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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell??

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Nope.

Just block before I was seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope.

Just block before I was seen "

thanks for you comment pal

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By *ade_of_StarsCouple
over a year ago

Whitburn

Yes you would tell. Cheating is uncool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the risk of sound contrary, surely it would depend on the relyoj have with your best friend. I like to think I'd tell him. I can't be sure though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?"

Same here, none of my business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?"

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the risk of sound contrary, surely it would depend on the relyoj have with your best friend. I like to think I'd tell him. I can't be sure though. "

Mates since first school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better "

Are you open with your mate about you being on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better

Are you open with your mate about you being on here?"

It's not a convo that's come up tbh ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ever heard the phrase...

Shoot the messenger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ever heard the phrase...

Shoot the messenger? "

Yes

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd want to know from a good friend.

I know a guy (from real life) whose partner just had a baby. Seen him for last two years on another sex based app. On Fb it's all smiley faces of his new family yet he's still there looking

I find this pretty grim but don't know her so staying out of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd want to know from a good friend.

I know a guy (from real life) whose partner just had a baby. Seen him for last two years on another sex based app. On Fb it's all smiley faces of his new family yet he's still there looking

I find this pretty grim but don't know her so staying out of it"

I'm in a dilemma I didn't want to be in but guess being on here you never know what or who ya going to bump into

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better

Are you open with your mate about you being on here?

It's not a convo that's come up tbh ha ha "

Depends if this is hypothetical or not really.

If it is a really good friend, you will be outing yourself as being a swinger. You may be comfortable with that.

If you point out their other half is also on here, how will they react to the news? They may be gutted and it will damage their relationship for sure. But will your friend thank you or hate you for confirming what they suspected?

Will they turn against you in anger and out you for being on here? The backlash against you may be severe and disproportionate considering you are trying to do the right thing.

Would your family, friends and colleagues be horrified to know you are on here?

Conversely, if your friend found out you knew and didn't say, that would also damage your friendship.

Blocking and denying all knowledge is probably the selfish but sensible thing to do.

There is no right answer, just do whatever your concience can live with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The part that's pissing me off the most is she's had the cheek to message and friend request me ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell?? "

No definitely not.

I would consider telling them that I was on the site though, that might start an innocent conversation between them about Fab which could trigger the partner coming clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd send her a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better

Are you open with your mate about you being on here?

It's not a convo that's come up tbh ha ha

Depends if this is hypothetical or not really.

If it is a really good friend, you will be outing yourself as being a swinger. You may be comfortable with that.

If you point out their other half is also on here, how will they react to the news? They may be gutted and it will damage their relationship for sure. But will your friend thank you or hate you for confirming what they suspected?

Will they turn against you in anger and out you for being on here? The backlash against you may be severe and disproportionate considering you are trying to do the right thing.

Would your family, friends and colleagues be horrified to know you are on here?

Conversely, if your friend found out you knew and didn't say, that would also damage your friendship.

Blocking and denying all knowledge is probably the selfish but sensible thing to do.

There is no right answer, just do whatever your concience can live with."

Thank you pal great advice and given me a lot to think about,much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd send her a cock pic"

Ha ha iv seen everything she has to offer but don't think me sending her a cock pic will go in my favour if I do tell my mate lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell??

No definitely not.

I would consider telling them that I was on the site though, that might start an innocent conversation between them about Fab which could trigger the partner coming clean."

Thanks for your option

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Block, and stay well away.

It will get messy, otherwise...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block, and stay well away.

It will get messy, otherwise..."

I forgot mention she is blocked,thanks for your comment

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Block, and stay well away.

It will get messy, otherwise...

I forgot mention she is blocked,thanks for your comment "

Good luck..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly? "

Good idea but wouldn't work in this instance as they live in a different county

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly?

Good idea but wouldn't work in this instance as they live in a different county "

Then widen the search area,age and preferences can be changed in the settings? Just a suggestion,hope what ever you decide to do works out,ps I'm the misses not the mr he would ignore I wouldn't,I couldn't personally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you searching for women in your mate's location abroad? Planning a trip and doing some prep?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly?

Good idea but wouldn't work in this instance as they live in a different county

Then widen the search area,age and preferences can be changed in the settings? Just a suggestion,hope what ever you decide to do works out,ps I'm the misses not the mr he would ignore I wouldn't,I couldn't personally x"

Think I will have a long sleepless night with this one but I will defo give your idea some thought and see what kind of plan I come up with,least your honest that you couldn't x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why you searching for women in your mate's location abroad? Planning a trip and doing some prep? "

County not COUNTRY lol she messages me and friends requested me pal I wouldn't of had a clue she was on here otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why you searching for women in your mate's location abroad? Planning a trip and doing some prep?

County not COUNTRY lol she messages me and friends requested me pal I wouldn't of had a clue she was on here otherwise."

Lol, my screen is cracked and it's late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

...just stay well away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly?

Good idea but wouldn't work in this instance as they live in a different county

Then widen the search area,age and preferences can be changed in the settings? Just a suggestion,hope what ever you decide to do works out,ps I'm the misses not the mr he would ignore I wouldn't,I couldn't personally x

Think I will have a long sleepless night with this one but I will defo give your idea some thought and see what kind of plan I come up with,least your honest that you couldn't x"

Don't get a sleepless night over this,I'm taking a guess your mates gf isn't,you have done nothing wrong here.What ever you decide won't change what she's doing,be honest with him without telling him,he will see with his own eyes and you are just a mate doing what mates do. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder. "

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol"

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say something,if he were to find out some other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This may be a dumb thing to do or may just be clever,how about you tell your mate what you do here,and offer to show him the site,don't go straight into showing him his gf's profile,look through locals profiles if he happens to see her well you didn't tell him exactly?

Good idea but wouldn't work in this instance as they live in a different county

Then widen the search area,age and preferences can be changed in the settings? Just a suggestion,hope what ever you decide to do works out,ps I'm the misses not the mr he would ignore I wouldn't,I couldn't personally x

Think I will have a long sleepless night with this one but I will defo give your idea some thought and see what kind of plan I come up with,least your honest that you couldn't x

Don't get a sleepless night over this,I'm taking a guess your mates gf isn't,you have done nothing wrong here.What ever you decide won't change what she's doing,be honest with him without telling him,he will see with his own eyes and you are just a mate doing what mates do. X"

For sure she's not having a sleepless night,I think it might be best telling him about this site let him look for himself if he will,never know could make there relationship better and I mite get to join in ha ha ha (joking about last part) x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say something,if he were to find out some other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here"

She's a very very silly girl I know that and I know the reason she wont leave as well but that's between them I don't want to see him hurt though that's the biggest problem

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say something,if he were to find out some other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

She's a very very silly girl I know that and I know the reason she wont leave as well but that's between them I don't want to see him hurt though that's the biggest problem "

Then be a good friend, and be there for him. Offer support when it goes belly-up, rather than 'I told you so'...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say something,if he were to find out some other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

She's a very very silly girl I know that and I know the reason she wont leave as well but that's between them I don't want to see him hurt though that's the biggest problem

Then be a good friend, and be there for him. Offer support when it goes belly-up, rather than 'I told you so'..."

That's one thing I'd never say to anyone let alone a mate tbh them 4 words are worst than getting hit over head with a crow bar in my eyes

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say something,if he were to find out some other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

She's a very very silly girl I know that and I know the reason she wont leave as well but that's between them I don't want to see him hurt though that's the biggest problem

Then be a good friend, and be there for him. Offer support when it goes belly-up, rather than 'I told you so'...

That's one thing I'd never say to anyone let alone a mate tbh them 4 words are worst than getting hit over head with a crow bar in my eyes "

Or even metaphoricaly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say

something,if he were to find out some

other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here"

My best pals girlfriend is on here he has a kid with her and looks after her older son.I joined we had a tip off. She has loads of profiles and also we found out shes an escort too and we found 2 of her friends on here. She denies it he has pictures of her now , what should we do

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say

something,if he were to find out some

other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

My best pals girlfriend is on here he has a kid with her and looks after her older son.I joined we had a tip off. She has loads of profiles and also we found out shes an escort too and we found 2 of her friends on here. She denies it he has pictures of her now , what should we do"

Who are you asking?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say

something,if he were to find out some

other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

My best pals girlfriend is on here he has a kid with her and looks after her older son.I joined we had a tip off. She has loads of profiles and also we found out shes an escort too and we found 2 of her friends on here. She denies it he has pictures of her now , what should we do"

Same boat pal sorry can't give advice that's why I'm here,sorry pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact she contacted you makes it all even weirder.

You could probably imagine how shocked I was when I got the message and friends request lol still had presence of mind to screen shot her profile picture and veries just incase lol

Ok now this is definitely a reason to say

something,if he were to find out some

other way,she may say well your best mate knew? What would be worse do you think? Sorry but she has some big balls and I have a feeling she knows you wouldn't want to hurt his feelings,she's playing a dangerous game here

My best pals girlfriend is on here he has a kid with her and looks after her older son.I joined we had a tip off. She has loads of profiles and also we found out shes an escort too and we found 2 of her friends on here. She denies it he has pictures of her now , what should we do"

Surely entirely his call from here on in?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Generally not

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

If it were my best friend, I'd tell her, anyone outside of that, I would consider it none of my business and say nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wouldn't be any of my business so I would just block.

Why complicate things?

I guess it depends on how you look at it,could complicate things but could also make things better "

Has it be ever being known to make things better? Sure you'd be trusted by the person "cheating" and no longer looked upon as a "normal" by the person you told as you was on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester


"...just stay well away..."

This, or this or THIS!

Personally, of those three options, I'd suggest this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell?? "

If it was my best mate yeah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a quiet word with the person you've seen,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would screen shot everything as proof and then speak to her. She's playing a dangerous game if she loves your mate and willing to message you on here. Does she know you off site? And know you're his best mate? I would ask what the hell she's playing at contacting you and ask her if he knows she's on here first. It maybe that he does already know and has agreed to it but if not, I would tell her that if she doesn't confess to him then I would and see what she says. Maybe she's hoping you will tell him? But either way, I would speak to her and go from there.

Ask yourself. . If the tables were turned, would you want him to tell you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was my best friend it would be the first thing I'd tell them and I would expect the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The part that's pissing me off the most is she's had the cheek to message and friend request me ffs lol "

He might know. They may be a cuckold couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If msg her

And if she deleted or didn't reply then I'd tell him she's here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not think it's a bit weird tho that out of all the single females she has messaged you knowing you have a face pic x

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Do you not think it's a bit weird tho that out of all the single females she has messaged you knowing you have a face pic x"

This either it's some elaborate wind up, or she's playing a dangerous game. Tell your mate, the longer you wait the higher the chance he'll shoot the messenger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my news to tell!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

First thing to do is destroy the screen shots you've taken. Next erase from your mind that you've been contacted by her.

Other people's relationships are nobody elses business and you should only interfere in my opinion if physical or mental abuse is taking place.

He might know. She might have contacted you because they were browsing together and spotted your profile.

If you really feel its your duty to do something have a word with her but honestly I'd leave it alone.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"Nope.

Just block before I was seen "
I would do the same.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell?? "

do you want to cause another person emotional hurt

do you want to cause misery for others

if the answers no

keep you mouth shut forget about what you know and move on .

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

It depends how good of a friend.

If it was a best friend, I would, regardless of the risk of the possibility of them "shooting the messenger" - at least you're being loyal.

Personally, I'd feel worse if I found out, and then found out my so-called "friend" knew and didn't tell me.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The part that's pissing me off the most is she's had the cheek to message and friend request me ffs lol "

I'll just file this one under "things that never happened"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

In view of the fact that unless she doesn't know you she was well aware of who she was contacting I would say he knows or she's playing a game. In either case stay away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In view of the fact that unless she doesn't know you she was well aware of who she was contacting I would say he knows or she's playing a game. In either case stay away."

Or even he's playing a game?

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

The big question is do you know all of the ins and outs of their relationship?

Maybe they're secret swingers, or have an open relationship

Does your best friend know you swing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing good can come from telling, just block and carry on with your own interests.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"In view of the fact that unless she doesn't know you she was well aware of who she was contacting I would say he knows or she's playing a game. In either case stay away.

Or even he's playing a game?"

Yes that occured to me too.

They might even be trying to see if he's up for a threesome.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

think on the conversation itself

"hey bud, I saw your misses on a swingers site"

initial reaction would be shock and it would also put doubts in his head... your on here, shes on here, 2+2 makes 5 so it could cost you a friendship as well.

end of the day I would personally steer clear, she might not of met you but willing to bet your on his facebook and comment on his posts and bits so even though she doesnt know you she does.

the things that could go wrong are huge, if your not open with your family about being on here it could also blow up there and other places too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's your best mates girlfriend, she's seen your face pic so knows it's you and rather than blocking you, she messages you and sends a friend request.

Sorry, but something doesn't ring true to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She's your best mates girlfriend, she's seen your face pic so knows it's you and rather than blocking you, she messages you and sends a friend request.

Sorry, but something doesn't ring true to me "

My pictures were privet and didn't have a profile picture at the time of the message and friends request,I had on about myself that iv now took down,am I in her area of interest it seems I am looking at her verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell?? "

Of course not!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The big question is do you know all of the ins and outs of their relationship?

Maybe they're secret swingers, or have an open relationship

Does your best friend know you swing? "

I doubt that they are secret swingers just by her profile saying "discretion is an absolute must boyfriend doesn't know I'm on here" no my mate doesn't know I'm on here but does know I'm on dating sites, I don't know the ins and outs of there relationship.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Why you searching for women in your mate's location abroad? Planning a trip and doing some prep?

County not COUNTRY lol she messages me and friends requested me pal I wouldn't of had a clue she was on here otherwise."

Given that you have a face pic up, I'm guessing she knows it's you, so it's a bit confusing as to why she's contacted you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why you searching for women in your mate's location abroad? Planning a trip and doing some prep?

County not COUNTRY lol she messages me and friends requested me pal I wouldn't of had a clue she was on here otherwise.

Given that you have a face pic up, I'm guessing she knows it's you, so it's a bit confusing as to why she's contacted you? "

I didn't at the time I got the message and friends request

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i would tell them, i'm very loyal to my friends.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I would talk to the best friend's partner first.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them"

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"First thing to do is destroy the screen shots you've taken. Next erase from your mind that you've been contacted by her.

Other people's relationships are nobody elses business and you should only interfere in my opinion if physical or mental abuse is taking place.

He might know. She might have contacted you because they were browsing together and spotted your profile.

If you really feel its your duty to do something have a word with her but honestly I'd leave it alone."

Personally I agree with this

Been on here too long and seen lots go wrong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you saw your best mates boyfriend or girlfriend on here would you tell?? "

Would you want them tell you if the role were reversed?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

I know I would want to know and hope that my best friend would tell me.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x"
what I do doesn't hurt anyone though does it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x what I do doesn't hurt anyone though does it"

If you apply that logic to this situation he shouldn't tell his mate because knowing will hurt him.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x what I do doesn't hurt anyone though does it

If you apply that logic to this situation he shouldn't tell his mate because knowing will hurt him."

Yes but at the same time a smaller hurt finding out from a friend your gf is on here than finding out later that she's fucked lots of others behind your back. I'm speaking from if it was me I would want my friends to tell me and thus I feel my friends would want me to tell them. It's also entirely based on your friends and suprisingly I know mine well enough to know that they would want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I would want to know and hope that my best friend would tell me."

Same.

Some men steal pics from the Internet and set up fake profiles. The woman might not be behind the profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x what I do doesn't hurt anyone though does it

If you apply that logic to this situation he shouldn't tell his mate because knowing will hurt him.

Yes but at the same time a smaller hurt finding out from a friend your gf is on here than finding out later that she's fucked lots of others behind your back. I'm speaking from if it was me I would want my friends to tell me and thus I feel my friends would want me to tell them. It's also entirely based on your friends and suprisingly I know mine well enough to know that they would want to know "

It's not surprising, I know my friends well too. I wouldn't want to present anything as fact to them that I'd seen on a swinging site.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"My best friend? Fuck yes I'd tell them, I'm against cheating in the first place but especially someone playing behind a friend's back. At the same time if I saw a friend on here who had a gf or bf i'd have a go at them

I obv don't know if you are out as a tv/ts to your friends, but assuming you weren't would you like being outed?

Just playing devils advocate x what I do doesn't hurt anyone though does it"

No not at all, but it is still being outed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*UPDATE*

I have told my mate and yes he was very upset as you can imagine but understands why I came to him and told him,he's also asked me to help him catch her out some day next week and obviously I did agree to this as he's home this weekend end.

Thanks for all your comments and I'm sure some of you wont agree with what I'm going to do but that's life ha ha,,happy fabbing people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*UPDATE*

I have told my mate and yes he was very upset as you can imagine but understands why I came to him and told him,he's also asked me to help him catch her out some day next week and obviously I did agree to this as he's home this weekend end.

Thanks for all your comments and I'm sure some of you wont agree with what I'm going to do but that's life ha ha,,happy fabbing people x"

Good man. I would have told him no problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*UPDATE*

I have told my mate and yes he was very upset as you can imagine but understands why I came to him and told him,he's also asked me to help him catch her out some day next week and obviously I did agree to this as he's home this weekend end.

Thanks for all your comments and I'm sure some of you wont agree with what I'm going to do but that's life ha ha,,happy fabbing people x

Good man. I would have told him no problem"

It was a hard decision tbh pal,I didn't want to hurt my mate tbf but would of hurt him more if he found out I knew and didn't say anything,I did show him all screen shots and the message she sent me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*UPDATE*

I have told my mate and yes he was very upset as you can imagine but understands why I came to him and told him,he's also asked me to help him catch her out some day next week and obviously I did agree to this as he's home this weekend end.

Thanks for all your comments and I'm sure some of you wont agree with what I'm going to do but that's life ha ha,,happy fabbing people x

Good man. I would have told him no problem

It was a hard decision tbh pal,I didn't want to hurt my mate tbf but would of hurt him more if he found out I knew and didn't say anything,I did show him all screen shots and the message she sent me "

Yea that I understand. He'll move on though mate. Better than wasting more time with her. You did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"*UPDATE*

I have told my mate and yes he was very upset as you can imagine but understands why I came to him and told him,he's also asked me to help him catch her out some day next week and obviously I did agree to this as he's home this weekend end.

Thanks for all your comments and I'm sure some of you wont agree with what I'm going to do but that's life ha ha,,happy fabbing people x

Good man. I would have told him no problem

It was a hard decision tbh pal,I didn't want to hurt my mate tbf but would of hurt him more if he found out I knew and didn't say anything,I did show him all screen shots and the message she sent me

Yea that I understand. He'll move on though mate. Better than wasting more time with her. You did the right thing"

Cheers pal

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