FabSwingers.com forum: Acceptable excuses/reasons

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What circumstances would you consider a second chance?

Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message.

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance."

Yes, this, I would think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?

Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "

Do you mean if they cancelled and didn't contact you?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think deep down we all know when someone is taking the piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was always taught an excuse is not a reason ......

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By *970jackMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Hi miss Wilkes Bridgend boy also x depends on the reason I suppose but if you have doubts ' no second chance x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance."

About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I don't mind if they contact me to say they can't meet. It's when arrangements have been made, lots of contact, travel times confirmed, yet on the day, all contact stops. Now that's downright rude. No second chances there!

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By *970jackMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

Mmm only takes a min to mail you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.

When my Mom passed away in March, I was still able to send a message to explain and cancel.

Ultimately, depends how much you like the guy, only you know if he's worth the chance or not.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Hi miss Wilkes Bridgend boy also x depends on the reason I suppose but if you have doubts ' no second chance x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion even if a grandparent had passed it doesn't take 2 seconds to just send a text to apologise and cancel the meet. I would only give a second chance if they don't cancel and turns out they were unconscious in hospital or dead

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.

If he's our age his Grandparent must be about 110.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "

If you like them carry on chatting. They haven't really let you down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.

If he's our age his Grandparent must be about 110. "

I have 2 Bampi's and one is 82 and the other is 73!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "

In that case, I think I would give a second chance, as nothing was arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "

Oh that's slightly different then. I thought something was arranged and they didn't let you know they wouldn't be there. If I liked them then I'd carry on chatting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes 2 seconds to type out a "my gramp has passed, bear with" message.

If he was that interested he would have let you know.

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By *rjimMan
over a year ago

nr bristol

No second chance...for any reason.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Having lost a parent last year, my time was consumed with sorting everything out and looking after my family, I wouldn't have be on here chatting, unless I had made an arrangement I needed to cancel, which I would do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many people said it doesn't take long to send a quick message saying : can't today will explain

And then if the excuse/reason is not too dodgy i would defo give a second chance. But if it's dodgy i wouldn't even reply to the message.

Dodgy excuses : my cat died, my potato died, my TV broke, my died cat (wait what), etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

Yes, this, I would think.

Agreed

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I've only had this once, and he was very plausible. After the fourth or fifth 'disaster' I got the message. There is always time to send a message, unless you're stranded in The Highlands with a broken phone clinging to the side of a mountain by your rapidly splintering fingernails, weak and exhausted having fallen three days prior. In which case I may give you the benefit of the doubt...once I've seen proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally hate being "Ghosted" so I wouldn't bother personally.

That's even if they're being honest about the bereavement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Takes 2 seconds to type out a "my gramp has passed, bear with" message.

If he was that interested he would have let you know."

I know that's what I was thinking, my last death was October 2011 and that was my Nan who loved the bones of me and I adored her. I know I shagged the marine in August that year but I didn't come on here again till close to xmas that year. He hadn't been online either but had my number.

I dunno, I'm just not gonna do any effort at all, I'll not wash or shave, just take an intimate wetwipe and a bic and if they turn up I'll just sort myself out quickly in the toilet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.

About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.

When my Mom passed away in March, I was still able to send a message to explain and cancel.

Ultimately, depends how much you like the guy, only you know if he's worth the chance or not. "

Yes same here, my mum passed away suddenly in March but I let my meet I was due to have that day know, then I dropped off the scene for 3 months XXX

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

No contact, no second chance, unless she's been struck by lightning ? etc in which case it would probably be a bit difficult alright, even at that still probably no , because if she's that susceptible to lightning strikes, I could be beside her for the next one , safe sex my arse ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If nothing was planned, we had just been chatting and they disappeared for ages we'd give a second chance but if we were later planning on meeting would be looking at arranging something that didn't put us out in case the first excuse wasn't legit.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If nothing was planned, we had just been chatting and they disappeared for ages we'd give a second chance but if we were later planning on meeting would be looking at arranging something that didn't put us out in case the first excuse wasn't legit."

Yes, if nothing was arranged I would give them the benefit of the doubt once, but anything slightly off from then on and I'm gone.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yes, if nothing was arranged I would give them the benefit of the doubt once, but anything slightly off from then on and I'm gone."

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I think I would probably smell a bit of bs tbh but if it was someone I really liked I'd give him the benefit of the doubt....once more!! But be a little wary.....

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By *imioo7Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I.d Def cum first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No advice here , just go with what your heart and head say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?

Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "

It depends on what they'd done first time round. It'd also depend on what you're talking about.. sex, date, social.. how invested I was in the other person..

Usually it's once bitten twice shy in my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd keep chatting, if they still held my interest, and see how things panned out. If they kept going silent I'd lose interest and not bother responding. I find it's people who ask for Kik who mostly do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Takes 2 seconds to type out a "my gramp has passed, bear with" message.

If he was that interested he would have let you know.

I dunno, I'm just not gonna do any effort at all, I'll not wash or shave, just take an intimate wetwipe and a bic and if they turn up I'll just sort myself out quickly in the toilet. "

That's fucking howling!

Right you're no longer in the top ten you fucking minger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I would probably smell a bit of bs tbh but if it was someone I really liked I'd give him the benefit of the doubt....once more!! But be a little wary....."

Yup I'd agree.. OPs meet had plenty of time to tell her. If I'd list a grandparent.. I'd be more likely to turn to whoever I was close to on here.. than go to my family for support. I'd want to be strong for them.. and have someone nice who was there for me when I needed them.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew? "

After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew?

After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats

You can't leave them alone wirg their cats they have died, its so sad... Tearing up just thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew?

After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats

You can't leave them alone wirg their cats they have died, its so sad... Tearing up just thinking about it

I'm thinking about those poor furryballs that timewasters are killing just to justify cancelling a meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "

Were you chatting on here or kik etc?

If it was just on here and he'd not been online in all that time I'd give him a second chance.

If we'd been chatting off here- via text or kik or whatever- and he'd not been in touch, I wouldn't chat to him anymore. It takes seconds to send a quick message to explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?

Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "

If he's been working in a meat factory and smells of animal carcass and sweat so cancels, you should definitely give him another chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?

Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message.

If he's been working in a meat factory and smells of animal carcass and sweat so cancels, you should definitely give him another chance"

that's a perfectly valid excuse, even though they're my two favourite smells in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage.

Were you chatting on here or kik etc?

If it was just on here and he'd not been online in all that time I'd give him a second chance.

If we'd been chatting off here- via text or kik or whatever- and he'd not been in touch, I wouldn't chat to him anymore. It takes seconds to send a quick message to explain. "

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