time. Positive outlook/silver lining: means you can block them and not waste your time or theirs by bombarding them with even more emails.

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