FabSwingers.com forum: Privacy whilst publicly sharing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok.. so.. I've started to use the forum much heavier than I ever have done.

A very sexy woman chased me and chose me for I was on the forum. I'd always thought I was very anonymous whilst writing.. so just wrote.. and still do.. write whatever gobbledygook I feel I need to express.

I also feel like I'm possibly in the process of forming some life long friendships.

I've always been quite private person.. but began sharing a lot more a few years ago.

My question to the more experienced forum users is.. How do you balance what it is you share on here and what you keep for yourselves. Whats your most comfortable balance and why? Oh and any pitfalls to be wary of?

It's about time I listened instead of falling in every pit of spikes and learning the hard way.. I'd like to keep the friends I make.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I don't share anything on here , anything I do write is normally general stuff that I don't mind writing. Same goes for mails we send. Even when we met the meets we had didn't really know anything about our real life.

It is hard sometimes not to blurt out what is happening in your life when you feel like bursting with excitement when something good has happened, but I think for us this is the best way.

I think a lot of people give away a lot of personal information at times and sometimes it comes back and bites them on the arse.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Me personally, I'm an open book and rarely hide anything. I'm probably too open, but that's how I am.

A few things I do keep to myself though are fantasies. I don't really have many, but the ones that I do are tucked well away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite open with the general stuff about myself, I do keep a few things private though, the stuff no one would be interested in and has no relevance here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me personally, I'm an open book and rarely hide anything. I'm probably too open, but that's how I am.

A few things I do keep to myself though are fantasies. I don't really have many, but the ones that I do are tucked well away. "

I enjoy reading some open books.. but with others.. I want to skip some pages or just snap it closed.

I enjoy being a relatively open book.. but I'd say I was on 3/4 throttle at the moment.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

Oooh it's a tough one, I used to share all sorts on here, general day to day stuff and really deep personal tragedies, then all of a sudden the penny dropped, I realised how easy it would be to identify us from such posts, so now I just generalise, sometimes it's hard not to share, especially when it's something really great, but I've made lots of friends on here, so I will often message them instead

I'm pleased for you that your really enjoying it here, I personally love it, just go with what you're comfortable sharing is all I can say

Mrs blue eyes

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Me personally, I'm an open book and rarely hide anything. I'm probably too open, but that's how I am.

A few things I do keep to myself though are fantasies. I don't really have many, but the ones that I do are tucked well away.

I enjoy reading some open books.. but with others.. I want to skip some pages or just snap it closed.

I enjoy being a relatively open book.. but I'd say I was on 3/4 throttle at the moment. "

I hear ya. Obviously I don't give out details that could make me trackable as far as where I work or live. But as far as I go, my what's inside (no ya perv, not what's up my chuff) my thoughts and feelings, well, I don't really hide much at all.

In my head, I think if someone is struggling with something and can get some inspiration or "thank God I'm not the only one" from any of my posts then that's a good thing.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

It's not Facebook after all, so a lot of my other life will never appear in here ;

I try to keep any personal info as vague as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I share less and less about me. Once bitten....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As far as arranging a meet for sex goes...

My profile provides sufficient information for anyone to make a considered decision about whether or not we might be mutually compatible.....

However from a social perspective I have shared information about myself with many forumites whose online company is one of the primary reasons I come here .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind to write about mu day to day stuff - i mention my kids stuff a bit but nothing over personal more to add weight to something already being discussed - unless you know me and have met me and know where i live you wouldnt know me from jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I knew OP. It's lovely that you're making real friendships, that's the biggest surprise I've had since joining this site, I made some wonderful friends who make me smile and feel better about myself daily.

Long may you enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I share less and less about me. Once bitten...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me personally, I'm an open book and rarely hide anything. I'm probably too open, but that's how I am.

A few things I do keep to myself though are fantasies. I don't really have many, but the ones that I do are tucked well away.

I enjoy reading some open books.. but with others.. I want to skip some pages or just snap it closed.

I enjoy being a relatively open book.. but I'd say I was on 3/4 throttle at the moment.

In my head, I think if someone is struggling with something and can get some inspiration or "thank God I'm not the only one" from any of my posts then that's a good thing. "

I think you and I are quite alike.

I like your reasoning and the way you've expressed yourself.. That's how I feel now.. and it's exciting. Personally I do not care about being identified. I'm proud of who I am now and happy in my skin..

Some people on the forum and the forum itself helped me get over two broken hearts.. a mountain of guilt and self doubt in one year..

I feel like I'm ferreting bits of my soul away on here at times and I'm the kind of person who needs to let them go, get them out to better understand myself.

But like a previous poster (sorry forgot your name) described their different approach. I do worry whether I may regret that later as I carry on growing and my lifestyle begins to change into something I always hoped for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oooh it's a tough one, I used to share all sorts on here, general day to day stuff and really deep personal tragedies, then all of a sudden the penny dropped, I realised how easy it would be to identify us from such posts, so now I just generalise, sometimes it's hard not to share, especially when it's something really great, but I've made lots of friends on here, so I will often message them instead

I'm pleased for you that your really enjoying it here, I personally love it, just go with what you're comfortable sharing is all I can say

Mrs blue eyes

It was you two! I think with faults I know have.. That is be wiser to lean more towards your style. As not everything I write comes out well first time.. or I have periods of flux.. mood dependant.

A shitty day could lead me spending the next few years building trust back up and grovelling apologies to anyone caught in the crossfire of my rage.

Then you've got the dilemmas of open house sexual communication in an environment where people are looking for different things. Where emotions and feelings can get hurt badly. In the middle of an open house advice and help area and venting rooms.

It's a credit to the women brave enough to have met me.. that I've never once worried about my privacy with. ive always tried my best not to give identifiable indicators to women or couples I meet or have met. But sometimes we do let slip in excited chatter. That alone can have bad repercussions i imagine.

So I'm going to proceed as I've been doing.. as I've not hurt or been hurt by anyone I've met here.. When it does, I'll reassess and wish I wasn't the type of person who needs to make a mistake.. before the lesson sticks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wish I knew OP. It's lovely that you're making real friendships, that's the biggest surprise I've had since joining this site, I made some wonderful friends who make me smile and feel better about myself daily.

Long may you enjoy it

Cheers buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i dont mind to write about mu day to day stuff - i mention my kids stuff a bit but nothing over personal more to add weight to something already being discussed - unless you know me and have met me and know where i live you wouldnt know me from jack"

I try to avoid writing about my children biblically anywhere other than Facebook amongst my list of very good friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As far as arranging a meet for sex goes...

My profile provides sufficient information for anyone to make a considered decision about whether or not we might be mutually compatible.....

However from a social perspective I have shared information about myself with many forumites whose online company is one of the primary reasons I come here .....

It was the social privacy I was referring to.. thanks for sharing. it helps me understand it all a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok.. so.. I've started to use the forum much heavier than I ever have done.

I also feel like I'm possibly in the process of forming some life long friendships.

I've always been quite private person.. but began sharing a lot more a few years ago.

It's about time I listened instead of falling in every pit of spikes and learning the hard way.. I'd like to keep the friends I make."

Always lie in forum.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't share much about my real life on here or with meets.

I'm a pretty private person who doesn't let my guard down easily so it takes a very long time for people to really know me.

A few weeks ago my manager at work commented on how little they really know about me as a person and I've worked there nearly 2 years.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I share less and less about me. Once bitten...."

My friend.. I think you'll find.. if you engage in the sharing in the right way.. it can be therapeutic, educational and in some cases medicinal.

What made you stop?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Theres a lot i say on here. Theres far more i dont say. Bloody hell people have been to my house. Some have stayed and some even met my mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm incredibly private and share nothing of any value/importance about myself on here - works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Theres a lot i say on here. Theres far more i dont say. Bloody hell people have been to my house. Some have stayed and some even met my mother

met your mum

love it.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i'm a very open person but after a weird and creepy experience i keep a lot to myself now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly private and share nothing of any value/importance about myself on here - works for me. "

I imagine a lot of people are.

It's taken me till now to leave my face on display. Something I'd never do if I were female.. not with my traits. I understand why you wouldn't want to share for any number of reasons.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

I concur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

I concur"

I agree

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

I concur"

and you've been with me every step of the way

Sorry for that.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

I concur

and you've been with me every step of the way

Sorry for that."

Funny bollocks though

( not that I am saying your bollocks look funny )

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Easy...

If you want to keep Sumthing privet then just don't post that thing.

If your happy for everyone to no then post wot you like as long as your happy Nowing anyone can reed it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

Best types of posts.. I like the silly stuff.. and bollocks are funny

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Everything I post is complete bollocks.

Nearly eight years of complete and utter bollocks.

I concur

and you've been with me every step of the way

Sorry for that.

Funny bollocks though

( not that I am saying your bollocks look funny )"

They look like E.T.

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